By Vernalee
Stop confusing the terms, gentleman and good man! By definition, a gentleman is defined as a man who is courteous and honorable; a man who treats other people in a proper and polite manner; and a man of high social status. A good man, by definition, has a variable definition depending on the person. In general, a good man is referred to by his attributes of treatment to others, particularly – the woman in his life.
The Top 15 Signs of a Good Man are as follow:
1. A good man never lets you forget how much he loves you.
2. A good man always supports you.
3. A good man will inspire you.
4. A good man will work to gain your trust.
5. A good man will always make you feel beautiful.
6. A good man will make you feel safe.
7. A good man does the little things.
8. A good man never crosses the line.
9. A good man is always trying to improve himself.
10. A good man understands that actions speak louder than words.
11. A good man will open up to you.
12. A good man will always be honest with you.
13. A good man will make you feel comfortable being honest.
14. A good man will never be abusive.
15. A good man will stand by you.
Those are the 15 signs that HuffPost Women had to say. Let’s dig further.
The Bible has countless scriptures on what a Man and a Good Man should do and how he should behave.
Who knows better than the Father?
I counted about 60 plus verses. “Be watchful, stand firm in the faith, act like men, be strong. Let all that you do be done in love” is one of them. Of course, as with most subjects, we always put our interpretative spin on things.
One of my male friends always said, “A good man anticipates his woman’s needs. She doesn’t have to ask. He knows.”
Another lifelong friend from Mississippi swears on her definition of a good man. According to her, “A good man will be my your side; love you, protect you, provide for you, pray with you and for you; will never lie to you; will be there in your time of need to hold your hand; his money is your money; will unselfishly treat you like a million dollars with change to spare.”
Another wonderful friend equates, “A good man will put the “R” in romance.” Selfishness and laziness never enter his space when it comes to his woman. A good man will catch you before you fall. Whatever it takes, he will not let you hit the ground! He will put a ring on that finger because he doesn’t want to lose you to another. How competitive he is to eliminate the competition! Sharing his “squeeze” is not in the cards. A good man recognizes a good woman and does what is necessary to keep her! “What a Man!” There are too many definitions and variables; too many to elaborate.
A good man will take your breath away and make you forget about what you were talking about, or in this case writing about; as I have so elegantly done in this text. Whew!
So, back to the topic of the distinguishing features of a good man and a gentleman.
Just because he opens the door, lets you walk in first, pulls out your chair, and puts the napkin in your lap, don’t mean that he is a good man. It means that his Mother taught him the rules of etiquette.
A gentleman and a good man are not synonyms.
However, a gentleman can be a good man and vice versa, but not necessarily.
You catch my drift, right?
Admittedly, this is too confusing and complicated ladies when all we want is a mighty good man who gently treat us right!
If he is a good man who is “in to you” as a good man would be, he will know precisely what you need, wants, and expects; he will know how to make that happen.
Unlike a ball of hot air, he walks the talk!
Case closed!
Now then, if he is a masculine specimen who believes in the Lord, is easy on the eyes with Herculean muscles, has the provider gene, the romantic swirl, and is as fine as wine, I ain’t mad at him! We’ll gladly take the value added bonuses that undoubtedly increase his goodness!
My apologies to the lengthiness of this post, but a good man is worth the stretch!
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