Archive for September, 2017
Good Morning followers!
Let me introduce you to a group of folks that I define as the “lukewarm” people.
You know and see them as frequently as I.
Many are so hard to figure out.
They do just enough to keep you off their backs; just enough to get by.
Their luke warmness protects them or so they think.
However, sooner or later their true temperature gets revealed.
They play sophisticated games so that you cannot ascertain whether they are hot or cold.
For example, many may know that you have a need. They simply ignore it unless they are pushed to acknowledge it. They are great at turning their heads looking the other way.
Some luke warm folks have the resources – time and finances – but they do not have the sensitivities.
Maybe they just don’t care or maybe they are selfish.
We must keep this in perspective.
You really can’t get mad with anyone for your problems.
Depending upon their closeness to you, it may be disappointing if they don’t come through or look the other way! It is not your fault that they believe in the bare minimum.
They are serial piecemeal specialists. “A little here; a little there; or nothing at all” is there motto.
The real problem occurs in the inability to read them.
Are they hot or cold?
How would you know?
You certainly can’t feel by the touch.
They will truly never be inconvenienced for anyone other than themselves or who they feel are important.
Alright, stop feeling guilty that they did not offer, but that you had to ask them for help.
Stop feeling bad that they knew you had needs and looked the other way.
Just don’t be like them!
At the end of the day, the lukewarm personalities will be viewed on their own merit as will you!
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“A good attitude always starts with good thoughts. Positive thinking is equally as powerful as negative thinking: you’ll start to believe it eventually. So it’s critical to adopt the former and make it into a daily habit. Like everything, shifting your mindset requires conscious effort and commitment, and there are many ways to condition yourself to think positively until it becomes second nature.”
Here are Twenty One.
1. “Eliminate negative words from your vocabulary.
2. Surround yourself with good company.
3. Practice gratitude.
4. Adopt a personal motto.
5. Avoid triggers.
6. Reward yourself.
7. Practice mindfulness.
8. Slow down & relax.
9. Set yourself up for a good day.
10. Set up positive reminders around you.
11. Practice positive affirmations.
12. Don’t be so hard on yourself.
13. Do things that bring you joy.
14. Pay it forward; help others.
15. Read an inspiring book.
16. Find the silver lining.
17. Look at the bigger picture.
18. Find stress releasers.
19. Take a break from social media.
20. Don’t dwell on the past.
21. Make an attitude shift.”
Walk with me for a second. Proverbs 4:23 tells us “Above all else, guard your heart for everything that you do flow from it.” As we read further, Proverb 28:26 instructs “Those who trust in themselves are fools, but those who walk in wisdom are kept safe.”
In summary, we are what we think. We do what our thoughts guide us to do.
Therefore, we must guard our thoughts. If we are smart, we have probably channeled our thinking to the fact that we are always work in progress. That progress is so much easier when positively is in our midst.
There is no difference in the thought processes and energy levels that it take to think negative as it take to think positive. The outcomes to the latter produce the greatest reward.
In the words of the late British Prime Minister Margaret Thatcher,
“Watch your thoughts for they become words.
Watch your words for they become actions.
Watch your actions for they become habits.
Watch your habits for they become your character.
And watch your character for it becomes your destiny.
What we think, we become.”
Speak positive words!
Do positive things!
You will be positively happier!
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It is always the small words that mean the most.
Trust, a five letter word, can define a relationship; be it personal, professional, or romantic.
When trust is lost, it is like melted chocolate; you can freeze it afterwards, but the shape is never the same.
For every person who no longer trust, one thing is for sure.
There was a person who made them feel that way!
Protect your relationships.
Yes it is correct that TRUST can take years to build; seconds to destroy; and forever to rebuild – if ever!
Keep the trust that you have earned! Once trust is lost, and doubt is casted, it is too difficult to return from whence you came!
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A virtuous woman.
How does she look?
How does she act?
What does she do?
As with all things, the answer is found in the Word. Proverbs 31: 10-31 spell it out.
These verses provide a complete description. What a woman you will be if you measure up to these qualities. Read about her – this virtuous woman – below.
