Archive for January, 2018


By Vernalee
imageSometimes, it cannot always be business as usual.
Change is necessary to foster progress. For many, change poses a reluctance. Why upset the apple cart?
However, change is imperative in many situations, which brings me to one of my favorite management cliches: Thinking outside the box.
“Thinking outside the box is a metaphor that means to think differently, unconventionally, or from a new perspective.
It refers to novel or creative thinking. Originating in the 1970s and 1980s, this expression poses a challenge to solve the so-called “nine dots” puzzle, whose solution requires some lateral thinking. To think outside the box is to look further and to try not thinking of the obvious things, but to try thinking of the things beyond them.”
To do so may require a paradigm shift in our thought processes and our methodology to problem solving.
In that light, I share with you many wise sayings that will if no more encourage critical thinking.
Here goes:
* When nothing goes right … Go left.
* “Instead of thinking outside the box, get rid of the box.” (Deepak Chopra)
* Thinking is not enough, you have to act.
* The 6 thinking hats are: Thinking About Thinking; Data/Info; Creative Thinking; Benefits/Value/Logic; Critical Thinking; Feelings/Intuition, Hunches, Emotions.
* “Being able to think outside the box presupposes you were able to think in it.” (Bob Lutz).
* To live a creative life, we must loose our fear of being wrong.
* “The true sign of intelligence is not knowledge, but imagination.” (Albert Einstein).
As for me, I occasionally think out loud. Yes, I have been known to put on my thinking hat.
It is imperative to move our agenda forward which means that we must step out the box … as needed.
If To “Vernalize” this point, I share with you one of my personal mottos: “If it is to be, it is left up to me.”
Today is a national holiday in the Lee Family. It is my youngest, Phoebe’s birthday. She definitely thinks out of the box and will move the box if it gets in her way. A very family centered, driven, and spiritual daughter, may God bless you for all that you unselfishly do for our family! Happy Birthday and Blessings Phoebe! God’s Speed!
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By Vernalee
Years ago, on one of my daughter’s summer vacation trips to Mississippi, she and her girlfriends were in church. So the adolescents decided to “get happy” pretending that they had been filled with the Holy Ghost.
As they were allegedly “shouting,” the little girls started rolling on the floor. Much to her chagrin, when my daughter opened her eyes, she saw her perturbed Grandmother standing before her. Her Grandma Phoebe with her Bible in her hands sternly said to her namesake, “Little Phoebe, if you don’t get up off that floor, I am gonna tear your tail up! You don’t play with God!”
Telling the story invokes laughter now, but it wasn’t funny to my daughter at the time.
It was quite embarrassing.
It did however teach her about the sacredness of God and provided a lifelong spiritual lesson. Galatians 6:7 states, “Do not be deceived. God cannot be mocked. A man reaps what he sows.”
Although this story is one of her favorite spiritual childhood memories and Grandma stories about her trips down South, she holds dear Galatians 6:9 as a spiritual cornerstone. “Let us not become weary in doing good, for at the proper time, we will reap a harvest if we do not give up.”
Happy Sunday.
God Bless!
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PostHeaderIcon THE “S” WORD

