Archive for November, 2017


By Vernalee
If you’ll heard it once, you have heard it a zillion times.
Misery loves company.
Yes, it’s true that some unhappy people like other people to be unhappy too.
In fact, some people who are unhappy may get some consolation from knowing that others are unhappy. They may if given the opportunity contribute to your misery.
I’m glad that you and I don’t fit that mold!
Adding to the misery loves company idiom, there are other similiat expression that borders this area.
Check these out!
* Misery loves company, but karma will come full circle.
* Be so busy living your life that there is no time for hate, regret, worry, fret, or fear.
* There are some people who always seem angry and continuously look for conflict. Walk away, the battle they are fighting isn’t with you, it is with themselves.
* Misery loves company, but happiness is a better friend.
* Whoever is trying to bring you down is already below you.
* Bad company corrupts good character.
* The biggest barrier to happiness is association with miserable and angry people.
* Associate yourself with people of good quality for it is better to be alone than in bad company.
* Never tell your problems to just anyone… 20% don’t care and the other 75% are glad you have them. You are one of the fortunate ones if you can find 5% who cares.
* Be careful who you listen to…Not everyone that speaks into your life has your best interest at heart.
* Fake people are the worst people. They always appear to be happy. When inside, they’re so jealous & hurting over someone else’s life …!
* Go ahead judge me, just remember to be perfect the rest of your life.
Remember this important fact.
Misery (just like its opposite companion, joy) comes from within.
Misery doesn’t have to stay.
It can be replaced.
It is difficult to be productive if you are miserable and drowning in a river of sorrow.
Move to the next level and realize your dreams,
Lift yourself up; be in the company of positive people.
I like to be up, not down; laugh not cry; happy not sad.
Don’t you?
Negativity is just not my cup of tea!
Positiveness is so much better!
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PostHeaderIcon LET IT GO!

By Vernalee

We make excuses for holding onto what we know we should let go!
Stop it!
Stop denying what your eyes tell you and your spirit confirms.
When it’s time, it’s time!
Let it go; your load will be lighter; you will feel lighter.
Be free!
Breathe again!
Live again!
You’ll know it’s time to let go when these conditions invade your space.
1. You’re expected to sacrifice your personal values into something that you’re really not.
2. Your trust is continuously broken.
3. Staying in it makes you feel broken, depressed, and frustrated.
4. You feel empty.
5. You justify that it’s worth holding on, when it’s really not.
6. You can’t remember the last time that you were happy.
7. You find that you’re always making sacrifices.
8. Express yourself. When was the last time you did that?
9. You refuse to acknowledge the present because it hurts too much.
10. There’s inconsistencies. Every single time.
11. You’ve exhausted your efforts, but everything stays the same.
Bottom line: It boils down to you!
Shed the weight and the burden.
Let it go!
Be happy!
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By Vernalee
To speak your mind is to say what you think about something very directly.
Some folks put a colloquial spin to the words with the street vernacular such as “Have your say; let your voice be heard; make it plain, or sound off.”
To speak your mind is not as easy as it seems.
Sometimes it is easier to say what people want to hear rather than tell them the truth.
Particularly this is the case for people who are relatively close to you.
It may be hard to rationalize, because the same folks that you may cushion your comments toward don’t care what they say to you.
They just blurt it out; whether distasteful or not.
Should you do the same?
Your rationale for holding back may not add up. What’s even worse is not telling them what you truthfully think! It’s irrational behavior.
Since we’re never too old to start over, maybe, we should do what the experts say and apply these rules:
1. Don’t overly worry about how people might react to you speaking your mind.
2. Don’t let aggressive people intimidate you.
3. Remain calm.
4. Be diplomatic and tasteful.
5. Speak clearly and make yourself heard without shouting.
6. Practice speaking your mind around your family and friends. They do
with you.
7. Believe in yourself. You can do it!
It is so amazing why we hold back the truth.
The truth is such a great tool.
It may hurt someone’s feelings, but it will help with the shaping of their life. However, if we don’t tell people what we should relate to them, we are being deceitful.
We continue lying and they get worse. Bottom line: No one wins!
Don’t we want them to be better and do better?
Even if we have a way with words, fancy dancing and staying clear from the facts are not for the best!
Who is hurting who?
The truth is best.
Speak your mind!
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By Vernalee
Pictured: Daughter Linda Johnson Rice and Dad John Johnson, Founder of Johnson Publishing Company; Publisher of Ebony and Jet Magazines.

