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By Vernalee
Wise up!
If you do not like how you are being treated, do something about it.
Don’t take it!
Why take it!
Be courageous….Walk away, if necessary!
Speak out!
If the treatment is unethical or borders corruption, run don’t walk.
Don’t let anyone play with your emotions.
When people use reverse psychology to make you feel like you are the violator, when it is really them, who do they think that they are fooling? While they were placing the blame on you, did they forget that an evaluation of their deeds would eventually occur; that their true hand would be shown? Did they forget that they are not bullet proof!
Grown folks are no different from kids. Let them get away with stuff once, they will continue their trickery deeds. Unfortunately, you can’t discipline adults, but you can abstain from being a participant in their foolish shenanigans. You do not have to be a victim.
You do not have to be a target on their dart board!
Besides, many under-handed schemers can never take what they dish out!
If their dastardly treatment to you, ricochets back around, it is not you who got the lick!
Once you demand respect, you run the show!
Be in control of the treatment you receive!
Give respect.
Demand respect!
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By Vernalee
Join the club!
Stress is not a good thing for your emotional or physical wellbeing.
In addition to the uneasiness, it resonates and attacks our bodies like an atom bomb.
Before it gets out of hands, let’s see how we can relieve at least some of it.
Eliminating the cause (of stress) is the greatest solution.
Of course, that is more easier said than done.
Breaking up is hard to do, but no one wants to hold on to something that produces daily anxiety.
Take a deep breathe!
Help is on the way.
Take a look at the natural remedies to rid our systems of stress.
1. Meditate
2. Exercise
3. Aromatherapy
4. Baths
5. Massage
6. Herbal Teas
7. Sleep
8. Diet
9. Cut out/lower screen time (television, laptop, cellphone)
10. Organize
If none of this work, let me provide an element of Biblical counseling.
Here goes.
Matthew 6: 25-27
Phil 4:6
Hebrew 13:5-6
Matt 11:28-30
Luke 12: 22-31.
I close with my favorite and guiding scripture as it relates to stress. It is Matthew 6:34 and it reads, “Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own.”
That scripture is loaded! I hope that it helps your mental mindset and relieve you as much as it has me.
If you are less stressed, it worked!
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By Vernalee
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There he goes!
No, it isn’t Mighty Mouse flying and singing, “Here I come to save the day!” The vision is clearly Underdog! Remember him!
For those of us who remember, Underdog was a humble/lovable superhero who was Shoeshine Boy’s alter ego.
He always changed into his superhero suit in a phone booth, which would explode afterwards.
That clumsy guy was known to cause a lot of damage, but whenever his Sweet Polly was victimized, he rose to the occasion.
In general, Underdogs are the persons that no one expects to be victorious.
The Underdog is usually not the best equipped to carry out the mission, but amazingly, he/she gets it done!
Let’s take a closer look.
What is it about these Underdogs? We see it frequently.
For example, the team least expected to win carry their teammates to victory.
Is it tenacity?
Is it courage?
Is it the lack of fear of starting over with nothing?
Is it the agony of defeat juxtaposed against the joy of winning?
Do they work harder when challenged or under pressure?
Is it humility?
Perhaps, they are not weighted down with abundant over-confidence, puffed up pride, and lofty arrogance.
Maybe, they have thrown out of the window the superficial air that many of their counterparts carry.
It is difficult to quite put our fingers on it, but we should find out where their secret lies; exactly what makes these underdogs tick?
Have they removed the lingering fear that it is “me against the world” syndrome? Maybe, they have realized that we never walk along.
We just have to stop sometimes and notice God’s footprints in the sand.
When we equip ourselves with the gumption and motivating spirit that the underdogs possess to not give up and race to the finish line, we will then exemplify their spunk to continue our journeys.
It is then and only then that we will see a pathway to victory and hear the melodic sounds that accompany courage.
Blessed quietness!
What is that sound that I hear?
It is the background music of their sing along theme song, “There is no need to fear, Underdog is here!”


By Vernalee
Doesn’t that doggie look so adorable?
He is the cutest thing!
