Archive for March, 2018


By Vernalee
Since the movie, Black Panther, has broken so many records (Kudos, by the way), let’s take a look at the Black women super heroes.
Interesting, we don’t frequently see their portrayals, but there are over 60 Black female superheroes featured in Marvel, D.C. Comics, movies and the like. Iron Man, Superman, Batman … Look out! For those who think that our strength as women is limited to our sheer existence, think again! We are and have always been a force to be reckoned with even if the media does not give us the deserved recognition. From the days of slavery, we maintained our mental saneness though our precious children were taken and sold. Never a stranger to hard work and difficulties, we worked in the cotton fields from sunrise to sunset; coercively became our Master’s mistresses; nursed their children; and cooked and cleaned their houses. Need I say more! History tells the story better than me. Yes, we Black women have endured a lot! Through it all, we have maintained our dignity and respect. We have amazing inherited strength that has been passed down through the generations. No wonder we are super-heroes!
Photo reprint: Black Wonder Woman – illustrated by Anthony Pugh.


By Vernalee
Are you out on a limb?
Are you out there by yourself when everyone else is comfortably sitting down in their Lazyboy recliners?
Why; may I ask or is it none of my business?
Being out on a limb typically places you in a difficult, vulnerable position where you lack support.
It’s not a desirable position and poses great risks.
Oops, watch it; be careful that you don’t fall!
I just made an interesting observation: No one is facing the risks but you! Amazing!
It’s not the best way to learn survival techniques, but if you are out there, it will teach you a lesson or two including.
**Preventing and minimizing risks.
**Balancing techniques.
**Minimizing the risks of falling to avoid physical and emotional injuries.
Hanging onto that skinny limb will also show you whose on your side, whose not; and who will be there to catch you if you fall!
Hopefully, the answers to those questions are illuminating.
Who might it be; who will be your catcher?
Or are you out there alone?
I hope that you don’t come up short! People that you thought that you could count on can disappear faster than you can blink your eyes!
The worst case scenario is that if no one is there, for certain, the hard ground will catch you … bruises and all!
In the future, limit your exposure! Walking on flat ground is a better choice than being on a limb!
You decide!
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By Vernalee
Doesn’t that doggie look so adorable?
He is the cutest thing!
His alluring appearance reminds me of some folks that a few of us considered – confidantes!
We could tell them anything or so we thought.
Close your mouth for a moment.
Let me tell you something…
1. Protect your secrets;
2. Guard your words;
3. Be selective about who you tell what to … It’s common sense.
I’m sure that you have heard this advice before – time and time again.
I have!
Of course, we don’t always listen.
** If someone tells you other folks business, they’ll tell yours!
It doesn’t take rocket scientist intelligence to figure that out; it’s plain and simple.
If you forget the essence of this simple idiom, remember this.
** You are not exempted from gossip particularly from a person who has diarrhea of the mouth!
Don’t assume that their behavior will change – just because it’s you!
They took the liberties to put your business out in the streets because you provided the fuel!
The “big mouth” who brought you someone else’s information will surely float yours out! It’s fair exchange to them. It’s the personification of the “bring and take” theory.
Because you let your guards down, your information is now freely circulating through the universe for all ears to hear!
Why would they be discreet?
They could care less.
Did you forget?
They are bonafide blabber mouths.
Besides it’s your business; not theirs!
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By Vernalee
When we face challenges, though they may seem insurmountable, we can turn to the all-powerful Creator. God’s strength and renewal can help us face our fears and do the impossible.
Here are seven scriptures that will uplift and strengthen us in times of adversities.
Psalm 27:1
“The LORD is my light and my salvation; whom shall I fear? The LORD is the strength of my life; of whom shall I be afraid?”
Psalm 37:39
“But the salvation of the righteous is from the LORD; He is their strength in time of trouble.”
Psalm 138:3
“In the day when I cried out, You answered me, and made me bold with strength in my soul.”
Matthew 19:26
“But Jesus looked at them and said to them, ‘With men this is impossible, but with God all things are possible.’”
2 Corinthians 4:16
“Therefore we do not lose heart. Even though our outward man is perishing, yet the inward man is being renewed day by day.”
Philippians 4:13
“I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.”
2 Timothy 1:7
“For God has not given us a spirit of fear, but of power and of love and of a sound mind.”
God knows what is best for us. He is always there for us. We just need to listen and adhere to the commandments of his Word.
Happy Sunday. God bless.
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By Vernalee
Admittedly, I don’t drink alcoholic beverages.
My choice!
So when I purchased a bottle of wine for a friend last week, being the novice wine purchaser that I am, it reminded me of a previous year’s “wine” intrigue!
You see I was driving home and minding my own business when I first heard this fascinating story on the D.L. Hughley radio show.
At first, I thought that D.L. was being his normal comedic self, so I researched it for myself; an inquisitive mind I have!
Here’s the scoop: A man in an Atlantic City restaurant, who was not familiar with wine (like me) asked the waitress to recommend a good wine. Not wearing his glasses (like me, too), she suggested a wine from their exquisite wine list. Anyway, the waitress suggested a bottle of Screaming Eagle Oakville 2011 to the customer. “How much does it cost?” he asked. “Thirty seven fifty,” was the waitress’ response. Clearly heard by all of the table guest, the wine was ordered. All evenings come to an end!
This night was no different, but the intrigue rested with the check. That “Screaming Eagle” bottle of wine was $3,750.00 and not $37.50.
I bet it left all ten of the guest screaming!
Was the waitress, duplicitous or was the consumer not inquisitive?
I could ask my attorney friend for a legal opinion as to who (the waitress or the consumer) was at fault. I do believe that her legal clarification would cost more than the bottle of wine in question! Sorry, counselor! You know that I love you and respect your Law degree from the prestigious Columbia University! You are truly a scholar!
Anyway, “I rest my story!” I ask you, my reading audience, “What’s your verdict?” Before you render, weigh the facts, and have a glass of Screaming Eagle Oakville 2011 wine, but not on me!
Read all about it!$3,750-for-wine-2014-11
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By Vernalee
cafe press
Does your job have too many chiefs?
In order to successfully operate, a company needs organization and a balance of power. It needs someone to give orders and someone to take them. Commands from multiple people who lack the authority or who are not specifically clear may present inherent problems. Conflicting directions are just as bad. Is there clarity in the organizational lines of authority?
Are the directives understandable and clearly defined/stated?
To effectively and profitably move a company forward, defined lines of authority are essential.
Someone has to do the work when the instructions are given!
An imbalanced proportion results in chaos. If you don’t believe me, look outside your office door!
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By Vernalee
I have frequently heard my great nieces and nephews say to a third party, “This is an A / B conversation, no C’s allowed.” Translated, that quote essentially means, “Mind your business!” After all, the joining talker wasn’t invited to the conversational “party.” Wouldn’t it be simpler, easier, and less work, if we stayed out of other folks’ affairs? By doing so, it would provide us with a timeless opportunity to improve our inadequacies rather than get involved with others’ issues. Just think how much better we would be and how much extra time we would have to concentrate on whatever suits our fancy! As comedian Flip Wilson once said, “Loose lips sink ships!” Indeed, they do; so stay afloat by stop being so nosey!
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By Vernalee
Joel Osteen quote
Words, words, words!
You have to think them before you say them.
So guards your thoughts.
Words can uplift you.
They can also bring you down!
That small tongue given the wrong words has the capacity to produce big damaging results/consequences.
Once you spit them out, you cannot take them back.
Can you remember hurtful words that were said to you years ago?
Likewise, you can also remember the words that inspired, encouraged, and motivated you!
If you can remember what others said to you, they can undoubtedly remember what you said to them.
Proverbs 21:23 tells us that “Whoever keeps his mouth and his tongue keeps himself out of trouble.”
Therefore, select and speak your words carefully.
The ears that hear them will for sure – retain them.
Conscientiously, think of their impact which can echo in someone’s ears, mind, and heart for a lifetime!
Simply said – Be careful about what you say!
Quote: Pastor Joel Osteen, Lakewood Church.


