Archive for the ‘Spiritual’ Category


By Vernalee
“Forgiveness is the intentional and voluntary process by which a victim undergoes a change in feelings and attitude regarding an offense, lets go of negative emotions such as vengefulness, with an increased ability to wish the offender well.”
Forgiveness in relationships is absolute necessary.
It has been noted that forgiveness and our health are closely associated.
When we forgive, the act helps to remove many associated negative emotions including among others – hatred, animosity, guilt, regret, remorse, blame, shame, and self-contempt.
Essentially and often, forgiveness and forgetting go hand in hand.
Some people forget, but they don’t forgive. They hold tight to the infraction that produced the hurt. You can’t forgive what you won’t let go!
The Bible teaches us that forgiveness is necessary and is a tenet of our faith. God forgave us! Why can’t we forgive others?
It is important to forgive others as we have been forgiven by the blood of Christ.
The Holy Bible provides many, many scriptures regarding the necessity to forgive.
Examine among others:
‎Matthew 6:14-15; ‎1 John 1:9; ‎Mark 11:25; and ‎Acts 3:19 for starters.
Matthew 6: 14, 15 tells us: “For if you forgive other people when they sin against you, your Heavenly Father will forgive you.
But if you do not forgive others their sins, your Father will not forgive you.”
Let us – forgive, forget, let go, and move on!
We will be better and feel better when we do!
It is difficult when we are hurt by people who are close to us.
However, if we believe in the Lord, it is important that we forgive.
After all, no one is perfect.
Happy Sunday!
God Bless!
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By Vernalee
There has been a number of theories and quotes on the types of friends who walk through our lives. For me, the version that hit the nail on the head is outlined in Bishop T. D. Jakes’ sermon on “3 Types of Friends.”
Bishop Jakes called them, “Confidants, constituents, and comrades.”
1. The confidants are people who are for you. Your confidants love you unconditionally. Confidants weep with you, rejoice with you, and are happy for you….Confidants will make sure that you reach your destiny.
2. Your constituents are for what you are for.
3. Your comrades are against what you are against.
Jakes cautions us to not confuse the groups, because constituents and comrades will leave you! The latter two are joined to an external interest/issue of yours, but not you per se.
If you have two or three confidants in your lifetime, according to Bishop Jakes, you are blessed!
I thank God for giving me the wisdom to discern that a diamond is coal first!
There have been times that I have been wrong and erroneously classified friends. I have been left blowing in the wind. Have you?
It happens to the best of us!
We can be fooled because people can theatrically show synthetic traits that make them appear genuine and real when in fact, they are not.
It’s important to know who’s who in your life!
Recognizing and discerning them are critical steps in this identification process.
Bishop Jakes breaks it down better than me. The video tells it all. Take a look!

