Archive for November, 2017
“Do not judge and you will not be judged. Do not condemn and you will not be condemned. Forgive and you will be forgiven.” Luke 6:37
Who are you to judge?
Who made you the superior watchdog?
Did you know that in God’s eyes that you are not any better than anyone else? Don’t let your valuable material possessions and fat bank account fool you!
Because of a misguided spirit of superiority, some people spend too much time monitoring and judging other folks while letting their business go astray.
In fact, many wait on others to make mistakes so that they can be the first to bring down their gavel pronouncing condemnation!
Sad, but true!
There are a few things that all should realize.
1. First, only God can judge because he sees all actions; those that are visible as well as the hidden and disguised.
2. Secondly, if we properly utilize our time to keep our lives on track, we won’t have the time to judge others.
3. Thirdly, it is a huge job to do the right thing. It is tough to stay focused and remain on course.
4. Lastly, we all want to be able to stand before God on judgment day and have him say, “Well done, my good and faithful servant!”
In other words, because of the weakness of the flesh, it is easier to do what’s wrong instead of what’s right.
In Matthew 26:41, we find –
“Watch and pray so that you will not fall into temptation. The spirit is willing, but the flesh is weak.”
We have to constantly work at it.
There are so many challenges.
Minding our own business is one!
Forgiveness is another.
When people error, it is critical that we possess a forgiving spirit.
We must stop looking at others to find their dirt.
Isn’t it a monumental task to just keep our “house” clean and life in order?
If you are like most people, that is a job in and of itself.
Do your work and let God do his!
Judge not; condemn not; forgive – yes!
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Many viewers tune in on Thursday’s nights to watch Kerry Washington in her role as Scandal’s star, Olivia Pope, a crisis management expert to the President and high profiled individuals.
However, some of us need not wait to see the weekly series, when we can get a daily snapshot of scandalous activities in our respective workplaces!
The intriguing / inappropriate accompaniments – lies, harassment, innuendoes – are included in the roundup that has become standard office conduct. How about that!
If shouting matches, humiliating comments, degradation of coworkers, sexual escapades, theft, abuse, sabotage of material, discrediting others’ professional character, intellectual gymnastics to prove who is the smartest …. describe your office environment, you can perhaps identify with several, if not all of the above illustrations/post it notes.
Incredible, isn’t it?
If your office environment can put the successful “Scandal” to shame, send a brief narrative and character descriptions to its creative creator, Shonda Rhimes.
It may become her next blockbuster television series!
You then will “be in the money” and not in your scandalous office!
I’ll drink to that!
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I had a fabulous shopping experience last week.
My finds were terrific.
Guess where I went?
No, I did not go to Macy’s or Saks Fifth Avenue at Legacy Village or Beachwood Place. Waking up to see the Eiffel Tower out of my Hilton Hotel window and walking the streets of Paris cruising from one boutique to another would have been great. It is on my bucket list!
But I was in none of those places.
Instead and not as exciting as Paris or NYC, I walked into my guest room and went shopping in my closet.
It was there that I found a number of items with price tags on them.
I am serious!
Where did these items come from? The answer is simple.
I went shopping some time ago, bought some items that I liked, put them in the closet, and forgot that they were there. That’s right.
How many folks can tell the same story? Hush!
Yet, I don’t know how many times that I have said, “I don’t have anything to wear!” What about you? Shame … on you and me!
What I realized is that my closet was not organized so I didn’t know exactly what I had. Oh my!
It didn’t surprise me that surveys stipulate that the average woman spends over $3500.00 a year and some change on clothing.
However, I am here to testify that my recent shopping experience was within arms reach as I did an archival dig in my closet.
I found what I wanted within the comfort of my home.
Take it from me! So before you go to the store, go to your closet first.
A new outfit and accessories probably await you.
Afterwards, here’s what you need to do:
* Team up with your tailor.
* Repair and Renew.
* Accessorize outside your jewelry box.
* Get crafty.
* Mix and Match it up.
* Strategically reposition and organize your clothing.
