Archive for August, 2015
Are you a doer or a talker? Before you answer, I have evidence. Your actions, or lack thereof, will speak for you! Hush! Observing and commenting on what needs to be done makes complaining easy. I know many commentators. Don’t you? Doing what needs to be done is harder. I am so tied of the “I was gonna do” folks and the consistent, “Do you need anything” chorus. That question usually comes from the great pretenders … pretending that they care while their actions demonstrate otherwise. They suspect that you will not ask them to do anything, so they assume that are off the hook since they made a faked insincere overture that could be seen a mile away! Who are they fooling? Can I get an amen if you know one? I say, “Just do what has to be done!” Your actions, not asking the question, show that you care.
Symbolic of the traffic lights, the green light mobilizes movement; it provides solutions! Actions speak louder than words … everyday of the week! Besides, the energy that is used to complain could be better utilized to solve the problem. If you care not to provide solutions, do the next best thing: Keep your mouth closed! If you are a red light person, you don’t have to tell anyone! It will show! Trust me!
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Since I am directionally challenged, one of the most practical gifts that I have received was a GPS device. GPS’s can take you directly to your destination. Your only job is to put in the address. I love them! All mechanical devices have their shortcomings. GPS’s cannot see construction zones and other deviations that might take you off course. However, I have founded the best navigation system in the world. When you let God direct and guide you, you can make it to your destination even if you don’t know where you are going! God can and will place you on the right path. God doesn’t need satellite devices or signals. He knows the world and you! Remember, he created both! He can effortlessly recalculate your route; turn you around; and place you upside down. Gravity is no issue with God! Better yet, he can move other objects – people, places, and things – that may be obstacles out of your way. Forget Rand McNally! God has the best roadmap, the Holy Bible! So if you are lost, can’t see your way out, need clarity of vision, or a failed – proof system to keep you personally, professionally, and spiritually wise, put God behind the wheel. Let him cruise you around and order your steps. You will never get lost. Believe, be obedient to his Word, and be deep in your faith as you “go and let God!”
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For the first time in over 45 years, I ran out of gas! Yes, you read it correctly! When it occurred, embarrassed was not the word! “How did it happen?” you might ask. Simply and honestly, I deviated from my habitual routine. I always stop at the same gas station as I travel this particular interstate. I was also in a rental car and talking excessively on my cell phone. So, I didn’t notice the fuel warning light. I can reasonably explain anything, can’t I? These are logical explanations and excuses … right? This incident took me back to the late 1960’s. When I was a teenager, my parents gave us kids a gas guzzler 1963 Pontiac. I loved that “boat of a car!” Although my Daddy owned a service station, we were always running out of gas. We could not get free gasoline for our pleasure rides; we had to earn our keep and pay for fuel. What a shame! How uncivilized of our parents, I thought! Money was hard to come by for me in those days so I pushed that Pontiac to the limits – quite frequently and much to the displeasure of my Daddy. At the time, paying 30 cents for a gallon of gas was a lot of cash! When I became a Mother, I would lambast my then teenage children for riding around with their gasoline needle on near empty. Never in a million years would I have thought that I would be so careless or preoccupied to do the same! I guess I will “lay off” my now adult children for their frequent $10.00 gas purchases as opposed to filling up their tanks. Time brings about a change. As for me running out of fuel, I can only say that mistakes can happen to the best of us! That is my story and I am sticking to it!
Are you a daredevil or do you take calculated steps? It is better to be safe than sorry! An associate recently reviewed the path of his successful career. It occurred to him that his recent entrepreneurial experience had him freehandedly “walking a tightrope without a net!” Strangely, he did not realize that his journey was net-less as he was so entrenched in the company’s day to day operation that he had not taken the time to look down. Fear he didn’t have! Sometimes, what you don’t see or know remove fear because the negative consequences are not visibly before your eyes. However, once the wool is pulled away, the dangers become conspicuously obvious. The negative realities stare you directly in your face. Then, the realization of not having a safety net is akin to being in the middle of the lake with no paddle! To survive, refocusing is necessary so that bad outcomes don’t defeat you. The time has come to reset the precautionary warning signals that implied trust convinced you to remove. Equipped with armors of courage, strength, resources, and knowledge, you are now prepared to walk into greener pastures with keener vision, balance and wisdom. For certain, as embodied in William Ernest Henley’s “Invictus,” we are “the masters of our fate; the captains of our souls.” Learn from the past. Be wise; be smart!
