Archive for December, 2013

PostHeaderIcon I’m back!

By Vernalee
Tractor Glen Allan
I’m back from the cotton picking Mississippi delta and I didn’t drive a tractor while there! How about that!

It’s amazing what a vacation can do. I am well rested – mentally and physically.
I was able to concentrate and tackle several outstanding tasks / projects in a serene environment. More importantly, I relaxed with two of the loves of my life, my daughter and Mother.

Visiting my home-state of Mississippi is always refreshingly therapeutic. Conversing with and enjoying the company of my darling Mother was priceless. She is as wise as every gray string of her hair and then some. She can patiently teach you what you could never learn at Harvard. What wisdom! I am truly blessed!

Now that I have mentally left my vacation oasis imaginatively thinking that I was Cleopatra floating down our Nile, the mighty Mississippi River, I am back to reality, the snow and the single digit temperatures of the North. Oh well! At least I have warmly reconnected with you, my readers!

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PostHeaderIcon Don’t sell yourself short

By Vernalee
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Selling yourself is the first order of your business. If you don’t, who will? You are your best product. Sell your company; your skills, attributes, integrity, abilities, determination, products, professional services, knowledge, quality customer service, and everything sellable about you. Besides, who can sell you, better than you? Once you sell you, you will become a sale! Remember, don’t sell yourself short!

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PostHeaderIcon Phenomenal Woman

By Vernalee
“Pretty women wonder where my secret lies.
I’m not cute or built to suit a fashion model’s size
But when I start to tell them,
They think I’m telling lies.
I say,
It’s in the reach of my arms
The span of my hips,
The stride of my step,
The curl of my lips.
I’m a woman
Phenomenal woman,
That’s me.

I walk into a room
Just as cool as you please,
And to a man,
The fellows stand or
Fall down on their knees.
Then they swarm around me,
A hive of honey bees.
I say,
It’s the fire in my eyes,
And the flash of my teeth,
The swing in my waist,
And the joy in my feet.
I’m a woman
Phenomenal woman,
That’s me.

Men themselves have wondered
What they see in me.
They try so much
But they can’t touch
My inner mystery.
When I try to show them
They say they still can’t see.
I say,
It’s in the arch of my back,
The sun of my smile,
The ride of my breasts,
The grace of my style.
I’m a woman

Phenomenal woman,
That’s me.

Now you understand
Just why my head’s not bowed.
I don’t shout or jump about
Or have to talk real loud.
When you see me passing
It ought to make you proud.
I say,
It’s in the click of my heels,
The bend of my hair,
the palm of my hand,
The need of my care,
‘Cause I’m a woman
Phenomenal woman,
That’s me.” By Maya Angelou

Phenomenal woman. That’s me too! Thank you Dr. Maya Angelou for your words, courage, inspiration, and gifts to the world and me! Nobody can speak the words quite like you! I have been fortunate to see and hear you recount your many stories, read your poetry, speak in several languages, sing, and inspire your audience. I have witnessed your commanding, captivating presence that makes us hungry for your words. How phenomenal! The Presidential Medal of Freedom presented to you by President Barack Obama (along with your countless other accolades) are well deserved.

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PostHeaderIcon Happy Holidays / Presidential Style

By Vernalee - Obamas Christmas

I have no idea what Christmas carol they are singing. I just know that my and your President and his family look good!
Now, if they are singing my favorite carol, “Silent Night,” The Temptations style, it would be lovely! We know that President Obama can melodiously make you groove. Remember, his rendition of “Let’s Stay Together” and “Sweet Home Chicago!”
Merry Christmas, blessings, and love to our first Family!

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PostHeaderIcon Our mixing bowls / Full of the ingredients of life

By Vernalee
www.crateandbarrel.cpm - mixing bowls

When we women chat, no subject is off limits! We talk about more than relationships, men, friends, family, beauty, and style. We share our hope, excitement, fears, stresses, and concerns with each other. Our health, health care insurance, getting emotionally and physically fit; retirement reserves or lack thereof, our finances, fears of not having enough money; growing old alone, our loneliness; worries about our children / grandchildren, our aging parents, our spiritual needs, what’s happening at church; the foolishness and unfairness in our respective work environments, career dissatisfaction; our upcoming vacations, shopping sprees, our treasured recipes; the good , the bad, the ugly; and just life in general – become our topics of discussion.

Thus, our conversations are not always fun and games, but reverberations of our realities. As we chat, particularly in troubled times, we comfort each other with therapeutic support. We loosen our release valves. We throw all of our stuff into a figurative mixing bowl; letting the chips fall where they may. We find assurances in the fact that we unconditionally have each other as we chat, share, laugh, cry, and pray together. Without a doubt, we can certainly stir stuff up! Incredibly, we feel better afterwards.

