Archive for October, 2015
Are you familiar with Aesop’s Fable, “The boy who cried wolf?” I am a great storyteller, so let me give you a snapshot. Essentially, the boy gave so many false alarms that when danger did appear, no one believed him! Sounds familiar? You, like most, probably know a few people who fit that category. We sometimes say, They are “talking out of both sides of their mouth.” Of course, unequivocally, the boy can be a girl too! Liars are genderless. It’s amazing how lies can travel at the speed of light. They destroy what is in their path just like a hurricane. Truthfulness is a great virtue. I love the truth; don’t you? It is so easy to manage. Once you start lying, you have to manage the lies and remember who you said what to? That’s too much work! Truth be told, it is mentally exhausting just thinking about it! They say that the truth will set you free! That consequence is better than being attacked because the person who shouted the alarm had convincingly lied so many times before. Melodramatically speaking, the consequences of truth vis a vis lies may do more than set you free, it may save your life!
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That’s right! I borrowed Rapper Big Sean’s lyrics, but I was wise enough to editorialize! I Don’t Fool With You! I know that you expected the asterisks to reflect the profanity equivalent. Gotcha! Never would I expressively stoop that low with written evidence that could be used against me! I, along with my posse am working hard to elevate ourselves above stupidity. The Bible warns us in Proverbs 13:20, “He who walks with wise men will be wise. But the companion of fools will suffer harm.” For certain, bad associations spoil useful habits. So, who has time to fool with people who aren’t smart enough to move away from identified danger or folks who refuse to work to achieve their greatness. Today, one has to be on “top of their game,” but it takes horsepower. In other words, it takes work! Here again, in Maya Angelou’s words, “Nothing works unless you do!” So as the old folks in the great state of Mississippi would say, “Take care of ya business!” There is a “time for everything.” Who has time to play games? “I got a million trillion things” to do than to fool with a first class wannabe who eats the bread of laziness. I assume that you are similar! Can you feel me?
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I know that you have undoubtedly heard the quote – “You don’t believe that fat meat ain’t greasy.” It is a generational expression that coincides with “a hard head makes a soft behind!” Parents usually echoed those words when children are being mischievous. Kids always like to test the waters because they think that they know everything. As a teenager, I thought that I knew more than my parents only to find out in my adult years that my children assessed their intelligence to be far greater than mine! Go figure! I guess the “Apple does not fall far from the tree.” It usually takes a tolling of years and experiences to completely understand that fat meat is really greasy; literally and figuratively. Each year, we get wiser and wiser. It took time for us to learn simple things the hard way! “Learnt sense versus bought sense” had not registered yet; the pan drippings and the grease had clogged our cognitive thinking. We now know that what we took years to find was already in our old fashioned elders back pockets had we taken the time to stop, listen, and take their advice! Thank goodness – “you’re never too old to learn!” Whew! I finally got the point so I am passing it down! Listen up! Fat meat is greasy so you definitely don’t want to “jump out of the greasy frying pan into the fire!”
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At a seminar, the question was asked – Would you rather have a huge sum of cash now or smaller chunks over a period of years? Great question; varied answers. Today versus tomorrow; certainties versus uncertainties are the essence of this hypothetical question. For a person with a statistical mind, he / she would do the math on the present value of money relating to the anticipated value of what is to come! Whew! Admittedly, a financial analysis is needed. However to a selected group, they ask, “Why make the simple stuff complicated?” Is brilliance always the charm? Sometimes, we have to be brought down to earth; to reality. Forget the hypothetical factors and investment strategies. Deal with the certainty! So a seminar respondent gave us some practical advice. Let me cut through the chase classmates. “If the cash is in your hand, take it! It’s a sure thing! You don’t know what tomorrow will bring!” In other words, you can’t count what you don’t have! That was a “what if” – question. If this was real, most folks would be at the bank before you could count to ten! Get out their way, if you don’t want to get ran over! That my friend is the reality!
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“Watch your thoughts for they become words.
Watch your words for they become actions.
Watch your actions for they become habits.
Watch your habits for they become your character.
And watch your character for it becomes your destiny.
What we think, we become.
My father always said that… and I think I am fine.”
― Margaret Thatcher
Without question, British Prime Minister Margaret Thatcher had a way with words. It begs to ask, “Are you rock solid with your words or can a slight thrust of wind blow them and you away?” I thank you Mrs. Thatcher. Most definitely your words live on! But nobody can bring home a point for me like my Momma! Although my Mother never achieved Thatcher’s level of notoriety and political success, and for sure, she isn’t a preacher, but my Mother can bring the word! She can make you jump and shout Hallelujah before saying Amen! I may sound facetious, but I am serious! Momma told me years ago, “If you don’t stand for something, you’ll fall for anything!” How many times in life have I considered a contrary path and those words came back to haunt me! Developing a conscientious conscience is the best invention since peanut butter and jelly! If your conscience talks to you and slaps you around, it’s time to make the crooked path straight. Guard your thoughts and words; tell the truth; keep your promises; watch your steps. Your character is very telling. It speaks just as loud as or louder than the utterance of your words. If your character lacks integrity, you may be figuratively destined for an orbit into outer space. As for me, I want to keep my feet on earth! Don’t you? Word!
