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By Vernalee
Doesn’t that doggie look so adorable?
He is the cutest thing!
His alluring appearance reminds me of some folks that a few of us considered – confidantes!
We could tell them anything or so we thought.
Close your mouth for a moment.
Let me tell you something…
1. Protect your secrets;
2. Guard your words;
3. Be selective about who you tell what to … It’s common sense.
I’m sure that you have heard this advice before – time and time again.
I have!
Of course, we don’t always listen.
** If someone tells you other folks business, they’ll tell yours!
It doesn’t take rocket scientist intelligence to figure that out; it’s plain and simple.
If you forget the essence of this simple idiom, remember this.
** You are not exempted from gossip particularly from a person who has diarrhea of the mouth!
Don’t assume that their behavior will change – just because it’s you!
They took the liberties to put your business out in the streets because you provided the fuel!
The “big mouth” who brought you someone else’s information will surely float yours out! It’s fair exchange to them. It’s the personification of the “bring and take” theory.
Because you let your guards down, your information is now freely circulating through the universe for all ears to hear!
Why would they be discreet?
They could care less.
Did you forget?
They are bonafide blabber mouths.
Besides it’s your business; not theirs!
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By Vernalee
For the record, who told you that “you were all that and a bag of chips?”
Was it confirmation from your colleagues or from your inflated ego?
Wrong answer!
Sure, you have some positive attributes, but it does not give you the right to think that you are mightier than thou! C’mon now! You are not! Stop elevating yourself above others. Your nose is so high in the clouds that you cannot even speak to folks.
Dodging folks but seeking them for your personal gain is not kosher. Be careful, your playhouse can be torn down. In fact, it is crumbling now. See the debris!
Though no one wishes upon you what you have done to them and others, a landslide fall from grace is perilous.
Your pockets may now have greener linings, but money doesn’t make you better than anyone else!
Everyone should be treated with dignity and respect. Sooner or later, you will learn!
When it happens, I surely wish that someone informs me; a simple email will do!
In the end, remember that those thin easily broken potato chips are greasy and high in saturated fat and calories. So, your “bag of chips” is just as unhealthy as the treatment that you are dishing out to others!
It doesn’t taste as good now; does it?
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By Vernalee
“The bigger they are, the harder they fall” is a phrase used to ​emphasize that the more ​important or ​powerful a ​person is, the more ​difficult it is for them when they ​lose ​their ​power or ​importance.
When they are up, many unnecessarily flaunt their resources. Often they relegate many to be beneath them while talking to them dastardly; cussing them out at a whim.
Their ostentatious cruelty is covered up by a flavorful imitation of pretentious conduct that is as morally corrupt as the sky is blue. Though they cut a good figure, they wear the cloth of ruthlessness day in, day out.
Can I get a witness if you know one or two!
Never once did they stop to reflect that they were not good caretakers of what they possessed. Just as it was given, it can be taken away.
When and if they are stripped, miraculously they will feel what their counterparts felt when they stripped them. Payback makes the surreal, real; the pain unbearable; the difficulty to rise tantamount to the fall. Power and influence are not insulators to pain.
Anyone can feel it, if they unwisely test the limits!
Just ask the person who hit the ground!
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By Vernalee

A good attitude always starts with good thoughts. Positive thinking is equally as powerful as negative thinking: you’ll start to believe it eventually. So it’s critical to adopt the former and make it into a daily habit. Like everything, shifting your mindset requires conscious effort and commitment, and there are many ways to condition yourself to think positively until it becomes second nature.”
Here are Twenty One.
1. “Eliminate negative words from your vocabulary.
