Archive for April, 2017


By Vernalee
To be obvious or unusual form the basis for Standing Out From The Crowd.
Our actions, behavior, leadership … determine where we stand.
Certainly, our attitude and aptitude determine the altitude to how high we rise. If you want to be more than the average bear, mediocrity has no place in your world.
As Susan Gale says, ” Normalcy is what makes you part of the crowd. Character is what makes you stand out from the crowd. But principle is what makes you rise above the crowd.”
Entrepreneurs in particular must pave their way through the maze. In this process, there are 5 secrets to stand out and rise above the crowd.
1. Take Initiative.
2. Have a positive mental attitude (PMA).
3. Have Goals.
4. Be open to take risks and keep an open mind.
5. Be a Go Getter.
We have to stay “charged up,” stay motivated, take the challenge, execute, deliver, and display positivity in our actions and leadership. As entrepreneurs, we are watched and judged. When we deliver the best and don’t short-step on quality, who we are don’t matter as much as what we produce!
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By Vernalee
If you fail to make critical decisions, you delay progress.
You become a “sitting on the fence” person.
In other words, you fail to make (or delay) a choice between two possibilities. Harry Truman once said, “I never sit on the fence. I am either on one side or the other.” True that President Truman!
If failure is the fear, many feel that not doing anything is the panacea. Not true. For sure, if you make a decision, (whether it is a good or bad one), you progress your decision making. Movement not stagnation is the solution.
Often times, wrong decisions enhance your learning curve.
At least, you become better because you have learned what not to do; what doesn’t work. Learning the hard way is better than not learning at all. Sitting on the fence only gets you splinters and a sore behind. Get up, move around, exercise your cognitive skills, and make a decision!
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By Vernalee
The expression, “Let sleeping dogs lie,” simply put, means do not go looking for trouble or stirring up problems. Some dormant situations just need to stay that way.
Who wants to hear about ancient information whose purpose is aimed to lend airwaves to hurt someone presently? Those “remember when” occurrences should be contained.
So … Hush up and listen up!
There is enough confusion and animosity as it is!
Additional “mess” does not need to be integrated into the equation.
Don’t instigate; leave “stuff” alone if it may cause trouble.
Easy said; hard to do particularly for the troublemakers and those so called perfect individuals who have never made any mistakes anywhere in life!
There need not be a lineup for which you – Mr. or Miss Perfect – stand.
Yes that’s right.
You know who you are!
Because of your bragging, we definitely know you!
You have stirred up so much trouble, we can identify you before you arrive at the scene.
Just like meteorologic occurrences, your conduct somehow manage to forecast warning signals to announce your presence. You are the 55 mph wind that precedes the tornado.
You walk side by side with another interesting group of folks; namely those who go out looking for trouble.
Stop being one of them.
If you escaped injury before, stop pushing your luck.
Waking up old stuff may yield a different result the next time around.
“Let peace be still!”
The best advice is: Zip it!
Speaking of predictions, I leave you with an accurate one.
If you go looking for trouble, chances are you will find it … and the consequences that lie within!
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PostHeaderIcon 9 SIGNS OF A MAN’S LOVE

By Vernalee

He loves me. He loves me not.
We are familiar with that nursery rhyme and its scenic demonstration of picking petals off of flowers. If the last petal ends with “he loves me,” then love is in the air.
Childish; right?
For certain, love is not a game.
Quite the contrary!
Love is a powerful emotion.
We women desire the love and affection from our man; and vice versa.
Many times, we want to hear him whisper the words, “I love you.”
Are the words more important than the actions?
Would you rather that he shows you than tell you?
Or are you one of those who wants a combination of both?
Don’t answer!
That is why this caption, 9 Signs of a Man’s love, stopped many of the female homo sapiens in our tracks.
Let’s take a look at the “man” signs of this emotion called – LOVE.
Here we go!
1. He caters to you.
2. He wants to hang out with you … a lot.
3. Sex isn’t the main factor for him.
4. He keeps you in mind when making major decisions.
5. He tells you things he’s never told anyone.
6. He doesn’t flirt with other women.
7. He doesn’t mind talking about the future.
8. He shows you off.
9. He loves making you feel special.
Stop being greedy!