By Vernalee
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The “S” word – after all these years – I dread hearing and worst yet, seeing it! Snow, snow, and more snow!
Welcome to winter wonderland! Despite the mild temperatures that we recently had, winter is now in full bloom.
Accompanied by swift blowing winds and frigid cold single digit and below zero temperatures, falling snow has arrived!
Those tiny white crystal flakes (marvelously made where no two flakes are the same) have fallen from the sky and lined our yards and driveways…as expected, once again!
It’s a yearly ritual.
A glimpse out of your window shows piles of mountainous white stacks of those flakes as far as your eyes can see.
Snow is everywhere.
Lest not forget the ice sickles!
Soon, we will be watching kids play in the snow. They build snowmen, slid down the slippery slopes and roll in the snow’s glistening whiteness; all in the name of fun!
Some folks cannot wait for the ski slopes to be covered with those white glorious flakes … and a gliding they will go!
There’s more!
When your morning is consumed by listening to NBC’s Weatherman Al Roker tell you how many inches will fall in “your neck of the woods,” it’s too much! It takes me over the edge!
I need not be reminded of the white flakes. We have never been on friendly terms!
Driving in it can be challenging; sliding, swerving, gliding everywhere. A normal 30 minute commute can easily become a 2 hour journey with the accumulation of that rapidly falling “white stuff.” Snow can bring traffic to a squealing halt; as it recently did in Cleveland, Ohio! Need I remind those who were stuck in it!
Going out of your door requires planned preparation. Included in this exit amongst other things are – shoveling your pathway/driveway; layering your body with tons of clothing to keep warm (aw shucks, I forgot my gloves again); putting on fur lined boots; keeping a survival kit in your vehicle; need I say more!
For those lovers of cold weather and snow flakes, don’t take this the wrong way. You can stay in the chill!
As for me, I am looking for a warm retreat. Perhaps, the glaring sun of my native Mississippi spoiled me!
I must find me a vacation home where I can escape for the winter months. I’m surprised that I have endured the chills this long. There’s no better time than the present to start the market search.
That beach front property on the Gulf Coast in Biloxi, Mississippi is looking very tempting!
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By Vernalee
It always seems impossible until it’s done.”
Nelson Mandela

“It’s too much; I cannot do it; it’s too weighty on my heart and mind; it is an impossible task.”
How many times have you heard that or said it yourself? How many times have you wanted to just give up? When it is not easy and the answers are not at your fingertip, the job can become overwhelming; particularly when you want it to happen immediately.
The beauty of accomplishment is that once all is done, you forget about its arduousness.
Perseverance is key. Here’s how we can do it.
1. Strengthening your resolve.
A. Know what you want.
B. Get rid of self doubt.
C. Practice staying cool.
D. Don’t get dragged down by haters.
E. Know your value.
F. Enjoy life.
2. Dealing with obstacles.
A. Face reality.
B. Weigh your options carefully.
C. Listen to your conscience.
D. Stand up for yourself.
E. Learn from your mistakes.
3. Staying resilient.
A. Keep your mind and body healthy.
B. Keep things in perspective.
C. Nourish your spirituality.
D. Stay true to who you are.
As the late great Nelson Mandela said, “It always seems impossible until it’s done.”
Let that statement motivate you to move forward and beyond adversities.
You might be pleasantly surprised at what lies within and ahead.
We often underestimate our inner strength and ourselves!
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By Vernalee
gypsy nester
Gray hairs show years of living.
As Proverbs state, “Gray hairs are crowns of glory.”
Amazing wisdom those gray strings provide.
That is why – listening to our elders pay off!
Try it!
After talking to our elders, we will realize that there is truly nothing new under the sun!
They have most likely experienced or witnessed whatever we are attempting or undergoing.
“Bought sense or learned sense” is the optimal catchall phrase.
Do you want to learn from others’ experience or do you want to “buy” your sense and try everything yourself?
As for me, give me that gray haired wisdom!
I love sage advice. I don’t mind listening and learning.
I have avoided “many a headaches” from those gray headed ones!
My late Mother would always say, “I’ve seen a little bit of this and little bit of that.” Because of her life experience, her advice often saved me once I realized around age 35 or so that she really knew more that me!
You know in our teenage and young adult years, we feel that we know it all.
It is not until we realize that there is no need in reinventing the wheel or learning everything the hard way (when there is a template of experience), that we actually grow!
It’s called maturity.
Call me a copy cat if you will, but that hand me down wisdom has saved me a lot of grief…and time!
I’m appreciative!
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By Vernalee

