Archive for May, 2015
Years ago, on one of my daughter’s summer vacation trips to Mississippi, she and her girlfriends were in church. So the adolescents decided to “get happy” pretending that they had been filled with the Holy Ghost. As they were allegedly “shouting,” the little girls started rolling on the floor. Much to her chagrin, when my daughter opened her eyes, she saw her perturbed Grandmother standing before her. Her Grandma Phoebe with her Bible in her hands sternly said to her namesake, “Little Phoebe, if you don’t get up off that floor, I am gonna tear your tail up! You don’t play with God!”
Telling the story invokes laughter now, but it wasn’t funny to the granddaughter at the time. It was quite embarrassing. It did however teach her about the sacredness of God and provided a lifelong spiritual lesson. Galatians 6:7 states, “Do not be deceived. God cannot be mocked. A man reaps what he sows.” Although this story is one of her favorite childhood memories and Grandma stories about her trips down South, the sixth chapter of Galatians is etched in her being as a spiritual foundation. “Let us not become weary in doing good, for at the proper time, we will reap a harvest if we do not give up.” Galatians 6:9. Happy Sunday. God Bless!
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Many love the casinos. I am one! I am also a competent mathematician. Before sitting at the Black Jack Table or pulling the lever on the Wheel of Fortune slot machine, I know the odds. I carry a number of casino reward cards. You know we like to get the free $25.00 gambling allowance to get us started. I have so many “casino” stories that stretch beyond gambling. Allow me to share. One night in Detroit, a friend and I on a losing streak decided to play one more round. As we sat in the comfortable chairs, (the more comfy they are, the longer you will stay), we smelled this amazing aroma that hinted of collared greens. Our noses were not all the way wrong! A lady had cabbage greens and corn bread in a container tucked in a brown paper bag. When she noticed that we noticed the smell, she said, “If I lose my money, at least my tummy will be full!” There you have it! It’s more in the casinos than Lady Luck. There are people from all walks of life. There are also people who surreptitiously bring their lunch! They make you forget that you walked out with less cash than you walked in with … at least for a moment! The “house” that keeps getting richer kept some of your cash!
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I was always told, “If you go looking for trouble, you will probably find it!” Your suspicions will probably become proven facts. So who is the biggest snooper? Do men scoop more than women or vice versa? Not being a private investigator and not knowing the universal answer, a recent survey revealed that when it comes to snooping through a partner’s phone, the furtive culprit is the man! Yes, that’s right! The survey revealed that 34% of Women and 66% of Men snooped through their partner’s phone. Wowser! 31% revealed that upon finding out the information that they snooped to discover that it was grounds for ending their relationship. You should probably erase what you don’t want people to see. Can you hide everything? That question is not for me to answer! Neither can I pass moral judgment. I’ll just say that someone forgot to push the delete button! Smack!
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Yesterday, I came across one of my son’s old childhood books. The book full with nursery rhymes was a favorite and my children loved to hear me read “This is the house that Jack built.” It wasn’t until years later that I realized that I was a talented rapper. Long before Nicki Minaj and Iggy Azalea got into the act, my harmonic sounds reading kid stories would probably make those starlets ask me for lessons. Seriously! I could read “This is the house that Jack built” with a rhythmic pattern that would make you want to jump up and shout. No kidding! I had an a-cappella beat with such a big blast sound that one would think that violins were in my background band. I could round out each poetic word as my children continually and jubilantly asked, “Read it again Mommy!” And I did to their delight! I am not bragging, but just reminiscing and experiencing some of those good old Motherly memories that never grow old. Good for the soul, they are!
P.S. Don’t get the nursery rhyme “The House that Jack built” confused with the recording by Aretha Franklin. Aretha was asking Jack to come on back; home, that is! Now…That is a topic for another blog! Hehe!
