Archive for March, 2017
There have been a number of theories and quotes on the types of friends who walk through our lives. For me, the version that hit the nail on the head is outlined in Bishop T. D. Jakes’ sermon on “3 Types of Friends.”
Bishop Jakes called them, “Confidants, constituents, and comrades.”
The confidants are people who are for you. Your confidants love you unconditionally. Confidants weep with you, rejoice with you, and are happy for you….Confidants will make sure that you reach your destiny.
Your constituents are for what you are for; while your comrades are against what you are against.
Jakes cautions us to not confuse the groups, because constituents and comrades will leave you! The latter two are joined to an external interest/issue of yours, but not you per se.
If you have two or three confidants in your lifetime, you are blessed!
I thank God for giving me the wisdom to discern that a diamond is coal first!
There have been times that I have been wrong and erroneously classified friends. I have been left blowing in the wind. Have you?
It happens to the best of us! We can be fooled because people can theatrically show synthetic traits that make them appear genuine and real.
It’s important to know who’s who in your life! Recognizing and discerning them are critical steps in this identification process.
Bishop Jakes breaks it down better than me. Take a look!
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“The Lord will make a way somehow; Amazing Grace; Precious Lord; There will be a brighter day ahead; What a friend we have in Jesus; Wade in the Water; Yes, Jesus loves me” are those old school spirituals that we have sung for years.
Harmonized with or without music, the old school gospel songs manage to hit a note in our souls. The naturalness of A Capella harmony is soothing as your body rocks from side to side.
Music is universal. It unites people of all races and religions. Its powers of penetration should never be taken for granted or underestimated. It is a wholesome and stimulating form of worship.
As King David was an accomplished harpist, The Book of Psalms is a collection of songs; words of praises put to music. Amazingly and subconsciously, we rely upon songs to get us through hard times or simply through the day.
The old fashioned gospels are the songs that I heard my Mother singing while she cooked. Those are the songs that Black folks sang in the cotton fields in Mississippi making $2.00 a day.
From the days of slavery, songs and worship were the only form of freedom that we had. Some of the singers’ voices of old were so powerfully regal that they could make the pews rock and blow the roofs off of those old wooden church houses. Old fashioned gospel songs lyrically carried historical memories and significance. Some of which are reminders of “places” that we wish not to return. These songs however did “get us over!”
As old as the lyrics are, when we sing them today, their freshness reflective to everyday life still uplift us; motivate us; and make our battles easier because of our faith and belief in God. Oh yes, when we lift our voices to The Lord; to the heavens, it is a validation as a contemporary tune harmonizes, “There is power in the name of Jesus to break every chain.” “Give me that old time religion. It was good enough for my Mother, my Daddy … It is good enough for me!”
Praising God is timeless. When we get the spirit, day or night – no matter where we are, we can sing about God’s wonderfulness and wonderfully sing praises to him! Happy Sunday! God bless!
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Join the club!
Stress is not a good thing for your emotional or physical wellbeing.
In addition to the uneasiness, it resonates and attacks our bodies like an atom bomb.
Before it gets out of hands, let’s see how we can relieve at least some of it.
Eliminating the cause (of stress) is the greatest solution.
Of course, that is more easier said than done.
Breaking up is hard to do, but no one wants to hold on to something that produces daily anxiety.
Take a deep breathe!
Help is on the way.
Take a look at the natural remedies to rid our systems of stress.
6. Herbal Teas
9. Cut out screen list
If none of this work, let me provide an element of Biblical counseling.
Matthew 6: 25-27
Luke 12: 22-31.
I close with my favorite and guiding scripture as it relates to stress. It is Matthew 6:34 and it reads, “Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own.”
That scripture is loaded! I hope that it helps your mental mindset and relieve you as much as it has me.
If you are less stressed, it worked!
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How we speak is as significant as how we dress.
How we write tells the story; a story that cannot be erased once it is on paper in black and white.
The written word, our grammar makes and leaves a lasting impression.
Our goal is to make that impression a favorable one.
Just like my third grade teacher, Miss Ross was determined to beat the multiplication times tables on your butt so that they could memorably travel to your head for recitation; and like my 10th grade teacher, Miss Shipp left conjugating the verbs and grammar, king of the jungle, the lessons were indelible.