10 A wife of noble character who can find?
She is worth far more than rubies.
11 Her husband has full confidence in her
and lacks nothing of value.
12 She brings him good, not harm,
all the days of her life.
13 She selects wool and flax
and works with eager hands.
14 She is like the merchant ships,
bringing her food from afar.
15 She gets up while it is still night;
she provides food for her family
and portions for her female servants.
16 She considers a field and buys it;
out of her earnings she plants a vineyard.
17 She sets about her work vigorously;
her arms are strong for her tasks.
18 She sees that her trading is profitable,
and her lamp does not go out at night.
19 In her hand she holds the distaff
and grasps the spindle with her fingers.
20 She opens her arms to the poor
and extends her hands to the needy.
21 When it snows, she has no fear for her household;
for all of them are clothed in scarlet.
22 She makes coverings for her bed;
she is clothed in fine linen and purple.
23 Her husband is respected at the city gate,
where he takes his seat among the elders of the land.
24 She makes linen garments and sells them,
and supplies the merchants with sashes.
25 She is clothed with strength and dignity;
she can laugh at the days to come.
26 She speaks with wisdom,
and faithful instruction is on her tongue.
27 She watches over the affairs of her household
and does not eat the bread of idleness.
28 Her children arise and call her blessed;
her husband also, and he praises her:
29 “Many women do noble things,
but you surpass them all.”
30 Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting;
but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised.
31 Honor her for all that her hands have done,
and let her works bring her praise at the city gate.
I seek to be that woman – plain and simple.
The descriptive words seem simple, but the tasks are not.
It is work in progress for many women.
Accomplishing those qualities are pleasing to God, your family, and you – of course!
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“You can’t put the genie back in the bottle” technically means that you can’t
revert a situation to how it formerly existed by containing, limiting, or repressing information, ideas, etc., that have become commonplace or public knowledge.
Exercise good judgment.
We don’t possess the magic to go back in time; to put stuff back once it is released.
Watch and guard your thoughts, tongue, behavior and action. Wisdom is best utilized on the front end.
Once it’s out, it’s out!
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When someone has you eating out of their hand, it means that you would do exactly what they ask you to do; no questions asked.
Sometimes, but not always, it is a mind controlled thing whereby manipulation is often involved.
Some of us may deny it; but many of us have been there at some point in our lives.
Go ahead and admit it.
Perhaps, no one is immune.
Charismatic people, those that we love, or those that we want to be loved by – are some of the best candidates to feed us this nonexistent food.
It’s a feeling; a strong feeling at that.
It usually is a mind controlled thing.
It has happened to the best of us despite our strong will.
Lest not forget that …
Love and being in love will do it!
My words not yours.
So if and when you have entered the zone of someone controlling your every moves without your cognitive input and if and when the aura in the atmospheric love zone forces you to be in that position,
do know that you have metaphorically arrived and landed in the palm of someone’s hands!
You may be definitely eating out of their hands!
Either the comments are “What’s for dinner?” or “I am not playing those games of manipulation anymore!”
We’ll see …who is in control?
Are you there or not?
Excuse me …
Your actions speak louder than words.
Therefore …. Pass me the knife and fork!
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Do I have a question for you!
Here we go.
Do you snore?
Tell the truth!
All kidding aside, here’s the deal.
Some snoring sounds like a thunder’s roar.
Others have a rhythmic beat. But snoring is not music; there is nothing entertaining about it.
Yes, I snore!
Fairly loud, but manageable, I am told!
I wish that I didn’t snore. I would like to lay across the bed without a thunderous roar disturbing anyone.
I, like you, if you are a snorer have little, if any control regarding those sounds that come out of our mouths.
We can however use techniques to lessen the sound.
First, let’s understand why snoring occurs.
Medically, snoring occurs when air cannot flow between the nose and mouth during sleep. Because of this airway obstruction, snoring, and the sounds thereof, occur! Sleep apnea and other medical conditions can also be involved. You see, snoring is not a choice. No one snores for the fun of it! Sure, the sounds are embarrassing to the snorer; while, at the same time disturbing to those that the sounds keep from sleeping.
