Archive for September, 2017


By Vernalee
Often times, we rely on so many other people and sources to find the answers when the answer is God.
He has been by our side all along.
There is an old expression, “When there is nothing left but God, then God is all that you need.”
My pastor always say God is –
a way maker;
a heart fixer; and
a mind regulator.
Search no more.
God is the answer!
Try him!
Lean on him; don’t rely on your own understanding.
Our God is an awesome God!
He reigns!
Happy Sunday!
God bless!
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By Vernalee
Doesn’t that doggie look so adorable?
He is the cutest thing!
His alluring appearance reminds me of some folks that a few of us considered – confidantes!
We could tell them anything or so we thought.
Close your mouth for a moment.
Let me tell you something…
1. Protect your secrets;
2. Guard your words;
3. Be selective about who you tell what to … It’s common sense.
I’m sure that you have heard this advice before – time and time again.
I have!
Of course, we don’t always listen.
** If someone tells you other folks business, they’ll tell yours!
It doesn’t take rocket scientist intelligence to figure that out; it’s plain and simple.
If you forget the essence of this simple idiom, remember this.
** You are not exempted from gossip particularly from a person who has diarrhea of the mouth!
Don’t assume that their behavior will change – just because it’s you!
They took the liberties to put your business out in the streets because you provided the fuel!
The “big mouth” who brought you someone else’s information will surely float yours out! It’s fair exchange to them. It’s the personification of the “bring and take” theory.
Because you let your guards down, your information is now freely circulating through the universe for all ears to hear!
Why would they be discreet?
They could care less.
Did you forget?
They are bonafide blabber mouths.
Besides it’s your business; not theirs!
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By Vernalee
For the record, who told you that “you were all that and a bag of chips?”
Was it confirmation from your colleagues or from your inflated ego?
Wrong answer!
Sure, you have some positive attributes, but it does not give you the right to think that you are mightier than thou! C’mon now! You are not! Stop elevating yourself above others. Your nose is so high in the clouds that you cannot even speak to folks.
Dodging folks but seeking them for your personal gain is not kosher. Be careful, your playhouse can be torn down. In fact, it is crumbling now. See the debris!
Though no one wishes upon you what you have done to them and others, a landslide fall from grace is perilous.
Your pockets may now have greener linings, but money doesn’t make you better than anyone else!
Everyone should be treated with dignity and respect. Sooner or later, you will learn!
When it happens, I surely wish that someone informs me; a simple email will do!
In the end, remember that those thin easily broken potato chips are greasy and high in saturated fat and calories. So, your “bag of chips” is just as unhealthy as the treatment that you are dishing out to others!
It doesn’t taste as good now; does it?
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By Vernalee
“The bigger they are, the harder they fall” is a phrase used to ​emphasize that the more ​important or ​powerful a ​person is, the more ​difficult it is for them when they ​lose ​their ​power or ​importance.
When they are up, many unnecessarily flaunt their resources. Often they relegate many to be beneath them while talking to them dastardly; cussing them out at a whim.
Their ostentatious cruelty is covered up by a flavorful imitation of pretentious conduct that is as morally corrupt as the sky is blue. Though they cut a good figure, they wear the cloth of ruthlessness day in, day out.
Can I get a witness if you know one or two!
Never once did they stop to reflect that they were not good caretakers of what they possessed. Just as it was given, it can be taken away.
When and if they are stripped, miraculously they will feel what their counterparts felt when they stripped them. Payback makes the surreal, real; the pain unbearable; the difficulty to rise tantamount to the fall. Power and influence are not insulators to pain.
Anyone can feel it, if they unwisely test the limits!
Just ask the person who hit the ground!
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By Vernalee
Good Morning followers!
Let me introduce you to a group of folks that I define as the “lukewarm” people.
You know and see them as frequently as I.
Many are so hard to figure out.
They do just enough to keep you off their backs; just enough to get by.
Their luke warmness protects them or so they think.
However, sooner or later their true temperature gets revealed.
They play sophisticated games so that you cannot ascertain whether they are hot or cold.
For example, many may know that you have a need. They simply ignore it unless they are pushed to acknowledge it. They are great at turning their heads looking the other way.
Some luke warm folks have the resources – time and finances – but they do not have the sensitivities.
Maybe they just don’t care or maybe they are selfish.
We must keep this in perspective.
You really can’t get mad with anyone for your problems.
Depending upon their closeness to you, it may be disappointing if they don’t come through or look the other way! It is not your fault that they believe in the bare minimum.
They are serial piecemeal specialists. “A little here; a little there; or nothing at all” is there motto.
The real problem occurs in the inability to read them.
Are they hot or cold?
How would you know?
You certainly can’t feel by the touch.
They will truly never be inconvenienced for anyone other than themselves or who they feel are important.
Alright, stop feeling guilty that they did not offer, but that you had to ask them for help.
Stop feeling bad that they knew you had needs and looked the other way.
Just don’t be like them!
At the end of the day, the lukewarm personalities will be viewed on their own merit as will you!
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By Vernalee

A good attitude always starts with good thoughts. Positive thinking is equally as powerful as negative thinking: you’ll start to believe it eventually. So it’s critical to adopt the former and make it into a daily habit. Like everything, shifting your mindset requires conscious effort and commitment, and there are many ways to condition yourself to think positively until it becomes second nature.”
Here are Twenty One.
1. “Eliminate negative words from your vocabulary.