I had ill feelings about those teachers then, but I cherish them now!
Below the 10 most common grammar errors, along with examples, are listed. There’s a good chance you’ve made at least one.
1. Leaving too many white spaces between words
Example: To the left.
Correct: To the left.
2. Missing a comma3. Missing a comma after an introductory phrase
Example: First of all we must make sure that the power is off.
Correct: First of all, we must make sure that the power is off.
4. Missing a hyphen
Example: My 3 year old son
Correct: My 3-year-old son
5. Incorrect subject-verb agreement
Example: The cats eats.
Correct: The cats eat.
6. Incorrect capitalization
Example: It’s cold, But we are going out.
Correct: It’s cold, but we are going out.
7. Mixing up possessive and plural forms
Example: My sisters car is old.
Correct: My sister’s car is old.
8. Incorrect agreement with noun phrases
Example: I would like to buy this apples.
Correct: I would like to buy these apples.
9. Commonly confused words
Example: After all that running, I am out of breathe.
Correct: After all that running, I am out of breath.
Read Microsoft’s list of most commonly confused words.
10. Incorrect verb form after auxiliary
Example: They had ate when we arrived.
Correct: They had eaten when we arrived.
Let us not forget these:
Lack of Subject/Verb Agreement
Past Tense Error
Past Participle Error
Illogical Verb Tense Shift.
Now that we know some of the common error, what shall we do?
I have the solution.
It’s time to regroup and get it right.
Take the time to polish off your comments and written notes.
Your words and grammar represent you.
“No if’s, and’s, or but’s” … about it!
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“Time brings about a change.” My sixties have to be different!
So, I am gearing up to “have my say!” Mirror, mirror on the wall; flattery gets you everything, but no hocus pocus, today!
Tell me and show me the truth! For sure, whether I acknowledge what I see, the mirror doesn’t lie!
It reflects what it sees … sometimes much to our chagrin or displeasure.
I have been working for months to transform my inner self. I hope that I have gained the intestinal fortitude to acknowledge my inner being; what’s really stored up inside.
I am itching to tell a number of people what I really think!
Unlike the mirror and in the past, I have traditionally said phrases that were soft to the ear. I have mastered the uncanny ability to tell people what they want to hear! It’s called living a lie!
I even get mad at myself for this stance of unintended hypocrisy.
Alright, the time has come.
I think that I am ready.
Here goes! Get in line – liars, cheater, haters, pretentious “laugh in my face, stab me behind my back” folks, and many others walking in the world of phoniness …You know who you are!
Have I got something for you! I believe that I might take pleasure in my new role. I have been shielding the truth and holding back for so many years. Shame on me!
Unlike you – my fellow evildoers, I never had willful ill intent or malice in my heart. I still don’t!
Allow me though to personify this new transformation. It’s time to show the new me! How wise of me!
I just love using my head! Hehe!
Here’s my strategy. I will turn my magic mirror on you; it will expose you and your shenanigans. I can’t wait to see your face and accompanying reaction!
What a glaring reflection; the mirror is reaching out to you! It can only see what is there; not what was or will be!
Smart answer; right?
Remember it was you – great one – who said I had a mesmerizing “way” about me! So here; come closer; look in the mirror! Let me prove you right!
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March 15 – is the date years ago that my umbilical cord was cut in Rolling Fork, Mississippi; the date the legendary Dr. Jack spanked my behind and I yelled to the top of my lungs my baby cry, “Gaw, Gaw, Goo, Goo” and I have been incessantly talking ever since!
Yes, today is my birthday; it’s March 15 and I’m celebrating!
March 15 has earned the nickname, The Ides of March. Emanating from Roman history, March 15 is the date that Julius Caesar met his peril at the hands of his fellow senator attackers including his trusted friend and protege, Marcus Brutus. His last words, “Et tu Brute,” (Latin for “And you too Brutus”) were certainly not great parting words as they echoed the betrayal from a close friend. Amidst devastation; what an ominous ending! Unimaginable, in fact!
But that’s life! Through the journey of years, we find out much – who is sincerely by our side while the insincere folks fall by the wayside. I have so many wonderful people who stand tall with me that I clap my hands with thankful rejoice.