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By Vernalee
Often times, we rely on so many other people and sources to find the answers when the answer is God.
He has been by our side all along.
There is an old expression, “When there is nothing left but God, then God is all that you need.”
My pastor always say God is –
a way maker;
a heart fixer; and
a mind regulator.
Search no more.
God is the answer!
Try him!
Lean on him; don’t rely on your own understanding.
Our God is an awesome God!
He reigns!
Happy Sunday!
God bless!
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By Vernalee
A virtuous woman.
How does she look?
How does she act?
What does she do?
As with all things, the answer is found in the Word. Proverbs 31: 10-31 spell it out.
These verses provide a complete description. What a woman you will be if you measure up to these qualities. Read about her – this virtuous woman – below.
10 A wife of noble character who can find?
She is worth far more than rubies.
11 Her husband has full confidence in her
and lacks nothing of value.
12 She brings him good, not harm,
all the days of her life.
13 She selects wool and flax
and works with eager hands.
14 She is like the merchant ships,
bringing her food from afar.
15 She gets up while it is still night;
she provides food for her family
and portions for her female servants.
16 She considers a field and buys it;
out of her earnings she plants a vineyard.
17 She sets about her work vigorously;
her arms are strong for her tasks.
18 She sees that her trading is profitable,
and her lamp does not go out at night.
19 In her hand she holds the distaff
and grasps the spindle with her fingers.
20 She opens her arms to the poor
and extends her hands to the needy.
21 When it snows, she has no fear for her household;
for all of them are clothed in scarlet.
22 She makes coverings for her bed;
she is clothed in fine linen and purple.
23 Her husband is respected at the city gate,
where he takes his seat among the elders of the land.
24 She makes linen garments and sells them,
and supplies the merchants with sashes.
25 She is clothed with strength and dignity;
she can laugh at the days to come.
26 She speaks with wisdom,
and faithful instruction is on her tongue.
27 She watches over the affairs of her household
and does not eat the bread of idleness.
28 Her children arise and call her blessed;
her husband also, and he praises her:
29 “Many women do noble things,
but you surpass them all.”
30 Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting;
but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised.
31 Honor her for all that her hands have done,
and let her works bring her praise at the city gate.
I seek to be that woman – plain and simple.
The descriptive words seem simple, but the tasks are not.
It is work in progress for many women.
Accomplishing those qualities are pleasing to God, your family, and you – of course!
Happy Sunday!
God bless!
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By Vernalee
When we face challenges, though they may seem insurmountable, we can turn to the all-powerful Creator.
God’s strength and renewal can help us face our fears and do the impossible.
Here are seven scriptures that will uplift and strengthen us in times of adversities.
Psalm 27:1
“The LORD is my light and my salvation; whom shall I fear? The LORD is the strength of my life; of whom shall I be afraid?”
Psalm 37:39
“But the salvation of the righteous is from the LORD; He is their strength in time of trouble.”
Psalm 138:3
“In the day when I cried out, You answered me, and made me bold with strength in my soul.”
Matthew 19:26
“But Jesus looked at them and said to them, ‘With men this is impossible, but with God all things are possible.’”
2 Corinthians 4:16
“Therefore we do not lose heart. Even though our outward man is perishing, yet the inward man is being renewed day by day.”
Philippians 4:13
“I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.”
2 Timothy 1:7
“For God has not given us a spirit of fear, but of power and of love and of a sound mind.”
God knows what is best for us. He is always there for us. We just need to listen and adhere to the commandments of his Word.
There is strength in his Word.
Read it.
Learn from it.
Draw from it.
Follow it.
You will be strengthen.
Yes, God’s strength and his Word will strengthen you.
Happy Sunday.
God bless.
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imageBy Vernalee
David – The youngest and incredibly handsome son of Jesse was a great warrior, an ancestor of Jesus Christ, a talented musician, a prolific writer, and the 2nd King of Israel and Judah.
There are so many description of him; more than meets the eye.
The ones that capture my attention are outlined in 1 Samuel 13:14 and in Acts 13:22. In those scriptures, he is described as a man after God’s own heart.
What a tribute and a testimony!
In Hebrew, the name David means beloved one.
I love the meaning and simplicity behind the name David. Very telling, my reasons are conspicuously obvious as you will see.
I have had the honor of loving and being surrounded by three. As you know, I am a fabulous copy cat, so I named my son, David. On loan from his late Father, the name has flowed down midstream to my grandson. I never knew which one of his parents (Harry or Bernice Lee) named David Sr., but I personally selected the name for my beloved son. Though nicknamed Scooter by George, my brother-in-law, my son David is an incredible young man.
In ancient times, much thought was given to the choice of a child’s name. The name coincided with character. King David’s certainly did!
Most of us have been intrigued and know the story of David’s battle with Goliath. We can visualize the courage that it took to confront a warrior of Goliath’s status with only a slingshot. But David had a secret weapon. He had the Lord.
No matter what happened in his many trials and tribulations alongside his sinful missteps, he loved God. The stories of his obedience and the traumas of his disobedience showed his imperfections. They also showed his repentant heart, his comebacks, faithfulness, love, devotion, and his admittance to wrongful conduct. David was a praying man. He prayed for forgiveness, love, and direction. Everything about King David keeps him real and relatable.
His devotion and love for God make you deeply love and admire him. King David’s story from beginning to end leaves you awe struck.
Fast forwarding to my son David, he does not play the harp or a musical instrument.
But allow me to tell you about him! Before I become long winded and run out of pages because I have that much to say, let me be brief.
With unconditional love, my son loves his family. A great Father, son, grandson, brother, nephew, cousin, and friend, Scooter is a loving and compassionate person. If you want somebody to stand by your side, he’s your guy. Wise for his age, he counsels all of us. Easy to talk to, the entire clan takes their issues to him as he is our in house Dr. Phil. Financial wisdom runs through his veins. He can definitely hold on to a dollar and watch it grow. Envied for his laid back style, he has a gentle mannerism with the words to match that puts your mind at ease when you are troubled.
A son that any Mother would be proud of, I count my blessings. I thank you Lord for my beloved ones, son David Jr. and grands. I ask that you watch over them and the other little big one, my daughter Phoebe. Order their steps Lord. Implant more wisdom and love in their hearts. Show them your ways. I pray that they walk in your path of righteousness obeying your words all the days of their lives. Children are indeed blessings from God. They eventually leave your house, but never your heart!
It seems like only yesterday that my son David was born; that I just held him in my arms.
Time flies as he entered the generation last week of being over 40.
Happy Birthday Scooter!
Happy Sunday!
God bless!
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By Vernalee
Sunday after Sunday, we gather to hear a message from God. We listen as the man of God speaks to us. We want to leave with a inkling of encouragement in our souls; words that will make us better; words that will uplift us; words that will shed light on our experiences; words that will help us make it through another day.
“Some pastor are fiery and others are quiet. Some are great storytellers and others favor a more direct exposition of the scriptures. Some can sing spiritual melodies that resonate through your heart. But no matter what the style or ability of the preacher, God can work through sermons to transform people’s lives.
Bible scholars agree that the Sermon on the Mount is the greatest sermon ever preached. In His discourse about “kingdom living,” recorded in Matthew 5—7, Jesus presented to His disciples the way of righteous living for those who are in God’s family.
The Sermon on the Mount is the longest continuous section of Jesus speaking found in the New Testament, and has been one of the most widely quoted elements of the Canonical Gospels. It includes some of the best known teachings of Jesus, such as the Beatitudes, and the widely recited Lord’s Prayer. The Sermon on the Mount contains the central tenets of Christian discipleship.
This sermon is still applicable to us today because God’s Word is never outdated. Hebrews 4:12 tells us, “the Word of God is living and active and sharper than any two-edged sword.”
When we hear great biblical based sermons, do so prayerfully—on our knees—asking God to use His Word to speak directly into our lives. It is hopeful that the words and teachings will have the power to bring about authentic transformations in our lives.”
If you think back to those sermons that left a meaningful impact, messages that transformed you – that is the emotional and spiritual place where you want to be. When I hear a sermon and it seems as if the pastor is talking directly to me as if no one is sitting in the church but the two of us, I know that it is what I needed. I feel that The Lord has spoken to me through his messenger in such a manner that I could receive it in my soul. God always knows our needs! What an amazing God we serve! All I can say is, “Thank you Lord!”
Happy Sunday! Blessings!
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By Vernalee
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As the reminiscing continues in honor of my Mother, read with me as I share this story.
Here goes.
“Absence makes the heart grow fonder.” William Shakespeare penned that phrase hundreds of years ago, but I witnessed its effects come to light this past year.
My oldest nephew from Tampa made a surprised visit to see his Grandmother. She had not been feeling well all day. One look at her oldest male grandchild immediately put more pep in her step.
As if she had been injected with a dose of penicillin, she immediately felt better. One could conclude that he was the “shot” that she needed! It was a mini miracle.
Speaking of shots, the two of them started talking about the NBA finals. A fan of the Miami Heat, my Mother, at the insistence of her grandson sent LeBron James a videotaped message with a tang of her Mississippi Christian dialect.
In part, she said, “LeBron, the ball is in your hands, but you are in God’s hands. The talent that ya got….can’t nobody take it away from ya.”
I don’t know if LeBron will ever get Mother’s message, but the message that I send to you is, “Show love to your family and friends, particularly when they are not feeling well.
Your visit, call, or card may be just what the doctor ordered!
Just ask the Grandma basketball coach!
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By Vernalee

