Archive for June, 2016

PostHeaderIcon 93-89 VICTORY!

By Vernalee
93-89 was the final score. The Cleveland Cavaliers emerged as the 2016 NBA Champions, the first ever for the Cavaliers franchise.
Just one game … That’s All it took!
Determined, MVP LeBron James, (King James I should say), delivered. He led; the team followed.
The first team in NBA history to come back from a 3-1 deficit, the Cleveland Cavaliers has brought a championship to Cleveland, the first in 52 years.
The fans are elated. The City is on fire! No longer “the mistake by the lake,” Cleveland can hold its head up – high. All of this proves a point. Never underestimated what determination, tenacity, motivation, and will power will do! When the chips are down, never ever give up! Comebacks are made for champions – in games and in life!
C’mon let’s get ready! It’s time for the celebration. I think I will have to pull out my old Glen Allan, Mississippi (Packers’ team) head majorette metallic gold uniform, white patent boots with the maroon and gold tassels (hmmm… The colors match the Cavs’), twirl my baton, and get ready to strut my stuff for the star studded parade on Euclid Avenue this Wednesday! What a celebration it will be for Cleveland. As a team, as a city, we are “All In!”
Note: I love jewelry. A championship ring would be special if any team member may wish to consider. I’ll have it sized! Mo Williams, help a fellow Mississippian out!
Again …. Congrats to the Cleveland Cavaliers! You have brought immense pride to the city!
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By Vernalee
Today is Father’s Day; a day that we honor and remember our Fathers. As I reflect, there are so many Daddy stories that I can share. Memories of him and lessons that he taught me flow through my mind frequently despite the fact that he departed this earth over 35 years ago. When God created the family, he created it with a balanced perspective with the Father being the head of the household. Many Fathers are mentioned in the Bible ranging from:
God the Father, the creator of us all;
Adam, the first man;
Noah, a righteous man;
Abraham, the father of the Jewish nation;
Isaac, son of Abraham;
Jacob, father of the 12 tribes of Israel;
Moses, giver of the law;
King David, a man after God’s own heart; and
Joseph, earthly Father of Jesus, among others.
There are 71 Bible verses that speak about the responsibilities of Fathers. From Psalms 103:13 to 1 Timothy 3: 2-5, the Father’s role is well defined. In fact, God provides vivid instructions that outline the roles of all family members. We read about the virtuous woman in Psalms 31; wise sons in Proverbs 13:1; training our children in Proverbs 22:6; and of course, let’s not forget the admonition in Proverbs 6:20, where children are taught to honor and respect the commandments of their Fathers and words of their Mothers.
The granddaddy of all the scriptures regarding the family lie in Deuteronomy 5:16 and Ephesian 6: 2-3, where we are instructed to Honor our Fathers and Mothers, the only commandment with a promise.
So today, I salute my Father, my children’s Father, my son who is a young Father, and all Fathers. To those whose Fathers have gone home to be with the Lord, let today be a memory of their goodness. To those whose Fathers are alive, show them how much you love, adore, respect, and honor them.
Happy Father’s Day! Happy Sunday! God bless!
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By Vernalee
imageFamed pastor and gospel great Donnie Mcclurkin, in his song, “We Fall Down” embraces upon emotional words whose simple lyrics give us the ability to move on and shake the dust off of our feet when we are met with challenges. When you are up, the world stands with you. When you are down, you usually stand alone. I thank you Lord for your mercy. I thank you Lord for giving me the courage and strength to stand, to rise back up again. I thank you for being by my side and holding me when I could not stand. I thank you Lord for everything.
I sing praises to your Holy name.
We fall down but we get up, oh yes
For a saint is just a sinner who fell down
But we couldn’t stay there and got up.
Get back up again
For a saint is just a sinner who fell down and got up.”