His alluring appearance reminds me of some folks that a few of us considered – confidantes!
We could tell them anything or so we thought.
Close your mouth for a moment.
Let me tell you something…
1. Protect your secrets;
2. Guard your words;
3. Be selective about who you tell what to … It’s common sense.
I’m sure that you have heard this advice before – time and time again.
I have!
Of course, we don’t always listen.
** If someone tells you other folks business, they’ll tell yours!
It doesn’t take rocket scientist intelligence to figure that out; it’s plain and simple.
If you forget the essence of this simple idiom, remember this.
** You are not exempted from gossip particularly from a person who has diarrhea of the mouth!
Don’t assume that their behavior will change – just because it’s you!
They took the liberties to put your business out in the streets because you provided the fuel!
The “big mouth” who brought you someone else’s information will surely float yours out! It’s fair exchange to them. It’s the personification of the “bring and take” theory.
Because you let your guards down, your information is now freely circulating through the universe for all ears to hear!
Why would they be discreet?
They could care less.
Did you forget?
They are bonafide blabber mouths.
Besides it’s your business; not theirs!
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By Vernalee
“The bigger they are, the harder they fall” is a phrase used to ​emphasize that the more ​important or ​powerful a ​person is, the more ​difficult it is for them when they ​lose ​their ​power or ​importance.
When they are up, many unnecessarily flaunt their resources. Often they relegate many to be beneath them while talking to them dastardly; cussing them out at a whim.
Their ostentatious cruelty is covered up by a flavorful imitation of pretentious conduct that is as morally corrupt as the sky is blue. Though they cut a good figure, they wear the cloth of ruthlessness day in, day out.
Can I get a witness if you know one or two!
Never once did they stop to reflect that they were not good caretakers of what they possessed. Just as it was given, it can be taken away.
When and if they are stripped, miraculously they will feel what their counterparts felt when they stripped them. Payback makes the surreal, real; the pain unbearable; the difficulty to rise tantamount to the fall. Power and influence are not insulators to pain.
Anyone can feel it, if they unwisely test the limits!
Just ask the person who hit the ground!
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By Vernalee
Good Morning followers!
Let me introduce you to a group of folks that I define as the “lukewarm” people.
You know and see them as frequently as I.
Many are so hard to figure out.
They do just enough to keep you off their backs; just enough to get by.
Their luke warmness protects them or so they think.
However, sooner or later their true temperature gets revealed.
They play sophisticated games so that you cannot ascertain whether they are hot or cold.
For example, many may know that you have a need. They simply ignore it unless they are pushed to acknowledge it. They are great at turning their heads looking the other way.
Some luke warm folks have the resources – time and finances – but they do not have the sensitivities.
Maybe they just don’t care or maybe they are selfish.
We must keep this in perspective.
You really can’t get mad with anyone for your problems.
Depending upon their closeness to you, it may be disappointing if they don’t come through or look the other way! It is not your fault that they believe in the bare minimum.
They are serial piecemeal specialists. “A little here; a little there; or nothing at all” is there motto.
The real problem occurs in the inability to read them.
Are they hot or cold?
How would you know?
You certainly can’t feel by the touch.
They will truly never be inconvenienced for anyone other than themselves or who they feel are important.
Alright, stop feeling guilty that they did not offer, but that you had to ask them for help.
Stop feeling bad that they knew you had needs and looked the other way.
Just don’t be like them!
At the end of the day, the lukewarm personalities will be viewed on their own merit as will you!
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By Vernalee
“You can’t put the genie back in the bottle” technically means that you can’t
revert a situation to how it formerly existed by containing, limiting, or repressing information, ideas, etc., that have become commonplace or public knowledge.
Be careful.
Exercise good judgment.
We don’t possess the magic to go back in time; to put stuff back once it is released.
Watch and guard your thoughts, tongue, behavior and action. Wisdom is best utilized on the front end.
Once it’s out, it’s out!
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By Vernalee
When someone has you eating out of their hand, it means that you would do exactly what they ask you to do; no questions asked.