Yes, The Ides of March marks my beginning; how could I not rejoice?
So today, my date of birth, my celebrated holiday of national proportion at least in my mind, I am thankful to God for life; for another year of blessings; for receiving and giving bountiful love. I am immensely thankful!
To have loved ones who graciously share my day with me is a blessing. They make me feel like a Queen sitting on a royal crown embellished with jewels and cushioned with the aroma of love. How sweet it is to be loved by them!
I pray for many, many more years of good health and prosperity. I pray for spiritual, personal, and professional blessings for my love ones and me. I pray for togetherness; our togetherness!
To be deeply loved by my family, friends, and loved ones refreshs my soul. Speaking of blessed; my cup runneth over. Thank you God. Thank you for keeping your illuminating light shining in my presence. Thank you for everything!
So as I blow out my birthday candle tonight surrounded by nothing but love, my wish will be as sweet as my cake. It’s also a secret that I pray comes true. A girl simply can’t tell everything!
My name is Vernalee and I approve this message!
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Stop walking back down memory lane.
We are not about to eat Alphabet Soup.
Remember that dish!
Rather, we are about to fast forward.
Get with the program.
You will be amazed at how our language and words have evolved with the times and changed too.
Many words that we commonly use today did not exist before 1977.
Take a look.
3. Eye Candy
9. Party animals
14. Road Rage
20. Man cave
28. Speed dating
34. Baby bump
39. Face Palm
Now, I have a question to ask.
How many times did you go to the dictionary to look up any of the words?
Admittedly, I went several times looking for definitions, but not before I watched an informercial; took a not so good selfie; checked my voice mail; unfriended a few folks on my social media; and got dressed by accenting my outfit with a stylish black hoodie.
Just so you know, I am on my way to meet my number one and only daughter who is a millennial and who can be occasionally classified as a shopaholic. Since she is a bonafide fashionista, she is entitled. In fact, I love the bling, bling that she accents her style with.
The guys say she is eye candy. I agree; she is absolutely stunning!
See what these new words have done!
What a difference 40 years has made.
So, that’s my shout-out for today.
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Relationships; good times, bad times, making it work times, getting to and achieving love and happiness times.
Relationships – What an interesting topic!
Relationships are unique and so are the problems and the solutions.
All I can say is, “If you find one that can work, work with it.”
Happy relationships are worth their weight in gold.
Happiness beats heartbreaks.
Heartbreaks are heartbreaking; no matter how thin you slice it.
Where are you in this paradigm?
Take the relationship quiz and see where you land?
Here you go …
Everyone deserves to be in a safe and healthy relationship. Do you know if your relationship is healthy? Answer yes or no to the following questions to find out. Make sure to check the boxes to record your responses.
The person I’m with…
1) Is very supportive of things that I do.
2) Encourages me to try new things.
3) Likes to listen when I have something on my mind.
4) Understands that I have my own life too.
5) Is not liked very well by my friends.
6) Says I’m too involved in different activities.
7) Texts me or calls me all the time.
8) Thinks I spend too much time trying to look nice.
9) Gets extremely jealous or possessive.
10) Accuses me of flirting or cheating.
11) Constantly checks up on me or makes me check in.
12) Controls what I wear or how I look.
13) Tries to control what I do and who I see.
14) Tries to keep me from seeing or talking to my family and friends.
15) Has big mood swings – gets angry and yells at me one minute, but is sweet and apologetic the next.
16) Puts me down, calls me names or criticizes me.
17) Makes me feel like I can’t do anything right or blames me for problems.
18) Makes me feel like no one else would want me.
19) Threatens to hurt me, my friends or family.
20) Threatens to hurt him or herself because of me.
21) Threatens to destroy my things.
22) Makes me feel nervous or like I’m “walking on eggshells.”
23) Grabs, pushes, shoves, chokes, punches, slaps, holds me down, throws things or hurts me in some way.
24) Breaks things or throws things to intimidate me.
25) Yells, screams or humiliates me in front of other people.
26) Pressures or forces me into having sex or going farther than I want to.
(Go to the “Love is Respect.org” website to take the quiz; submit to obtain the results).
How did you fare with your score?
What’s your next move?
