Archive for August, 2015

PostHeaderIcon Which cartoon character resembles someone on your job?

By Vernalee
“What’s up doc?” Daffy Duck, Mickey Mouse, and Goofy are much too sophisticated for some job sites. Recently, a friend related the “happenings” that occur at work. She indicated that there are two workers who characteristically resemble Wile E. the Coyote and Sam the Sheepdog. OMG! I remember those two characters. They were my son’s favorite next to Road Runner! Wile E. and Sam both punch in together, act hospitable, and then they “go at” each other all day! Sounds familiar! They really aren’t friends, and they skillfully maneuver those combative gestures swinging at each other all in the name of a day’s work. Strangely, Wile E. the Coyote, the speedy one chases Sam’s sheeps all day, but the burly slow moving Sam the Sheepdog manages to defeat his attacks with minimal efforts. Sometimes, the energetic purportedly smart ones are not the victorious ones. What an invigorating thought! Interesting … Wile E. and Sam smile at each other and make grandstanding overtures every morning as if they are bosom buddies. So much for hypocrisy, but I think you know all about that! Thus, I need not tell you about the back stabbers. Remember that poetic song about them … “They smile in your face … all the time they are trying to take your place.” Let’s deviate a moment from Wile E. the Coyote and Sam the Sheepdog. Just watch your back tomorrow and the day after! You never know who will be standing by the water cooler or the time clock waiting to rip you apart! No brags; just facts! As the road runner says, “Beep, beep!”
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PostHeaderIcon Teaching Granny how to use her cell phone … and other tricks!

By Vernalee
Granddaughter teaching grandmother how to use a cell phone
Once upon a time, there was the telephone land line. Now, there are cellular phones everywhere. Teaching the older population cell phone techniques has its challenges, but my children taught their Granny well. “Grandma, all you have to do is just pick up your cell and talk. We have programmed it to do everything automatically.” The teaching didn’t stop there! To understand, I have to take you for a walk down memory lane. In the late 1990’s, I had to install a second telephone line because I could never comfortably talk on my phone without my children’ callers interrupting me. Having two separate telephone lines in our home was advantageous, particularly to my children! They loved it! Then, before I realized it, my children started calling me on my telephone line from theirs. Calling me was easier than their getting up to walk into my room; less steps! Besides, it saved them time and energies! So their calls went like this: “Hey Mommy, if you go downstairs, would you be so kind as to please bring us up some snacks and juice? Thank you so much my dear Mommy.” Translated, that statement meant, “Stop doing what you are doing. March downstairs Mommy and get us some food!” I was so taken by their politeness that I did it! Down the stairs, I went! Wow, I can’t believe my naivety and their shrewdness. Now, guess what! My daughter has once again taught her Granny by repurposing an old system. Why reinvent the wheel? It worked then; it’ll work now!
“Hey Grandma; Let me teach you the ropes since Mommy has never installed an intercom system in this house. Geez! Use your cell phone and call her if you don’t feel like moving. We did it growing up and it worked marvelously every time!” Now, my Mother telephones me from her room on her cellular to performed tasks. The kids’ system of old was revitalized. Now, I am at my Mother’s beck and call. This time, it is a blessing to be of service. In fact, it is a great honor to provide service to my ninety year old Mother! In this case, the second time around is better! My kids’ shenanigans of old produced a great deed!
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PostHeaderIcon Keep your enemies close and your friends closer!

By Vernalee
I count Julius Caesar as my most favored Shakespearian play. The plot is absolutely fascinating and heartbreaking at the same time. Often I have imagined how Caesar felt when he was attacked by a mob. Sadder still was when he saw his friend Marcus Brutus in the crowd. “Et tu Brute?” was supposedly his last words. The Latin phrase which translates into – “and you too Brutus?” – was I am sure just as devastatingly piercing as the knife that entered his back. To be betrayed by your closest ally, your buddy, your friend is an unexpected course of nature. Those are the people that you expect to care and be on your side, to be your protectors, to warn you rather than participate in destroying you. If you as I have uttered the words, “Et tu Brute?” with our Brutus having a contemporary presence of a John, Sally, Jane, or George…how sad! What’s even sadder is that our friends know us so well that they can destroy us inconspicuously and effortlessly. We, like Caesar would never know what hit us! Since today’s technology gives unparalleled access, we should “keep our enemies close and our friends, closer.” Ineffably, a betrayal by your so called friend is atrociously calamitous! It is a disloyalty that dreadfully lives within your soul forever! Need I not mention that the pain from the betrayal is more piercing than the cuts from the knife!
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PostHeaderIcon Which pronoun – Me or We – describes your relationship?

