Archive for February, 2017

PostHeaderIcon IF A DOG BRINGS A BONE, HE’LL TAKE ONE

By Vernalee
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Doesn’t that doggie look so adorable?
He is the cutest thing!
His alluring appearance reminds me of some folks that a few of us considered – confidantes!
We could tell them anything or so we thought.
Close your mouth for a moment.
Let me tell you something…It goes like this.
Protect your secrets; guard your words; be selective about who you tell what to … It’s common sense.
I’m sure that you have heard this advice before – time and time again.
I have!
Of course, we don’t always listen or do what we are told.
If someone tells you other folks business, they’ll tell yours! It doesn’t take rocket scientist intelligence to figure that out; it’s plain and simple.
If you forget the essence of this simple idiom, remember this.
You are not exempted from gossip particularly from a person who has diarrhea of the mouth!
Don’t assume that their behavior will change – just because it’s you!
They took the liberties to put your business out in the streets because you provided the fuel!
The “big mouth” who brought you someone else’s information will surely float yours out! It’s fair exchange to them. It’s the personification of the “bring and take” theory.
Because you let your guards down, your information is now freely circulating through the universe for all ears to hear!
Why would they be discreet?
They could care less.
Did you forget?
They are bonafide blabber mouths.
Besides it’s your business; not theirs!
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PostHeaderIcon ARE YOU A MAN OR WOMAN OF YOUR WORD?

By Vernalee
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Are you a man or woman of your word? Why can’t people do what they say? Is your word your bond? Does a handshake deal mean anything anymore?
When you tell folks that you will do something, you create an expectation. In some cases, that expectation forms a dependency. So when you don’t execute on what you committed to do, not only did you lie, you disappointed and failed people who relied upon your commitment.
Lies damage when your actions don’t coincide with your words!
Be careful – that small tongue has the ability to cause big harm! Don’t get caught up in lies and harmful chatter.
Your words are more than an echo. The meaning lies deep within. An unexecuted dependency becomes a lingering by-product that enters the memory banks of a person mind and buries its pain in their heart.
Lies have the ability to stick to a person’s heart like glue.
It’s no wonder that when your words become lies that people become heartbroken!
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PostHeaderIcon AN IDLE MIND IS THE DEVIL’S WORKSHOP

By Vernalee
imageDon’t be idle! Stay busy! Don’t allow your mind to be consumed with nothing! If you keep your mind occupied, you will have more time to be productive and less time to waste on people, places, and things that don’t matter; less time to be intruded by unwanted occupants. Entrance is difficult in a crowded field where there is limited space. Keep your mind occupied; keep the devil out! Don’t let evil thoughts make a home in your mind or heart. If you don’t think it, you can’t do it! Actions start from thoughts! Controlling your thoughts is important. Proverbs 4: 23-27 provides sound counsel:
23″Above all else, guard your heart,
for everything you do flows from it.
24 Keep your mouth free of perversity;
keep corrupt talk far from your lips.
25 Let your eyes look straight ahead;
fix your gaze directly before you.
26 Give careful thought to the paths for your feet
and be steadfast in all your ways.
27 Do not turn to the right or the left;
keep your foot from evil.”
Don’t let evil thoughts set up shop in your mind. Guard your thoughts. Listen to the cognitive insights pumped by your heart. Let them guide you. Be of strong courage to follow its dictates. Remember – What’s inside always flows out.

PostHeaderIcon WORK …AN OVERRATED NECESSITY

By Vernalee
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Short and simple, I am trying to invent a replacement for work.
My investigative and academic antennas are up. My cognitive processes are working overtime.
Discovering a commodity that can provide comparable cash flow and economic benefit is my goal.
Let’s face it, many of us may enjoy what we do, but if we had an equivalent substitute that provided the same economic gain, cash flow, benefits, and level of satisfaction, we would take it with no questions asked.
Can I get a witness?
Utilizing your time and energies however you desire – is a great thing!
Agreed?
If I find the magic formula replacing work, I will be – “in the money!”
Rich isn’t even the word!
First things first, I must get my discovery – patented.
This invention will be a highly sought after product!
Stay in touch electronically; continue to follow my blog for the results.
Getting a hold of me may be difficult.
If I find the magic formula, I’m out!
Who knows what my travel plans may be or what continent I will be exploring since work will be a thing of my past!
See ya!
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PostHeaderIcon VALENTINE GIFTS – FOR HIM AND HER