Many of the biggest and successful businesses are family owned businesses.
There is Walmart, Mars, Comcast, News Corporation, Ford Motor Company, Carlson, Cargill, Bechtel Corporation, Koch Industries, Motorola, Radio One, TV One, Earl Graves Ltd., Johnson Publishing; to name a few.
Family businesses can be challenging and tough, but experts attribute seven characteristics that successful family owned businesses should have that will make their lives and the businesses easier. They are as follows:
1. Establish clear boundaries around the business and the family.
2. Develop a Succession Plan.
3. Formulate a business and strategic plan.
4. Hold regularly scheduled business meetings.
5. Plan regularly occurring family gatherings.
6. Develop conflict resolution skills.
7. Appoint an outside board of advisors.
This country was built upon small businesses. They are the foundation of the economy. Never discount them; not the one man show or the corner Mom and Pop store.
I know of their importance all too well. I grew up working in a cafe and gas station that my parents owned in Mississippi.
Though these were not sophisticated businesses, I developed a work ethic and an appreciation for what my Daddy and Momma started.
I didn’t then and will never take the “sweat off their backs” for granted. My two children and I work and have worked together side by side in our entrepreneurial endeavors.
Skill development and navigating their paths are as important as the willingness of the understudies to responsibly learn. Legacy is important!
Leaving what you started in good hands is a testament to the originator. Influencing the next generation with your teachings and wisdom is crucial.
Remember … King David gathered the materials, but left the temple for his son Solomon to build.
The scriptures tell us that he prepared his young inexperienced son for this future undertaking.
Fast forwarding, it is hopeful that hard work and wisdom rub off and take roots from one generation to the next. Children and grands take heed!
It’s a big responsibility to continue, improve, and enhance what your family started.
Proudly walk in their shoes. Nothing is worse than destroying what was placed in your hands to cultivate.
Laziness, a lack of leadership, and careless disregard are disrespectful.
Be a good steward and carry the family torch!
It’s a blessing; a blessing indeed!
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By Vernalee
According to the Bible Study Tools, the below are brief references / excerpts / scriptures of the 25 most frequently read Bible verses. Here goes:
Jeremiah 29:11 – God’s Plans…
Psalm 23 – The Lord is My Shepherd…
1 Co 13: 4-8 – The definition of love …
Phil 4:13 – “I can do everything through him who strengthens me.”
John 3:16 – “For God so loved the world that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believes in him shall not perish but have everlasting life.”
Romans 8:28 all things, God works for the the good of those who love him..
Isaiah 41:10 – Do not fear for I am with you …
Prov 3:5,6 -“Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your Understanding. In all ways acknowledge him and he will make your path straight.”
Ps 46:1 – God is our refuge and strength …
Galatians 5:22,23 – The Fruit of the Spirit …
Hebrew 11:1 – “Faith is being sure of what we have for and certain of what we do not see.”
2 Tim 1:7 – For God …gave us a spirit of power, of love, of self discipline.
1Co 10:13 …he will not let you be tempted beyond what you can bear …
Prob 22:6 – “Train up a child in the way he should go and when he is old he will not turn from it.”
Isaiah 40:31 – Hope in the Lord …
Joshua 1:9 …God will be with you wherever you go.
Philippians 4:6 – “Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything by prayer and petition with thanksgiving present your requests to God.”
Hebrew 12:2 … Jesus …sat down at the right hand of the throne.
John 10:10 – The thief comes only to steal and kill and destroy, I have come that they may have life …
Zephaniah 3:17 – The Lord your God is with you…
2 Co 5:17 – “Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation, the old has gone, the new has come.”
James 5:16 – Confess your sins to each and pray for each other …
Deut 31:6 …God will never leave you or forsake you.
1Co 16:13 “Be on guard, stand firm in the faith, be men of courage, be strong.”
Matt 11:28 – “Come to me, all who are weary and burdened and I will give you rest.”
Don’t let your Bible collect dust; don’t let it sit on the bookshelf.
Read it!
Communicate with God!
Get to know his word.
What scriptures have you committed to memory?
What scriptures can uplift you when all else fails?
As for me, “I can do all things through God who strengthens me!”
Happy Sunday!
God bless!
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PostHeaderIcon A TEFLON MAN – NO WAY!

