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By Vernalee
Doesn’t that doggie look so adorable?
He is the cutest thing!
His alluring appearance reminds me of some folks that a few of us considered – confidantes!
We could tell them anything or so we thought.
Close your mouth for a moment.
Let me tell you something…
1. Protect your secrets;
2. Guard your words;
3. Be selective about who you tell what to … It’s common sense.
I’m sure that you have heard this advice before – time and time again.
I have!
Of course, we don’t always listen.
** If someone tells you other folks business, they’ll tell yours!
It doesn’t take rocket scientist intelligence to figure that out; it’s plain and simple.
If you forget the essence of this simple idiom, remember this.
** You are not exempted from gossip particularly from a person who has diarrhea of the mouth!
Don’t assume that their behavior will change – just because it’s you!
They took the liberties to put your business out in the streets because you provided the fuel!
The “big mouth” who brought you someone else’s information will surely float yours out! It’s fair exchange to them. It’s the personification of the “bring and take” theory.
Because you let your guards down, your information is now freely circulating through the universe for all ears to hear!
Why would they be discreet?
They could care less.
Did you forget?
They are bonafide blabber mouths.
Besides it’s your business; not theirs!
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By Vernalee
Admittedly, I don’t drink alcoholic beverages.
My choice!
So when I purchased a bottle of wine for a friend last week, being the novice wine purchaser that I am, it reminded me of a previous year’s “wine” intrigue!
You see I was driving home and minding my own business when I first heard this fascinating story on the D.L. Hughley radio show.
At first, I thought that D.L. was being his normal comedic self, so I researched it for myself; an inquisitive mind I have!
Here’s the scoop: A man in an Atlantic City restaurant, who was not familiar with wine (like me) asked the waitress to recommend a good wine. Not wearing his glasses (like me, too), she suggested a wine from their exquisite wine list. Anyway, the waitress suggested a bottle of Screaming Eagle Oakville 2011 to the customer. “How much does it cost?” he asked. “Thirty seven fifty,” was the waitress’ response. Clearly heard by all of the table guest, the wine was ordered. All evenings come to an end!
This night was no different, but the intrigue rested with the check. That “Screaming Eagle” bottle of wine was $3,750.00 and not $37.50.
I bet it left all ten of the guest screaming!
Was the waitress, duplicitous or was the consumer not inquisitive?
I could ask my attorney friend for a legal opinion as to who (the waitress or the consumer) was at fault. I do believe that her legal clarification would cost more than the bottle of wine in question! Sorry, counselor! You know that I love you and respect your Law degree from the prestigious Columbia University! You are truly a scholar!
Anyway, “I rest my story!” I ask you, my reading audience, “What’s your verdict?” Before you render, weigh the facts, and have a glass of Screaming Eagle Oakville 2011 wine, but not on me!
Read all about it!$3,750-for-wine-2014-11
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By Vernalee
Joel Osteen quote
Words, words, words!
You have to think them before you say them.
So guards your thoughts.
Words can uplift you.
They can also bring you down!
That small tongue given the wrong words has the capacity to produce big damaging results/consequences.
Once you spit them out, you cannot take them back.
Can you remember hurtful words that were said to you years ago?
Likewise, you can also remember the words that inspired, encouraged, and motivated you!
If you can remember what others said to you, they can undoubtedly remember what you said to them.
Proverbs 21:23 tells us that “Whoever keeps his mouth and his tongue keeps himself out of trouble.”
Therefore, select and speak your words carefully.
The ears that hear them will for sure – retain them.
Conscientiously, think of their impact which can echo in someone’s ears, mind, and heart for a lifetime!
Simply said – Be careful about what you say!
Quote: Pastor Joel Osteen, Lakewood Church.


By Vernalee
Being a country girl, I love farming analogies. They are so similar to life circumstances.
“Make hay while the sun is shining” is one of them.
In other words, if you have an opportunity to do something, do it before the opportunity expires; do it when the situation and conditions are right. Take advantage of favorable circumstances.
A good crop doesn’t just happen! It takes hard work. It is imperative to cultivate and till the soil.
Therefore, as they say, “Strike while the iron is hot.” You never know when thunder storms and rain are in the forecast!
Do it …now!
Make hay…
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By Vernalee

Some days, we all need our spirits uplifted. On those days, among other things, I read inspiring quotes. I share a few with you.

“I am sick and tired of being sick and tired.”
Fannie Lou Hamer

“Life is 10% what happens to you and 90% how you react to it.”
Charles R. Swindoll

“In order to succeed, we must first believe that we can.”
Nikos Kazantzakis

“Failure will never overtake me if my determination to succeed is strong enough.”
Og Mandino

“It does not matter how slowly you go as long as you do not stop.”

“There is only one happiness in this life, to love and be loved.”
George Sand

“Choose a job you love, and you will never have to work a day in your life.”

“Being deeply loved by someone gives you strength, while loving someone deeply gives you courage.”
Lao Tzu

“Let us always meet each other with smile, for the smile is the beginning of love.”
Mother Teresa

“Love is when the other person’s happiness is more important than your own.”
H. Jackson Brown, Jr.