2. Surround yourself with good company.
3. Practice gratitude.
4. Adopt a personal motto.
5. Avoid triggers.
6. Reward yourself.
7. Practice mindfulness.
8. Slow down & relax.
9. Set yourself up for a good day.
10. Set up positive reminders around you.
11. Practice positive affirmations.
12. Don’t be so hard on yourself.
13. Do things that bring you joy.
14. Pay it forward; help others.
15. Read an inspiring book.
16. Find the silver lining.
17. Look at the bigger picture.
18. Find stress releasers.
19. Take a break from social media.
20. Don’t dwell on the past.
21. Make an attitude shift.”
Walk with me for a second. Proverbs 4:23 tells us “Above all else, guard your heart for everything that you do flow from it.” As we read further, Proverb 28:26 instructs “Those who trust in themselves are fools, but those who walk in wisdom are kept safe.”
In summary, we are what we think. We do what our thoughts guide us to do.
Therefore, we must guard our thoughts. If we are smart, we have probably channeled our thinking to the fact that we are always work in progress. That progress is so much easier when positively is in our midst.
There is no difference in the thought processes and energy levels that it take to think negative as it take to think positive. The outcomes to the latter produce the greatest reward.
In the words of the late British Prime Minister Margaret Thatcher,
“Watch your thoughts for they become words.
Watch your words for they become actions.
Watch your actions for they become habits.
Watch your habits for they become your character.
And watch your character for it becomes your destiny.
What we think, we become.”
Think positive!
Speak positive words!
Do positive things!
You will be positively happier!
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By Vernalee
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It is always the small words that mean the most.
Trust, a five letter word, can define a relationship; be it personal, professional, or romantic.
When trust is lost, it is like melted chocolate; you can freeze it afterwards, but the shape is never the same.
For every person who no longer trust, one thing is for sure.
There was a person who made them feel that way!
Protect your relationships.
Yes it is correct that TRUST can take years to build; seconds to destroy; and forever to rebuild – if ever!
Keep the trust that you have earned! Once trust is lost, and doubt is casted, it is too difficult to return from whence you came!
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By Vernalee
When someone has you eating out of their hand, it means that you would do exactly what they ask you to do; no questions asked.
Sometimes, but not always, it is a mind controlled thing whereby manipulation is often involved.
Some of us may deny it; but many of us have been there at some point in our lives.
Go ahead and admit it.
Perhaps, no one is immune.
Charismatic people, those that we love, or those that we want to be loved by – are some of the best candidates to feed us this nonexistent food.
It’s a feeling; a strong feeling at that.
It usually is a mind controlled thing.
It has happened to the best of us despite our strong will.
Lest not forget that …
Love and being in love will do it!
My words not yours.
So if and when you have entered the zone of someone controlling your every moves without your cognitive input and if and when the aura in the atmospheric love zone forces you to be in that position,
do know that you have metaphorically arrived and landed in the palm of someone’s hands!
You may be definitely eating out of their hands!
Either the comments are “What’s for dinner?” or “I am not playing those games of manipulation anymore!”
We’ll see …who is in control?
Are you there or not?
Excuse me …
Your actions speak louder than words.
Therefore …. Pass me the knife and fork!
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By Vernalee
Is your nose in the air?
To have your nose in the air is an expression, an idiom, in fact that is
used to ​describe the way someone ​behaves when they ​think they are ​better than other ​people and do not ​want to ​speak to them.
Haughty, disdainful, and conceited are synonyms that accurately describe this arrogant behavior.
Where I’m from, the impoverish streets of Glen Allan, Mississippi, we were royally taught better.
We were told that what goes up must come down.
We were taught that it doesn’t cost anything to speak and were chastised if we failed to do so.
We were also taught to be appreciative and humble.
Thinking that you were better than someone else was and is still considered insulting.
Values go a long way; they take you far; they form character that will sustain and guide you no matter where you go.
That character keeps you grounded. It gives you a foundational and a reminiscent voice that resounds over and over … “You are no better than the other person.”
Get your nose out of the air, put your feet on solid ground.
Watch your steps, lower your inflated ego, and stay on a level playing field … so if life knocks you down, you’ll have a shorter distance to fall.
It is highly likely that the people that you turned your nose up to might be there to pick you up.
