Archive for December, 2014
The idiom, “You can catch more bees with honey than vinegar” is “as clear as day!” Though a figurative expression, its application works in real life; with bees, with flies, and with people. It’s indisputable! It is so much easier to be polite and kind than to be mean and hateful. People respond better to favorable treatment. Interesting, people never forget unkind acts and those mean poisonous words that were written or said. They hurt! Ouch! They may even come back to haunt you! Remember that when you get ready to “tell someone off!” You might have to apologize. Try not to put yourself in such compromising positions, because people have the option – to accept or reject – your apology. That’s why honey filled conduct is better. Besides, honey has so many useful purposes. It’s a sweetener that also tastes good. Yum! Southern folks even say it’s medicinal. I say that kindness and considerate speech and behavior take you much further than its counterpart! Clearly, there is a distinct difference between sweetness and bitterness. Hopefully, your wisdom will help you make a “honey” of a choice! The Turkish proverb tells us that “Kind words will unlock an iron door.”
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I can do a few things quite well, but solving a puzzle is not one of them! Having said that, you probably wouldn’t believe that my favorite game show is Wheel of Fortune. I rush home everyday to watch it. Despite the fact that I have for years wanted the stunning Vanna White’s job, (free clothes, immaculate makeup, and compensation of millions for turning the letters), I love the glitz and glamour of the show! The prize puzzles are my favorite. I know that I don’t have a snow ball’s chance of getting on the show and because of my inability to successfully compete, I wouldn’t publicly embarrass myself. I always entice and groom my children to do what I can’t. How clever of me! My son Scooter is an exceptional Wheel player, but even he might have had trouble with this past Friday’s winner, Matt DeSanto, whose record breaking performance won $91, 892. He solved a 13 letter toss up puzzle with only one letter appearing. The answer to the puzzle was – The Lone Ranger. Pat Sajak, Vanna White, the contestants, and the entire viewing audience watched in amazement! Not a bad payday for 30 minutes of work! After such a brilliant performance, all I can say is “Kemo Sabe … “High Yo silver!”
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Do you believe in karma? Whether the answer is yes or no, remember this! Escalators take you up and bring you down. Years ago, my Mother told me, “Treat people right! The same people that you see going up, you may see coming down!” Keeping a dignified balance in life is critical to your wellbeing; to your integrity. It speaks loud and clear about your character. Do not be in a position where you mistreated people on your upward climb to success and expect them to be gracious if unfortunately you are on a descent. What if they treated you like you treated them – with a lack of dignity and respect? You probably wouldn’t like that…. so why give what you can’t take! The Golden Rule – “Do unto others as you want them to do unto you” – is always the best practice. It works every time … up or down; going or coming!
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It’s December 28, 2014, the last Sunday of the year! It’s a time of reflections; a time to show love; a time to praise the Almighty God; a time of giving thanks that you are breathing the fresh air of life! As the year comes to an end, remember nothing can be taken back. Good, bad, indifferent, or apologetic, what is done is done! Now, the focus should be on the next day, the next year! I have learned that if I stack my deck with too many items, something doesn’t get accomplished. Therefore, my next year’s concentration will be on improvement. How can I improve personally, professionally, spiritually, and in all aspects of my life? How can I be a better Christian, Mother, Grandmother, sister, daughter, aunt, cousin, person, friend, loved one, entrepreneur, author, listener, doer? Though all can judge, it starts with me and ends with me! If I am my best critic, maybe my improved actions this upcoming year will outshine last year’s. With God’s help, I can do it! I claim it!
Happy Sunday! God bless!
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Crossing racial and gender lines, I call a selected few my true friends. It is said that you basically need five types of friends. Without calling my friends by name, let me provide you with their descriptions. The comedian is the friend who makes you laugh and interjects humor into your life. The risk taker is the adventurer who stimulates you beyond the status quo. The loyalist will stand by your side through thick and thin no matter what. The challenger always encourages you to maximize your position. The life coach is the friend who you can talk to about anything without judgment being passed. A few of my friends have amazingly combined these five ingredients into one. From Mississippi to Ohio with an extension into multiples states, I am truly blessed as I have these wonderful loving people in my life. Their professions are too multiple to outline. Regardless of what they do on their day jobs, I believe that they sincerely care about me and me, them! We genuinely want the best for each other and do not begrudge the other. Motivation is in; jealously is out. Love flows in all direction as does our advice. I made a basic discovery years ago – The type of friend that you are is just as important as the type of friends that you have! It is my responsibility to give to them what they give to me. It is a two way street. It is what friends do!