You don’t have to wait until Sunday to feel spiritual. When the spirit hits you, give praise! He’s worthy!
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PostHeaderIcon “IT TAKES TWO”

By Vernalee
imageWithout question, Motown produced a string of hits whose lyrics were so well written that they have transcended to another generation. The songs are indeed timeless! The hits were countless and their meanings chimed in on real life matters particularly love and relationships. There are many memorable hits in the Motown repertoire. One was a simple three word phrase whose reach stretched greater in application than a three mile distance.
It Takes Two” was a hit single recorded in 1965 by Marvin Gaye and Kim Weston for Motown’s Tamla label.
The underlying focus of “It Takes Two,” a romantic lyric was that many things in life (dreams, love, wishes, etc.) are better with two people instead of one. Relationship love is plural; a singular approach will not work. One must count in the other person’s feelings. Consideration takes you far. The linchpin is two heads; two people working and being together in harmony. In theory and reality, “It Takes Two” is easy rhetoric, but it is hard work! Two people with the same vision – moving, working, loving, and progressing together; two inseparable people in love and in lust who want and desire to be together, stay together, face the world together; share their love, time, and experiences with each other; two people determined and committed to make their love stay united and unbroken – must have the dedication to make it work; to make it last; if it is to last!
Yes, “It takes two, baby
It takes two, baby
Make a dream come true
It just takes two.”

Thanks to You Tube, you can push the button below and listen to Marvin and Kim sing “It Takes Two.” Moving from lyrics to life, you and your significant other (the two of you) must push that imaginary “love, commitment, and dedication” button to make your love and relationship last!
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By Vernalee
This week has been a sad week for 49 families who lost loved ones due to a senseless killing in Orlando. With another 53 injured, the entire nation has been saddened. Experts are analyzing why. Why did this happen? Were they singled out because of their gay lifestyles? What pushed the gunman over the edge to enter a club filled with 320 people on a festive Spanish Night Out? We perhaps will never know. What we do know is that 49 families will be burying and saying final farewells to their sons, daughters, brothers, sisters, aunts, uncles, and loved ones. Pictured above are 49 faces that will never be seen again; 49 faces that are gone forever. How regretfully sad! My family and I extend our prayers to the grieving families. I understand that many inside of the club didn’t react because they initially thought that the gunfire was the sound of firecrackers accompanying the act. The nightclub where the killings occurred was called Pulse. Though the pulse beats of 49 souls are lost, their memories will live on forever in the hearts of those who loved them dearly. May they rest in peace!
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By Vernalee
I awoke this morning listening to my favorite singer, Aretha Franklin. Nobody can touch my soul in voice better than the Queen. As I listened to the best selling song ever for Columbia Records originally recorded by Simon & Garfunkel in 1969, my heart was jumping and my soul was filled with Aretha’s rendition. You see, she and I have been on first name basis for years though we have never physically exchanged pleasantries. However, in caring for my Mother through her illness, sometimes despair enters the room; sometimes sadness consumes your spirit; sometimes you have to be lifted up; sometimes in addition to prayer, you have to hear the voice of others! An independent woman who always did for herself is now dependent upon her son, grandchildren, great-grands, me, and other loved ones to care for her. I know that my Mother wants to do more for herself, but her physical impairments prevent it. Songs have always been life’s rhythm put to words accompanied by music. So, “Bridge Over Troubled Waters” was written to provide comfort. That it has done for me this morning! I extrapolate the meaning slightly to let my dear Mother know that as she took care of us, it is now our time to take care of you Momma! That is how God intended it; that is what we will do! We are your bridge!


