Archive for April, 2014
Jane Doe works at least 12 extra hours every month for which she receives no compensation. Why? That time is needed for supporting documentation. She has learned in her interactions with her supervisor that if it is not in writing, it didn’t happen. Since her supervisor, Sally Do Right, is a known pathological liar, her given task assignments / instructions are just as volatile as the invisible wind. Although Jane may not see her undermine her character, the effects of her ill reputed supervisory tactics are clearly conspicuous. In addition to lying about what she instructed you to do, Sally invents tasks that she never assigned. Since rumor has it that Sally and the boss are having an affair, she gets away with highway robbery. So Jane Doe’s extra hours are called, “Cover your behind” time since she has to document what Sally allegedly said or instructed. Since Sally lunches every day and parties every weekend with the big Boss Man, Jane has no choice. In fact, none of Sally Do Right’s subordinates do! It’s their word against lying Sally’s! That’s why … all is reduced to writing! It’s called evidence!
Photo reprint: www.wikihow.com
Either the traffic light is green or red; but it changes to yellow in between. Water is hot or cold; but sometimes it is warm. The matter is either black or white; but occasionally it is gray. There is always a middle point; a point of neutrality. No worries because these are inanimate objects. When this happens in your relationships, it’s a different story. The difficulty on reading the signals from people when their behaviors are unclear is challenging. You can be encyclopedic smart, but may have to get a second opinion on confusing actions. Some folks are masters of saying one thing and doing another. They can toss out mixed signals with the velocity of a Bruce Jenner decathlon throw. It muddles your thinking. Stop daydreaming, smell the roses, and interpret the actions for what they are. Eventually, your colors as you travel through life will be green, red, or yellow. You will be able to “go, stop, or slow down.” Or you will stop worrying about other folks signals and travel at your own speed!
Photo reprint: www.clipartbest.com
Years ago, My Mother said, I want to pass on the same advice to you that my Mother gave to me when I was your age. “If you dig a ditch for someone to fall in, dig two coz you might fall in one of them.” To this day, I don’t plan other people’s demise. They seem to be capable of doing that for themselves. My time and energies are spent on keeping my head above water. That is an all inclusive job in and of itself. Whew! I’m tired already!
Photo reprint: www.lipstickmakeseverythingbetter.com
Have we returned to the Deep South to times of old when people ignorantly made racist statements with no thoughtful considerations of others? This week, I couldn’t tell because racist comments have been alive and well in this wonderful country of ours. From “sea to shining sea,” we received a nasty taste of racism at its finest from Nevada rancher Cliven Bundy coupled with a hefty dose from LA Clippers owner, Donald Sterling! What’s going on! We knew that racism wasn’t cured, but folks’ mouths had become slightly tamed over the years. At least, that’s what we thought. What is deeply embedded inside eventually comes out! Peoples’ comments, conduct, and actions travel inside, out. Certainly Bundy’s and Sterling’s did! In some ways, we have witnessed a backwards human rights momentum. We must find a way to end the intentional and careless slips of the heart, the mind, and the tongue. We must find a way to “Heal the world.” We need an avenue to make the world a better place for you, for me and the entire human race.” Only God can help us! I hope we listen and take heed…this time!
Photo reprint: www.blogs.rockingham.k12.va.us ; Lyrics: “Heal the World” – Michael Jackson.
Nothing pleases a Mother’s heart more than to see her children display love to each other and to their family members. I am “tickled pink” to see my son and daughter lovingly care for their Father and nurse him back to health. It is gratifying to my soul. Equally gratifying is their extraordinary love for each other as siblings. It is absolutely adorable! Gone are their juvenile days when they argued like cats and dogs over trivia stuff! Gone are the olden days when they
did childish things, – as the time when my then teenage son placed his baby sister fully dressed in a cold shower to cool her off since she wouldn’t obey him! Geez! Through all of their silliness, they were always incredibly close; always protective of each other. Now they are all grown up and they display impressive maturity. A united front they are! Their genuine love, sincerity, and respect for each other are as deep as the Mississippi River is long! Still waters do run deep! Surely, seeing the depth of their love today makes me proud to be their Mother! What more could I as a Mother ask for!
