Archive for July, 2015
Monday morning quarterbacks provide commentaries the day after the game. They are experts and after the facts critics. Some of these so called quarterbacks spread their wings and analyze life situations. They are the first to tell you what you did wrong. I am sure that you know a few! Hindsight gives us all 20 / 20 vision. Afterwards, all that went wrong and what you would do contrariwise are evident when the past is staring you in the face! Analytically, that’s great. However, one should never underestimate the people who are playing the game or in a life predicament when decisions have to made. For them, there is no watching the game’s playbacks, looking backwards, or retracing steps. It’s using their best judgment at that particular time in the heat of the moment to make the right “call” / decision. Making a decision when you are in the line of fire is vastly different from making a decision using after the fact assessments. Though not a sports analyst, I do however give more credit to the quarterback who actually played the game! At least, he made a decision; he threw the ball, ran or was sacked! I prefer the people who make the plays as opposed to those who say what they would have done! Action speaks louder than words. “Woulda, shoulda, coulda” folks are talkers not doers. It’s easy to tell people what they should have done. It’s harder sometimes to do what you tell others. Advice comes cheap. Hypocrites circulate randomly in the midst. If you are a fake, lack credibility, and has failed to make quality decisions in your own life when faced with similar situations, maybe you should keep your mouth closed! That’s my “call!”
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Are you tired of being burdened down with other folks’ drama? Are you tired of carrying extra weight around? Then there is only one thing that you can do! Get their monkey off your back! Stop letting other folks’ drama stress you out to the extent that you cannot exceptionally function. If you must be worried and endure stress, let it be your own stuff! When you can say, “I am sick and tired of being sick and tired” of other folks stuff, you would have reached a viable step toward placing you above them!
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Mississippi’s own B.B. King, made “Let the Good Times Roll” many moons ago. My Mother and I on her last Ohio visit did just that! Although in our 60’s and 90’s, the two of us acted like two teenage girls in our pajamas listening to music. I played my Mother’s favorite songs on my computer. Wow… The wonders of technology! It can transport you anywhere you want to go! First, my Mother and I clapped and sang to Mahalia Jackson’s, “Precious Lord” (My Mother’s favorite), “In the Upper Room” and “Troubles of the World.” Then, we listened to the legendary – The Mighty Clouds of Joy, James Cleveland, and Shirley Caesar. We had to go home in our spirit; that is to our native Mississippi and groove to the sounds of the Canton Spirituals and the Williams Brothers. After listening to the Williams sing, “Cooling Water” and “My Mama prayed for me,” my Mother started praising and clapping as if she was in church. Of course, after playing some of her favorites, I threw in my girl, the Queen, none other than Aretha Franklin. If you haven’t seen her version of “Bridge Over Trouble Waters,” it is deserving of a You Tube watch. She breaks it down with her voice and her fingers majestically floating across the piano keys. Momma and I compared Aretha’s and Mahalia’s version of “Precious Lord” with a split vote on which of the angelic voices harmonized it best! Then, Mother wanted to hear the Rev. Dr. Martin Luther King’s last speech, “I’ve Been to the Mountaintop!” So, we took the historic voyage via my laptop to Memphis, Tennessee. After which, we listened to Dr. King’s shortened version of “I Have a Dream!” For over two hours, we clapped, sang, listened, “had church,” and a mighty good time at home…just two girls reminiscing! “What a time, what a wonderful time when God’s saint get together!” Happy Sunday! God bless!
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Our mouths frequently get us in trouble. I remember the old folks in Mississippi saying, “Watch your mouth! That little tongue of yours can get you in big trouble!” Indeed, we have to be conscientious of not only the frequency of our speech, but knowing what to say and what not to say in front of whom. Knowing when and where to speak is also critical. Some things don’t even dignify a response!The maturity of our minds and hearts will hopefully assist in the taming of our tongue. As basketball great, Bill Walton once said, “Once the ball is up in the air, we cannot redirect its course.” Likewise, once our words are out and heard, we cannot reissue them. So, let your conscience be your guide on what to say. If a mistake in judgment is made, apologize! Whatever you want for yourself is what you should give to others! Talk less; listen more!
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Call me naïve though I am in my 60’s. Certainly, I should know better! Maybe, it’s only human nature to believe that people will do what they say. Admittedly, I always find redeeming qualities in people. I tend to look for the good, not the bad. So what if they make mistakes; we all do. We can rebound! Dr. Maya Angelou said – “people should do better once they know better.” Well, I believed and I got duped once again; hoodwinked in fact! When people have questionable character, only they can change that; not you! I hold true to the barometer of hope. I guess I will always be an eternal optimist, but realism sheds its light on the truth! Pristine to the phrase’s definition, “a tiger doesn’t change its stripes;” man doesn’t change his essential nature. That is a truism … regardless!
