By Vernalee
A few years back, Cleveland native Steve Harvey launched his book, “Act like a lady. Think like a man.” When the book hit the shelves, beauty and barber shop talk was overflowing. The book’s topics were the conversations of the day. Thrice divorced, Harvey cushioned his narrative on the fact that he was not an expert on marriage, but that he knew men. He presented his opinions on how men view relationships. Without a doubt, we women think differently than men. Consequently, our approaches are different. Remember, the facetious theory that – men are from Mars; women are from Venus. Go figure … and solve that equation!
Though the issues in the book are presented comically, relationships are a very serious subject. Harvey introduces several types of men including: the Mama’s Boy, the Player, the Non-Committed, the Dreamer, the Happily Married Guy and the Even Happier Divorced Guy. Ladies, I am sure that you have encountered one if not all of them. Some of you “lucky” ones have probably met a guy who exhibit traits of more than one of the types. Scary, right? As we know, Harvey’s book was later turned into a movie which for all intensive purposes had four storylines that revolved around couples who portrayed the following:
“The Mama’s Boy” vs. “The Single Mom”
“The Non-Committer” vs. “The Girl Who Wants the Ring”
“The Dreamer” vs. “The Woman Who Is Her Own Man”
“The Player” vs. “The 90 Day Rule Girl.”
Hilarious, the movie as the book will bring streams of laughter. You may laugh until you cry. Once the laughs are over, your mind regresses to realism and lands upon the great thought divide between the sexes. We ladies and our guys surely do see things differently. For certain, communications still remains the foundational key to great relationships. Sitting down, looking each other in the eyes, and truthfully talking things out are unbeatable. As old-fashioned as they may be, if these steps could be magically bottled, the mixture could be commercially offered as the formula that produces winning combinations. Open and honest communications – easy said; hard to do! However, if you are doing anything different, don’t be surprised when all goes south! Then, the jokes are off; the laughter subsides. Afterwards, no one will be laughing when your relationship goes up in smoke!
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