By Vernalee
To speak your mind is to say what you think about something very directly.
Some folks put a colloquial spin to the words with the street vernacular such as “Have your say; let your voice be heard; make it plain, or sound off.”
To speak your mind is not as easy as it seems. I know firsthand. After all, I have a tendency to say what people want to hear rather than tell them the truth. Particularly this is the case for people who are relatively close to me. I cannot rationalize it, because the same folks that I cushion my comments toward don’t care what they say to me. They just blurt it out; whether distasteful or not. Maybe, I should do the same. Right? My rationale for holding back just doesn’t add up. What’s even worse is not telling them what I truthfully think! Why do I continue this irrational behavior? It’s simple. I don’t want to hurt their feelings. Go figure!
Since you’re never too old to start over, maybe, I should do what the experts say and apply these rules:
1. Don’t worry about how people might react to you speaking your mind.
2. Don’t let aggressive people intimidate you.
3. Remain calm.
4. Don’t shout.
5. Speak clearly and make yourself heard without having to yell.
6. Practice speaking your mind around your family and friends. They do
with you.
7. Believe in yourself. You can do it!
It is so amazing why we hold back the truth. The truth is such a great tool. It may hurt someone’s feelings, but it will help with the shaping of their life. However, if we don’t tell people what we should relate to them, we are being deceitful. We continue lying and they get worse. Bottom line: No one wins!
No pun intended; maybe, that is why people have told me for years that I should be a politician. I do have a way with words; of dressing up what should be plainly said. Though, I realize now that my ‘fancy dancing, stay clear from the facts’ words are not for the best! I know what must occur. I must truthfully and immediately – speak my mind!
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