2. Surround yourself with good company.
3. Practice gratitude.
4. Adopt a personal motto.
5. Avoid triggers.
6. Reward yourself.
7. Practice mindfulness.
8. Slow down & relax.
9. Set yourself up for a good day.
10. Set up positive reminders around you.
11. Practice positive affirmations.
12. Don’t be so hard on yourself.
13. Do things that bring you joy.
14. Pay it forward; help others.
15. Read an inspiring book.
16. Find the silver lining.
17. Look at the bigger picture.
18. Find stress releasers.
19. Take a break from social media.
20. Don’t dwell on the past.
21. Make an attitude shift.”
Walk with me for a second. Proverbs 4:23 tells us “Above all else, guard your heart for everything that you do flow from it.” As we read further, Proverb 28:26 instructs “Those who trust in themselves are fools, but those who walk in wisdom are kept safe.”
In summary, we are what we think. We do what our thoughts guide us to do.
Therefore, we must guard our thoughts. If we are smart, we have probably channeled our thinking to the fact that we are always work in progress. That progress is so much easier when positively is in our midst.
There is no difference in the thought processes and energy levels that it take to think negative as it take to think positive. The outcomes to the latter produce the greatest reward.
In the words of the late British Prime Minister Margaret Thatcher,
“Watch your thoughts for they become words.
Watch your words for they become actions.
Watch your actions for they become habits.
Watch your habits for they become your character.
And watch your character for it becomes your destiny.
What we think, we become.”
Think positive!
Speak positive words!
Do positive things!
You will be positively happier!
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By Vernalee
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It is always the small words that mean the most.
Trust, a five letter word, can define a relationship; be it personal, professional, or romantic.
When trust is lost, it is like melted chocolate; you can freeze it afterwards, but the shape is never the same.
For every person who no longer trust, one thing is for sure.
There was a person who made them feel that way!
Protect your relationships.
Yes it is correct that TRUST can take years to build; seconds to destroy; and forever to rebuild – if ever!
Keep the trust that you have earned! Once trust is lost, and doubt is casted, it is too difficult to return from whence you came!
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By Vernalee
A virtuous woman.
How does she look?
How does she act?
What does she do?
As with all things, the answer is found in the Word. Proverbs 31: 10-31 spell it out.
These verses provide a complete description. What a woman you will be if you measure up to these qualities. Read about her – this virtuous woman – below.
10 A wife of noble character who can find?
She is worth far more than rubies.
11 Her husband has full confidence in her
and lacks nothing of value.
12 She brings him good, not harm,
all the days of her life.
13 She selects wool and flax
and works with eager hands.
14 She is like the merchant ships,
bringing her food from afar.
15 She gets up while it is still night;
she provides food for her family
and portions for her female servants.
16 She considers a field and buys it;
out of her earnings she plants a vineyard.
17 She sets about her work vigorously;
her arms are strong for her tasks.
18 She sees that her trading is profitable,
and her lamp does not go out at night.
19 In her hand she holds the distaff
and grasps the spindle with her fingers.
20 She opens her arms to the poor
and extends her hands to the needy.
21 When it snows, she has no fear for her household;
for all of them are clothed in scarlet.
22 She makes coverings for her bed;
she is clothed in fine linen and purple.
23 Her husband is respected at the city gate,
where he takes his seat among the elders of the land.
24 She makes linen garments and sells them,
and supplies the merchants with sashes.
25 She is clothed with strength and dignity;
she can laugh at the days to come.
26 She speaks with wisdom,
and faithful instruction is on her tongue.
27 She watches over the affairs of her household
and does not eat the bread of idleness.
28 Her children arise and call her blessed;
her husband also, and he praises her:
29 “Many women do noble things,
but you surpass them all.”
30 Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting;
but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised.
31 Honor her for all that her hands have done,
and let her works bring her praise at the city gate.
I seek to be that woman – plain and simple.
The descriptive words seem simple, but the tasks are not.
It is work in progress for many women.
Accomplishing those qualities are pleasing to God, your family, and you – of course!
Happy Sunday!
God bless!
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By Vernalee
“You can’t put the genie back in the bottle” technically means that you can’t
revert a situation to how it formerly existed by containing, limiting, or repressing information, ideas, etc., that have become commonplace or public knowledge.
Be careful.
Exercise good judgment.
We don’t possess the magic to go back in time; to put stuff back once it is released.
Watch and guard your thoughts, tongue, behavior and action. Wisdom is best utilized on the front end.
Once it’s out, it’s out!
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By Vernalee
When someone has you eating out of their hand, it means that you would do exactly what they ask you to do; no questions asked.
Sometimes, but not always, it is a mind controlled thing whereby manipulation is often involved.
Some of us may deny it; but many of us have been there at some point in our lives.
Go ahead and admit it.
Perhaps, no one is immune.
Charismatic people, those that we love, or those that we want to be loved by – are some of the best candidates to feed us this nonexistent food.
It’s a feeling; a strong feeling at that.
It usually is a mind controlled thing.
It has happened to the best of us despite our strong will.
Lest not forget that …
Love and being in love will do it!
My words not yours.
So if and when you have entered the zone of someone controlling your every moves without your cognitive input and if and when the aura in the atmospheric love zone forces you to be in that position,
do know that you have metaphorically arrived and landed in the palm of someone’s hands!
You may be definitely eating out of their hands!
Either the comments are “What’s for dinner?” or “I am not playing those games of manipulation anymore!”
We’ll see …who is in control?
Are you there or not?
Excuse me …
Your actions speak louder than words.
Therefore …. Pass me the knife and fork!
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