Photo reprint: www.123rf.com
I have frequently heard my great nieces and nephews say to a third party, “This is an A / B conversation, no C’s allowed.” Translated, that quote essentially means, “Mind your business!” After all, the joining talker wasn’t invited to the conversational “party.” Wouldn’t it be simpler, easier, and less work, if we stayed out of other folks’ affairs? By doing so, it would provide us with a timeless opportunity to improve our inadequacies rather than get involved with others’ issues. Just think how much better we would be and how much extra time we would have to concentrate on whatever suits our fancy! As comedian Flip Wilson once said, “Loose lips sink ships!” Indeed, they do; so stay afloat by stop being so nosey!
Photo reprint: www.sefub.tripod.com
Directing an experiment, a well-known company conducted fake interviews for a Director of Operations. When the applicants arrived, they were provided with a job description. Though brief, it read: Have to stand all day; don’t get a vacation; don’t get paid.
The young applicants unanimously said, “This is ludicrous!” They laughed and asked, “who would do a job like that?”
The answer: Mothers!
They perform those tasks every day under those conditions!
Photo reprint: www.organicbabyatlanta.com
Can you count the number of people who are waiting for you to have an “off” day; waiting on you to make a mistake? No one is perfect and that includes those who are calculating your fall from grace. Even the infallible little Miss Muffet fell off her tuffet!
Why would anyone wish that bad circumstances befall someone else? Simple, they are treacherous. Sooner or later, the same harm that they destined to happen to that person may happen to them! When and if it does, shall we call it fair play? With such juvenile behavior, isn’t that the type of scheming that you would expect from underhanded people? Engaging in tug of war tactics is what they do. Just like children, unbelievably they chase folks around like it is a “Tag, you’re it” game! Stray away, because you don’t want their telepathic evil hands to touch you!
Photo credit: www.stationwtfo.blogspot.com
Reportedly, when the historic “We are the World” was being recorded, conductor Quincy Jones made one introductory statement to the exceptionally talented singers. “Check your egos at the door” was Quincy’s simple phrase. Those six words solidified his leadership. While Bruce Springsteen, Michael Jackson, Tina Turner, Cyndi Lauper, Stevie Wonder and others were in “his house,” there was only one boss. That boss was unequivocally Quincy! All of the talented and veteran singers occupationally were “chiefs”, but in Quincy’s house for this recording, they were “Indians.” His instructions, directions and rules were the order of the day. He had the control baton in his hands.
What a lesson learned! No wonder “We are the World” was a highly acclaimed, award winning blockbuster success that climbed the charts while showcasing a captivating video. Its charitable proceeds fed and provided for many. Clearly, beyond the singers’ incredible talents and voices, the primary success factor rests with the fact that everyone knew their place! If you are a struggling boss with inferior leadership abilities, maybe you should walk a mile in Chief Quincy’s moccasins!
Photo reprint: www.billboard.com
When Teflon cookware hit the market, women were excited! Finally, there were nonstick pots and pans that didn’t require scrubbing. Rinse them with soapy water, wipe, and you are done in a jack flash second. It’s that easy!
Though this Teflon magic is ingenious in the kitchen, no woman wants a Teflon type man in her life. Who wants to be in a relationship with a man who doesn’t stick around? Besides, you could never depend on him. He was always the “about to do, but never did” type. At least the upside is that you don’t have to flex your muscle scrubbing or use your expensive soap detergent to remove the existence of the Teflon man, his glide will be effortless! Your kitchen and your life will thank you for his removal. Once gone, he can no longer eat your food (more money for you) and you no longer have to tolerate his lack of emotional and financial adhesiveness! This advertising slogan says its best: “Ditch the Non- Stick!”
Photo reprint: yummymummyclub.ca