By Vernalee
We hear the axiom frequently, “Age ain’t nothing but a number.” True that! That statement applies to dating and finding romance in your 50’s, 60’s, 70’s and beyond. Unless you’re strange or a bonafide loner, everyone needs someone! People love being loved and feeling loved; no matter what age. Romance is in the air. Just look around! Beyonce’s Mother, Tina recently found love and married at 61. Jada Pinkett Smith’s Mother, Adrienne was recently a bride. Love and happiness know no age!
Having said that, older women don’t necessarily find comfort in dating. Our skills have become rusty. However, if it is companionship that we want, we often have to try new things to accomplish our goals.
Dating coaches take a more positive stance on dating after 60. They explain that a change in mindset is essential for women over 60 who want to find romance. So ladies, get out there and start making connections that can hopefully turn into dating opportunities. Here again, I turned to the experts and here is the advice that they offer.
“There are three simple ideas for creating dating opportunities which include smiling genuinely, approaching men first, and learning the art of flirting.
1. STOP feeling invisible and START attracting quality men is the advice of the day.
So what’s a midlife woman who was raised in a world where men were “supposed” to make the first move do? Here are a few ideas to help you get the hang of dating after 60.
2. Practice a Virtual Flirt with Men from Your Past
Social media has opened wonderful doors of connection, so, don’t be afraid to casually see who’s available. You will find out soon enough if they are married or committed, so be friendly and see what happens.
Discreetly, let selected friends know that you are actively looking for a relationship – maybe they might know someone who is perfect for you!
3. “Are the Chocolate Muffins Good Here?” – Strike up a Conversation!
Another place to meet interesting men is the good old standby, the coffee shop. Starbucks or Panera Bread, anyone? Many men come in every day to get their cup of Joe. Pay attention and you may just find a new friend. Start a casual conversation with the man standing in line and smile!
Sometimes just asking whether the chocolate muffins are any good is enough to start a great conversation. Just remember to be genuine. You’re not looking for the love of your life (although it would be nice to find him). At this point, you’re just looking to make a friendly connection.
4. Play with Pets and Grandkids – They are Great Smile Magnets
When you are out with a dog or young child, there is a natural and comfortable energy. Take your dog for a walk. A local park will do. If you have a grandchild, take them for a cruise around town, perhaps an ice-cream or local cafe. They are magnets. You will be smiling and that’s a good start!
5. Go Cultural – Explore Museums, Bookstores and Theaters
The most important dating guideline is to simply do things you love. If you love museums, look for special events that will draw a crowd. If you have a passion for books, go and browse the magazines and chat with the man next to you. He may say “my wife and I…” and that’s totally fine. There should be no expectations when meeting new people. If you love sports, buy a ticket to an event that you love. Who knows who will be sitting next to you?
6. Attend a Meetup and Share Your Passions
You can join groups for everything you can possibly imagine including hiking, art, photography, travel or dining out. These events can be a great opportunity to meet new people, whether you are looking for love or not. In fact, I know a guy who attends a seminar nearly every week and belong to more groups than the average person. You never know who’s out there.
7. Get Two Birds with One Stone – Let’s Get Physical
Many men love to work out, so, a great place to meet them is at the gym. Meeting people at the gym has a few build in advantages. First, any single man that you do meet at the gym is more interested than the average person in staying in shape. Second, even if you don’t meet anyone, working out is important for every aspect of your health after 60 – mental, physical, and emotional. Getting in shape will improve your confidence and improve every aspect of dating after 60.
8. Dive Into the World of Online Dating, but, Wear Your Armbands
Online dating fills a gap for women who are more uncomfortable meeting new people in person. There are lots of choices, like, where you can freely browse hundreds of profiles. Other paid sites, like, and, ask you to take a personality test before they look for “matches” for you. Black people is another option.
There are also faith-based sites like where members can write and respond to anyone. There really are so many ways to meet men even after 60 – it simply takes a shift in mindset.”
Explore and find! You’ll never know what’s out there, if you don’t look! Be a respectful lady in your search! Find your man; a companion that you can happily grow old with; a man who will be your mate forever and a day! Nothing has changed; you’re just older! Do I hear wedding bells?
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