By Vernalee
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It is amazing how a simple pronoun tells what is going on in a relationship! Which pronoun will it be – I, us, we, or me? Perhaps, the better questions is what pronoun does your mate use? Which pronoun describes your and his interactions? Does he say we, but his actions are more synonymous with me? Do you consider him in all of your actions while he considers only himself? We and me are two different words with two different meanings. Visually, the letter – M – is the exact same as the letter – W – when turned upside down. Definitionally, how vastly different are the letters when we add an – E -; making the words Me and We! Hmmm! Amazing, isn’t it! You can never be We if your actions signify Me! Does this make sense? Sure, it does; besides seeing is believing! Maybe, you and your “yours truly”are moving in two different directions. Perhaps, it’s time to get off on the next exit! Single minded thinking doesn’t successfully work in relationships because togetherness is plural. Why make it complex when the math is simple? 1+1= 2. 1+0= 1. When you are committed to each other, you consider the other person; they are in the plan. Singleminded people only think of themselves so they should be by themselves! Maybe, the time has come to say a noun, Adios!
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By Vernalee
Yes, I am still on the topic of FRIENDSHIP.
The topic never grows old.
So let’s examine our wish list.
It is unreasonable to expect from others what you are not willing to give.
That sounds hypocritical…don’t you think?
So whatever attributes you desire in and from a friend, you should be willing to give to a friend.
Fair play; agreed?.
Listen up.
1. Avoid competition.
2. Avoid gossip.
3. Confront wisely.
4. Forgive.
5. Maintain friendships through different stages of life.
6. Celebrate best friends.
7. Let your friendships serve as a mirror.
8. Allow unexpected friendships to change you, if needed.
9. Help create a healthy community of friends.
10. Deal with space.
11. Explore your expectations.
12. Befriend yourself.
Who can you confidentially talk to and get the best possible advice?
Who wants you to succeed no matter what? Who will be there for you when everyone walks away?
Who will be there when you are up, down or turnaround? Everyone needs someone. No one is an island.
Having a true friend is valuable. True friendship doesn’t come around often.
If you have one true friend, you are lucky. Two – would be a steal!
When you find a true friend, keep him or her close. Don’t ask for something that you are not willing to give! Think of others; do for others. Don’t be a talker only; show that you care. Cherish being a true friend as much as having a true friend! It’s a treasure!
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PostHeaderIcon Jesus be a fence all around me everyday!

By Vernalee
In 1966, the gospel group, The Soul Stirrers led by Sam Cooke recorded, “Jesus be a fence all around me everyday.” An inspiring song, it speaks of God’s protection. With God’s protection, you are surrounded and engulfed with his love, mercy, and grace.
The words are very powerful!
“Jesus be a fence all around me everyday.
Jesus, I want you to protect me as I travel along the way.
I know you can.
I know you will.
Fight my battle.
If I just keep still.
Lord be a fence all around me everyday.
This is my prayer Lord that I pray each and everyday.
That you would guide my footsteps lest I stumble and stray.
Lord I need you to direct me all along the way.
Oh Lord be a fence all around me every day.”
This is one of those old school songs. My pastor always says that everybody needs their own spiritual song. The words will “keep” you. “Jesus be a fence all around me everyday ” is one of mine! I want, need, and thank The Lord for his unchanging hand and protection. I thank you Lord for keeping me inside the walls of your protection and keeping “stuff” that I don’t need out! “Jesus be a fence all around me everyday” is more than a song; it is Jesus at work in my life! Thank you Lord!
Happy Sunday. God bless!
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PostHeaderIcon I deserve a break!