Is 9 enough or do you want 10 reasons?
Your number is yours, but having a man who loves, adores, respects, admire, care … and shows it … is good enough for many!
He will extraordinarily and habitually do so in all ways.
That is the hope.
That is what counts; right?
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PostHeaderIcon IT’S EASTER!

By Vernalee
Easter Sunday is here! The parade of pastel color suits, Easter baskets, the Easter Bunny, Easter eggs, and jellybeans are everywhere!
Dressed to the hilts, everyone is decked out for Easter church service and programs.
But today is much more than that.
It is Resurrection Sunday!
It is the day that we celebrate Jesus Christ rising from the dead; the day that he offered his life for the forgiveness of our sins; the day that gives us the gift of eternal life.
The resurrection of Jesus is noted in many bible verses including Luke 24:2-3; 1 Corinthians 15:12-19; John 11:25-26; Peter 1:3-4; Acts 24: 16,21; Acts 4:33; and Matthew 27: 52-54. Jesus paid the price for our sins.
As John 3:16 tells us, “God so loved the world that He gave his one and only son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish, but have eternal life.”
What a mighty God we serve! His grace, love, mercy, compassion – are far reaching.
Today and everyday, we should praise him in worship; in song; in all things!
Our Blessed Savior; He’s worthy to be praised!
Happy Easter!
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By Vernalee
What you see is not always what you get!
The grass is not always greener on the other side even when it appears so.
Let’s take a look at this theory as it relates to relationships.
Shall we?
A man or woman respectively may think that the other desirable person is better than their current companion. The new chick has a Coca Cola figure with Marilyn Monroe beauty; the new beau has Billy Dee Williams’ handsomeness and swagger!
When will you learn that what The Temptations sang in 1966: “Beauty is only skin deep”is true! However, when beauty is inside, it lasts forever!
Don’t be mistaken. Don’t chase a dream when everything that you need is presently in your life.
Going to the other side may not yield what you think!
Conceptually, this quote refers to many other aspects of life beyond relationships.
Think before you move and realize that some visions are just mirages!
“Do not let the green grass fool you” because it will eventually wither away into hay. In fact, the bright green color will turn brown.
Remember this!
Experimentation is not always wise when you have a proven commodity!
Be smart!
Keep in mind that fertilizer doesn’t guarantee the production of a good crop; it only enhances the soil!
You may already have the best there is!
“Everything that’s good to you may not be good for you.”
Make wise decisions; keep what’s good, eradicate what’s bad.
Equip yourself to discern the difference.
Study the person and the situations.
Remove your blinders.
Judge the tree by its fruits. Look at outcomes. If all else fails; if your judgment is wrong, time will tell! You will eventually be shown the truth. The cream always rises to the top.
Therefore … Enjoy, respect, and appreciate the proven relationships in your life!
Otherwise, you may be jumping out of the pot into the frying pan!
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By Vernalee
There is an old Indian proverb that says you never know a man’s problems until you walk in his moccasins. In like manner, “only the wearer knows where the shoe pinches.” Said differently, no one except the person who is experiencing it knows the cause of a trouble or difficulty. His/her behavior may not be understood by others who have not been similarly situated.
In simple terms, the wearer of the shoe can feel the area where it pinches, because the shoes are on his/her feet. The broader explanation is that only the person who is suffering can feel the pain. You can explain it to another person, but it may be difficult to specifically quantify the pain. Similarly, when you are struggling to solve a problem, its magnitude is more pronounced to you than others.
I share with you a few remarkable quotes/proverbs/sayings in the spirit of my topic whose words have comforted me over the years. Even if you are barefooted, I believe you can relate.