Now because I took a few steps, walked into the next room, and pulled out a few hangers that were already there, I have about 10 – 12 new outfits. Groovy!
I am thrilled. I have new glamorous outfits to sport a new look with no money spent!.
I am also rethinking my look and style. It’s time for a makeover since I got up off my rear end to move beyond my comfort zone of wearing the same things over and over.
To my fan club, you will be seeing me in a flash of more colors than my standard traditional black. While searching, I also found colorful scarves and attachments that I didn’t know I had! I plan to add a little spice to my life by accessorizing with vibrant sun bright colors … and more.
You go girl!
Time and energy are my only hurdles because I have 3 more closets to go! Then I’m off to search through my jewelry boxes.
Vintage jewelry, anyone?
Join me … but do so in your own closets … not mine!
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Want to go shopping anyone?
When you go to the stores, be prepared.
Have a plan.
Smart shopping requires research, skills, and time.
My daughter Phoebe and I tend to go to a particular shop, purchase the items we desire, and go home.
My nieces, however are shopping divas with a skill set that can rival the best.
They are the “shop till you drop” ladies.
They can dig up a pricey Saks Fifth Avenue designer suit at a bargain warehouse for such a ridiculous price that it is laudable. I kid you not!
I marvel at their skills!
Their finds leave you speechless!
I don’t know if they have telescopic vision, but they know where all the sales are (near and far; on line and off) including the moment of their occurrence. Finding the “blue light” specials is their specialty as they emerge into one or several of the smart shoppers categories below:
1. The Bargain Hunter – Gets the best price.
2. The Impulse Buyer – Acts quickly to snag a deal.
3. The Loyalist – Uses rewards to save big.
4. The Researcher – Compares every offer.
5. The Negotiator – Always haggles.
6. The Shopper on a mission – Plans strategically.
To my nieces, I am recommending that you set up a personal shopping business.
You will make a mint!
Sometimes, I wonder who is the best shopper – Beverly, Sharon, Stefe, or Stacy.
It’s too close to call. They are all … just that good!
Here’s my advice girls –
To get you started, I’ll prepare your business plan and develop the necessary business particulars.
Use your skills and talents to shop for others and make big money doing the one thing that you love – shopping!
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Though your nose may not grow like the fictitious Pinocchio if you tell a lie, it is a statistical fact that we all lie – from time to time. Shut your mouth!
Stop lying by saying that you don’t!
Some of us are better liars than others; some can even lie convincingly without blinking an eye.
It may be a little lie, a big lie, or a “shading” of the truth lie by withholding critical information.
Yet, for certain, regardless of the size or content of the story – a lie is a lie!
Yes, that’s right, though admission may not be easy, you may be a big, fat liar.
According to current research, “by age four, 90% of children have grasped the concept of lying, and it just gets worse from there.
Just how bad is it?
A. How frequent do we lie?
1. According to a recent study conducted by the University of Massachusetts, 60% of adults can’t have a ten minute conversation without lying at least once. But even that number makes it sound better than it really is; those people in the study who did lie actually told an average of 3 lies during their brief chat. And I know you’re sitting there right now insisting you would be part of the 40% that didn’t lie. That’s what the liars in the study thought, too. When they watched the taped conversations back, they were shocked at how many fibs they had told. The average number of lies told per day was 1.65. That number is surprisingly low. Many participants were lying about the extent of their lying!
B. Who do we lie to?
1. We lie to everyone. Our parents get the worst of it, according to “The Day America Told the Truth,” with 86% of us lying to them regularly; followed by friends (75%); siblings (73%); and spouses (69%). But in general we lie about things that aren’t important, little things that we think will make us look better or more like-able.
C. What do we lie about?
1. Liars are indiscriminate on their subject matter. However, sometimes we do lie about things that matter. According to one estimate, 40% of people lie on their resumes. According to a study by Scientific American, a whopping 90% of people looking for a date online, lie in their profile. The biggest fib told by women is an obvious one; on average ladies claim to weigh eight and a half pounds less than they actually do. Men, on the other hand, try to use their profile to convince potential partners that they are taller, richer, and/or better educated than they actually are. But before you vow never to trust anyone again, here’s some food for thought: A study by the University of Toronto found that it is actually the most trusting people who are best able to tell when they are being lied to.”