“Be true to thine self.”
It is not a pass or fail grade.
It’s your life!
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Being in business is challenging. Being a Christian small business owner can be even more challenging. You may be faced with daily situations that test your faith. Your Christian character that encourages you to do the right thing may conflict with established business protocol; however, it will serve to protect you.
Thus, the following 14 Bible Verses according to small business experts are ones that we as Christian entrepreneurs should read, continuously examine, and keep handy.
Philippians 3:13-14 – Brothers and sisters, I do not consider myself yet to have taken hold of it. But one thing I do: Forgetting what is behind and straining toward what is ahead, I press on toward the goal to win the prize for which God has called me heavenward in Christ Jesus.
Deuteronomy 8:18 – But remember the LORD your God, for it is he who gives you the ability to produce wealth, and so confirms his covenant, which he swore to your ancestors, as it is today.
1 Peter 4:10 – Each of you should use whatever gift you have received to serve others, as faithful stewards of God’s grace in its various forms.
2 Corinthians 13:5-6 – Examine yourselves to see whether you are in the faith; test yourselves. Do you not realize that Christ Jesus is in you—unless, of course, you fail the test? And I trust that you will discover that we have not failed the test.
Matthew 6:14-15 – For if you forgive other people when they sin against you, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. But if you do not forgive others their sins, your Father will not forgive your sins.
Isaiah 45:2 – I will go before you and will level the mountains; I will break down gates of bronze and cut through bars of iron.
Joshua 1:9 – Have I not commanded you? Be strong and courageous. Do not be terrified; do not be discouraged, for the LORD your God will be with you wherever you go.
Mark 5:36 – Overhearing what they said, Jesus told them, “Don’t be afraid; just believe.”
1 Peter 5:8 – Be alert and of sober mind. Your enemy the devil prowls around like a roaring lion looking for someone to devour.
3 John 1:2 – Dear friend, I pray that you may enjoy good health and that all may go well with you, even as your soul is getting along well.
Proverbs 2:6-8 – For the LORD gives wisdom; from his mouth come knowledge and understanding. He holds success in store for the upright, he is a shield to those whose walk is blameless, for he guards the course of the just and protects the way of his faithful ones.
Proverbs 29:11 – Fools give full vent to their rage, but the wise bring calm in the end. Watch your temper!
Romans 8:5 – Those who live according to the flesh have their minds set on what the flesh desires; but those who live in accordance with the Spirit have their minds set on what the Spirit desires.
Ephesians 6:12 – For our struggle is not against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the powers of this dark world and against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly realms.
Let us keep in mind that God gives us the abilities and knowledge to make smart business decisions that can produce successful outcomes. We must keep examining our actions so that we employ wisdom, integrity, and honesty in our business decisions.
When we do so, we “profit.”
Yes, God’s Word is the best business guide!
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Stop playing games.
It’s time to face the truth.
What do you really want?
Do you want a person to be honest or shade the truth?
We admittedly can’t stand liars.
So if it is not the truth; it’s a lie.
There really isn’t the in between state of gray, although we concoct that middle shade.
Sometimes, the truth has a sting of hurt. Sometimes, we exaggerate the truth to avoid hurting someone’s feelings.
In the long run, the consequences, and accompanying benefits resulting from the truth are far greater than those coming from lies.
When the truth is told, you don’t have to manage lies.
When American Idol was at its height in popularity, the legendary Simon Cowell would provide the artists with an honest assessment of their talents. Cowell has a no-nonsense, often abrasive style when providing his editorials. People booed, but tuned in every week largely in part because of him. Could he have been kinder?
Though his words/advice may have lacked diplomacy, without question, Simon is a successful music producer to countless stars. His truthfulness has translated to greatness for many of his clients.
Regardless, no one raises their hands to be insulted, but honesty goes a long way.
The truth is the truth.
Hearing the truth – in a kind fashion – is priceless; it’s easier to penetrate the eardrums.
It beats hearing untruths that ultimately prohibit your growth. Your deficiencies cannot be corrected if you are unaware of what they are. What you want to hear may be kinder on the ears, but a hindrance to self improvement.
It is about the truth. It is not what Simon says; it is about you; it is about what you do to improve yourself.
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