By Vernalee
Being a country girl, I love farming analogies. They are so similar to life circumstances.
“Make hay while the sun is shining” is one of them.
In other words, if you have an opportunity to do something, do it before the opportunity expires; do it when the situation and conditions are right. Take advantage of favorable circumstances.
A good crop doesn’t just happen! It takes hard work. It is imperative to cultivate and till the soil.
Therefore, as they say, “Strike while the iron is hot.” You never know when thunder storms and rain are in the forecast!
Do it …now!
Make hay…
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By Vernalee

Some days, we all need our spirits uplifted. On those days, among other things, I read inspiring quotes. I share a few with you.

“I am sick and tired of being sick and tired.”
Fannie Lou Hamer

“Life is 10% what happens to you and 90% how you react to it.”
Charles R. Swindoll

“In order to succeed, we must first believe that we can.”
Nikos Kazantzakis

“Failure will never overtake me if my determination to succeed is strong enough.”
Og Mandino

“It does not matter how slowly you go as long as you do not stop.”

“There is only one happiness in this life, to love and be loved.”
George Sand

“Choose a job you love, and you will never have to work a day in your life.”

“Being deeply loved by someone gives you strength, while loving someone deeply gives you courage.”
Lao Tzu

“Let us always meet each other with smile, for the smile is the beginning of love.”
Mother Teresa

“Love is when the other person’s happiness is more important than your own.”
H. Jackson Brown, Jr.

“Love isn’t something you find. Love is something that finds you.”
Loretta Young

“Start by doing what’s necessary; then do what’s possible; and suddenly you are doing the impossible.”
Francis of Assisi

“I can’t change the direction of the wind, but I can adjust my sails to always reach my destination.”
Jimmy Dean

“The best preparation for tomorrow is doing your best today.”
H. Jackson Brown, Jr.

“The best and most beautiful things in the world cannot be seen or even touched – they must be felt with the heart.”
Helen Keller

“Try to be a rainbow in someone’s cloud.”
Maya Angelou

“Nothing is impossible, the word itself says ‘I’m possible’!”
Audrey Hepburn

“If opportunity doesn’t knock, build a door.”
Milton Berle

“Change your thoughts and you change your world.”
Norman Vincent Peale

“Believe you can and you’re halfway there.”
Theodore Roosevelt

“It is during our darkest moments that we must focus to see the light.”

“No act of kindness, no matter how small, is ever wasted.”

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