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I hear it all the time! “My Mother gets on my nerves!” It’s an expression that many children think and some have the gumption to say. The smart ones dare not quote the words in their Mother’s presence; if they know what’s good for them! Why is that! It is simple. Mothers have unconditional love. Since they want the very best for you, good Mothers tell you what you don’t want to hear; they give you unsolicited advice designed for your well being! Mothers also have no boundaries to their ever present intrusiveness. Her control and “Do as I say” tactics can make you robotic! Shut your mouth! They are so truthful about your behavior and their assessments of the aftermath consequences are beyond absolute accuracy. The truth can be excruciatingly stinging! Ouch! Their words and views hit the nail on the head every time; with pinpoint precision at that! How accurate they are without glazing into a crystal ball! Why? They know your thoughts before you conceive them; your steps before you take them; your actions before they come to life! They knew you before you knew yourself! You can’t fool Mother Nature or your Mother for that matter! Mothers not only know you better than most; they also know how to put the fear of God in you! Hush! You better not talk back or finish their sentences for them at any age! Children should stay in a child’s place regardless of age! Remember that if you forget all else! Now as for me, you will never hear that expression leave my motor mouth. I’m not that courageous. My 90 year old Mother has a saying that has survived through the years, “I brought you into this world and I’ll take you out!” I believed her then and I believe her now! Besides, it was she who taught me, “everything that you think, you need not say!”
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Often times, we rely on so many other people and sources to find the answers when the answer is in the palm of our hand. It has been by our side all along. There is an old expression, “When there is nothing left but God, then God is all that you need.” My pastor would always say God is a “way maker; a heart fixer; a mind regulator.” Search no more. God is the answer! Try him! Lean on him; don’t rely on your own understanding. Our God is an awesome God! He reigns! Happy Sunday! God bless!
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Yes, that’s right! I’m throwing in the towel. I quit. I’m done! I cannot take it anymore! I am so tired of other people’s problems (OPP) and their foolishness. I am tired of being on their defense team listening to their problems – one after another. Oh, I forgot to tell you this! Other folks problems can stress you out and “wear you thin” if you let them. Shiny gray hairs become prolific on your head; not theirs! You can become so engulfed with OPP’s that you become sidetracked with your own. Before you realize it, your issues have been put on the back burner. I’ve had enough! I want to limit my time and energies toward engagement for me and my loved ones. So as I wipe the sweat off my face, I am tossing that white grimy towel with the velocity of a 20 mph javelin throw. Watch it fly through the air like a towel trapeze! I’m taking a mental health break from them to concentrate on me and mine!
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Joining Elmo, Big Bird, Kermit, Cookie Monster, Oscar, Bert, and the other cast on Sesame Street is an orange haired Muppet called Julia. Julia has autism. I didn’t see the inaugural show that aired on Wednesday of this week, but I am delighted that Julia has made her debut. Here’s why! Years ago, my teenage grandson was diagnosed with autism. It was a new word for us. Denial proceeded our acceptance. Initially stunned and afraid, we didn’t know what roadmap to follow. Love, cohesiveness, prayer, and education became our compass. I am hopeful that little Julia’s addition to this show will heighten the public’s awareness and understanding of autism. My family and I are blessed to have an amazing, handsome, wonderful young man in our lives … who just happens to be autistic. Kudos to Sesame Street! I applaud you as I believe so many other affected families do as well. Education is the key and this is a major step in the right direction. I will tune in to see Julia and my other Muppet favorites. Ain’t nothing wrong with a super cool Granny being glued to the tube watching Sesame Street! Shhh!
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I am sure that you are familiar with The Peter Principle . Named after researcher Dr. Laurence J. Peter, the theory refers to a hierarchy where people tend to rise to “their level of incompetence.” Thus, as people are promoted, they become progressively less-effective because good performance in one job does not guarantee similar performance in another. The definition sounds complicated but in simplistic terms, it merely describes a person who is in over his / her head! They are not qualified and lack the skill set to accomplish their new job. They seek to put a square peg in a round hole. What a visual! Speaking of incompetent co-workers, how many can you count? I am sure that you can rattle off a few names or two. Stop it! No one asked you to rollout your long list or get carried away with this name calling! Geez! We know that many of these incompetents are a total embarrassment to their profession with demonstrated borderline performance. You can’t deny their presence because we see them walking around the office everyday. Can I get a witness? Now, if you have a Peter Principle candidate and a busy bee / nosey rosy who is into everybody’s business as they play the big boss man, you have an undesirable person that nobody wants to come near! They fit the mold of the juvenile reference as dumb troublemakers. Remember this very fact. Peter can be a Peterette. It is not gender based. One can be an incompetent male or female. Either way, here comes the incompetent Peter Cottontail. Hippety hoppety … unless you have the courage to terminate or demote them!
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