Archive for August, 2014
Lord, I come to you today in prayer.
My thoughts go places that they should not. My mind thinks things that should not enter my space. My heart pumps feelings that I wish did not exist. I work hard to be descent, fair, kind, and respectful. I need your helping hands God! I ask you Father to “order my steps in your word dear Lord. Lead me and guide me everyday; teach me your will.”
Help me to be the best Mother, Granny, daughter, sister, aunt, niece, cousin, friend, author, professional, and person that I can be! Help me to walk in the footsteps of goodness! I know that I can achieve greatness when you walk with me Lord! Thank you Jesus for your love, grace, mercy, protection, guidance and all that you have done for my family and me! Amen. Happy Sunday!Photo credit: www.smg.photobucket.com
After wrapping up some of her legal matters and meetings, my sister girl and I were having dinner at the Polaris Grill in Columbus before her return to Cleveland. It was June 25, 2009. Unexpectedly, I received a phone call. The King of Pop was dead! Shocked and deeply saddened, we both were! We grew up with Michael! I still have the Jackson Five’s first album. What an incredible talent Michael was ……. one that the world will probably never see again! So as BET, FUSE, TV1, and the VH1 networks are dedicating hours of tribute because Michael’s birthday was August 29th, the world is glimpsing and revisiting his incredible dancing, singing, acting, and entertaining talents once again! A consummate, perfectionist entertainer he was! Lest not forget his influence on fashion. My son, and his friends couldn’t wait to get the black multi – zippered Michael Jackson jacket that he wore on the “I’m Bad” video! I called Michael Jackson simply Michael as if I personally knew him; as if he was a neighbor or a close friend. That was his effect ….as I and millions admirably knew him from a distance though he was up close and personal in our hearts. R.I.P. Michael!
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Tackling domestic violence, the NFL stepped up! NFL Commissioner Roger Godell took a stand by imposing sanctions including a 6 game suspension for the first offense and a lifetime ban afterwards for violations of domestic violence. Kudos Roger! Football is America’s darling sport with a notable 50% of the NFL fan base being comprised of women. It’s about time that the players are forced to keep their aggressive “contact” on the field. Money speaks even when people silence their morals! With these types of economic sanctions, maybe the players will concentrate on running the ball as opposed to tackling their wives.
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Scheming people play games. They are so Machiavellian! Their object is to fool or undermine folks with manipulative ploys. Sometimes, it works; other times, it doesn’t. The solution is simple: Be man or woman enough to confront the issues. Don’t be the person behind the mask. Stop using other people to do your dirty work. Stop being a coward. Grow up! Dangling people on your strings may give you power and control. Just remember that one day, the strings may break; the roles may change! Who knows! You may one day not be the manipulator; you may be manipulated!
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Stop the comparison game! Just be you! God gave us all unique talents and special gifts. Use them! Comparisons, when they get out of control, can lead to jealousies and synthetic outcomes of people trying to be something that they are not. Compare not! Maximize what you have! When you are not watching others, you have more time to concentrate on you. Who knows what that focalized attention will produce! Wandering eyes can be dangerous! You lose focus, energy, and time when you are too busy watching and comparing yourself to others!
In the 1970’s, the Bee Gees’ Robin and Barry Gibb wrote and recorded, “How do you mend a broken heart.” Later released by Al Green, the song became a thought provoking tear jerker. Though we sing the words, there is no known medical cure for a broken heart. As I watch someone in my family whose heart has been broken, the lyrics are repetitively being replayed in her life. For those who know her story, the song’s lyrics are being kept alive by a person who is holding her accountable for ancient actions, many of which he has no eyeball knowledge. It’s amazing how the actions of olden times stay fresh when we permit others to keep them alive. Lest our fears, it is further amazing when we allow others to beat us down when we have the power to stop them in their paths. Keeping the past alive breathes flagrant air of memories coupled with an unforgiving spirit. It makes me wonder who is worse: him or her! One is holding the freshened memory while carrying a torch burning unforgiving flame and the other is allowing him to emotionally coerce her into a space to not let go! For sure, neither one has to worry about “tomorrow’s sorrows,” because religiously they are holding tightly onto the past. It’s like a ghost ….. who is not Casper!
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We are familiar with the highly commercialized phrase “I have fallen and I can’t get up” jingle. It is directly associated with the Medic Alert television commercial. Falling is not always physical; it can be emotional. An emotional descent of significant magnitude may require helping hands to lift our down spirits. Problems can become bigger than us. When a person is an open book, he / she is less complicated to read; thus cure. Unfortunately, some people don’t wear their emotions on their sleeves. Woe to those who keep everything close to their vest because no one knows what is troubling them but them. We have to find an equilibrium between what we reveal and what we conceal. It is imperative that we raise above what knocked us down. For certain, we cannot help anyone when we are down, not even ourselves!
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“Do not judge and you will not be judged. Do not condemn and you will not be condemned. Forgive and you will be forgiven.” Luke 6:37
Some people spend too much time monitoring other folks so that they can judge their behavior. In fact, they wait on folks to make mistakes so that they can be the first to bring down their gavel pronouncing condemnation! Sad, but true! First, only God can judge because he sees all actions; those that are visible as well as the hidden and disguised. Secondly, if we properly utilize our time to keep our lives on track, we won’t have the time to judge others. Stay focused so that you can stand before God on judgment day and have him say, “Well done, my good and faithful servant!” In other words, mind your business! Stop looking at others to find their dirt. Have a forgiving spirit. Do your work and let God do his! Happy Sunday!
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Are you a man or woman of your word? Why can’t people do what they say? Is your word your bond? Does a handshake deal mean anything anymore? When you tell folks that you will do something, you create an expectation. In some cases, that expectation forms a dependency. So when you don’t execute on what you committed to do, not only did you lie, you disappointed and failed people who relied upon your commitment. Lies damage when your actions don’t coincide with your words! Once again, that small tongue caused big harm! An unexecuted dependency becomes a lingering by product that enters the memory banks of a person mind and buries its pain in their heart. Lies have the ability to stick to a person’s heart like glue. It’s no wonder that when your words become lies that people become heartbroken!
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I have heard many people say, “I don’t need nobody! I can do everything for myself. I was born alone and will die alone!” Although we enter and exit this world all alone, the in between time doesn’t necessarily fit that description. To those who think that they need no one, think again! When and if the waters of life eventually invade your presence and you are in a boat alone without paddles, how will you get to dry land? Assistance, security, relief from loneliness, companionship….are some of the benefits of having others in our lives. The need for people doesn’t signify weakness; to the contrary, it demonstrates strength! There is strength in numbers! We all need someone in our lives – to talk to, to love, to be with, to hold….to be a part of our existence. I certainly do! You do too whether you admit it or not! Never forget that islands were once connected to a continent. May I remind you that our creator in his infinite wisdom concluded that “it was not good for man to be all alone!” Who knew better than The Father?
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