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Let’s face it! Beyond price and product, there are unlimited variables that determine what we buy; when and where. With unhesitant certainty, bad customer service will determine where we don’t spend our dollars. Regardless of the product or service, customer service influences purchasing decisions and consumer impressions immensely. Who wants to make a purchase from a rude, inconsiderate, belligerent grouch! That front line (be it in person, via telephone, etc.,) not only determines what, how much, and how frequent one purchases, it may be the main determinant as to whether the customer comes back or never returns. Small businesses, beware of who you hire especially for these pivotal positions. Those individuals become a major factor in determining your bottom line. Unless you have a product or service that no one else offers, your competitors are omnivorously waiting on your mistakes and your lost sales. Cha Ching! Mind your business! You’ll pay – one way or the other!
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On one of my consulting gigs, there is a young colleague who calls me Professor. In fact, I am honored every time the word is uttered! I strongly feel that I have the responsibility to enhance, assist and improve my mentee’s career.
I try to show my student the ropes and the short cuts, as I impart knowledge. Assisting others is a process that we should attempt to do. It is very satisfying! In fact, I enjoy my unofficial capacity of being a mentor. I am of the belief that my protégé is benefitting from my previous experiences and knowledge. It is a two way process – as I share, my protégé becomes empowered. Ironically, so do I! If the governmental agencies employ mentor – protégé relationships, why can’t we?
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Normally, if we reveal secrets, we tell them to people that we trust. Then, we hope that our secrets are kept secret! My Momma once told me, “Beware of who you tell your business to coz some folks can’t hold water!” Metaphorically, just like running water, so too will be your business if it gets into the wrong hands! When people tell you, “I have something to tell you, but you can’t tell no one,” they probably have already told a number of people before they shared it with you. So much for their breaches of other folk’s confidentialities! Unfortunately, when and if your secrets are revealed, it is extremely hurtful to know that your confidences are circulating throughout the universe traveling at an incredible speed! Do know that it becomes more juicier as it travels. Everyone adds their commentaries before it is passed to the next ear! It is equally devastating to know that it came from the mouth of someone that you thought that you could trust! Pow! The revelation proves that your confidante wasn’t at all confidential! Of course, you feel violated; rightfully so! They say, “Trust no one totally but your Mother!” A hint to the wise should be sufficient!
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It is unbelievable! This incident however takes the cake! How can two people hear the same thing – a message with only one interpretation, but remarkably one set of ears (theirs) heard something else! Are you kidding? To some, it may be unexplainable, but cognitive thinking will help you nail the answer. It’s quite simple actually. When the essence of the message applies to the person in question and if it is something that he / she doesn’t want to accept, he / she exempts themselves from scrutiny and expects you to do the same. Pretending that the described deficiency doesn’t apply to them is their preference; addressing and solving it – is not. That theory does not constitute intelligence; rather, it is a form of ignorant evasion. Clever … so they think! Turning a deaf ear has always been their logic. It is one of their delusional tactic at its best! They may remove from their acceptance – what everyone else sees and knows about them. They may hide behind their so – called aura of perfection, but ultimately what they are hiding or ignoring will be visibly and blatantly obvious. The efforts and time spent on concealment could have been more wisely spent on solutions. Pity the fool! Eventually, the “rooster comes home to roost.” And when it does, you will not have to pinch me. You will have to pinch the person(s) whose actions, and the consequences thereof, finally caught up with them. They can run, but they can’t hide – forever as the rooster crows, “Cock a doodle do!”
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“Precious Lord” was written by the Rev. Thomas Dorsey after a family tragedy. His wife’s died in child birth. Days later, his baby succumbed. In a downtrodden state, Dorsey penned “Precious Lord” in 1932. A viewing of a younger Thomas Dorsey and Mahalia Jackson in this vintage photograph sends goose bumps down my spine as it depicts two of the best performing artists at their craft. Can you imagine hearing this dynamic duo? “Precious Lord” is one of those “pick you up” gospel songs. Indeed, it was Dr. Martin Luther King’s favorite! When he wanted to “hear the voice of God,” King called upon Mahalia Jackson to sing “Precious Lord.” At his request, she sang at many civil rights rallies. Mahalia also sang “Precious Lord” at King’s funeral! The lyrics are soothing, comforting, and magically transport the Holy Ghost spirit to your presence.
“Precious Lord, take my hand
Lead me on, let me stand
I’m tired, I’m weak, I’m lone
Through the storm, through the night
Lead me on to the light
Take my hand precious Lord, lead me home.”
Happy Sunday to my followers. Thank you for tuning in! Since she is not a computer person, I am sending an old fashioned long distance shout out to my Momma in Glen Allan, Mississippi who regularly sings “Precious Lord” with her apron tied around her waist as she cooks. Yes ma’am that woman can “take you to church in her home!” God bless!
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