By Vernalee
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Today is Valentine’a Day;
a day that we show love to that special person in our life.
Love is in the air today!
Can you feel it?
Yes, yes … It is a wonderful feeling to be loved!
Agreed?
Love makes you feel brand new. There is no feeling like it.
So when Cupid pulls back his bow, let’s see where the arrow lands on this Valentine’s Day; a day when we ahould show expressions of love and affection.
According to Yahoo / Shopping, the ten most searched Valentine Day Gifts for women are:
1. Flowers (Long stem roses are glam…but a dozen of any will do);
2. Spa Gift Cards (A day of pampering will make any woman feel special);
3. Weekend Getaways (Pick a fun location because we can lovingly take the trip together);
4. Chocolate ( Yummy…besides it is an aphrodisiac);
5. Concert Tickets (Stevie Wonder is hot right now);
6. Tablets (The one with the adjustable kickstand is very practical. Don’t forget to purchase the built in WiFi);
7. Perfume (I just received a Flower Bomb fragrance set, but Gucci blends perfectly with my skin);
8. Jewelry (Diamonds are still a girl’s best friend);
9. Gift Baskets (Have it delivered so that I can show off);
10. Pajamas (silky ones or the kind that I can wear outside like an outfit would be perfect).
Hopefully, my significant other reads this and get the message.
Do know honey bunny – that you are my gift! Shall I untie the bow?
Moving on …
Showing love and affection is great everyday of the week. It is always the thought behind the gift!
Since Valentine’s Day is a gender neutral holiday, I provided gift ideas for that special man as well.
Here we go.
For men, according to Bustle.com, some of the gift recommendations are as follows:
Beard oil, Harry’s Shaving set, Home State Print, The David Foster Wallace Reader, Nixon Time piece, IPad / Laptop Case, Subscription to his favorite publication, Converse Chuck Taylors, Customized Flask, and An Illustrated Guide to Cocktails.
There were 20 suggestions listed. I included ten to keep the slate equal.
Admittedly, the male list doesn’t look as enticing as the gift ideas for females.
Don’t look at me; I didn’t make the list!
Maybe the conclusion is – We women should get more and be pampered more extravagantly!
Just saying!
Happy Valentine’s Day!
Enjoy the day with your heart throb!

PostHeaderIcon GIRLTALK – WHEN A MAN LOVES A WOMAN

By Vernalee
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Originally Recorded in Sheffield, Alabama in 1966 by the late great Percy Sledge, “When a man loves a woman” was the number one song in the land. The lyrics were so rich that the song has skyrocketed the charts with remakes by Bette Midler and Michael Bolton.
In part, here goes the words:
When a man loves a woman
Can’t keep his mind on nothing else
He’ll trade the world
For the good thing he’s found
If she’s bad he can’t see it
She can do no wrong
Turn his back on his best friend
If he put her down
When a man loves a woman
Spend his very last dime
Trying to hold on to what he needs
He’d give up all his comfort
Sleep out in the rain
If she said that’s the way it ought to be.”
So ladies listen up!
If a man can’t love you unselfishly like this, he is just shucking and jiving. If he is not by your side through thick and thin, get real; stop fooling yourself. Here’s how this works. You don’t have to call because he’s there. You don’t have to ask, he knows your needs. You’ll never come up last or have to pick a number. If he doesn’t want to leave your side, spend endless nights and plentiful time with you, you are not number one; he is!
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Relax with President Obama and First Lady Michelle at the White House and listen to Joshua Ledet’s version. You’ll get the spirit in the dark and the message too – loud and clear!

PostHeaderIcon SUNDAY MORNING – REFLECTIONS

By Vernalee
new day church.infoStart your Sunday with worship by being thankful; remaining prayerful; and by giving your all to God! Ask for forgiveness of your sins; we all have them! Bury the ill will of the past and ask God to guide you and order your steps so that you can walk in goodness and righteousness! Praise him!
Thank you Lord for the love ones that you have placed in my life; for a wonderful, appreciative, and loving Mother, son, daughter, grands, nieces, nephews, cousins, that very special person, family, and friends; for all that you have done for me!
I truly thank you Lord!
Please guide me and make me a better person.
As I am and have been blessed, let me be a blessing to others!
Help me to live respectfully.
Keep my mind “stayed on you!” Happy Sunday to my followers! Thank you for tuning in.”
God bless! ”To God be the glory!”
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PostHeaderIcon ARE YOU STUCK … ON YOU?