By Vernalee
Are you in love? Yes or No? How far are you willing to go? Will you do anything within reason? If Cupid shot you with his arrow and you can’t see straight, you have been bitten by the love bug! If you are seeing stars and the light is illuminating nothing but him, then you are heads over heels … In love! The question becomes – Is it mutual? Does he feel the same way about you? I trust the answer is in the affirmative. Nothing beats reciprocal love. Now let’s take it a step farther. When you have someone wrapped around your teeny weeny finger, you can persuade that person to do anything you want, usually because they love you so much. Now then – if he will do anything that he’s asked, ladies – you’ve got him wrapped around your little finger!
Maybe that’s not a bad place for him to be! Particularly, if he likes being there. If you moved him from your finger and placed him in the palm of your hands, then you’ve really got a hold on him! Stop name calling! He is not a yes man; neither is he hen pecked. He’s a man who loves and adores the woman in his life. Let’s take this love nest to the next level. Not only is he madly in love with you, the feeling is mutual. Love jones! It is so amazing … because brother man has you wrapped around his finger too! Two birds of the same feather; two people in love, you have become. Placement and “finger wrapping” become subservient when love unselfishly rises to its greatest height. Neither you nor him care about that tiny string that ties you together and create greatness. It’s a wrap! Your concern is on cultivating an environment that keeps your garden of love flourishing. There you have it!
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By Vernalee
Alright, let’s get right to it! Does social media have an effect upon your relationship? Sure it does! Let me qualify that response. It does … particularly when you use it obsessively wrong. All types of hook-ups occur from those “winks,” “likes,” and friend requests! You betta believe it baby! Infidelity, cheating, jealous rages, fights, breakups, and divorces have resulted from flagrant uses on Facebook, Instagram, and other social media accounts. According to research, less matured relationships (under 3 years) take the biggest hits.
Here are some steps to take to prevent social media from ruining your relationship:
1. Stop being single online and in a relationship in real life.
2. Be cautious with “friending” exes.
3. Don’t get caught up in the hype because Facebook friends and other social media groupies give you much needed attention.
4. Stop it with sneaky stuff.
Be open with your mate. If it looks like you’re hiding something, you probably are.
5. Have some limitations regarding your posts.
When your cyber friends are gone, your mate will still be there … hopefully.
So if you get caught red handed, don’t blame Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter for the fallouts. You are at fault. You took the photo with the girlfriend that you wife saw on Facebook. It was your provocative comments that you placed on his page. You crossed the line. You put your business in the streets. Your fingers did the clicking! Place the blame where it belongs! YOU! It was you!
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By Vernalee
Hidden from the public eye and neatly taped inside the doors of my kitchen cabinets are many handwritten messages and miniature slogans of significance. They are the cutest things. Open the cabinet to get a glass and you see this message, “When there is nobody left but Jesus, then he is all you need.” How true! Tucked inside the condiment cabinet door are touching notes of love to me from my son and daughter respectively. How cute! Many of the messages contain motivating thoughts of encouragement; others are memorable and funny notes from my now adult children that they wrote years ago as youngsters. The notes, a quasi walk down memory lane are refreshing. One such note that stops me in my tracks from time to time is a poem called “Mother to Son” by the incomparable journalistic genius Langston Hughes. That poem helped me through a rough emotional period. Today, it motivates me to keep going, to keep climbing, to preservere. Because of my faith, I know that God places people and things in your life at the right time. This poem was one. From time to time, I recite the words of Langston to myself and speak them to my children as my Mother in her special encouraging way spoke them to me. So as I share Langston’s greatness with you my audience, I encourage you to rely on the Lord. He will bring you through, lift you, and carry you. God will remove obstacles from your path. He will make your road easier to navigate and travel. Stop worrying about how big your problems are. Focus on how big your God is! All we do; all we are – comes from God’s hands, his mercy, and his grace. Langston’s poetic rhythmic strokes of the pen and words did!
Mother to Son
Well, son, I’ll tell you:
Life for me ain’t been no crystal stair.
It’s had tacks in it,
And splinters,
And boards torn up,
And places with no carpet on the floor —
But all the time
I’se been a-climbin’ on,
And reachin’ landin’s,
And turnin’ corners,
And sometimes goin’ in the dark
Where there ain’t been no light.
So boy, don’t you turn back.
Don’t you set down on the steps
‘Cause you finds it’s kinder hard.
Don’t you fall now —
For I’se still goin’, honey,
I’se still climbin’,
And life for me ain’t been no crystal stair.”

We can do all things through the Lord who strengthens us! Keep the faith! Happy Sunday! God bless!
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By Vernalee
As you grow older, you do or say things that you never thought imaginable. One such behavior is talking to yourself. Don’t you remember laughing at your parents when you heard them echo words to themselves. You secretly thought but dared not utter, “Mom is cracking up!” Now guess what? You’re doing the same thing! Try this on for size. You walk into a room and say out loud, “What did I come in here for? Where did I put my socks?” Of course, no one is in the house but you! Funny thing….as we age, we become just like the parents that we thought were nuts, out of touch, and anciently old fashioned. Now, since gray hairs scatter across the circumference on our temples, and we forget sometimes the simplest things, we classify our lapses in memory as wisdom! Maturity does have its place. We don’t have the courage or audacity to say to ourselves what we said behind our parents’ backs about them. When the shoe is on our foot, the fit is different! Now, we are those mature senior folks who are aging gracefully and occasionally talking aloud to ourselves. Chuckle, if you may … while you admit that our parents were not as bad as we thought! They were just older – like we are now! Ain’t life grand!
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