Yesterday, my Mother was laid to rest in Glen Allan, Mississippi.
Though she can no longer hear, see, or read my tribute, the memories of her are sketched in my heart, my children’s hearts, the family’s hearts, and in the midst of the lives that she touched.
Here’s to you Momma!

A Tribute to my dear Mother,
There are not enough words that can express my love for you. Like a broken record, my love for you was no secret because I told you every day how much I loved you and how special you were to me and my family.
I have always felt honored to call you my Mother so much so that your name was the only name that I chose for my daughter – Phoebe.
I am blessed that you taught my children the same values that you taught me. Truly, our values and beliefs help determine our destiny.
You have never left my side from rocking me in your lap to keeping me on your heart. Only miles separated us, but we were always connected through one heartbeat.
As a Mother, you taught me the traditional things – how to sew, clean, and cook. However, you provided me with so much more – lifelong lessons that I will never forget. You taught me how to be a loving Mother with a disciplinary hand, how to love, and how to be a strong responsible woman/professional by standing up for my convictions. Implanted in my soul are your words of wisdom and traditional Mississippi sayings.
There are several that stand out. “Watch your tongue. Everything that you think, you don’t need to say; Always be the bigger person by doing the right thing; Take care of your kids, because one day they might have to take care of you; Be right with people because the same elevator that took you up will bring you down!”
My Mother, Miss Phoebe … I Love you so much. I will never forget you. Scooter will never forget you. Your namesake Phoebe will definitely never forget you.
Though your spirit rests in Heaven, you will remain in our hearts forever.
Rest in Peace,


By Vernalee
Today, as we prepare for my Mother’s Home going Services, I once again take you to the Bible.
Can you walk with me?
In Exodus 20:12, the first commandment with a promise is given.
“Honor your father and your mother, so that you may live long in the land the LORD your God is giving you.” Esphesians 6:1-3 follows suit.
That commandment is applicable to all of the parents’ children. As our Mothers and Fathers age, it is our Christian responsibility to take care of them.
After all, it was their hands that took care of us!
As one of my dearest friends and I recently discussed, we cherish our roles of being caregivers to our Mothers.
It is a privilege being there for them; to bring happiness to their aging years. Nothing beats the joy that we receive from giving and providing for them!
We are blessed to have our Mothers in their old age; cantankerous or not!
To whom much is given, much is required!” Doing beats excuses!
Doing is honoring; it is our Christian duty.
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