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By Vernalee
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Is there a responsibility to reach back and help people?
I think so!
Don’t you?
Taking the time to share your time, energies, resources, and knowledge is needed if we truly want to impact the well being of others.
Being a sounding board also goes far. Nothing beats listening ears alongside the hands that help!
Think about it.
Since God has the whole world in his hands, your hands helping someone else isn’t too much to ask; is it?
Besides, the “giving back” process isn’t that difficult or time consuming.
What comes easy and natural to some can be foreign and difficult to others. Regardless, there is power in giving back!
It is the right thing to do. The residuals pay off bountifully.
Your selflessness, caring, thoughtfulness, and actions of making someone else’s life better will strengthen you immeasurably!
It is very fulfilling and satisfying. Try it; you will see and agree!
Together, we can make a difference. We can make the world a better place!
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By Vernalee

It seems as if that lick came out of no where.
It was so hard that it knocked me down.
I lost my balance and fell!
I am curiously baffled.
Where did that punch come from?
I’ll tell you where!
It came from life; from living.
Yes, that’s right.
We are not insulated from troubles.
Our lives can be easily bruised with anxieties from varied issues. They run the gamut – Pain from the loss of loved ones, betrayals from friends/family, jealousies, upside down finances, job losses, health issues, wayward children, infidelity, disloyal friends, among other things. You name it and someone can claim it!
Our lives are not problem free.
Quite the contrary.
We are also not born as warriors.
We have to condition, equip, and prepare ourselves to deal with the problems that accompany living.
Sometimes, we think that we can rely on our own intelligence to solve our problems.
Sometimes, we think that we can do it all, be everything to all people, and win all the battles by ourselves.
Silly you!
We need to keep God front and center in our lives.
Reliance on the Lord will help us with our balancing act.
It will also give us the needed confidence and strength to pick ourselves up when we fall!
We can then see clearer who is with us and who is not.
Nothing is worse than being knocked down and expecting someone to help you up when instead they desert you.
So often, do we hear, “it’s not my problem!”
If you have heard those words, raise your hand.
We have to gird our loins everyday … that’s for sure.

I leave you with several quotes that have inspired me. Maybe, you will find inspiration from them as well.

1. “Sometimes it takes a good fall to really know where you stand.” Hayley Williams

2. “It’s not up to you how you fall. Its up to you how far you let yourself fall and how long it takes you to get back up and stand on your own two feet.” Sr. Tac Jeffrey Mitchell

3. “Keep on going, and the chances are that you will stumble on something, perhaps when you are least expecting it. I never heard of anyone ever stumbling on something sitting down. “. Charles F. Kettering

4. “Being defeated is often temporary, giving up makes it permanent. “ Marilyn von Savant

5. “Fall seven times. Stand up eight. “ Japanese Proverb

6. “It’s hard to beat a person that never gives up. “ Babe Ruth

7. “ A Quitter never wins-and-a Winner never quits. “ Napoleon Hill

8. “For every failure, there’s an alternative course of action. You just have to find it. When you come to a roadblock, take a detour. “ Mary Kay Ash

9. “Success in life is the result of good judgment. Good judgment is usually the result of experience. Experience is usually the result of bad judgment. “Anthony Robbins

10. “In order to succeed you must fail, so that you know what not to do the next time.” Anthony J. D’Angelo

11. “Our greatest glory is not in never falling but in rising every time we fall.”Confucius

12. “Everyone falls down. Getting back up is how you learn how to walk. “ Walt Disney

13. “When life knocks you down, try to land on your back. Because if you can look up, you can get up. Let your reason get you back up.” Les Brown

14. “No matter how many times you get knocked down, keep getting back up. God sees your resolve. He sees your determination. And when you do everything you can do, that’s when God will step in and do what you can’t do. “ Joel Osteen

15. “Success is not final, failure is not fatal: it is the courage to continue that counts. “Winston Churchill
Keep living! Keep the faith!

