Archive for July, 2017


By Vernalee
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You can present someone with an opportunity, but you cannot force him or her to take advantage of it.
Sometimes, it makes you upset; particularly when your advice can save them from calamity.
Remember this one important fact. While you are worrying about them, having sleepless nights and watching your hair turn gray, the person in trouble is carefree, sleeping like a baby, and has no need for Grecian formula or Lady Clairol.
This scenario is upside down; right? Bottom line: People do what they want to do! Besides, if they get in the saddle, they must be prepared to ride! So … Get with the program!
Go home, kick up your feet and get some rest. Don’t worry!
Their lackadaisical attitude and inactions will catch up with them. Sadly, when they are in doubt, they let the horse do the thinking! Hi Yo Silver! Away!
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By Vernalee
We use metaphors from time to time to bring home a point. They tend to help us see a situation clearer.
“An Elephant in the room” is an metaphorical idiom that refers to an obvious truth that is going unaddressed or to an obvious problem or risk that no one wants to discuss. It is so profound as the expression is focused around the idea or thought that an elephant because of its sheer size would be impossible to overlook. Agreed? Although a truism, it occurs; frequently at that!
The impossibility of this carefree ignorance makes it all the more interesting. How can we ignore a problem or issue that is clearly right before our eyes particularly when the problem is blatantly obvious or too big to go unnoticed? Because it is a big problem/issue/truth, how can we push it under the rug? We can’t! We are only fooling ourselves and others! If we don’t deal with the elephant, it will continue to take up space in our minds, our lives, and our homes.
We will remain uncomfortable because there is no comfort when the elephant is blocking our view and our reasoning! It’s too big to evaporate through osmosis! Why do we refuse to acknowledge the elephant’s presence? There are many reasons. Denial is a predominant one! It may take some effort and time, but we can remove the elephant from our view; from our space. Whether it is a relationship problem or any salient life issue, do know that it will not fade away in the sunset. We have to address it; remove it. Until that is done, there will not be peace or comfort in our lives!
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By Vernalee
Recently, The Today Show had a feature that struck a nerve. Digital declutter was the topic.
For those whose Inboxes approximate the ten of thousands, this message is for you. Take the dive; dig yourself out! How can you be effective, responsive or organized with tons of unread / unopened emails resting in your Inbox.
How many opportunities (business or otherwise) have you missed?
It is a difficult process, particularly for people who have multiple email accounts (like me)!
The email clutter has become such a big problem that there are businesses dedicated to the science of decluttering your email inbox!
According to the experts, there is a great app called Perhaps, it is worth a click for those carrying massive amounts of unread emails.
It has also been suggested that if you remove emails from your Inbox and place them in a To do folder, your clutter will gradually become manageable.
Of course, then you have to deal with cleaning out the replacement folder. There is no easy way out when you are in too deep.
If your storage is becoming limited, remember Emails and Photos take up space. Assign your many, many photos to a Google Photo or Drop Box. We love taking photos, don’t we? Selfies, anyone? Bottom line: Get organize; take baby steps; use apps that can help! Knowing where you are is a great management tool in our high tech world since so much business is transacted through email and various forms of social media.
Missing a sale hurts when it was transmitted via an email that you never opened. OUCH! Lost sales and revenue affect the bottom line.
Stay on top; get organized! When it comes to communications, the world is flat; it is not business as usual… the old fashioned way.
You cannot hide your negligence. Not reading your emails is known by others. Remember, you never responded to them either.
Success dictates that we keep up! Managing our emails (which is our communications to and from the world) is a positive step forward in that direction.
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By Vernalee
How’s your Email etiquette? Are your words accurately and respectfully written? Since Emails are a dominant form of communication in our personal and professional lives, making them effective is the key. Many of us prefer to or have chosen to email folks rather than verbally communicate with them. Besides, emailing is handy. You don’t have to worry about catching folks or them returning your calls. You don’t have to leave home or get dressed to communicate. Plus, you can send them anytime, anywhere, and from your phone which is always with you. Because of the conveniences and simplicities, why bother with the physical interaction? You may not be in an office when you send an email, but if it’s for business, it should reflect a professional tone. It is for these reasons and more, that we should make sure that our emails convey the appropriate message. Read below.