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We see orange barrels everyday on the roads and highways. They provide navigation signals, alerts, and directions. They may signify a host of traffic related nuances. For sure, we don’t drive into them. Mostly, we slow down. Maybe, it’s danger ahead, construction work, pavement disasters, or something concerning. The orange barrels warn us beforehand. Their bright orange and white colors are visibly noticeable. We cannot miss them! Changing the course, what about the “orange barrels” that we see in our relationships? They too are visible, noticeable, and usually represent repetitive behaviors. Unlike the highway barrels, we tend to ignore them. Sometimes, we think we can change the behaviors that the orange barrels represent! Realize this! You cannot remove the barrels; they belong to your partner – not you! Duh! If you keep cruising along in the relationship, ignoring and excusing what the bright orange barrels signify, you are doomed to crash! Heed the warnings; deal with them; be careful. Don’t ignore what you see in your path! You wouldn’t on the highway; don’t ….. in your life!
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Either the traffic light is green or red; but it changes to yellow in between. Water is hot or cold; but sometimes it is warm. The matter is either black or white; but occasionally it is gray. There is always a middle point; a point of neutrality. No worries because these are inanimate objects. When this happens in your relationships, it’s a different story. The difficulty on reading the signals from people when their behaviors are unclear is challenging. You can be encyclopedic smart, but may have to get a second opinion on confusing actions. Some folks are masters of saying one thing and doing another. They can toss out mixed signals with the velocity of a Bruce Jenner decathlon throw. It muddles your thinking. Stop daydreaming, smell the roses, and interpret the actions for what they are. Eventually, your colors as you travel through life will be green, red, or yellow. You will be able to “go, stop, or slow down.” Or you will stop worrying about other folks signals and travel at your own speed!
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In 1994, I heard Ruby Tomjanovich, former coach of the Houston Rockets say as his team won their first ever NBA championship, “Don’t ever underestimate the heart of a champion.” If you watched game # 3 last night between the Cleveland Cavaliers and Atlanta Hawks, you witnessed hearts of champions aimed at bringing home the bacon! Lead by their fearless leader, LeBron James, the Cavaliers want the championship so bad, they can “taste” it! Their heartfelt desire to bring the trophy to Cleveland shows! They are “playing their hearts out!” King James even changed the record books last night when he became the first player in a NBA Finals to post triple statistics as these: 37 points, 18 rebounds, 13 assists. With injured teammates, a limping LeBron said, “It’s mind over matter. We play for one another.” The Cavs’ hearts and minds jived together as they brought home the win. It was nothing but nets! Swish! It’s not wise to count your chicken before they’re hatch, but my broom is out for the sweep! Booyah!
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There is a group of folks who conveniently ignore what they don’t want to accept. They may read or see an identical description of them, but they toss it aside and profess that those traits do not belong to them. Why? The answer is simple. If they accept what they see or know, there is an underlying responsibility to fix it. Repairs may not be in their repertoire. They continue down their chosen path being an ignorant smart Alec; so smart that they are dumb! Denying what is true is not prudent. If you continue to ignore your faulty idiosyncrasies, you will remain broken! The amazing thing is that what you selectively ignore, everyone else sees! You simply cannot hide who you are!
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Are you settling? Are you in a relationship with a person that you tolerate, but really don’t like anymore? That’s crazy! You could have fooled me because I see you guys out together from time to time. It begs to ask – how could you be with someone that you don’t like? It happens everyday! There may be a host of reasons. It may be out of convenience, although you detest the games that are played; the secrets that are hidden; the “stuff” that they have gotten away with while escaping the expressions of your wrath. So much for keeping the peace! It may even be that the person has been around for a considerable period of time. It’s so easy to become comfortable. It takes work to “seek and find” love and compatibility. When someone is available, why go looking? Loneliness is a bomber! Everyone wants to say that they have someone special in their life. It brings to the forefront that people should really appreciate what they have when they have it! It’s too risky to do otherwise. Often, when people become fed up and walk away, there is no coming back; and there is nothing that can be respectfully said or done to change their minds! When he / she had their chance, they blew it! Now … It’s over! … Not a good feeling .. huh? The upside is that you don’t have to take their “stuff” anymore! You can be blessed with the presence of someone who loves / appreciates you once your baggage is gone! Hello!
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