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By Vernalee
Years ago, I attended a seminar and a demonstration left an indelible memory. It involved a person falling back with another individual catching her. Brilliant!
Thought provoking!
That illustration became my model for what I felt people should want in a relationship, namely someone to catch them before a fall.
That is a simple request to ask, but a huge compliance responsibility for the chosen partner to grant!
The catcher has to be 100% committed; 100% dedicated.
He is your safety net. Your reliance on him has to be met with his reliability, commitment, and performance.
Don’t assume that because you have his back, he has yours!
It has to be a heart-felt and a mutual covenant between the two people.
You have to really, really trust that individual; blind trust at that! Will his presence, heart, mind, and hands be there to catch you?
How confident are you?
If something goes wrong, the ground will be your new home. Peeling yourself up off the concrete is not an easy task.
Besides the fall hurts!
A fall is more than a physical bruising, it is an emotional scarring that stings; a fracture that may depending on circumstances last a considerable period of time!
Know for certain to the best of your comprehension who has your back!
It is no guessing game; the repercussions of error are too great.
In the interim, keep your safety net handy … just in case!
Hopefully, the person doesn’t fail you which would be a bomber. However if that happens,
the up side is that – you can get back up…Again!
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By Vernalee
Growing up in rural Mississippi, I learned the art of driving by cruising down gravel and dirt roads before graduating to the two lane highways. As you travel in one direction facing the traffic in another, you learn to stay in your own lane.
Swerve too far to the right and you are liable to end up in a ditch. Move too far to the left and you are subject to have a head on collision with the other vehicle. Crash!
This driving precision teaches you much about life. The similarities are uncanny.
There is much to be said respective to staying in your own lane.
In order words, if you mind your own business and stay out of other folks’ affairs, it is smoother sailing. Once you enter the other lane, you are in someone else’s territory both figuratively and literally.
When you meddle, you cross the line!
Where you end up is where your intrusion takes you.
“You are an accident waiting to happen” when you start interfering. No speed will keep you safe in those types of circumstances. Fender bending becomes your outcome regardless of your destination!
The reference thus far speaks of a two lane highway. Sticking your nose into multiple folks’ affairs is probably an unmanageable interstate that may not be in your best interest to travel. Eventually, you might get side swiped in more ways than one – if you know what I mean!
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By Vernalee
Life’s travels take us down many roads. Some roads are paved; others not. Arriving to our destination is the objective. Hills, valleys, and bridges we encounter.
To “Cross that bridge when you get there” means to not worry about a possible future problem, but deal with it when and if it occurs.
Why worry about issues that don’t exist or haven’t happened?
They may not occur.
One of our childhood rhymes was, “Weight brought the bridge down.”
Stress and worry produce weighty consequences. They can become “heavy” burdens placed on our shoulders; problems that we carry around.
Anxieties and sleepless nights follow. Enjoy the moment!
Reasonably, prepare for tomorrow; live for today! Deal with problems when they occur.
The scriptures in Matthew 6:34 tells us: “Don’t worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will bring its own worries.
Today’s trouble is enough for today.” Can I get a witness?
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By Vernalee
When I think of personal finances, I am reminded of the words that many working women in Mississippi as they picked cotton … would say, “Child, I’m just trying to make ends meet; to get by.” Honestly, those words meant nothing to me as a child, but their meaning became clearer as the years went by.
Just what does this expression mean, “To make ends meet.”
I’m glad you asked.
Here’s the dictionary versions:
* To manage so that one’s financial means are enough for one’s needs. The ends, it is assumed, alludes to the sum total of income and expenditures.
* To have just enough to pay for the things you need.
* To have enough money to cover expenses; to get by financially; to get through the pay period (sufficient to meet the next payday).
Defining it was just a matter of strolling my fingers to a dictionary, living with it – well that’s another thing. It’s a daily struggle for many. The upside is this – there is hope. Those same old women who told me about making ends meet, also told me that, “hard times don’t last always.”
I share with you a few other inspiring and motivational quotes that will move you to act; to change your condition; to move you from point A to point Z. Here we go.
* God first. Family second. Career third. With life in that order, everything works out.
* Every man’s the same; he wants the sunshine in his name.
* If you change nothing; nothing will change.
* Just when you think you can make ends meet, somebody moved the ends.
* Don’t let your struggles become your identity.
* Keep the faith, hold on. Things will get better. It may be stormy now, but it can’t rain forever.
* People aren’t always going to be there for you. You have to learn to handle
things on your own.
* You create your own opportunities.
* Without faith, nothing is possible. With it, nothing is impossible.
* Don’t count the days. Make the days count.
* Success is a ladder that cannot be climbed with your hands in your pockets.
So what do you do? How do you change your condition? You must “keep on a climbing because life ain’t no crystal stairs!”
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By Vernalee
Admittedly, I am slow to condemn people. I have always felt that there is good in folks.
Why I fail to recognize that good folks can do bad things and bad folks can do good things is sometimes beyond my comprehension.
Giving folks the benefit of the doubt has always been my forte.
Silly me!
Perhaps, I tend to see the good, not the bad; the successes, not the failures. No matter what cover up process is used, invariably people will show you who they are.
It is in their DNA.
Well put by Dr. Maya Angelou, “When people show you who they are, believe them … the first time.”
Our making excuses to acknowledge what we see or refuse to see is our cover-up, not theirs!
Don’t wait until they do something despicable to open your eyes.
Stop getting your feelings hurt!
Injury knows no preference.
We can’t say that they didn’t give us a preview.
With wide opened eyes, we saw!
With wide opened eyes, we either accepted or excused their behavior.
People may not change their injurious ways, but you and I can stop aiding and abetting them with our acceptance.
The tiger doesn’t change its stripes.
Neither will they!
They may be articulate smooth talkers, but if their actions don’t match their words, how can you take them seriously?
Trust your eyes.
Believe what you see!
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By Vernalee

