Archive for December, 2015
When we travel, the flight attendants alert us to put the oxygen mask on ourselves first before attempting to help others. This is not a selfish command, but one of immense survival. How can you help others, if you are struggling; if you are not secure? How can you guide others, if you are lost and don’t know what to do? It is imperative that we sufficiently get ourselves together before we extend help to others. There is a strong tendency to follow when the leaders know what they are doing and where they are going! Right? Operating from a position of strength helps us to better direct others. This strength extends beyond our physical capacity, but travels to the realms of our inner self. It starts with us! We cannot reasonably ask of others what we refuse to do ourselves. If we are a beacon, others will see our light from afar. Gandhi instructed us “To be the change we wish to see in the world.”
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By definition , the golden rule means that:
“You should treat others as you would like others to treat you.
You should not treat others in ways that you would not like to be treated.”
Though this a simple directive, many find this difficult to do particularly in a “get even” society. How can we reasonably expect others to give us what we are not willing to give them? It doesn’t add up!
In Luke 6:31, Jesus’ admonition that we “treat others as we would like to be treated” is not only the golden rule, it should be a way of life. It is not complicated at all. Think about it! It’s a directive that can only make us and everyone that we touch better. It is golden! Happy Sunday. God bless!
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Why do people stay involved in other folks’ affairs? Is it boredom, the need to gossip, not enough excitement in their own life, jealousy, or what? The answer may not be clear; the solution is simple! Stay out of their business; mind your own! If you stay on top of yours, that’s a job in and of itself – very time consuming, I’ll say! In fact, when you mind your own business, you really won’t have the time to meddle in someone’s else! Plain and simple!
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This is a shout out to my women followers. We are queens. We stand tall as we maintain high standards, keep our heads lifted high toward the sky, and of course strut in our high heel shoes. Go girl! Let me not ignore our kings. We deserve nothing less; only the best! Our guys love us because of the class and integrity that we exude. It extends higher than high. We are the virtuous women that are described in the Book of Proverbs, Chapter 31. Our value is far greater than rubies; we are priceless! As women, our internal beauty should be as radiant as our glow that is shone externally. We reign!
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What would you do if you couldn’t fail? That is a simple, but loaded question; very thought provoking, I must add. Now, it is not recommended that you do something crazy, but as I always say “everything begins with the first step.” Jeff Goins, author of “The Art of Work” says, “It’s not as bad as you fear; you have to try!” Dr. Judith Rich, “Rx for the Soul” encourages, “Love is always present” when trying new things. I say,”be smart as you strategize.” The Smart Goal Acronyms are – Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Realistic, Time Bound.” Oh yes, as Sly and the Family Stone once sang, “You can make it if you try!” So much for the sophiscticated rhetoric that is easy said and hard to do. As I quote some of my favorite quotes on this topic, “Nothing beat failure but a try; Failure is not an option; Everything you want is on the other side of fear; you haven’t failed until you quit trying,” the question still remains. What would you do? Once your excuses (as to why you cannot do what you desire to do) fall by the wayside, you may be propelled to action. A little push may be necessary. Alas, the time has come for you and me. Failure may meet me along the road. I may have to pick myself up and dust myself off many, many times, but I am tired of asking myself that same question month after month. I am now pumped up; I have the fuel of courage and the intestinal fortitude to take that risky step. I know what I would do; should do! I know what I am going to do! Do you?
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It’s what inside that counts! It’s your personality and demeanor that define you…and it shows! Your physical appearance will change with aging. As the tempting Temptations bellowed, “Beauty is only skin deep!” Your internal beauty is a lasting beauty, a spring that flows from within your soul. Work hard on developing / grooming your inner self. The fruit of the Holy spirit – love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control – is a great starting point. An investment internally will pay off; it will definitely reap high returns. It’s a sure bet! The remarkable aspect is that it is generational. Our characteristics will be passed down; we will be known by our fruit. A good tree produces good quality fruit in our off springs and all we touch. To see a reflection of our heartfelt positiveness that we have planted is satisfying to say the least. That payback is worth more than the initial investment; inside,out!
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If it is your desire to stay on top of your game, it is critical that you operate from a level playing field; equal terms and conditions must govern. You must deal with your opponent with the same “machinery” that he / she uses against you. You cannot walk on the front line nice and easy, being soft – when you are dealing with a hard roughneck who will throw a hand grenade and hide his hands. Your survival will always depend upon your quick thinking, smartness, preparation, and mental / physical tactics superseding those of your opponent. Otherwise, you will be chopped into mincemeat. Even the slate; fight fire with fire! Avoid interactive combat on the ground; it’s child’s play; you are too brilliant for that! Be at your peak; keep your mind together. Outsmart your opponent; beat them to the punch; use your intellectual capital. Never vacate winning combinations. A mental beat down holds back your opponent better than physical force. However, wear courage as you relegate the swinging of the fist as a last resort. If you outthink / outmaneuver your opponent, the victory will be yours!
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“I got 99 Problems” ….but you ain’t one! Listen up! Unfortunately, it is a sad commentary when you don’t even deserve the benefits of another person’s thoughts! How low can you go! You may think that you are in control, but you aren’t. In fact, you are not even in control of yourself! Please, I dare you; double dare you – to look in the mirror and admit what you see! You are the mere shadow of what you could be. Let me help. May I invite you to groove on the Itunes of Jay Z. Take some tips from him! At 60 plus, I am not a rapper! Word! In fact, many of the rap song lyrics are much too vulgar for my taste. But Jay Z, one of your contemporaries is meeting with Warren Buffet. He has at least put himself in the company of great minds and is taking their advice. What are you doing besides running up bar tabs? Sorry, that comment went way too far; though accurate it is! All I can say is, “Start treating people with dignity and respect!” It will pay off particularly if and when you are ostracized on your descent from the ivory towers! We do reap what we sow! Unlike the folks that you grossly mistreated on your upward climb who are now – livid haters, I wish you well! “One bad deed does not deserve another!”
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The Serenity Prayer continues:
“Living one day at a time;
enjoying one moment at a time;
accepting hardships as the pathway to peace;
taking, as He did, this sinful world
as it is, not as I would have it;
trusting that He will make all things right
if I surrender to His Will;
that I may be reasonably happy in this life
and supremely happy with Him
forever in the next.”
With this prayer, we realize that:
Acceptance is not laziness.
Hardships present opportunuties for growth and learning.
It takes courage to change.
Surrendering is an act of faith and trust.
Happiness is attainable and can be claimed as yours.
Serenity, courage, and wisdom are “comfort food” for our souls!
Happy Sunday. God bless!
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Where is your memory? How could you say that? It’s disgraceful to even ask, “What have you done for me lately?” Everyone witnessed and saw the assistance that you received! Did you forget? “No, I didn’t, but that is history!” Understand this: History is the foundation; the first ingredient builds it all. However, for those who believe in the now moment and not the yesterday benefits, they see not the past. Verily, verily, I say unto you, “If you are not thankful for what people did for you yesterday, you will definitely lose out today and tomorrow! Appreciation, thankfulness, and thoughtfulness go far! If you don’t believe me, ask Miss Jackson. She will set the record straight! “Ooh, ooh, ooh, yeah!”
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