“Love isn’t something you find. Love is something that finds you.”
Loretta Young

“Start by doing what’s necessary; then do what’s possible; and suddenly you are doing the impossible.”
Francis of Assisi

“I can’t change the direction of the wind, but I can adjust my sails to always reach my destination.”
Jimmy Dean

“The best preparation for tomorrow is doing your best today.”
H. Jackson Brown, Jr.

“The best and most beautiful things in the world cannot be seen or even touched – they must be felt with the heart.”
Helen Keller

“Try to be a rainbow in someone’s cloud.”
Maya Angelou

“Nothing is impossible, the word itself says ‘I’m possible’!”
Audrey Hepburn

“If opportunity doesn’t knock, build a door.”
Milton Berle

“Change your thoughts and you change your world.”
Norman Vincent Peale

“Believe you can and you’re halfway there.”
Theodore Roosevelt

“It is during our darkest moments that we must focus to see the light.”

“No act of kindness, no matter how small, is ever wasted.”

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By Vernalee
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Gray hairs show years of living. As the book of Proverbs states, “Gray hairs are crowns of glory.” Amazing wisdom they provide. The longer you live; the more you know; the more you have experienced. Listening to our elders pay off!
Try it!
After talking to them, you will realize that there is truly nothing new under the sun! They have most likely experienced or witnessed whatever you are attempting or undergoing. “Bought sense or learned sense” is the optimal catchall phrase.
Do you want to learn from others’ experience or do you want to “buy” your sense and try everything yourself?
As for me, give me that gray haired wisdom! I love sage advice. I dont mind learning. I have avoided “many a headaches” from those gray headed ones!
Older folks have seen a “little bit of this and little bit of that” in their living. Their advice may save you – time and energy, and in some cases … grief!
It is not always necessary or prudent to reinvent the wheel or learn the hard way!
Call me a copy cat if you will!
I prefer to follow the road that has been laid than dig a new one.
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By Vernalee
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Although my mother went home to be with the Lord, she told me something years ago that I will never forget.
I want to pass on the same advice to you. “If you dig a ditch for someone to fall in, dig two coz you might fall in one of them.”
C’mon now – That advice was golden!
To this day, I don’t plan other people’s demise.
They seem to be capable of doing that for themselves.
My time and energies are spent on keeping my head above water.
That is an all inclusive job in and of itself. Whew!
Besides, why should I lift a heavy shovel, get all dirty and sweaty by exerting my valuable time, strength, and energies on someone else?
It’s too exhausting!
Looking out for me and mine is a much better choice!
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By Vernalee
“If you don’t stand for something, you’ll fall for anything” is one of those guiding light, inspirational, and motivational expressions. Its origin is attributed to Alexander Hamilton and popularized by actress Irene Dunne and clergyman Peter Marshall.
As for me, I first heard it from Miss Phoebe, my Mother. She used it constantly to influence, mold, and shape my thinking and my actions. It worked! Now, it’s generational. I repeated it to my son and daughter. It is so much easier to reach back and grab old fashioned wisdom that worked and pass it along; rather than come up with something new. Why reinvent the wheel?
The impact of what we see, hear, and observe has phenomenal influences. It’s important to keep our minds on positivity. I keep motivational thoughts and wise sayings in close reach and read them often; sometimes a loud. Try these on for size.
* Think. Formulate Ideas. Try. Do. Do Again. And Again. Keep On Doing … which = Success.
* Never apologize for having high standards. People who want to be in your
life will rise up to meet them.
* You’ve got to be your own man; not a puppet on someone else’s string.
* Never compromise what’s right. Uphold your family’s name and yours.
* Today’s mighty oak is yesterday’s nut that held its ground.
* You’re lost if you’ve gone to look for yourself.
* Strong people don’t put others down. They lift them up.
* Be on guard. Stand firm in your faith. Be courageous. Be strong.
(I Corinthians 16:33).
* Be yourself. Everyone else is already taken. (Oscar Wilde).
* If you don’t understand my silence, how will you understand my words.
* Stand up. Stand tall. Be counted.
* Respect yourself. If you don’t, don’t expect others to.
* Small deeds done are better than big deeds planned. (Peter Marshall).
* There is only one way to avoid criticism. Do nothing. Say nothing. Be
nothing. (Aristotle).
* You will never influence the world by trying to be like it.
What do you stand for? Shhh. Don’t answer me. Let your response speak for itself. Let it be your guiding light. Let it motivate you to higher horizons.
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By Vernalee
Are you tired of being burdened down with other folks’ drama?
Are you tired of carrying extra weight around?
Then there is only one thing that you can do!
Get their monkey off your back!
Stop letting other folks’ drama stress you out to the extent that you cannot exceptionally function.
If you must be worried and endure stress, let it be your own stuff!
When you can say, “I am sick and tired of being sick and tired” of other folks stuff, you would have reached a viable step toward placing you above them!
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By Vernalee
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It is always the small words that mean the most.
Trust, a five letter word, can define a relationship; be it personal, professional, or romantic.
When trust is lost, it is like melted chocolate; you can freeze it afterwards, but the shape is never the same.
For every person who no longer trust, one thing is for sure.
There was a person who made them feel that way!
Protect your relationships.
Yes it is correct that TRUST can take years to build; seconds to destroy; and forever to rebuild – if ever!
Keep the trust that you have earned! Once trust is lost, and doubt is casted, it is too difficult to return from whence you came!
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