Archive for May, 2014

PostHeaderIcon The power of an apology

By Vernalee
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I’m sorry…Two words that are difficult for many to say; two words that separate the men from the boys; two words that reveal our maturity. Since we all misstep, admittance and an apology speak more to our character than the error of our ways. More importantly, it shows that you are not above saying I’m sorry!
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PostHeaderIcon You talk too much!

By Vernalee

I am sorry! Please know that you are not the center of mine! I make better use of my time! Talking about you is not one of them. Time is too precious to be wasted!
I am not suggesting that you are a waste of time…but I cannot afford for you to occupy space in my mind! In fact, I have wasted five minutes already telling you that very fact!
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PostHeaderIcon Her legacy lives

By Vernalee
Yesterday marked the passing of a legend on many fronts, Dr. Maya Angelou. I had the distinct opportunity to see her on two occasions. Speaking of someone who could command an audience, she rivaled the best! The first time I heard Dr. Angelou was at Cuyahoga Community College’s (Cleveland, Ohio) annual luncheon. She sang; she spoke in several different languages with an unforgettable eloquence; and she read her poetry with a narrated synchronization that seemingly made her words dance and shout! She brought the audience to its feet several times and I left in a spellbound trance! In fact, most of the audience was mesmerized. Several years ago, I had the privilege to hear Dr. Angelou at the King Arts Complex in Columbus, Ohio. Her presence was so phenomenal that you could hear a pin drop. But after all, she is and penned the “Phenomenal Woman.” The Mayor, attorneys, corporate presidents, physicians, entrepreneurs and the entire sardine packed auditorium were in awe of her as she told stories of her beloved Stamps, Arkansas before reading excerpts from her many works.
Since starting my blog and in my published inaugural books, I have quoted no one more than Dr. Angelou. Amazingly, she could do it all; and do it well! From acting, dancing, writing, to reading poetry with an articulated voice that resonated with grace, her sagacious wisdom rose higher than her voice. Oprah adopted her; so did I and the world! Today, I was in deep thought as to which piece of her work I loved best. It is tough, because they are all incredible. I taped the poem, “Phenomenal Woman” on my bathroom doors over fifteen years ago! I followed her rhythm in “I Know Why the Cage Bird Sings” as a replica from which to pattern my upcoming memoir. I believe that I regard as my favorite Maya Angelou quote, “When someone shows you who they are, believe them the first time!” Those words continuously aid me in the transformation of my incredulous stupidity of seeing blind traits in people and hoping that they would change. Because of you, Dr. Angelou, I am a “literary work in progress” as “I am the dream and the hope of the slave. I rise. I rise. I rise.” Rest in peace.
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PostHeaderIcon When your business gets out in the streets

By Vernalee
quickmemeShe is so embarrassed! Everybody is talking about it! She is scratching her head trying to figure out her classified secret got out. Did her confidante reveal it? Was it her sister, cousin, childhood friend, best friend forever (BFF), running buddy, or the pastor’s wife?
Perhaps, she will never know! What she does know is that her secret – that all her friends vowed and swore on the Holy Bible as they “crossed their hearts and hope to die” that they wouldn’t never, ever tell – have told. So the secret that she didn’t want known is spreading like wild fire. Lesson learned! The next time she will know that once information is departed from your lips, it is no longer confidential! Her secret has been put on blast and all of her sources lied! When you tell on yourself to blabber mouths, it’s too late to ask, “Can you keep a secret?” Now, she is dealing with two sources of excruciating pain: a betrayal alongside a revelation of confidential info – with no clue as to which hurts the most!
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PostHeaderIcon My Never List

By Vernalee
Allow me to “vernalize” you with my list of never(s). Here goes…
Never be anyone but you.
Never disrespect your parents.
Never act as if you are an island because it’s lonely by yourself.
Never set yourself up for failure.
Never keep a notebook of secrets that you don’t want to be seen.
Never become a habitual liar. It makes the truth too hard to tell.
Never tell on yourself. You never did it unless your DNA proves it!
Never tell people what you think they want to hear to be kind – if you are being dishonest.
Never lie about where you are going if you don’t want your whereabouts to be discovered.
Never make promises that you can’t keep.
Never have a hiding spot easy to find.
Never back down.
Never let someone you love go; you may not be able to get them back.
Never be nobody’s fool or doormat.
Never get caught.
Never cry “wolf” because no one will believe you when you are being truthful.
Never doubt yourself.
Never be between a rock and a hard place.
Never underestimate yourself or others.
Never trust anyone but your Mother.
Never feel defeated.
Never tell a never ending story.
Never forget what should be remembered.
Never give up or quit.
Never forget the “road” that took you over. You may have to come back.
Never judge a book by its cover.
Never knew I needed you until I lost you.
Never once have I _______.
Never pay to play.
Never rub me the wrong way.
Never burn bridges.
Never make a never list with stuff that you know you will never do.
Never say never.
mind me.
It never dawned on me because there is never a dull moment in my life that today, it’s now or never. Nevertheless, just like gospel singer Marvin Sapp, I realized that I ….
“Never would have made it
Never could have made it without You
I would have lost it all
But now I see how You were there for me
And I can say
Never would have made it
Never could have made it
Without You
I would have lost it all
But I now I see
How You were there for me
And I can say
I’m stronger, I’m wiser
I’m better, much better
When I look back
Over all You brought me through
I can see that You were the One
I held on to
And I never, never would have made it
(Never would have made it)
Oh, I never could have made it
(Never could have made it without You – God!)”