By Vernalee
Since we’re cooking this week, let’s continue.
When Teflon cookware hit the market, women were excited!
Finally, there were nonstick pots and pans that didn’t require scrubbing.
Rinse them with soapy water, wipe, and you are done in a jack flash minute. It’s that easy!
Though this Teflon magic was ingenious in the kitchen, no woman wants a Teflon type man in her life.
True that!
Who wants to be in a relationship with a man who doesn’t stick or with a man who cannot give devoted attention to her and her emotions.
Lack of attention correlates to a lack of dependability. No one wants to be with someone that you cannot depend upon.
In addition to his lack of stickiness, a
Teflon man is the “about to do, but never did” type.
The upside is if things don’t work, you don’t have to flex your muscle to remove his existence; the glide will require less effort!
In the final analysis, your life will thank you for his removal.
Once gone, he can no longer eat your food (more money for you) and you no longer have to tolerate his lack of emotional or financial contribution.
What a slick culprit!
He’s gone!
This advertising slogan says its best: “Ditch the Non-Stick!”
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By Vernalee
Now that are tummies are full from a hearty Thanksgiving meal, it’s a perfect time to talk about cooks and cooking. I’ve added a twist or two to “spice” up our discussion.
Here we go!
The phrase, “Too many cooks in the kitchen” generally refers to too many people working on the same project with no central direction while achieving inferior results.
They are busy cooking and dicing ingredients of some sort, but no one knows what the other is doing.
Although the meal is prepared, it doesn’t taste the best or reflect superior quality.
Let’s move this scenario to the office. When directions to perform tasks are coming from too many people, (many of which don’t know procedurally what to do), you usually end up with an organized mess!
Many times the tasks at hand do not get accomplished or they are performed in a substandard fashion. Whether in the kitchen or at the office, the absence of leadership is a major stumbling block.
Who’s in charge?
Everybody, somebody, anybody, or nobody! Think about it!
If there is a strong leader, it doesn’t matter how many people, cooks or otherwise, there are.
A good leader gives clear cut and solid directions.
A good leader trims the fat.
He/she can “cook” up a storm and is not afraid to get their hands dirty. They are credible, respected, and their judgment is trusted.
They walk the talk.
People follow them instinctually in the kitchen, in the office, in life.
If and when a meal is burnt, it is easy to blame the cook; but at the end of the day, it is the management (the leadership) that takes the hit. The buck stops there.
Dreaded they are if they let the cooks spiral out of control.
Mediocrity, at best is served.
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By Vernalee
Happy Thanksgiving!
As we cook, bless the food, and enjoy the day off, it is a joyous time of reflections.
Oh yes … Thanksgiving is more than a day of the huge feast – turkey, ham, dressing, cakes, and pies; though the delectable food is yummy to our tummies! It’s more than a day of parades and countless football games.
It is a day to be thankful – thankful for life, loved ones, family, friends, and the amenities of living!
Recognized as one of the busiest travel times, many people travel near and far to be with and share time with people that they love. Kindred spirits are the order of the day.
On the flip side, the holidays can be a lonely time for some!
There are some folks who are not as fortunate as others. The bread of loneliness they may eat.
They may have few people who sincerely and lovingly care about them. Regretfully, some may even spend the day alone.
So this holiday season, let’s share our fortunes of love, kindness, and resources with others.
Give financial blessings and blessings of your time.
Let not your love be selfish and superficial; ignoring the needs of others.
Turning your head should not be an option.
God will see you if you do.
Let your love be overflowing like a cornucopia. I am sure that the recipients of your generosity will be thankful!
For certain, you would have left them better than you found them!
That feeling should fill your soul as much as the Thanksgiving meal filled your tummy!
Happy Thanksgiving!
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By Vernalee

Thanksgiving starts the holiday countdown. We start preparing meals, giving gifts, attending parties, and being festive. Happiness and joy fill the air.
That’s great!
But … what about those people who don’t have anyone to celebrate or share their time with? What do they do? How can we help them?
There are so many pointers that we can give to those who are lonely at the holiday times.
Take a look.
1. Understand that you are not all alone.
2. Rethink your expectations.
3. Get connected.
4. Cultivate gratitude.
5. Give to others.
6. Examine your feelings.
7. Remember, alone doesn’t mean lonely.
8. Change up things.
9. Make someone else happy.
10. Don’t be afraid to initiate. Reach out to family and friends.
11. The holidays are not a time to open up old wounds.
12. Limit how much you take on.
13. Send care packages.
14. Volunteer. Get involved.
15. When no one is around, you always have God.
For those who have recently lost loved ones, these holidays will certainly feel different because they will not be here as they traditionally have been to cut the turkey at Thanksgiving, open presents at Christmas, or bring in the New Year. Let’s pray for strength.
In closing, here’s a shout out to those people who may feel lonely and a little down and out this holiday season.
Don’t have a pity party.
As difficult as it may be, be uplifted; be thankful; stay prayerful.
May God Bless you and relieve your loneliness during this holiday season.
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By Vernalee

Have you ever been anxiously waiting to hear from someone to get the latest news or results?
Have you been so anxious that you paced the floor walking as if there is no tomorrow?
For reasons of anxiety, you simply cannot sit down!
If the answer is yes, join the crowd.
Many refer to this anxiousness as sitting on pins and needles.
So, what does that mean?
“Sitting on pins and needs” is used to describe someone who can’t sit still/rest easily, often because of anxiousness/worry/impatience.
That terminology could describe many facets of our lives.
Our emotionality can be all over the board.
It begs to ask – How can we effectively deal with anxiety?
Let’s see what the experts recommend that we do to cope.
Here are some suggested steps.
1. Identify the source of your anxiety.
2. Determine if your worry is solvable.
3. Consider the worst.
4. Accept uncertainty.
5. Consider the use of your worry.
6. Focus on both the positive and the negative.
7. Avoid thinking in terms of all or nothing.
8. Don’t make it into a catastrophe.
9. Try not to jump to conclusions.
10. Don’t let your emotions control your reasoning.
11. Avoid making everything personal.
The more we practice reducing our stress, the better.
There are so many issues that we cannot escape or run away from; so many that we must face.
Once we deal with the stress pockets, we can move on.
If we don’t, we will resort back to sitting on pins and needles!
Pins and needles hurt!
They pierce your skin.
Be comfortable.
I want my buttock to be cushioned.
Don’t you?
No one go looking for trouble.
No one wants to be purposefully hurt and feel the accompanying pain and anxiety.
If you can avoid what you know will hurt, why not?
Replacing anxieties with pleasurable comfort is the goal.
Let’s work toward that goal.
Are you ready?
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