Archive for January, 2014

PostHeaderIcon Taking a writing break!

By Vernalee
Exodus 20:12 reads, “Honor your father and your mother, that your days may be prolonged in the land that the Lord your God gives you.” The fifth of the Ten Commandments, this mandate is considered the greatest inter-generational obligation. This commandment is repeated in the bible at Deuteronomy 5:16.
My Mother took meticulous care of me as a baby … and through the years. She has never left me! My reliance upon the advice that she imparts from her lips makes me wiser. Without question, she is my anchor! Now, I have the distinct pleasure to take care of her and take these scriptures to heart! I am honored to be of service to her! So, I am taking a family medical leave for a few days. I will resume my blog soon … so that I can share with you the conversations between my Mother and me. I can’t wait to be in her continuous presence! She and I have so much “stuff to talk about!”
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PostHeaderIcon What an amazing view!

By Vernalee
Both of these scenes are beautiful displays. There is only one where I would rather be right now. Guess, which? Alright, I will remove any doubt! With the current temperature being 2 degrees below zero and the wind chill being 35 degrees below, I’ll take the warm weather beach scene today ….and any other day of the week!

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PostHeaderIcon The excitement of Awards shows

By Vernalee
I am hooked on Award Shows. I religiously watch them all – including The Grammys, The Oscars, The BET Awards, The NAACP Awards, among others. My girlfriends, family members and I chatter about the performances, the glamorous outfits, the Red Carpet, and other miscellaneous topics. The question: Will the predicted favorites win or will there be surprised upsets? As we watched the Grammy Awards last night, we were “school girl” excited! Various opinions on how stole the show circulated among us. We sang along and danced with our favorite singers. What an exhausting night, it was! My bucket list includes attending one of these award shows! Then, I will be a part of the scene, up close and personal! I can’t wait!
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PostHeaderIcon Words of encouragement

By Vernalee
Mother to Son by Langston Hughes
“Well, son, I’ll tell you:
Life for me ain’t been no crystal stair.
It’s had tacks in it,
And splinters,
And boards torn up,
And places with no carpet on the floor —
But all the time
I’se been a-climbin’ on,
And reachin’ landin’s,
And turnin’ corners,
And sometimes goin’ in the dark
Where there ain’t been no light.
So boy, don’t you turn back.
Don’t you set down on the steps
‘Cause you finds it’s kinder hard.
Don’t you fall now —
For I’se still goin’, honey,
I’se still climbin’,
And life for me ain’t been no crystal stair.”
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When you feel down and out, read this poem. It has lifted me many times! I believe that the same lift will occur with you.

PostHeaderIcon Exit how you entered

By Vernalee
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Remember the admonition, “Walk out the door the way you walked in!” Easy said; sometimes hard to do. Leaving a job, a relationship, or any situation may become problematic. Saying goodbye may not be stress-free. Depending upon the terms and circumstances of the exit, what’s easy to say or do can become difficult because our emotions get in the way. Pride always comes before a fall! Often times, it takes humility and courage to do what you desire not to. In the end, doing and saying the right things are more of a testament to your character than your self-imposed glory of pride and dignity. Listen and heed what that inner voice and your gut (your mind and your heart working together in concert) tell you. You will be better off! Walk away with the same spirit and level of professionalism that you carried inside. You always want to be able to turn the knob, open the door and walk back through if required or desired. Besides, after all is said and done, you can only control and be responsible for your actions! On your way out …when you look at the people remaining inside, you will give an elegant wave and be thankful that your spirit is not like theirs!

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PostHeaderIcon Nothing beats a Grandmother’s love!

By Vernalee
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I am blessed to have a wonderful, beautiful Mother. To me, she is the best Mother in the world! I never knew the love of a Grandmother. I am told that my maternal Grandmother Tuge had me spoiled “rotten!” Unfortunately, I was about two when she passed. My paternal Grandmother died before I was born.
As I watch my children, nieces, and nephews, I see the love and affection that my Mother displays and that they give back. What a blessing! My Mother, their Grandmother is never too busy to listen even when she is called at an unspeakable hour. She maintains no clock. She encourages, chastises and tells her grandchildren words that only she can say. “Don’t worry your Mother; the teacher got what y’all trying to get, so stop cutting up in school; you don’t need to be out all night running the street.” After giving you a loving piece of her mind, she ends by saying, “Remember that Grandma loves you. I pray for y’all every night!” They or I cannot begin to count how many times we have called her to see how to handle a situation, what to do, and ask her to pray for us. It’s immeasurable! Magically, she always has the right answers!
A good friend of mine said that her grandson called her yesterday, and said, “Grandma, I need you to call Him!” “Call who?” “God,” he replied. Without thinking, the next thing she knew, she was on bended knee.
A Grandmother’s love stretches to Mount Everest. I know because my love for my grandson reaches that high. I am sure that my Mother’s Grandma’s love touches the heavens! Just ask her grand and great grandchildren!
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PostHeaderIcon “A Song for Mama”

By Vernalee
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There is always a song for every topic. Our family’s Matriarch, our Mother is experiencing some health concerns / issues. Through the grace of God, we pray for her life, well-being, improved health and continued spirit. We ask that you pray with us and for her. God bless!