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Do you believe in karma? Whether the answer is yes or no, remember this! Escalators take you up and bring you down. Years ago, my Mother told me, “Treat people right! The same people that you see going up, you may see coming down!” Keeping a dignified balance in life is critical to your wellbeing; to your integrity. It speaks loud and clear about your character. Do not be in a position where you mistreated people on your upward climb to success and expect them to be gracious if unfortunately you are on a descent. What if they treated you like you treated them – with a lack of dignity and respect? You probably wouldn’t like that…. so why give what you can’t take! The Golden Rule – “Do unto others as you want them to do unto you” – is always the best practice. It works every time … up or down; going or coming!
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Stop criticizing others for bad qualities in their character when you have identical or similar ones! No one is squeaky clean! Your flaws are just as transparent as theirs! That is why, you should not throw stones. Remember, people can throw stones back at you and reveal the skeletons that you thought were hidden in your closet. Just as transparency makes them easier targets; the same applies to you! No one can hide “stuff” behind glass! As the old folks say, “Child, I can see straight through you! I know who you are and what you are about. So honey, be careful about what you do and say. It might come back to bite you.” Ouch!
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Several years ago, I heard the comedian Sinbad make jokes about our cell phone usage. What an invention! “We use our cell phones for everything but talking,” Sinbad joked! Sublimely true, our cell phones have so many varied uses in addition to our verbal conversations. We text, email, and let our cell phones become our babysitter and company keeper! They are most engaging communication and information tools that connect us to the world. Agreed! However, when they replace the sheer intimacy of our basic conversation; our eye to eye contact, and our relationship togetherness, there is a problem! When we substitute our “one on one” face to face sharing by using an instrument, the technology has taken a seat at our table. If it becomes an ingredient that causes communication indigestion, a “medicinal cure” is needed before you regurgitate a breakup or a divorce! Pepto Bismol … to the rescue! All kidding aside, the Bottom Line is – We shouldn’t ignore each other when we can talk! My thoughts …
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Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, Linked In …
Social Media is all around. It has been blamed for a number of relationship breakups. We often place the blame on things that we can hide behind. Which brings me to this question: Is social media the problem or is the problem a lack of discretionary placement of what you and / or others post? Here’s how the story goes. The husband said, “Facebook broke us up!” Now, let me give you the street version interpretation. Here goes: The husband cheated. He and his other woman took photos at her family’s cookout. She (the girlfriend) posted the provocative / intimate photos on her Facebook account. One of her 500 Facebook friends (although she has none in real life) happens to be the man’s wife best friend … showed the wife her husband’s photographs with another woman sitting on his lap, kissing, and all hugged up. Busted! The wife immediately confronted her hubby of 10 years because photos don’t lie despite the fact that he did! Although he broke a vow, there was no DNA evidence to prove that it was him! But, the wife started excavating and she dug up some skeletons. Aw shucks! Now, they are in divorce court because he and his cheating girlfriend who knew that he was married also have a couple of kids. Whew! Are you serious? So, Facebook didn’t break up their marriage. His infidelities, cheating heart and actions coupled with his young girlfriend’s disrespect and stupidity by publishing their indiscretions revealed their adulterous clandestine affair! Girlfriend – brought it all out; didn’t she? But the boomerang swung back! Pow! The moral of this story is – Think before you tweet, post, or put that photo up on line. It may be comprising or it may comprise you and the people that you have touched! What is done in the dark may come to light! In this case, it did! I’ll tweet to that!
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Growing up, my Mother would always say, “Turn over your problems to The Lord. If you pray, don’t worry. If you gonna worry, don’t pray!” As I matured spiritually, my faith in God matured with me; my Mother’s words never left me. God hears and answers prayers. He will not leave your side. When you experience God’s love in your soul and heart, you will be able to confidently testify. When your prayers have been answered, you can gracefully and confidently chant the words of Richard Smallwood’s spiritual “I love The Lord. He heard my prayer.” Pray don’t worry!
Happy Sunday! God bless!
“I pray for you; you pray for me. And watch God change things!”
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The above quote – though plain and simple, could not have been said better! Protect your mind from unhealthy external influences! Be on guard. Bad associations spoil useful habits and infiltrate unwholesome thoughts into your head. Stop letting others put their dirty trash into your cognitive processes. Controlling entry is pivotal. If an unhealthy entry is permitted, an exit is imminent. Stay on guard for what flows through your spirit. It is an “inside, out” flow, however what gets in may be hard to get out! Your words, behaviors, and actions imitate / reflect what you think! Keep your suit of armor on to protect yourself from what can ultimately destroy the goodness that you have worked years to cultivate. Stay on guard!
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