Archive for August, 2014
Speaking of pets, I have had my share! When my children were growing up, we had five dogs; affectionately named Pooch, Miss Brown, Jerry, Nobody, and Freeway. Our pets were incredibly and equally loved; by us and vice versa. Because of my travel schedule, I personally do not have critters anymore, but my sister friend does. Her adorable poodle, Bailey is her baby. Bailey is so unique. Sometimes, you forget that he’s a dog, because he acts like a child. He runs around playing with his many toys all day. Unique, he is! Bailey receives love and shows love all day. He truly loves his master as she loves him. Suffice to say, it demonstrates that we were created to love and be loved. We all need it … even our four legged friends!
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Our eyes are our cameras to vision. We look at the external presence of people, but unfortunately we cannot take a snapshot of their internal being. We cannot see their emotions unless they are revealed through conduct, words, or actions. Concerned we must remain because most people can expertly become masters of disguises. Regrettably, depression is one of those emotions that we cannot see. The illuminations of its symptoms are crystal clear as we observe the death of our beloved actor Robin Williams. As talented and comedic as he was, he was paining inside. I know not the answer to discovering a person’s insides. It’s a study for psychiatrists and psychologists. However, I do know that we should keep a close eye on our loved ones. Maybe, we can see signs that may save them before it’s too late.
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Tired I am of people who can never rise to the occasion because they are laden down with day old, dollar short excuses! I refer to them as the “I was gonna do” folks. They always acknowledge what their course of action would have been after the fact. “I was gonna” take care of that, but I found out too late. “I was gonna” pay but I got the bill after it was paid. Stop buying those lamed excuses! Their “I was gonna do” should be I am doing! It’s simple when you change the tense of the verb from past to present tense. When the change occurs so does the action if it is honored. “I was gonna” should not enter your presence so that you do not become a recipient of broken promises. I don’t normally speak in colloquial terms, but I like to “take it to the streets” every now and then because “I am not gonna” be a victim of what “you were gonna do” anymore!
Have you ever dealt with a person who is a “know it all?” You can’t tell him / her anything. They are Einstein experts at everything. Holding hands with their exaggerated sense of knowledge is the visually obvious companion trait of being pompous with an inflated ego that extends miles beyond reason. It’s amazing when people have all the answers alongside the questions too! Egotistical nuts, they are; encyclopedic smart, they are not! Because of their arrogance, you and everyone with common sense navigate away from their presence. They don’t notice this avoidance gravitation because they are too busy thinking about them and the impressions that they will make on others. If only they knew! Their self-importance has elevated them so high that they actually believe that they are superbly better than most people. Sadly, when reality sets in, this conclusion is realized: They never knew that they didn’t know! When people tried to tell them this over the years, they didn’t listen! They knew it all too arrogantly well!
“The Lord will make a way somehow; Amazing Grace; Precious Lord; There will be a brighter day ahead; What a friend we have in Jesus; Wade in the Water, Yes, Jesus loves me” are those old school spirituals that we have sung for years. Those are the songs that we relied upon to get us through hard times or simply through the day. Those are the songs that I heard my Mother singing while she cooked. As old as the lyrics are, when we sing them today, they still uplift us; motivate us; and make our battles easier because of our faith and belief in God. Oh yes, when we lift our voices to The Lord; to the heavens, it is a validation that “There is power in the name of Jesus to break every chain,” a new gospel tune by Tasha Cobbs. Praising God is timeless. We just have to do it! Happy Sunday!
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All kidding aside, to be in this position (between a rock and a hard place) is not desirable because you are stuck between two bad options! Maneuverability is tough. One step in the wrong direction can be costly. What do you do when your situation offers solutions and possibilities, but none are viable options? Decisions, decisions; you have to select – the best – of two undesirable outcomes. No one wants to choose “which poison to drink.” Poison will kill you regardless of the type. Thus, it is critical that you make a choice that will permit you to happily survive. Watch your steps!
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Does your job have too many chiefs and not enough Indians?
In order to successfully operate, a company needs organization and a balance of power. It needs someone to give orders and someone to take them. Too many bosses is not good! Is there clarity in the organizational lines of authority? To effectively and profitably move a company forward, both supervisors and subordinates are needed. Someone has to do the work when the instructions are given! An imbalanced proportion results in chaos. If you don’t believe me, look outside your office door!
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Last week, a young man from my small hometown of Glen Allan, Mississippi had the most important meeting of his life. In a heart touching gathering, he met the parents whose son saved his life. Though their son’s life ended in a car accident, his heart was placed into another’s body; a body that was holding on to dear life via mechanical apparatuses. Stories as these are heartfelt; they are also bittersweet. They deal with loss and gain; heartache and pain. In this case, however, two Mothers who never knew the other existed; who had never laid eyes upon one another respectively praised their sons for their hearts! One had the heart to give so that another could live!
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Family disagreements!This time it isn’t the Hatfield’s and the McCoy’s. It is your very own family in an emotional tug of war! Taking sides and digging up ancient bruised feelings that no one remembers but the perpetrators are not therapeutic antidotes. Unfortunately, the feuds journeyed through generational family lines and like the Hatfield’s and the McCoy’s, family members who hardly know each other resent the others because of the stories that have traveled with time. Hatred travels at the same rate of speed as love! If family infighting is allowed to continue, eventually someone may get seriously hurt physically. The staled emotional damage is another matter, but time heals all things; even parasitic feelings that live within. Perhaps, feuding families should talk to therapists, their pastors, or someone who can be neutral. Better yet, maybe, they should fall on bended knees and ask God for direction and guidance. Dreadfully, through Cain’s and Abel’s prototypes, we must always remember that there is nothing new under the sun. God provided their stories in the book of Genesis for a reason. We know how that fight ended! The Good Book will always steer us in the right direction. We just have to listen and be faithful steward. Stop! Don’t turn the page! This is your family!
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What do you want? Do you want a person to be honest or shade the truth? When American Idol was at its height in popularity, the legendary Simon Cowell would provide the artists with an honest assessment of their talents. Cowell has a no-nonsense, often abrasive style when providing his editorials. People booed, but tuned in every week largely in part because of him. Though rude, without question, Simon is a successful music producer to countless stars. Regardless, no one raises their hands to be insulted, but honesty goes a long way. Hearing the truth – in a kind fashion – is priceless. It beats hearing untruths that ultimately prohibit your growth. Your deficiencies cannot be corrected if you are unaware of what they are. What you want to hear may be kinder on the ears, but a hindrance to self improvement. It is about the truth. It is not what Simon says; it is about you; it is about what you do to improve yourself.
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