Lie detector tests are definitely out of the question. No telling how we would fare there!
It is highly likely that many would be too stressed to take the test because they can’t conceal the lies.
Are you in awe of those who lie and think that you think that they told the truth?
Let’s not forget that the so called “private” conservative people who are reluctant to tell you stuff are not reserved when it comes to lying.
They are often times the bigger offenders since their lives are built around not telling their business.
Keeping secrets and keeping you out of their business remain their number one goal. Lies aid in that process.
Did I hear someone reciting the childhood poem, “Liar, liar, pants on fire?” The fireman’s truth is to hose you down with water to extinguish the flames! Unbelievable – once you dry out, you start lying again!
All of this tells us one thing:
The truth is a luxury; it is worth its weight in gold since we hear so little of it!
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“Don’t doubt yourself, that’s what haters are for.”
― Turcois Ominek
The biggest difference between successful people and unsuccessful people isn’t intelligence or opportunity or resources. It’s the belief that they can make their goals happen.
We all deal with vulnerability, uncertainty, and failure. Trust in yourself that you can move forward, then you will figure it out.
The below views should be encompassed in your belief system. Take a look.
A. Nurturing Positive Views
1. Make a list of past accomplishments.
2. Talk to people who love you.
3. Find a cause that you believe in.
4. Set realistic goals.
5. Reflect at the end of each day.
6. Be persistent.
B. Furthering Good Habits
1. Connect with people
2. Build yourself up.
3. Find ways to keep moving forward.
4. Be proactive.
5. Focus on the positive.
6. Do things that are hard.
7. Practice speaking up for yourself.
8. Help others.
C. Taking Care of Yourself
1. Pay attention to your appearance and hygiene.
2. Nourish your body with healthy food.
3. Exercise every day.
4. Get plenty of sleep.
5. Relax every day.
6. Maintain a pleasant environment.
Believe in yourself!
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Are you one of those folks who think that you are the smartest person walking; that no one can fool you because you have all the answers?
Of course, you don’t have to answer that question.
We often times deny who we really are anyway.
For sure, you may have attained the educational accolades and be recognized professionally.
You may even have the cream of the crop in terms of material possessions.
I’m proud and happy to see the progression.
You worked hard and invested the time, energies, and financial resources to acquire those things.
I ain’t mad at ya!
But before we move on, I pass on a hint that was grilled in my head early on.
I hope you find its acceptance.
* Stay humble!
* Keep your feet on solid ground!
* What goes up may come down!
* Don’t let what you have change who you are!
* Don’t elevate your level of importance or put your arrogant head in the clouds, and look down on others.
May I share with you an observation?
Growing up in small towns illuminates your vision.
It enables you to see things – up close and personal.
Many, in fact most of my hometown folks were uneducated; some illiterate.
Yet, they were some of the smartest people that I have meet.
Interesting, but true.
So today, read my lips.
What you see is not always what lies within!
I caution you to stop underestimating folks!
You know the group that the elite pompously relegate to the corner of ignorance for not being able to intelligently process information to their level of acceptance.
There is a plethora of one liners that are used to describe them.
Here is a modest list:
* Not the sharpest tool in the shed.
* Dumb as a bag of nails and a box of rocks.
* Not the brightest light in the harbor.
* The light’s on but no one’s home.
* Not the brightest bulb in the box.
* A few screws short of a hardware store.
* A few cards short of a deck.
* A few fries short of a Happy Meal.
* About as sharp as a marble.
* Only has one oar in the water.
* The elevator doesn’t go all the way to the top floor.
* A few peas short of a casserole, and of course,
* Not the sharpest knife in the drawer.
They may not have been “A” students, but their common sense may put them light years ahead or equal to the academic greats with their street sense of understanding, interpretations, and calculations.
