Archive for May, 2015

PostHeaderIcon Getting healthy

By Vernalee
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We know the game. Eat healthy, drink plenty of water, and exercise are the primary tenets to good health. Easy said; hard to do …. particularly when you have acquired bad habits that promote the opposite. Challenging, it is! How can you improve? Adding a dose of determination, better habits, and a motivating partner to your lineup is a healthy start. A patient encouraging partner (in the form of my daughter) is helping me more than words can say! Though she can be a drill sergeant, she is patiently encouraging / guiding me, helping me to reach the next level, and patting me on the back when I do good! She even bought me a water bottle. I immediately laughed and reminisced about the many baby bottles that she lost in the house. These actions (motivating, encouraging, teaching) have usually been my job! What’s happening here! I’ll tell you. I’m getting in shape … being guided by my grown baby’s hands! Cool!
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PostHeaderIcon “Make it … so you will not have to fake it!”

By Vernalee
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How many faked people can you instantly recall? Remember, those are the ones who act like they are someone that they are not. Stop the madness. I am running out of space with my list! Frankly, I give credit to those who can pull it out! One must be charismatically savvy to accomplish high levels of fakeness where you cannot tell the difference. If you look the part and act the role, most people may not find you out! Embellishments are an understatement for those who fit the category of the great pretenders. Allow me to “Vernalize” a statement that may be motivating for the imposters! Here goes, “If you work hard at becoming what you are faking to be, your real self will eventually take shape. Then, you will become the person that you once faked. So, get busy being what you seek to be. It is so much more gratifying! Make it so you will not have to fake it!”

PostHeaderIcon How long is too long to date?

By Vernalee
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Singer and actress Jill Scott says that 6 months is long enough to determine whether he’s the one. For serious minded people, the primary purpose of dating is to access compatibility. Is this the person that you can spend the rest of your life with and step into the prisms of eternal bliss? Is he / she marriage material? How much time is needed to determine that? Though the assessment time may vary, exactly what is excessive? Let’s put some reasonableness to this variance. Is five years sufficient? Most definitely! Is 10 years too long? Yes; most likely! In 10 years, a person knows the other as much as a Mother knows her child! Pow! If the person is still dating beyond 10 years, the message is clear. Either – You are not good enough or one of the parties feel that they are better than the other. Maybe the partner doesn’t want to share what he / she has worked to earn (although, a pre-nuptial could cure that). What is the reason? Is it selfishness? Is there a trust issue or fear of commitment? Is there someone else? Is a previous failed marriage the cause? When and if someone asks when are you getting married ….and the answer is avoided like a plague, there is definitely a problem. Whatever it may be, surveys reveal that there is a reason for the delayed singleness. Thus, if one continue dating under these circumstances, the dates are merely recreational or maybe a waste of time because the relationship is obviously going no where! “Time will tell!” Time also waits on no one! Women become old maids. Single men, other than the playboys, who stay single have a constant flow of gossipy whisperers questioning their sexuality or delayed rationale. As the wait continues, years pass by as the prospects of marriage go down! The answer is not blowing in the wind; the answer is staring those who are in those predicaments in the face!
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PostHeaderIcon What a mess!

By Vernalee
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Did you receive the memo? What memo? The one that said that when you arrive to the worksite that you should work! By definition, work is performing the duties assigned to you. Stirring up mess is work too; lots of work at that! When you stir up mess, you have to be creatively messy. Creating anxieties and getting co- workers angry enough to engage in verbal combat is optimal when you are a “mess starter.” Hush up! Physical warfare is not an ideal scenario. Get into a fight and you are toast. Another one bites the dust of termination as the culprit messily moves to the next victim. She is a freelancer because she freely slides from office to the next creating confusion. Oh, did I stipulate that she is talked about as much as she talks about others? She is such a skillful troublemaker that never gets caught in the act. Her escape artistry could rival Harry Houdini! Now, back to the memo! She read it before anyone…..because she wrote it! Are you serious? You see – her real “professional” job is Director of Operations! Her operational efficiency exempts her from the troubles she creates! As is always the case, one day she will not be able to clean up the mess she made! Then someone else will have the pleasure of having the broom …. and in the dust pan she goes! Swish!
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PostHeaderIcon God’s omnipresent love

By Vernalee
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God’s love is so pure. It’s omnipresent. It’s not here today; gone tomorrow. It’s not temperamental. The feeling is a lovely one that engulfs you, never leaves you, and makes you feel as light as the clouds. I love it! Thank you God for sharing your love with me and my loved ones. We are so much better because of your loving presence in our lives!
Happy Sunday. God bless!
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PostHeaderIcon It’s the destination – not the journey

By Vernalee
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Regardless of your age, are you committed to be all you can be?
For most, unless you were born with a silver spoon in your mouth, to get where you want to be requires a plan and hard work. Let determination be your compass. Either start your journey today or continue on your way until you reach your destination. Your arrival will make the roads that you took to get there unimportant!
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PostHeaderIcon “Everybody wants to know why I sing the blues!”