By Vernalee
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Are narcissistic people flowing around in your universe? You know who I’m talking about. I am sure that you know several. I do!
They are those folks who are totally self–absorbed and tend to see themselves as perfect. They are never wrong so apologies are not in their vocabularies. Why apologize when you are always right? Arrogance, extreme selfishness, conceited behavior, boastfulness, and pretentiousness regularly enter their space. Their behavior is often characterized as being grandiose, larger than life, flamboyant, and extravagant. Lest not forget that they are highly egotistical folks with an exaggerated sense of self-importance. Exploitation of others is common.
You probably need no help to identify them, but here are some of the basic
Characteristics of narcissistic folks:
They –

* Believe that they are better than others.
* Fantasize about power, success or attractiveness.
* Exaggerate achievements or talents.
* Expect constant praise and admiration.
* Believe that they are special and acts accordingly.
* Fail to recognize other people’s emotions and feelings.
* Expect others to automatically go along with their ideas and plans.
* Take advantage of others.
* Express disdain for those that they feel are inferior to them.
* Are jealous of others.
* Believe that others are jealous of them.
* Have trouble maintaining healthy relationships – personal and professional.
* Set unrealistic goals.
* Are easily hurt and easily feel rejected.
* Have fragile self-esteem.
* Have the appearance of being toughminded or unemotional.
* Are so in love with themselves that they cannot truly love anyone else.
Alright, before you start your list of those that you know who fit the mold, let me share with you the interesting story of Narcissus.
According to Greek mythology, Narcissus was a beautiful, proud young man. When he saw his reflection in a pool of water for the first time, he became so enamored that he was unable to stop gazing at his own image. He couldn’t take his eyes off of himself. Sounds familiar?
Stuck on himself, Narcissus was unable to leave his image at the water’s edge and eventually wasted away. It’s too bad that his self-absorption turned him into the Narcissus flower.
Oh my! Here’s my parting poetic thought. “If you are stuck on yourself, remove the glue. The world doesn’t revolve around you!
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PostHeaderIcon IT’S THE LITTLE THINGS THAT COUNT

By Vernalee
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It’s the little things that count!
Ladies …
Nothing beats those little things that our man does!
Right?
* A brief morning text to describe his day and wish you well – goes far.
* Sneaking in a midday call to see how your day is going – speaks volume.
* Breaking bread together at the end of the day so the two of you can unwind – fills your soul.
* Tucking you in with a brief nightcap conversation – helps you sleep like a baby. Zzzz.
Those teeny weenie things have the monumental impact. They carry the message of love and caring very far. Some can make you melt like butter. We women love a gentleman, but nothing beats a caring good man. There are differences between the two, but one can be the other.
Are you with me so far?
So that I could get validation to my written words, I spoke to an expert.
Allow me to share a few points.
You will see how that small inch of him taking the time to show how much he cares is equivalent to a mile long distance of satisfied pleasure.
Sit tight, here we go! First on the list is –
Drumroll please …..
1. Say it!
You know – the “I love you” words. If you feel it and mean it, say it. Those three little words can light up a room, your face, and your life. Its medicinal effects is a cure all.
2. Watch romantic movies.
This is simple but effective. Eat some popcorn, take in a romantic movie, and relax together; holding hands if you like. How cute!
3. Be silly together.
Let your inhibitions go. Being silly together shows that you are comfortable with each other. The last laugh is on him. Haha!
4. Say thank you.
The sound of thank you can be sweeter than cotton candy. Gratitude can go a long way to make the other person feel special. Let those 2 words roll off your tongue.
5. Compliments.
Compliments are an instant lift especially when it’s coming from someone you love. A small gesture shows that you’re noticed and appreciated.
6. Do what your significant other enjoys.
It’s not all about you. Stop selfishly thinking about yourself. It’s we, not me.
7. Travel together.
Start now. When you find yourself far away from the place you live, you only have each other to rely on. Create lasting memories.
8. Cuddle.
Cuddling has this wonderful ability to soothe away the pain and calm you down. It works both ways. Not only will your partner feel relaxed, but you will shake off some of that everyday stress. And when it’s cold (Brrr), you can keep each other warm.
9. Bury the hatchet.
It’s not emotionally healthy to keep hurtful memories alive. They promote the past. Cut them off; bury them. Pray for strength. Forgive. Forget. Move on.
10. Honesty
The truth is worth its weight in gold. It is what trust is made of; one of the major ingredients in fact.
11. Stay strong in the Lord.
Our problems may become bigger than us. Pray alone. Pray together. Ask for guidance and deliverance. Make yourself whole by obeying God’s Word.
These are small things that mean so much.
When you gravitate mentally to a good place, your world changes; it looks different.
Start today. Try implementing as many improvements as you can and see the difference that they make.
Practice makes perfect.
Those little things add up!
The Bible tells us that he who is faithful in least is faithful in most.
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PostHeaderIcon APOLOGIES: IT’S NEVER TOO LATE TO APOLOGIZE