There are aids for the snoring population including nasal strips, masks, mouth pieces, better pillows, etc. We conscientious snorer seek those aids.
Now let’s see… There are a number of interesting “snoring stories” that I can share such as my friend’s roommate who during a retreat vacated the bedroom and slept in the bathtub to get away from the sound. Laughter or not, keep in mind that both parties (the snorer and the person who hears the snoring) are affected! With experimentation and devices, a “quieter” solution can be experienced where no one is disturbed, embarrassed, or kept from a good night’s sleep!
Getting enough sleep is crucial to our health, our work performance, our driving alertness, and so many critical life functions.
There is no better time than now to start a good sleep regimen – including dealing with snoring.
I’m up to the challenge.
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Is your nose in the air?
To have your nose in the air is an expression, an idiom, in fact that is
used to describe the way someone behaves when they think they are better than other people and do not want to speak to them.
Haughty, disdainful, and conceited are synonyms that accurately describe this arrogant behavior.
Where I’m from, the impoverish streets of Glen Allan, Mississippi, we were royally taught better.
We were told that what goes up must come down.
We were taught that it doesn’t cost anything to speak and were chastised if we failed to do so.
We were also taught to be appreciative and humble.
Thinking that you were better than someone else was and is still considered insulting.
Values go a long way; they take you far; they form character that will sustain and guide you no matter where you go.
That character keeps you grounded. It gives you a foundational and a reminiscent voice that resounds over and over … “You are no better than the other person.”
Get your nose out of the air, put your feet on solid ground.
Watch your steps, lower your inflated ego, and stay on a level playing field … so if life knocks you down, you’ll have a shorter distance to fall.
It is highly likely that the people that you turned your nose up to might be there to pick you up.
Then, with a lowered nose, your mouth will automatically open with a lowly voice that speaks to all loudly and clear; a voice that gives thanks; a voice that wreathes of humility!
Keep your feet on the ground!
Arrogance does not always smell good.
Just ask your nose!
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Today, let’s look at the general classifications of people who regularly surface in our lives.
Amazingly, there are Three Basic Types of People.
Generally speaking, we are driven toward classifying any and all things. The number three is a common benchmark. Easy to remember, three symbolizes a harmony that includes and synthesizes two opposites.
Allow me to share the widely accepted “people” categories.
1. First, there are people who make things happen. Then there are people who watch things happen. Lastly, there are people who ask, what happened?
2. There are Givers, Takers, And Matchers (With the most successful and least successful being Givers).
3. There are those who helped you, left you, and put you in difficult times.
Three basic types in three primary categories essentially boil down to one thing –
Who will be by your side and unconditionally love you through your ups and downs; through thick and thin?
Like magnets, we naturally attract to us – who we are!
What category best describes you?
Turn the mirror to yourself.
It takes one to know one!
Before you start dissecting others, look at yourself!
When will you fix what is broken on you?
Have you acknowledged your deficiencies?
Isn’t it easier to change you than them?
Thank goodness, for second chances (and more).
Aren’t you glad that you have more than 3 times to get it right … as you realize that all missteps in the wrong direction may cost you …probably more than thrice!
When we can see us clearly, the people floating around in our space are easier to read and see!
It then becomes easier to determine – who leaves and who stays!
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First impressions are lasting impressions. You never get a second chance to make a first impression.
People size you up within seconds after meeting you.
Therefore, put some serious thoughts and efforts into the process prior to meeting someone for the first time. Approach is key. Lasting impressions can be enhanced if our moves are right. The ultimate goal is to be – memorable.
According to experts, there are several steps to this process. Read below:
10 Tops Tips for making a great First Impression:
1. Maintain eye contact.
2. Keep an opened friendly face.
3. Have good body language.
4. Be genuine.
5. Don’t boast.
7. Appearance matters.
8. Use the person’s name.
9. Have a positive mindset.
So plan your meeting.
Be prepared; be smart.
Make your first impression count.
Have a good introduction and a firm handshake.
Look good; smell good.
Leave knowing that you will be remembered.
Achieve the objective of the meeting … by walking away leaving your mark!
As a final tip – Please don’t be late!
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