“You taught me everything
And everything you’ve given me
I’ll always keep it inside
You’re the driving force in my life, yeah
There isn’t anything
Or anyone that I can be
And it just wouldn’t feel right
If I didn’t have you by my side
You were there for me to love and care for me
When skies were grey
Whenever I was down
You were always there
To comfort me
And no one else can be
What you have been to me
You’ll always be
You will always be the girl
In my life for all times
Mama you know I love you
(Oh you know I love you)
Mama you’re the queen of my heart
Your love is like
Tears from the stars
Mama I just want you to know
Lovin’ you is like food to my soul
(yes it is, yes it is,ohhhhh,yes it is,yes it is,yes it is… oohhhh)
You’re always there for me
Have always been around for me even when I was bad
You showed me right from my wrong
(Yes you did)
And you took up for me
When everyone was downin’ me
You always did understand
You gave me strength to go on
There was so many times
Looking back when I was so afraid
And then you come to me
And saaaayyyyy,
I can face anything
And no one else can do
What you have done for me
You’ll always be
You will always be
The girl in my life
(oooo, oohh)
Never gonna go a day without you
Fill’s me up just thinking about you
I’ll never go a day
Without my mama.”

Photo reprint: – Album cover. Family Album Portrait – Mother as she appeared in 1957.

PostHeaderIcon Black female superheroes

By Vernalee
Interesting, we don’t frequently see their portrayals, but there are over 60 Black female superheroes featured in Marvel, D.C. Comics, movies and the like. So if you think that our strength as women is limited to our sheer existence, think again! We are formidable even if the media does not give us the deserved recognition. From the days of slavery, we maintained our mental saneness though our precious children were taken and sold. We worked in the cotton fields from sunrise to sunset, became our Master’s mistresses, and cooked and cleaned their houses. Need I say more! Yes, we Black women have endured a lot! We have amazing inherited strength that has been passed down through the generations. No wonder we are super-heroes!

Photo reprint: Black Wonder Woman – illustrated by Anthony Pugh.

PostHeaderIcon Customer service comes with a price tag

By Vernalee
Let’s face it! Beyond price and product, there are unlimited variables that determine what we buy; when and where. With unhesitant certainty, bad customer service will determine where we don’t spend our dollars. Regardless of the product or service, customer service / contact influence our decisions and impressions immensely. Who wants to make a purchase from a rude, inconsiderate, belligerent grouch?

That front line (be it in person, via telephone, etc.,) not only determines what, how much, and how frequent one purchases, it may be the main determinant as to whether the customer comes back or never returns.

Companies, beware of who you hire especially for these pivotal positions. They become a major factor in determining your bottom line. Unless you have a product or service that no one else offers, your competitors are omnivorously waiting on your mistakes and your lost sales. Cha Ching!

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PostHeaderIcon “I have a Dream”

By Vernalee

Before an audience of over 250, 000 people from the steps of the Lincoln Memorial, the Rev. Dr. Martin Luther King delivered his famous “I have a dream” speech which was unequivocally one of the most defining moments of the Civil Rights Movement. Thank you Dr. King for opening the doors for me and others!


“So let freedom ring from the prodigious hilltops of New Hampshire; let freedom ring from the mighty mountains of New York; let freedom ring from the heightening Alleghenies of Pennsylvania; let freedom ring from the snow-capped Rockies of Colorado; let freedom ring from the curvaceous slopes of California. But not only that. Let freedom ring from Stone Mountain of Georgia; let freedom ring from Lookout Mountain of Tennessee; let freedom ring from every hill and mole hill of Mississippi. “From every mountainside, let freedom ring.”
And when this happens, and when we allow freedom to ring, when we let it ring from every village and every hamlet, from every state and every city, we will be able to speed up that day when all of God’s children, black men and white men, Jews and Gentiles, Protestants and Catholics, will be able to join hands and sing in the words of the old Negro spiritual: “Free at last. Free at last. Thank God Almighty, we are free at last.”

Photo reprint: (Excerpts from Martin Luther King’s “I have a dream” speech, August 28, 1963, March on Washington.)

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