By Vernalee
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It’s never too late in most matters to apologize. If you don’t believe it, try it! Let’s start with the basics. It is always safe to make the obvious known.
Though known and obvious, an apology simply is defined as “a statement saying that you are sorry about something: an expression of regret for having done or said something wrong: an expression of regret for not being able to do something.”
“There are two common reasons why people apologize:
1. To try to make the person they wronged feel better by taking responsibility and showing empathy.
2. To try to make themselves feel better through atonement which will, hopefully, assuage their guilt.
As with most things, there is a right and wrong approach. There is a “right” way to apologize. The right way is to accept responsibility for your actions and remorsefully express your sincere regret for the damage done. The wrong way is anything other than a heartfelt apology. Here’s what the experts say that we should do:
A. Apologize promptly.
When you realize that you’ve messed up, address the situation immediately. If emotions are running high, give the other person a brief cool down period but be careful not to let too much time pass. It will seem as if you are thoughtless or don’t care that you have hurt their feelings. Worse yet, ignoring it ever happened and not mentioning it again is the most damaging way to handle the situation.
B. Take the right steps to an apology.
Whether you offended a colleague, made an error that cost the company a great deal of money or embarrassment, or simply snapped at your teen when you were overly tired, the road to forgiveness is the same:
* Own your action.
* Admit your mistake.
* Show remorse.
* Ask forgiveness.
* Fix it by stating what you are going to do moving forward. Yes it’s humbling — that’s the point to a poignant apology.
C. Don’t say it if you don’t mean it.
An apology is only valid when it’s sincere. A halfhearted attempt with the sole intention to patronize the other person does more harm than good. An apology is only as powerful as the follow through and if it’s not authentic, it will soon be obvious. Insincerity will only make the situation worse.
D. Apologize in person.
While there may be situations where it’s impossible to say “I’m sorry” face-to-face, every effort should be made to make your amends in person. If your only option is by a phone call or an email, do it, but keep in mind you are at a disadvantage because the other person cannot see your body language and your tone of voice may not translate as well.
E. No excuses.
Never add a “but” to the end of your apology. Anything you say after the word “but” negates anything you expressed prior. Don’t even think about offering your side of the story as an excuse for your behavior.
F. “I’m sorry you feel that way” is not an apology.
You may as well say, “Clearly you are the one with the problem.” A better option, “I’m sorry I hurt you,” carries much more weight.
G. Keep the focus off of yourself.
Allow the other person to express their feelings without turning the conversation back around to how and why you did (or said) what you did (said). The goal here is ‘forgiveness,’ not explanation.
H. Don’t expect a miracle.
It is no surprise that “I’m sorry” is not an immediate memory eraser. Accept the fact that your apology, no matter how sincerely delivered, may ease the pain but take a while longer to get over the hurt.
I. It’s never too late.
If there is someone you need to speak with and the conversation is long overdue, much like a late thank you note, it’s better late than never and it will be good for both of you.
Often times, feelings are injured. As you heal, prepare for this:
* Allow space for friendships to rebound and evolve.
* Always be on cordial speaking terms.
* Conflicts are an opportunity for inner growth.”
It never hurts to be the bigger person and apologize. Saying those magic two words, “I’m sorry” goes a long way. The biggest challenge for some people is to realize and admit that they are not perfect and that they can make mistakes. Apologies can never be legitimately received if that step is not taken. How can you apologize for something if you think that you are perfect and never wrong.
Do you get the point? If you don’t and if you think that you never do or say anything that’s wrong or inappropriate – Please, please accept my sincere apology! I thought that you had move to the next level!
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