Much their eyes have seen!
Common sense is their strong suit.
You probably know some of these folks; I proudly know many.
So be careful!
They let the name calling roll off their backs.
The streets have toughen them up and granted them immunity.
“Sticks and stones may break their bones, but names will never hurt them!” Therefore, don’t disregard what they know!
Don’t underestimate their intelligence.
When it comes to street savvy, they wrote the book and may can run circles around the best!
They may not be the sharpest knife in the drawer, but their blade still cuts!
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Prayer is powerful!
Prayers change things!
If you don’t believe me, try it for yourself!
Years ago, the Isley Brothers had a hit song, “Nothing but smooth sailing.” How we wish that living and life were just “smooth.”
Bumps in the road occur.
Navigating through and around difficulties can be challenging until you put God at the wheel.
We have to learn to surrender and give our troubles to him.
Talking to God intimately through prayer is the first step.
* Ask for your needs.
* Ask for guidance/direction.
* Ask God for his protection.
* Ask God what your heart desires. It is your one on one time.
Prayer allows you to speak directly to God
You’ll get a chance to see first hand God’s goodness!
You become an eyewitness to his greatness; his healing powers; his making your crooked paths straight.
Yes, cruising through life’s journeys, you may have “down” days, but with prayer and God’s help, you have the ability to rise above your difficulties!
Nothing beats coming to the Father with incessant prayer.
The Lord hears you; he will not leave you or forsake you.
Get to know him.
Read the Word and find comfort therein. Sing praises that will be calming to your soul.
When we come to God in prayer, humility is imperative. We must realize that we are not perfect.
In Gospel great Donny McClurkin’s words. “We fall down, but we get up. Saints are just sinners who fell down and got up.” God will provide.
He will not leave us to go it alone. As Matthew 6:26 reads: Look at the birds of the air; they do not sow or reap or store away in barns, and yet your heavenly Father feeds them. Are you not much more valuable than they?” Hallelujah!
Thank you Lord for your love, grace, protection, and covering.
Thank you Lord for forgiveness and second opportunities.
As I fall on my knees in prayer, I ask you Heavenly Father to order my steps. Amen.
Happy Sunday to my followers!
Is there a responsibility to reach back and help people?
I think so!
Taking the time to share your time, energies, resources, and knowledge is needed if we truly want to impact the well being of others.
Being a sounding board also goes far. Nothing beats listening ears alongside the hands that help!
Think about it.
Since God has the whole world in his hands, your hands helping someone else isn’t too much to ask; is it?
Besides, the “giving back” process isn’t that difficult or time consuming.
What comes easy and natural to some can be foreign and difficult to others. Regardless, there is power in giving back!
It is the right thing to do. The residuals pay off bountifully.
Your selflessness, caring, thoughtfulness, and actions of making someone else’s life better will strengthen you immeasurably!
It is very fulfilling and satisfying. Try it; you will see and agree!
Together, we can make a difference. We can make the world a better place!
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We cannot go back in time and redo what we messed up.
We can apologize!
Is it worth it or is your ego more valuable.
You must decide.
Was it a misstep?
Was it worth giving up everything for the action taken?
Is your pride in the way?
Pride always come before the fall.
Proverbs 16:18 tells us.
“Pride goes before destruction,
a haughty spirit before a fall.”
Two words that are difficult for many to say; two words that separate the men from the boys; two words that reveal our maturity.
Since we all misstep, admittance and an apology speak more to our character than the error of our ways.
More importantly, it shows that you are not above saying I’m sorry!
Alright, I feel the need to say, “I’m sorry!”
If you do too, let’s talk.
It doesn’t matter who calls first.
It doesn’t matter who makes the first step?
For sure, whoever is the biggest person will establish contact.
The cowards will be just that – cowards!
Pieces are meant to be picked up sometimes.
They can be put back together; often times stronger than before.
We’ll see what wins; our regrets or our egos.
That’s what it boils down to; make no mistake about it!
Speaking of power …
Who will make the first step?
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