Sometimes, but not always, it is a mind controlled thing whereby manipulation is often involved.
Some of us may deny it; but many of us have been there at some point in our lives.
Go ahead and admit it.
Perhaps, no one is immune.
Charismatic people, those that we love, or those that we want to be loved by – are some of the best candidates to feed us this nonexistent food.
It’s a feeling; a strong feeling at that.
It usually is a mind controlled thing.
It has happened to the best of us despite our strong will.
Lest not forget that …
Love and being in love will do it!
My words not yours.
So if and when you have entered the zone of someone controlling your every moves without your cognitive input and if and when the aura in the atmospheric love zone forces you to be in that position,
do know that you have metaphorically arrived and landed in the palm of someone’s hands!
You may be definitely eating out of their hands!
Either the comments are “What’s for dinner?” or “I am not playing those games of manipulation anymore!”
We’ll see …who is in control?
Are you there or not?
Excuse me …
Your actions speak louder than words.
Therefore …. Pass me the knife and fork!
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PostHeaderIcon DO YOU SNORE?

By Vernalee
Do I have a question for you!
Here we go.
Do you snore?
Tell the truth!
All kidding aside, here’s the deal.
Some snoring sounds like a thunder’s roar.
Others have a rhythmic beat. But snoring is not music; there is nothing entertaining about it.
I confess.
Yes, I snore!
Fairly loud, but manageable, I am told!
I wish that I didn’t snore. I would like to lay across the bed without a thunderous roar disturbing anyone.
Wouldn’t you?
I, like you, if you are a snorer have little, if any control regarding those sounds that come out of our mouths.
We can however use techniques to lessen the sound.
First, let’s understand why snoring occurs.
Medically, snoring occurs when air cannot flow between the nose and mouth during sleep. Because of this airway obstruction, snoring, and the sounds thereof, occur! Sleep apnea and other medical conditions can also be involved. You see, snoring is not a choice. No one snores for the fun of it! Sure, the sounds are embarrassing to the snorer; while, at the same time disturbing to those that the sounds keep from sleeping.
There are aids for the snoring population including nasal strips, masks, mouth pieces, better pillows, etc. We conscientious snorer seek those aids.
Now let’s see… There are a number of interesting “snoring stories” that I can share such as my friend’s roommate who during a retreat vacated the bedroom and slept in the bathtub to get away from the sound. Laughter or not, keep in mind that both parties (the snorer and the person who hears the snoring) are affected! With experimentation and devices, a “quieter” solution can be experienced where no one is disturbed, embarrassed, or kept from a good night’s sleep!
Getting enough sleep is crucial to our health, our work performance, our driving alertness, and so many critical life functions.
There is no better time than now to start a good sleep regimen – including dealing with snoring.
I’m up to the challenge.
Are you?
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By Vernalee
Is your nose in the air?
To have your nose in the air is an expression, an idiom, in fact that is
used to ​describe the way someone ​behaves when they ​think they are ​better than other ​people and do not ​want to ​speak to them.
Haughty, disdainful, and conceited are synonyms that accurately describe this arrogant behavior.
Where I’m from, the impoverish streets of Glen Allan, Mississippi, we were royally taught better.
We were told that what goes up must come down.
We were taught that it doesn’t cost anything to speak and were chastised if we failed to do so.
We were also taught to be appreciative and humble.
Thinking that you were better than someone else was and is still considered insulting.
Values go a long way; they take you far; they form character that will sustain and guide you no matter where you go.
That character keeps you grounded. It gives you a foundational and a reminiscent voice that resounds over and over … “You are no better than the other person.”
Get your nose out of the air, put your feet on solid ground.
Watch your steps, lower your inflated ego, and stay on a level playing field … so if life knocks you down, you’ll have a shorter distance to fall.
It is highly likely that the people that you turned your nose up to might be there to pick you up.
Then, with a lowered nose, your mouth will automatically open with a lowly voice that speaks to all loudly and clear; a voice that gives thanks; a voice that wreathes of humility!
Keep your feet on the ground!
Stay grounded!
Arrogance does not always smell good.
Just ask your nose!
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