1. Subject Lines – Make them succinct and to the point. If the subject should change in your email thread, change the subject line to reflect same.
2. Professional Email Address – If it is not a corporate email, does it contain your name / your company’s name or a reference whereby the reader will know that it’s you?
3. Reply All – Think before you press that button. Do you want everyone to read your message or just the sender? Are you sending the email to the right person? Double check your stored recipient’s name to assure your accuracy before you send. Slippery fingers can present a slippery mess!
4. Salutations – Be professional and please use a greeting of some sort.
5. Exclamation Points – Multiple exclamation points can be offensive. Some authorities equate multiple exclamation points to shouting.
6. Blind copy / Forward – Wisely use as appropriate.
7. Replies – Try to reasonably respond to emails even if it is a brief answer. ( i.e received, thank you). Don’t leave the sender wondering if you received / read their message.
8. Proofread – Read it before you push the send button.
9. Can you really hide behind the words? – This is a double edged sword. You can say in writing what you do not have the courage to say to a person’s face. However, words don’t lie whether they are oral or written. Unlike verbal communication, we have little or no wiggle room for interpretation when it is in print. Emails can hold a liar’s feet to the fire because the sender can’t say that it wasn’t him / her who sent the message when the email came directly from their email address. The black and white letters become permanent etches.
Emails are here to stay. They are permanent records that are undeniably evidentiary. Your emails can be funny or serious. They can be light or academic. They convey a consortium of messages. Regardless, be careful, discreet, accurate; be a person whose emails you can defend! Be wise with your choice of words!
By the way, the conveniences of emails can add hours to your workday because many of us transmit emails from home that we didn’t have time to send during work hours.
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By Vernalee

If you are a little rusty and need to get up to speed, these acronyms are for you! Even I have graduated from the common abbreviated texts such as: R u going 2 or C U. So GWTP. For the old timers, that means Get With The Program!
There are too many to list, but the below are some common text acronyms.
Acronyms A to L
2F4U – Too Fast For You
4YEO – FYEO – For Your Eyes Only
AAMOF – As a Matter of Fact
AKA – Also known as
BTT – Back to Topic
BTW – By the Way
B/C – Because
CU – See you
CYS – Check your Settings
DIY- Do it Yourself
EOBD – End of Business Day; End of Discussion
EOM End of Message
FWIW- For what it’s Worth
HF – Have fun
HTH – Hope this Helps
IDK – I don’t know
IOW – In other Words
Acronyms M to Z
MMW – Mark my Words
NNTR – No need to Reply
NOYB – None of your Business
NRN – No Reply Necessary
OT – Off Topic
OTOH – On the other Hand
POV – Point of View
ROTFL- Rolling on the Floor Laughing
SCNR – Sorry, could not Resist
THX – Thanks
TYVM – Thank You Very Much
TYT – Take your Time
TTYL- Talk to you Later
WFM – Works for Me
YMMD – You made my Day
YAM – Yet Another Meeting.
Now let me stomp you, text a set of words to a designated number. Don’t ask me! I don’t know how to do it! I have to be retrained every time. I stick to the simple “stuff.”
HAGD – Have a good day!
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By Vernalee
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Though my blog has been dedicated to a spiritual topic every Sunday, please know that my worship, and I am sure yours, is not limited to Sundays only.
The Bible instructs us to pray incessantly. In 1 Thessalonians 5:17, we are told to “pray continually.” Luke 18:1 instructs us “to pray and not give up.” Prayer is one of the purest forms of worship; a direct form of communicating with God.
For me, daily prayer is soothing; it’s therapeutic; it’s my private, one on one communicative time with God.
I cannot start my day off with thanking God! I take the time to do so! My morning prayer helps to shape my day. During the day, prayer will help to order my conduct, particularly with challenging people and situations.
Prayer changes things!
For certain, “pray always; always pray” is a wise admonition.