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The magic question being asked today is “What did you get for Christmas?”
Now that the gifts have been opened, the families have been together as a team once again, the Christmas dinners have been served, and toys were scattered all over the place, we retired and woke up to a brand new day. Let’s see what happened yesterday! I share with you my partial critically acclaimed “some” list! Some folks received the perfect gifts; some received what they wanted; some received nothing; some were remembered; some were left out; some spent a lot of money to receive a cheap gift in return. Some budgeted and spent within their means; some overspent; some may not have had the money to spend; some will be in debt throughout 2015 for the gifts that they bought this year. Some folks were happy; some sad; some lonely; some glad; some upset about their gift; some are experiencing anxiety and depression right now. Some did charitable work to help others; some spent the day thinking about themselves. Some wondered why they got what they did; some are in the store standing in line to return their gifts and get something else. At this very moment, some are preparing for next Christmas. As our memories fade in the sunset, lest not forget that the wise men brought gifts from afar to celebrate the birth of our Lord and Savior, King Jesus. Some of us took that gift giving practice that we – over do / under do / don’t do / or perfectly do – to satisfy others and ourselves. Wherever we fall within that spectrum of tradition, year after year, one thing will remain the same – Jesus is the Reason for the Season. Some or shall I say all of us should never forget that very fact!
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It’s Christmas! Some may be opening gifts; others may be seeing what’s under the Christmas tree for them, traveling to see loved ones, or being festive. Remember, after you have untied your last decorative bow, Jesus is the reason for the season! Today is the day that Jesus was born so that we could live! Joy to the world! Merry Christmas and Blessings!
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Memories…memories. Christmas time brings back unforgettable memories. In the early 1970’s, I had the opportunity to go from house to house singing Christmas Carols. Thank goodness it was in Mississippi because we didn’t have to walk around in cold weather or the snow. The caroling was an assignment associated with a college Spanish class. So, we sang all of the Christmas Carols in Spanish with our Spanish teacher, Senor Brooks watching our lips to make sure that our words were fluently enunciated! My favorite Christmas carol of all times has always been “Silent Night.” My favorite version is the rendition by The Temptations. Here goes “Silent Night” in Spanish. On this joyous Christmas eve, let’s go caroling even if it’s in our homes! Sing along with me!
Noche de paz, noche de amor,
Todo duerme en derredor.
Entre sus astros que esparcen su luz
Bella anunciando al niñito Jesús
Brilla la estrella de paz
Brilla la estrella de paz
This Christmas eve, remember that tomorrow, Christmas Day, “Christ, our Savior was born!”
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When we travel, the flight attendants alert us to put the oxygen mask on ourselves first before attempting to help others. This is not a selfish command, but one of immense survival. How can you help others, if you are struggling? How can you guide others, if you are lost and don’t know what to do? It is imperative that we sufficiently get ourselves together before we extend help to others. There is a tendency to follow when the leaders know what they are doing. Right? Operating from a position of strength helps us to better direct others. This strength extends beyond our physical capacity, but travels to the realms of our inner self. It starts with us! We cannot reasonably ask of others what we refuse to do ourselves. If we are a beacon, others will see our light from afar. Gandhi instructed us “To be the change we wish to see in the world.”
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In a recent Today Show segment, there was a survey that queried if it was disrespectful to call your parents by their first names. 94% of the participants said Yes; 6 % said No. I pondered that question for a moment. In our household, not only would it have been disrespectful to call my Mother or Father by their first names, I might have been backhanded. Out of reverence and fear, I never even considered the thought. I was taught that a child should stay in a child’s place. Dignifying your parents in speech and conduct with the upmost authority was part of that respect. Alright, I like most kids was no angel. What I could manage to achieve behind their backs without getting caught was another thing. So much for my adolescent mischief…moving along! Passing the torch of respect, I would never permit by children to call me by my first name. Hopefully, they never considered a first name greeting. Call me old fashioned if you like. I call it respect!
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