1. If you escape from the lion’s den, why go back for your hat.
2. People will never truly understand something until it happens to them.
3. It’s better to remain silent and be thought a fool than to open your mouth and remove all doubt.
4. A hero is a man who is afraid to run away.
5. A clean glove often hides a dirty hand.
6. When two elephants fight, it is the grass that suffers.
7. Faults are thick where love is thin.
8. Elegance is all in the mind of the wearer.
9. To learn who rules over you simply find out who you are not allowed to criticize.
10. It is the one who lives in the house who knows where the roof leaks.
11. Stars can’t shine without darkness.
12. An old broom knows the dirty corners best.
13. I am only one but I am one. I cannot do everything but I can do something. And I will not let what I cannot do interfere with what I can do.
14. A good lawyer knows the law. A great lawyer knows the judge.
15. If the shoe fits, buy it in every color.
For certain, intentions lead to actions and actions produce effects.
It all starts with intentions – be they good or bad. My happiness has always been centered on making others happy.
Somewhere along the way, I learned to include my happiness in the mix.
I seem to step better when happiness abounds.
Sure, there have been days that I have stumbled and fell. There have been other days that my rhythm has been off, but I kept on “a stepping.”
Alright, I can rattle on for days.
No kidding!
Those of you who know me know that I am never short of words, but I will stop here.
I must take a break. I must rest, sit a spell, and get off my feet. My shoes that have walked me through tight life circumstances have pinched my feet and my spirit.
I must take them off. My feet hurt!
I will lace up, tie my shoestrings, and be off and running after I catch my breath.
You simply can’t keep an old, or shall I say a mature horse out of the race. We may not be the fastest, but because of our life experiences, we are familiar with the track!
We have walked the course many times!
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By Vernalee
“I got 99 Problems” ….but you ain’t one!
Listen up!
I’m talking to those people who are always talking about other folks.
When will your critique end?
Unfortunately, it is a sad that you have nothing better to do!
How low can you go?
You may think that you are in control, but you aren’t. In fact, you are not even in control of yourself!
Please, I dare you; double dare you – to look in the mirror and admit what you see!
You are the mere shadow of what you could be. Let me help.
May I invite you to groove on the Itunes of Jay Z. Take some tips from him!
At 60 plus, I am not a rapper!
In fact, many of the rap song lyrics are much too vulgar for my taste.
But Jay Z is making some noticeable moves.
Indeed, we can rise beyond where we started! He has at least put himself in the company of great minds (Warren Buffet included)and is taking their advice. What are you doing besides running up bar tabs?
Sorry, that comment went way too far; though accurate it is!
All I can say is, “Start treating people with dignity and respect!”
It will pay off particularly if and when you are ostracized on your descent from the ivory towers!
We do reap what we sow!
Unlike the folks that you grossly mistreated on your upward climb, I wish you well!
You are no longer a problem to them. They rose above the ashes of your wrongdoings and ignorant/unfair treatment.
Besides, “One bad deed does not deserve another!”
Smart people move on!
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By Vernalee
Are you magically persuasive?
Yes or no?
Before you answer, though I am as gregarious and as talkative as they come, don’t take my word for it.
See what the experts have to say.
According to Lolly Daskal, President/CEO of Lead from Within, “If you know the right words, you can just about get anything you want.”
Ok … Let’s go for it!
Power words are the secret weapon of persuasion.
“Here are seven of them–study them, use them, practice them, and watch what happens.
1. You
In a Yale study, YOU ranked as the No. 1 most influential power word in English. You shows compassion and empathy, which are at the heart of persuasive speech. The only way to boost the power of you is by using the person’s name. “You know it’s true, [name]” makes your pitch suddenly very meaningful.
2. Imagine
The word IMAGINE expands the idea of what’s possible. Imagine you’ve won the lottery. Imagine you have the funding you’re seeking. Imagine living in your ideal house. It’s a word that opens opportunity–a word that says to skip all the worries. It bypasses critical thinking and goes straight to what feels good.
3. Act
Nothing is more powerful than action. When people ACT to make things happen, they move themselves closer to what they want–regardless of the outcome.
4. Because
The power of BECAUSE lies on two fronts. For logical thinkers, there is great appeal in connecting cause and effect. The word – because – works on emotions, too. If someone’s in line at Starbucks and asks to cut in front, the likely answer is no. But if that stranger adds “… because my child is waiting for me outside,” people are far more likely to say yes. Stating a reason helps people connect logically and emotionally.