I must add my Mother’s long time phrase, “If you gonna pray, don’t worry. If you gonna worry, don’t pray! Put your faith in the Lord and let it stay there!” Though she is ill, I can hear hear Southern Mississippi accent saying those words.
I thank you Lord for a praying Mother!
Thank you Father for waking my family and me up this morning! Thank you Lord for all that you do! Thank you for everything!
Happy Sunday and blessings to my reading audience and beyond!
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By Vernalee
Saturday is usually my “runaround” day, but today I am “staying put.”
My plan is to do absolutely nothing and I mean nothing!
I plan to rest and relax! I owe it to myself! This has been a mentally exhausting week. By the way, I am not on the beach today as the photo projects.
However, I have such a vivid imagination that I will visually transport my mind to the white sandy beaches of Biloxi, Mississippi!
Oh my!
The water in the Gulf is amazingly warm and relaxing as the scorching sun glares on my face.
I am reclining in my chair with a wide rim straw hat.
Join me imaginatively in this relaxation process, but please stay at your house! Let’s not defeat the purpose of my tranquility today!
I am not on my phone; my iPad is in the other room.
I have removed the nuances of disturbances because I am just chilling!
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By Vernalee
Admittedly, I don’t drink alcoholic beverages.
My choice!
So when I purchased a bottle of wine for a friend last week, being the novice wine purchaser that I am, it reminded me of a previous year’s “wine” intrigue!
You see I was driving home and minding my own business when I first heard this fascinating story on the D.L. Hughley radio show.
At first, I thought that D.L. was being his normal comedic self, so I researched it for myself; an inquisitive mind I have!
Here’s the scoop: A man in an Atlantic City restaurant, who was not familiar with wine (like me) asked the waitress to recommend a good wine. Not wearing his glasses (like me, too), she suggested a wine from their exquisite wine list. Anyway, the waitress suggested a bottle of Screaming Eagle Oakville 2011 to the customer. “How much does it cost?” he asked. “Thirty seven fifty,” was the waitress’ response. Clearly heard by all of the table guest, the wine was ordered. All evenings come to an end!
This night was no different, but the intrigue rested with the check. That “Screaming Eagle” bottle of wine was $3,750.00 and not $37.50.
I bet it left all ten of the guest screaming!
Was the waitress, duplicitous or was the consumer not inquisitive?
I could ask my attorney friend for a legal opinion as to who (the waitress or the consumer) was at fault. I do believe that her legal clarification would cost more than the bottle of wine in question! Sorry, counselor! You know that I love you and respect your Law degree from the prestigious Columbia University! You are truly a scholar!
Anyway, “I rest my story!” I ask you, my reading audience, “What’s your verdict?” Before you render, weigh the facts, and have a glass of Screaming Eagle Oakville 2011 wine, but not on me!
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By Vernalee

Is he lying or telling the truth?
Asking that question is not fun.
Everyone knows that “The truth will set you free!”
Finding out if someone is being truthful can be challenging.
Absence a lie detector test, how can you be 100% sure?
Body language is so telling.
It reveals more than words sometimes.
Pay attention.
Take a look at these signs.
Maybe, they will help you discern the truth from lies.
Here you go.
1. Pick up on their posture.
2. Look them in the eye.
3. Notice the rate of their movements.
4. Pay attention to their story.
5. Lean in, particularly, if they are leaning away.
6. Take stock of their response.
7. Pay attention to how they shake their head.
8. Pick up on any difference in their behavior.
9. Trust your gut.
Do not be afraid to admit what you see.
Don’t make excuses for their behavior.
After all, seeing is believing!
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By Vernalee
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Years ago, My Mother said, I want to pass on the same advice to you that my Mother gave to me when I was your age. “If you dig a ditch for someone to fall in, dig two coz you might fall in one of them.”
C’mon now – That advice was golden!
To this day, I don’t plan other people’s demise.
They seem to be capable of doing that for themselves.
My time and energies are spent on keeping my head above water.
That is an all inclusive job in and of itself. Whew!
Besides, why should I lift a heavy shovel, get all dirty and sweaty by exerting my valuable time, strength, and energies on someone else?
It’s too exhausting!
Looking out for me and mine is a much better choice!
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