Archive for October, 2016
It’s easy to get ahead of yourself. Although you may be expecting a positive outcome, you should not count on something before it happens. Be realistic. Don’t go to great extremes making plans for your anticipation. What if the inevitable does not occur? Then what! Stay focused. Variables do arise that change circumstances and outcomes. Work hard to produce the desired results. Deal with the reality of a situation. Be prepared. If the chicken doesn’t pop out of the egg shell, then nothing is lost. All’s well that ends well!
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When I was a student at Moore’s Elementary school, I had a teacher named Miss Ross. A petite woman, she was stern and
had an iron hand. There were several things that were mandatory assignments. You had to learn them or face Miss Ross! Everyone including me dreaded looking her in the eyes or feeling her black belt on your behind. In Mississippi in the early 1960’s, corporal punishment (as we called it) and religious teachings were still permitted in the classrooms. If you were disciplined by Miss Ross, you couldn’t turn her in to your parents because in those days teachers ruled – unanimously; no questions asked! My parents felt that if I was punished, it was justified! Go figure! One of Miss Ross’ mandatory recitations before the entire class was King David’s Twenty – Third Psalms. You had to say it over and over again until you got it right. Today, I thank you Miss Ross because Psalms 23, “The Lord is my Shepherd” has helped, guided, and uplifted me in so many ways! Miss Ross put those powerful words in my head; I put them in my heart. Happy Sunday! Be blessed!
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Remember the Titanic? It was considered unsinkable. Figuratively speaking, a sinking ship could be a bad relationship, a dead end job, a drowning marriage, a wayward child, or any circumstance in life that may take you down. A downward path may encompass an emotional or a physical descent. If you are on or navigating a sinking ship, you basically have 3 viable survival options: You can either get off – before it hits, when it hits, or after it hits, – but before it sinks. Sometimes, we are optimists and feel that we can coast and ride out the storms in our lives; life jackets or not! Our success rate sometimes cannot be predetermined or accurately predicted. When we are confronted with obstacle courses, and when and if there are opportunities to make wise decisions, we must do so! Don’t procrasinate! Time does not wait on no one and time may not be on your side! Invariably, our decisions determine our destiny. Never forget that on April 15, 1912, despite its sophistication, the RMS Titanic, on its maiden voyage from the UK to NYC sank when it collided with an iceberg! “SOS;” Don’t underestimate the reality of a situation. As the old folks say, “Be safe, not sorry; sink or swim!” Your life may depend upon it!
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Life’s travels take us down many roads. Some roads are paved; others not. Arriving to our destination is the objective. Hills, valleys, and bridges we encounter. To “Cross that bridge when you get there” means to not worry about a possible future problem, but deal with it when and if it occurs. Why worry about issues that don’t exist or haven’t happened? They may not occur. One of our childhood rhymes was, “Weight brought the bridge down.” Stress and worry produce weighty consequences. They can become “heavy” burdens placed on our shoulders; problems that we carry around. Anxieties and sleepless nights follow. Enjoy the moment! Reasonably, prepare for tomorrow; live for today! Deal with problems when they occur. The scriptures in Matthew 6:34 tells us: “Don’t worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will bring its own worries. Today’s trouble is enough for today.” Can I get a witness?
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I know that you have undoubtedly heard the quote – “You don’t believe that fat meat ain’t greasy.” It is a generational expression that coincides with “a hard head makes a soft behind!” Parents usually echoed those words when children are being mischievous. Kids always like to test the waters because they think that they know everything. As a teenager, I thought that I knew more than my parents only to find out in my adult years that my children assessed their intelligence to be far greater than mine! Go figure! I guess the “Apple does not fall far from the tree.” It usually takes a tolling of years and experiences to completely understand that fat meat is really greasy; literally and figuratively.
Each year, we get wiser and wiser. It took time for us to learn simple things the hard way! “Learnt sense versus bought sense” had not registered yet; the pan drippings and the grease had clogged our cognitive thinking. We now know that what we took years to find was already in our old fashioned elders’ back pockets had we taken the time to stop, listen, and take their advice! Thank goodness – “you’re never too old to learn!” Whew! Stop testing the waters when you can visually and vividly see and feel that slimy grease extracted from the meat.
I finally got the point so I am passing it down! Listen up! Fat meat is greasy so you definitely don’t want to “jump out of the greasy frying pan into the fire!”