Then, with a lowered nose, your mouth will automatically open with a lowly voice that speaks to all loudly and clear; a voice that gives thanks; a voice that wreathes of humility!
Keep your feet on the ground!
Stay grounded!
Arrogance does not always smell good.
Just ask your nose!
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By Vernalee
Today, let’s look at the general classifications of people who regularly surface in our lives.
Amazingly, there are Three Basic Types of People.
Generally speaking, we are driven toward classifying any and all things. The number three is a common benchmark. Easy to remember, three symbolizes a harmony that includes and synthesizes two opposites.
Allow me to share the widely accepted “people” categories.
1. First, there are people who make things happen. Then there are people who watch things happen. Lastly, there are people who ask, what happened?
2. There are Givers, Takers, And Matchers (With the most successful and least successful being Givers).
3. There are those who helped you, left you, and put you in difficult times.
Three basic types in three primary categories essentially boil down to one thing –
Who will be by your side and unconditionally love you through your ups and downs; through thick and thin?
Like magnets, we naturally attract to us – who we are!
What category best describes you?
Turn the mirror to yourself.
It takes one to know one!
Before you start dissecting others, look at yourself!
When will you fix what is broken on you?
Have you acknowledged your deficiencies?
Isn’t it easier to change you than them?
Thank goodness, for second chances (and more).
Aren’t you glad that you have more than 3 times to get it right … as you realize that all missteps in the wrong direction may cost you …probably more than thrice!
When we can see us clearly, the people floating around in our space are easier to read and see!
It then becomes easier to determine – who leaves and who stays!
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By Vernalee
First impressions are lasting impressions. You never get a second chance to make a first impression.
People size you up within seconds after meeting you.
Therefore, put some serious thoughts and efforts into the process prior to meeting someone for the first time. Approach is key. Lasting impressions can be enhanced if our moves are right. The ultimate goal is to be – memorable.
According to experts, there are several steps to this process. Read below:
10 Tops Tips for making a great First Impression:
1. Maintain eye contact.
2. Keep an opened friendly face.
3. Have good body language.
4. Be genuine.
5. Don’t boast.
6. Smile.
7. Appearance matters.
8. Use the person’s name.
9. Have a positive mindset.
10. Practice.
So plan your meeting.
Be prepared; be smart.
Make your first impression count.
Have a good introduction and a firm handshake.
Look good; smell good.
Leave knowing that you will be remembered.
Achieve the objective of the meeting … by walking away leaving your mark!
As a final tip – Please don’t be late!
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By Vernalee
Our time is so valuable. How it is used determines integral outcomes in our life. There is “never enough time in the day,” is an old adage whose meaning becomes more realistic daily. Thus, we need a plan, particularly when our utilization (of time) determines our income. What’s primary; what’s secondary? How do we make those determinations? As an entrepreneur, making a daily plan makes sense. Four questions / commands of relevancy may determine how our business grows.
1. What tasks make money now?
2. What tasks make money in the future?
3. Schedule money making tasks everyday.
4. Delegate tasks that need to be done, but not necessarily by you.
In quick simplistic terms, the answer as I see it, is a what and a how.
What can bring in the $$$ now, in the future; and how will it be accomplished.
Time management is a science with our utilization of same equating to outcomes … with generation of revenue being one.
How we spend our time – directly and indirectly – determines how much money is in our pockets!
What is our next step? There may be many. Hiring a full time employee may not be financially affordable, but support – be it virtual or a consultant – may be an avenue to explore.
Many of us learn by example. Oddly, some of us can’t resist learning the hard way. We may insist on experimenting with the “bought sense vs. learnt sense” hypothesis.
With quantitative and qualitative measurements, eventually, we will learn that we cannot do it all … by ourselves. When that realization clicks, we will “be in the money!”
Green is such a spendable and vibrant color! Get started planning the “how’s” and “what’s” of your day!
“The early bird catches the most worms!”
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