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PostHeaderIcon Is the glass half empty or half full?

By Vernalee
201208-omag-quiz-half-empty-glass-600x411 www.oprah.comIs the glass half empty or half full?
Actually, it is both! Visually, it is how you look at it. Being that I am an optimistic person, I have always seen the glass half full. Positive thinking embraces me sometimes to a fault, but who wants to be negative. Why forecast trouble? Why unduly worry about things that you cannot change for each day has its own anxieties. Forklift your circumstances; uplift your thoughts. Just as you are what you eat; You are what you think. “For as one thinks in his heart, so is he.”
Proverbs 23:7

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PostHeaderIcon Dating is just a six letter word / The consequences are not

By Vernalee
maya angelou quote - quotespeedia
Though a very sensitive subject, there exist acrimonious hostilities when Black men date / marry White women. Some Black women have vehemently voiced their concerns because the available pool of Black women end up playing second fiddle – if not losing out altogether. Who wants to become a lonely old maid?

The Black man / White woman matches are more common than the inverse. Either Black women will have to cross the racial divide to even up the score or the numbers will inevitably escalate. For sure the ubiquitous statement, “Once you go Black, you will never go back;” undoubtedly has dual application regardless of gender. Because of the taboos and apprehensions of being called a racist, this dating topic may on some days be “hush, hush,” but resentfully broadcasted when another eligible Black man is snatched. Thus, the Black / White woman clash uncivilly continues with no end in sight.

PostHeaderIcon Loneliness

By Vernalee lonely woman
Many of us have faced bouts of loneliness. Depending on age and circumstances, loneliness may occur with the onset of numerous conditions including relationship breakups, loss of loved ones, empty nest syndrome, relocation to new cities, etc. Keeping balance is important as some people let their loneliness overtake them. Depression and isolation are common.

Recently, I was in the midst of young ladies in their twenties. Their comments included, “I would rather be lonely than with the wrong man. Solitude is better. Since I am private, I don’t like unwanted people in my space. Alone and lonely are options. Isn’t that better than being hurt, angry, and frustrated?”
The young can teach the old! I took notes!

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PostHeaderIcon I cried my last tears

By Vernalee
mary mary
“I had enough heartache and enough headache
I’ve had so many ups and downs
Don’t know how much more I can take
See I decided that I cried my last tears yesterday
Either I’m going to trust you or I may as well walk away
’cause stressing don’t make it better
Don’t make it better, no way
See I decided that I cried my last tears yesterday

Yesterday, yesterday, I decided to put my trust in you (oh, oh, oh)
Yesterday, yesterday, I realized that you will bring me through (ah, ah, ah)

There ain’t nothing too hard for my god, no
Any problems that I have
He’s greater than them all, so
I decided that I cried my last tear yesterday.”

To Tina and Erica of the group, Mary, Mary, do know that like you I have learned to rely on the Father.I have no more tears to shed. After sobbing a river of tears, I cried my last tears long before yesterday!

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PostHeaderIcon Infomercials

By Vernalee - Jennifer Hudson

Flipping through the television stations recently, there were approximately 30 infomercials airing during the wee hours of the morning pertaining to our health, appearance, and beauty. I am sure that you have either seen some of these infomercials or at least their listings. I may have missed a few, but included were:

NutriBullet; Airbrushed; Total Body Sculpt; Laura Geller
Makeup Studio; Omega 3; Looking younger than ever: It’s
science not magic; Health and Nutrition; I hate my hair;
Total Gym; Wen by Chaz; The Principle secret; Ageless
Beauty; Rx for Brown Skin; Shaun T’s Gym; Total Gym; Tommie
Copper; I hate my wrinkles; Hair Restoration; Facelift secrets; T 25 Sexy
Bodies; No more back pain; Salon Nails in minutes; The Food
Lovers System; Look younger than ever; Stop aging now;
Richard Simmons Hope; New Sheer Cover studio, Zumba.

Cindy Crawford, Victoria Principle, Chuck Norris, Vivica Fox, Montel Williams, Richard Simmons, Joan Lunden, among other celebrities are among the product’s pitchmen. Although not televised during that specific morning time slot, other well-known endorsers include Jennifer Hudson (Weight Watchers) and Marie Osmond (NutriSystem).

All of these products claim amazing results. We watch; we buy; we try.
The desirable results are obtained with some, while others fail. No doubt, we don’t have to look far to purchase what we want. The infomercial shippers make it convenient; they deliver with no shipping charges in unmarked boxes to our doorsteps. Oh, the money we pay for beauty, improved appearance and health! If one doesn’t work; perhaps, the others will. Let’s just say that it is money well spent when you feel as good as you look or when you look as good as you feel!

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