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At a seminar, the question was asked – “Would you rather have a huge sum of cash now or smaller chunks over a period of years?” Great question; varied answers. Today versus tomorrow; certainties versus uncertainties are the essence of this hypothetical question. For a person with a statistical mind, he/she would do the math on the present value of money in comparison to the future value of the cash! Whew: my head is spinning! Admittedly, a discussion with your accountant, enrolled agent, or financial analysis may be needed. However to a selected group, they ask, “Why make the simple stuff complicated? It is either now or later. Should this question encounter a sprinkling of dazzled words or the brilliance of facts? Is brilliance always the charm? Sometimes, we have to be brought down to earth; to reality. Forget the hypothetical factors and investment strategies. Deal with the certainty! So a seminar respondent gave us some practical advice. Let me cut through the chase classmates. “If the cash is in your hand, take it! It’s a sure thing! You don’t know what tomorrow will bring!” In other words, you can’t count what you don’t have! “A bird in the hand is worth two in the bush.” Stop dealing with the “what if’s” when you can deal with reality. If this was real, most folks would be at the bank with the check in their hands before you could count to ten! Excuse me; Get out their way, if you don’t want to get ran over! That my friend is the reality!
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First impressions are lasting impressions. You never get a second chance to make a first impression. People size you up within seconds after meeting you. Therefore, put some serious thoughts and efforts into the process prior to meeting someone for the first time. Approach is key. Lasting impressions can be enhanced if our moves are right. The ultimate goal is to be – memorable. According to experts, there are several steps to this process. Read below:
10 Tops Tips for making a great First Impression:
1. Maintain eye contact.
2. Keep an opened friendly face.
3. Have good body language.
4. Be genuine.
5. Don’t boast.
7. Appearance matters.
8. Use the person’s name.
9. Have a positive mindset.
So plan your meeting. Be prepared; be smart. Make your first impression count. Have a good introduction and a firm handshake. Look good; smell good. Leave knowing that you will be remembered. Achieve the objective of the meeting … by walking away leaving your mark! As a final tip – Please don’t be late!
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When people are down, they need to be helped/picked up; not kicked further downwards! Why kick someone when they are already on the ground; be it physical or emotional! Keep this in mind. Maybe it may help. One interesting fact about courageous fighters and resilient folks when they are down is that they have the intestinal fortitude to eventually rise up! If they get up, they may not have fond memories of your kicking foot! Remember … payback is not always kind! When the shoe is on their foot, it will feel no different than the kick that you gave them … or worse!
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In the beginning God created the family. Scriptural counsel clearly outlines the foundation for families when Eve was created as a companion for Adam; when they were told to be fruitful and multiply; and to bring up their children with an obedience to the Word. The Bible defines the familial roles for husbands, wives, and children. Indeed, the family is God’s masterpiece; a testament of his love. Families provide love, cohesiveness, and unity. As a team, families confront and deal with concerns and problems. There is strength and comfort in numbers. Who knew that better than our Heavenly Father? I love, adore, cherish, and respect my family. I have always seen my role to maternally and solidly provide guidance, wisdom, protection, and teaching to my family. I pray that I measure up to God’s standards. I also ask and pray for God’s love, support, direction, and blessings as we as a family lovingly, diplomatically, and obediently move progressively forward as a united front following his Word. We need each other today, tomorrow, always! Prayer strengthens us; it always has; it always will! Let the family say Amen! Happy Sunday! God bless!
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“Ain’t too proud to beg” was a hit song for Motown in 1966. The Temptations led by David Ruffin harmonized it well. It had a great beat for dancing. I remember stepping to the groove! That was a song, but what happens when we move from song and dance to everyday living?
To beg is a last ditch effort for some; a common commodity for the lazy; and a place that contrary to the song’s lyrics, that the prideful care not to occupy. Begging is not a pretty sight. Even the most humble of the crowd would probably not want to stoop that low. Sometimes, falling to your knees with your hat in your hand is required. When you beg, your options belong not to you, but to others.
Said differently and by definition, Beggars can’t be choosers means “If someone gives you something you asked for, you should not complain about what you get; you must accept whatever you can get.” The definition continues to include these statements.
* “Those in dire need must be content with what they get.
* People who depend on the generosity of others are in no position to dictate what others give them.”
So where does that leave you? Will you settle for something other than what you want? Yes or no? It’s simple. Either you put yourself in a position where you can decide for yourself or you can rely on others deciding for you.
We know that life circumstances can land you in positions not to your liking or choosing. Lifting yourself up and helping yourself are options. Never stop trying to better yourself.
Self sufficiency beats begging. Though you never want to cut off the hands that feed you, it is desirable to learn to hunt and fish so that you can feed yourself. Be a doer; not a beggar – is a better motto. Don’t you think? If begging becomes a lifestyle when other options are available to change your condition, there is a problem. Pity the fool.
You can have your hands out for hand me downs or you can work your hands to achieve your heart desires. You choose! It’s probably better to have your destiny in your hands. Ocassionaly, there may be a few selfless ones who will put you first. Caution: Before you go down that road of reliance on the selfless, please know that they are far and in between. Don’t take my word for it! Think! How many have you met?
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