By Vernalee
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When we are “down in the dumps,” it is a natural tendency to “sing the blues” as they say. Truthfully, nobody could sing the blues like our legendary B.B. King whose voice left us early this morning! Dead at age 89, the King of the Blues is gone and we are “blue” with grief and sadness. For years, I have been a fan after being converted with King’s 1969 “The Thrill is gone!” Long before his worldwide fame, B.B. King played the “Chitlin Circuit” to packed houses in places like the After Hours Cafe in Hollandale, Mississippi. I have frequented a number of B.B. King’s concerts. When he performed, you witnessed two shows. One was on stage and one was in the audience. Somehow, B.B. could strike a musical note that reflected your life experiences. An icon, B.B. could make his shiny black guitar, which he affectionately called Lucille – talk! He utilized an unique “play and sing” style whereby his voice and guitar playing did not simultaneously coincide. When he played Lucille with closed eyes, he got into the groove and transported you with him. For certain, we “lived the life that he sung about in his songs.” A 15 times Grammy winner and recipient of numerous prestigious awards / accolades, his influence on music is as great as the Mississippi River is long! Restaurants and a museum showcased his honor. Notable guitarists – Eric Clapton, Buddy Guy, Steve Miller, Jimi Hendrix, Richie Sambora, Keith Richards, Lenny Kravitz ….were all influenced by B.B. King, a man who started off poor picking cotton in the Mississippi fields; a man who never forgot from whence he came. B. B. King brought his blues festivals regularly to Indianola, Mississippi. It was known as one of the few events that truly united Black and White folks. When B.B. came to Mississippi so came his friends like Eric Clapton. The Mississippi Delta “rocked” as the “good times rolled!” Years ago on one of our trips home, we went down Hwy 82. Startled, there was a huge billboard that pictured B. B. King and the words – “Welcome to Indianola, Home of B.B. King.” That was the first billboard denoting a Black man that I had ever seen in my native Mississippi. I thought … The south has changed! On May 25, 2014, B.B. King gave his final concert in Indianola. The admission’s price tag was FREE! The town loved B. B. King, as did the world! Those in Heaven will love him too!
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PostHeaderIcon “Your slip is hanging!”

By Vernalee
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I don’t know if women wear slips anymore. I suppose that a few do. Back in the day, it was unspeakable to not wear one. I remember a girl in school who everyday wore beautiful dresses, but underneath her slip was always hanging. It was a distraction. Your eyes took you to the slip; not the dress. What a shame! It was easy to tell the girl to pull up her slip. Moving to analogies of life, would you address a visually displeasing trait or conduct with someone if their so called “slip was hanging?” That’s not always easy to do! Sure the expression may be a euphemism, but it is real when it reveals what someone was once hiding underneath is now above the surface! When secrets come out so do the illumination. It’s risky when “stuff” moves from the dark to the light; when truth comes to light! If you tell the person, you run the risk of being told off! It’s a crap shoot, but we all have to do what our conscience and good judgment direct. You can mind your business or you can make their business yours! Which will it be? Will you tell them their “slip is hanging” or will you let them continue to noticeably walk around embarrassingly? However, what is shamefully embarrassing to you may not be to them! Decisions, decisions …. about other folks’ issues! Go figure! Silence is not always golden! Being a big mouth can get you in trouble. What should you do? Shhhh…..I’m thinking!
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PostHeaderIcon What’s in your junk drawer?

By Vernalee
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Junk drawers – We all have them! Sometimes, they are in multiple rooms. Mine is in my kitchen. My junk drawer contains Scotch tape, greeting cards, tools, nails, Velcro, my daughter’s project sheets from third grade, my son’s seventh grade notes for a term paper, (I.e. both children left over a decade ago), photographs from the 1970’s, address labels, and a recipe book as the predominant items. When the drawer is opened, it is “neat clutter;” when closed, my kitchen denotes organization. It’s magic … as I sublimely make the junk disappear! What people don’t see is the key. I will tell you a secret. I graduated from a junk drawer to a pint sized junk room; my utility room. It is a hot mess! Guests will never know that very fact, because I keep the door closed / locked. Public viewing is not allowed! For 10 years, I blamed the junk room’s clutter on my daughter until she left for college in 2002. Now I guess that I have no one to blame but me, so I have excused the clutter to my lack of time; not me directly! That’s a clever excuse! Having a maid clean it is out of the question because I need to decide what junk to keep and what junk to throw away – wise decision; right? Tell me about your junk drawer or junk room, because I know that you have stuff hiding out somewhere!
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PostHeaderIcon You better believe it – “blood is thicker than water!”

By Vernalee
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Scientifically, “blood is thicker than water.” Beyond the medical realm, this idiom is definitely a truism. You know exactly what I mean. Some of you may have seen the evidence; others may have experienced it. There are family members who argue like “cats and dogs.” Some even fight! Just because they talk about each other, it doesn’t give you the license to do so. Don’t find yourself on the wrong side of the family fence with this one. Family ties and friendship are two different things. Don’t get verbally or physically punched because you talked about his sister. Pow! He can talk about her 24 hours / 7 days a week because she is his blood. Remember, she is not related to you!
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