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PostHeaderIcon A tiger doesn’t change its stripes

By Vernalee
Call me naïve though I am in my 60’s. Certainly, I should know better! Maybe, it’s only human nature to believe the dogma of Dr. Maya Angelou that – “people should do better once they know better.” Well, I got duped once again; hoodwinked to the nth degree! A person whose character has been consistently filthy volunteered to do a good deed. He had organized a substantial crew to do community service. I was impressed! Much to my chagrin, not only did he not buy food from Kroger’s to feed the homeless; he took his partner’s credit card and “maxed” it out to the limit. Pristine to the phrase’s definition, “a tiger doesn’t change its stripes;” man doesn’t change his essential nature. This corrupted Robin Hood stole from the rich, but he did not give to the poor. He dishonestly gave to himself!
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PostHeaderIcon Family and Prayer – Giving Praise to God

By Vernalee
muse findsCommunicate with God. Read the Word. Pray incessantly. Teach your family how to pray and pray with them. Put God first! Praise him with your voice of familiar hymns.
Praise God, from whom all blessings flow;
Praise Him, all creatures here below;
Praise Him above, ye heav’nly host;
Praise Father, Son, and Holy Ghost!
• Praise God the Father who’s the source;
Praise God the Son who is the course;
Praise God the Spirit who’s the flow;
Praise God, our portion here below!
Happy Sunday!
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PostHeaderIcon The owners of the game

By Vernalee
listerine-cool-mint-antiseptic-mouthwash is going on in the NBA?
“I’m prejudiced,” billionaire, Shark Tank investor, Dallas Mavericks owner, Mark Cuban said this week. Wow! My Mother gave me some wise words that I passed down to my children. Maybe, it will help you. “Everything you think, you don’t need to say!” Timing is everything! However, whatever is inside will eventually come out! It’s how … we bring things out that demonstrate our maturity. Stop! I cannot rationalize someone else’s missteps. I have to be on guard every day for guarding my own words and sensitivities to others. By the way, Mr. Cuban, your apology to Trayvon Martin’s Mother helped! To get a second opinion on my thoughts, I called my former college roommate and sister girl who is a dentist in Mississippi. It’s good to have knowledgeable friends! So, based upon sound dental advice, what I can offer to you Mark is a gargle of Listerine or Scope; whatever your preference. You have enough money to buy the variety pack! A swish of Listerine can kill bacteria when you gargle and wash out your mouth before you speak!
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PostHeaderIcon My daughter heard it first!

By Vernalee
I often heard my daughter talk endlessly about her amazing professor at Clark Atlanta University. She felt that he was the cat’s meow. “Mommy, my professor is the bomb!” Now, I agree! My description of him is a little different from my daughter’s, but of course, I am thirty years older than she. Needless to say, I too am fascinated by Dr. Kimbro’s work! His two basic questions are the same as mine: Why some individuals succeed and others fail? Why some are rich and wealthy and others impoverished? His theories are phenomenal. When time permits, I encourage you to check them out. It also proves another important point. We, as parents do learn from our children! So to my daughter, I give this advice: Do as Dr. Kimbro suggests, and when you become rich and famous, throw a little of that cash your Mommy’s way!
“Fame is a vapor, popularity is an accident, and money takes wings. The only thing that endures is character.”
― Dennis Kimbro, What Makes the Great Great

PostHeaderIcon “Pull Up Yo Pants!”

By Vernalee
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“Hey you —with yo pants down to yo knees. Some of us still respect our women. Will you pull them up please! You old enough and I know that you should know enough not to be runnin’ round with yo pants down to yo knees. Naw, I take that back what I just said to you. You aint runnin’. Yo pants won’t allow you to. If you move too fast they fall down…to the ground. I declare. I swear. I do not want to see your underwear. How do you do that anyway? How do they stay in that position? You must be a magician. If you spent as much time with yo mind as you do with your behind ..showing..I be knowin’, in time, you would have a bank! I do not want to see yo draws! Pull up yo pants please!”
Excerpts from “Don’t Be a Fool for Hip Hop: Pull Up Yo Pants” By Dr. Charles H. Beady, Jr. who served as President for Piney Woods Schools for 20 years. Piney Woods, located in Mississippi, is one of four historically Black boarding high schools in the United States.
Dr. Beady read this poem and received a standing ovation at my church, Mt. Olive Missionary Baptist Church, Cleveland, Ohio. For those who have seen those despicable sagging pants and want them annihilated, say amen!
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