Stuff always come up.
Dealing with it can be stressful and challenging.
Let’s look at 31 things that the experts recommend removing.
1. Comparing yourself to others.
2. Creating unrealistic expectations for yourself.
3. Your social media obsession.
4. Bad spending habits.
5. Fear of the unknown.
6. Living in the past.
7. Putting off a vacation.
8. Your packed schedule.
9. Unhealthy relationships.
10. Waiting for the perfect moment.
11. The need to be in control of everything.
12. Relying on others to make you feel happy and fulfilled.
13. Avoid getting out of the house.
14. You need to have the best thing.
15. Your hesitation to indulge.
16. Feeling sorry for yourself.
17. Fear of failure.
18. Grudges.
19. Worrying what others think of you.
20. Your disgruntled lifestyle.
21. Controlling others.
22. Jealousy.
23. Blaming others for your mistakes.
24. A yearning to fit in.
25. Overanalyzing situations.
26. Friends who aren’t there for you.
27. Resisting change.
28. Being afraid to be yourself.
29. Holding onto items you don’t need.
30. Avoiding your problems.
31. Worrying about missing out.
How did you fare?
Let’s do what we need so that we can be happier and achieve greater success.
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By Vernalee
imageBeing broke is not a good feeling. Raise your hand if you agree! Can I get an Amen? But being broke can be your greatest motivator. Just ask Daymond John who started selling his home-sewn t-shirts on the streets of Queens on a $40 budget that later became the incubator for the $6 billion dollar global phenomenon FUBU (For us, By us) brand. John had a stand by your side Mother, “a heart full of hope, and a ferocious drive to succeed by any means possible.”
So, FUBU founder and star of ABC’s Shark Tank shows that being broke may be your “greatest competitive advantage as an entrepreneur. It forces you to think more creatively, use your resources more efficiently, connect with your customers more authentically, market your ideas more imaginatively; and finally, it forces you to be true to yourself, stay focused on your goals, and come up with innovative solutions required to make a meaningful mark.”
Yes, that’s right. John shows in his book, “The Power of Broke: How Empty Pockets, a Tight Budget, and a Hunger for Success Can Become Your Greatest Competitive Advantage.”
“When your back is up against the wall, your bank account is empty, and creativity and passion are the only resources you can afford, success is your only option.”
John in his book covers the below topics:
1. The Power of Broke
2. Rise and Grind
3. Money changes everything
4. What it is
5. Broke isn’t just personal
6. Be the change.
7. Bringing it all home.
Are you motivated yet?
Sometimes, we have to use what we have as John did.
With no advertising budget, he asked his fellow Queens neighbor and rapper L.L. Cool J to wear one of his caps in a GAP commercial in the 1990’s.
Not too shabby; right? Great advertising, I’ll say. The rest is history!
Here’s my take.
Don’t be afraid to ask!
How can you receive if you don’t ask!
Use your available resources.
It shows that thinking out of the box will land you farther than the idleness of not pursuing your passions.
Eliminate excuses.
Don’t give up!
Dream big!
Think bigger!
Be persistently motivated. Motivation can make your paycheck bigger.
Work hard and harder and harder.
Work your passion to achieve your greatness!
Don’t take NO for an answer.
Where there is a will, there is a way!
Don’t let the lack of funds stop you!
Daymond didn’t!
Neither should you!
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By Vernalee

“Being a good person means more than just doing things for others. You have to accept and love yourself before you can put positive energy into the universe.”
What criteria defines a good person? It may depend upon who you ask and what measuring stick they use. No matter what definition is used, the following criteria/methods will probably intertwine. Let’s take a look.
“Method One – Improving Yourself
1. Determine what being a good person means to you personally.
2. Choose a role model.
3. Stop comparing yourself with others.
4. Love yourself.
5. Be Yourself.
6. Pray and/or meditate.
7. Make small changes.
8. Review your goals every day.
Method Two – Having a positive attitude
1. Try to look at the bright side of things.
2. Do an act of charity for someone else.
3. Make it a point to make the world a better place every time you leave the place of your dwelling.
4. Slow down.
5. Practice forgiveness.
6. Be honest.
7. Make small gestures a daily habit.
8. Be empathetic.
Method Three – Interacting with Others
1. Accept everyone around you.
2. Control your anger.
3. Compliment people.
4. Be a better listener.
5. Celebrate other peoples’ victories and good qualities.
6. Be a role model.
7. Share.
8. Respect everyone.”
I am confident that most of us can agree that to be a good person requires constant work.
Prayerfully, I want to always stay in tune with myself and my treatment of others.
Let me share more about my “good person” barometers!
It is not a game.
It is not a scorecard of how many times I am right or wrong.
It is my conscious daily interacting with my way of life.
It is apologizing if I misstep.
It is asking God to show me the right way; to order my steps.
It is me being able to sleep at night and not worrying if I mistreated someone.
It is others being able to sleep without the interference of possible mistreatment.
It is work in progress, biblical guidance, and daily prayer to stay on the right side of goodness as best as I can.
It is imperative to love the Lord.
It is necessary to be reflective.
It is a daily struggle with all of us to define, redefine, purify, remove, and perfect our sinful tendencies so that we can exemplify goodness.
Remember as Romans 3:23 says “For all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God.”
Stopping to listen to that inner voice of your soul will help.
Asking God for directions is key.
Remaining prayerful is important.
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