5. Now
Immediacy is what everyone wants: Get what you want NOW. Make a change now. You can start now. Tomorrow is too late, yesterday is over, and now is exactly the right moment to start.
6. Believe
It’s not about the logic of a situation or even the reality, but what we can will into being. BELIEVING is the first step in making something happen, the element that allows us to overcome limitations. If you believe in yourself, everything is possible.
7. Guaranteed
When you describe something as GUARANTEED, people are immediately put at ease. It offers assurance that a risky decision is safe, that investing is safe–or, at worst, that there is recourse for dissatisfaction. It’s a word that offers security, and it gets you what you want, when you need it. I guarantee it.”
So please accept my indulgence as I “VERNAlize” my final thoughts around these 7 powerful words.
Here you go.
If YOU mobilize yourself at the right time and the right place, with the right folks, YOU can only IMAGINE what YOU can accomplish. The sky is the limit because YOU BELIEVE in yourself. YOU did not need anyone to convince YOU what YOU need to do NOW. YOU did not wait; YOU ACTED immediately. YOU took the right steps. I GUARANTEE YOU that YOU will rise to the top because your ACTIONS followed your words!
I close with this “VERNAism“, I AM the change agent. “If it is to be, it’s left up to me!”
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By Vernalee
Uneasy lies the head that wears the crown” is a line from the William Shakespeare play King Henry the Fourth. I love Shakespearian plays. Julius Caesar remains my favorite. Their depth is reflective of everyday living including the anxieties of life. They make you think. Agreed?
“Uneasy lies the head that wears the crown” describes a person who has great responsibilities, power, and prestige who is constantly worried and therefore doesn’t sleep soundly. The uneasiness profilerates and produces those tiny gray strings of wisdom. Just ask President Obama; his hair changed from black to white almost overnight.
The expression fits many people who have great responsibilities – leaders, executives, entrepreneurs, CEO’s, parents, care givers, you, and me. Sleepless nights, stress, and worry are accompaniments to the “crown.”
We crown wearers worry about others often times more than they worry about themselves.
It begs to ask: Who is worried about us?
Though unamusingly hilarious, that’s a question whose answer may be shockingly surprising! Nevertheless those whose heads (in theory) are adorned with the beautiful jeweled crown laden with rubies and precious stones have to balance activities, duties, and responsibilities so that nothing tilts.
We are jugglers who must maintain equalization in our lives and those of others. Careful we must be to manage it all! Cautious we must be to minimize the stress.
Not only do we have extremely weighty decisions to analyze and make, all eyes are upon us at all times; even when we sleep! The expectations can be overwhelming and unrealistic.
Are they pleasurably watching, hoping that we succeed, or waiting for us to fall? Who knows?
While most sleep, we are awake. Usually, we are in deep thought determining the next steps for us and others as they nap and snore. (Zzzz). It comes with the “crown” territory.
The scrutiny of us in general and our decisions in particular can be microscopic; unbearable at times. Speaking of pressure, it can heavy enough to make you scream. Go ahead; release it, let it out! It is imperative that you stay “cool, calm, and collected.”
When your release valves are open, they help you manage more efficiently, remain less stressful, and make wiser decisions.
Sometimes, we cannot always change hats and roles. Because of our bothersome conscious, we cannot throw the crown in the trash; too many people depend upon us.
We can however wise up, make prudent decisions, and get an occasional good night’s sleep. We may even graduate to the level to sleep like a baby; worry free for a moment. Interesting, the people that we worry about have no trouble taking a nap.
With time, we may graduate and become indoctrinated with another important factor, namely – to take one day at a time.
Personally, I have learned to throw my burdens on the Lord. Man has been such a big disappointment. God’s guidance will never misdirected you.
To my followers who wear the crown, let the admonition of Matthew 6:34 soothe your soul.
“Don’t worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will bring its own worries. Today’s trouble is enough for today.”
Smart thinking!
With age comes wisdom!
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