Do you know who your real friends are?
May be this description can help you.
Fake Friends – Never ask for food.
Real Friends – Are the reason you have No Food.
Fake Friends – Call your parents Mr./Mrs.
Real Friends – Call your parents DAD/MOM.
Fake Friends – Have never seen you cry.
Real Friends – Cry with you.
Fake Friends – Borrow your stuff for a few days then give it back.
Real Friends – Keep your stuff so long they forgot it was yours.
Fake Friends – Know about you.
Real Friends – Could write a book about you.
Fake Friends – Would knock on your front door.
Real Friends – Walk right in and say I’m home.
Fake Friends – Will help you when you fall over.
Real Friends – Will jump on top of you and shout “Dog – Pile.”
Fake Friends – Are around for a while.
Real Friends – Are around for life.
Fake Friends – Say “Love you” in a joking manner.
Real Friends – Say “I love you” and mean it.
Fake Friends – Will read this.
Real Friends – Will steal this.
Note: Some things are already written, you merely need to duplicate the content. Thus, was the case for the description of real versus fake friends. I give full editorial credit because I am real and not fake! 
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By Vernalee
There are some messages that you hear that resonates. “The Seven Ups of Life” is one of them. Motivational and uplifting, take a look.

1. Wake Up –
Decide to have a good day.
“Today is the day the Lord hath made;
let us rejoice and be glad in it.”
Psalms 118:24

2. Dress Up —
The best way to dress up is to put on a smile.
A smile is an inexpensive way to improve your looks.
“The Lord does not look at the things man looks at.
Man looks at outward appearance;
but the Lord looks at the heart.”
I Samuel 16:7

3. Shut Up —
Say nice things and learn to listen.
“Listen to advice and accept instruction,
and in the end you will be wise.”
Proverbs 19:20

4. Stand Up —
For what you believe in.
Stand for something or you will fall for anything.
“Let us not be weary in doing good; for at the proper time,
we will reap a harvest if we do not give up.
Therefore, as we have opportunity, let us do good…”
Galatians 6:9-10

5. Look Up —
To the Lord.
“I can do everything through Christ who strengthens me.”
Philippians 4:13

6. Reach Up —
For something higher.
“…keep seeking the things above, where Christ is,
seated at the right hand of God.”
Colossians 3:1

7. Lift Up —
Your Prayers.
“Do not worry about anything;
Philippians 4:6

For certain, being up is better than its alternative – being down!
Positive thinking and actions are assets. If you continue in the right direction with hard work, a defined plan, and determination, you will reach your ultimate destination…successfully!
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PostHeaderIcon HAPPY NEW YEAR!

By Vernalee
marketing pilgrim
Happy New Year!
What did you do on New Year’s Eve?
Some folks attended Night Watch church services; some stayed home, others traveled; some attended parties and celebrations.
Wherever you sang “Auld Lang Syne” and wherever you were to bring in the New Year, it’s 2018!
You have been blessed to see another day of life; a brand new year!

As is the case for most of us, we have every intention of starting the new year off right!
Yes sir!
We desire making constructive changes in our lives.
Let’s see, before I forget….. Get ready!
Here comes a list of resolutions.
There are things that we wish to stop; to start; to finish; to change; to continue; to do!
How many of our varied resolutions will be accomplished and how many, unfulfilled are yet to be seen.
Time will tell.
It always does.
For sure, one day of improvements is better than none.
The common New Year resolutions include becoming a better person; taking control of your finances, losing weight, getting healthier, exercising more, becoming spiritual fit, accomplishing goals, etc. – some of which are monumental, some not.
Whatever our goals (professional, personal, or spiritual), they are ours to monitor, keep, maintain, accomplish, and hopefully not forfeit.
In closing, I take this time to wish my inner circle of loved ones, family, friends, and those in my reading audience – a healthy, prosperous, and successful New Year!
Thank you for your loyal following of my blog, “Stuff We Talk About!”
I am looking forward to our continued association.
We have so much “stuff” to talk about in 2018!
Happy New Year!
God Bless!

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