By Vernalee

Work, work, work! Although I enjoy what I do, please know that “I work to live; I don’t live to work.” My life is full with so many satisfying stimulants besides punching the clock. What about you?
I, like you and many others am very goal directed. As such, I work hard to try to accomplish them. Over the years, I have learned to work smarter instead of harder! The results are the same. Nevertheless, even the smarter techniques take their toll. I know my limit … I know exactly what to do when exhaustion consumes me! Sure … It’s been a hard and exhausting week, but I have the perfect antidote. I’m sleeping in today! I need the rest! My “Do not disturb” button is on. Please don’t wake me up; I’m tired! Some rest will do me good! Try it for yourself! After all, “Rome wasn’t built in a day!” As for now, my cushy pillow feels comfy! Zzz! Happy Saturday!
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PostHeaderIcon The Invisible Boyfriend!

By Vernalee
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Recently, on The Today Show there was a featured segment called “The Invisible Boyfriend.” Yes, It’s real! If you don’t believe me, google it. “The Invisible Boyfriend” is a service that gives you “real world and social proof that you are in a relationship.” Yep, it is a website whereby you can send text messages and communicate to a nonexistent person…and he answers back! You can also create on this website an invisible boyfriend with all the features that you want in a man. What an exciting apparition! Then I masterfully reflected upon another brilliant discovery! What about those real life boyfriends whose behaviors, or shall I say lack thereof, make them invisible? Ladies, how many stories can you confidentially share about them beyond the theoretical? You know the things that they should do, but don’t; the things that make them invisible! These guys fit the category of being real in the flesh and the relationship, but invisible in deeds and in satisfying their partners’ physical, emotional , sexual, et al needs? Alright for my male readers, don’t get angry; there is equality! I understand that there is an “Invisible Girlfriend” category too. Click it if you like. If you have been an invisible boyfriend, you have a heads up! She, the Invisible Girlfriend, has all of the identicable characteristics that you possess! “Takes one to know one!” I wonder how you will like someone who does to you what you do to others! Fair play is tough!
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PostHeaderIcon Leading a group – no easy task!

By Vernalee
Conducting an orchestra is an extraordinary talent. The same is true with a leadership role in any capacity. The finesse to lead particularly when you stand before a group of professionals whose talents and often times egos are as big as the Mississippi River is long – is no easy task. When the mega hit, “We are the World,” was recorded, the incomparable maestro Quincy Jones told all of the recording stars to “check their egos at the door.” He established himself as the leader that would take responsibility to control the orchestration and outcome. The respective singers, though individually and extraordinarily talented, respected Quincy’s demonstrated leadership abilities. The sound and final production only come together beautifully when all follow the commands of the conductor / leader. Following the leader’s dictates produces harmonic melodies in music and in life. Obeying requires respecting authority. The beauty of doing so is heard and seen loud and clear – in music; in life!
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PostHeaderIcon What every woman should know and have!

By Vernalee
Recently, I received an email from one of my sister girls containing this famous Maya Angelou piece. I need to work to get there on many of her expressed items. At least, now I have a roadmap! Nobody can say it like Dr. Angelou! I share her words with you! Enjoy and achieve!
A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE … by Maya Angelou
enough money within her control to move out and rent a place of her own, even if she never wants to or needs to…

something perfect to wear if the employer or date of her dreams wants to see her in an hour…

a youth she’s content to leave behind….

a past juicy enough that she’s looking forward to retelling it in her old age….

a set of screwdrivers, a cordless drill, and a black lace bra…

one friend who always makes her laugh… and one who lets her cry…

a good piece of furniture not previously owned by anyone else in her family…

eight matching plates, wine glasses with stems, and a recipe for a meal that will
make her guests feel honored…

a feeling of control over her destiny…

how to fall in love without losing herself..

how to quit a job, break up with a lover and confront a friend without ruining the friendship…

when to try harder… and WHEN TO WALK AWAY…

that she can’t change the length of her calves, the width of her hips, or the nature of her parents..

that her childhood may not have been perfect…but it’s over…

what she would and wouldn’t do for love or more…

how to live alone… even if she doesn’t like it…

whom she can trust, whom she can’t, and why she shouldn’t take it personally…

where to go…be it to her best friend’s kitchen table or a charming Inn in the woods
when her soul needs soothing…

What she can and can’t accomplish in a day, a month…and a year…
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