Posts Tagged ‘Appearance’


By Vernalee
Here I go again!
I know that you have seen the baggy pants look with folks behinds exposed.
Oh my goodness!
Some of them show the crack of their derriere.
Hush yo mouth!
I kid you not!
This despicable appearance is unsightly to the viewers, but vogue to the wearers. So for the violators …, read this poetry by Dr. Charles Beady, Jr. entitled – “Don’t Be a Fool for Hip Hop: Pull Up Yo Pants.”
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“Hey you —with yo pants down to yo knees. Some of us still respect our women. Will you pull them up please! You old enough and I know that you should know enough not to be runnin’ round with yo pants down to yo knees. Naw, I take that back what I just said to you. You aint runnin’. Yo pants won’t allow you to. If you move too fast they fall down…to the ground. I declare. I swear. I do not want to see your underwear. How do you do that anyway? How do they stay in that position? You must be a magician. If you spent as much time with yo mind as you do with your behind ..showing..I be knowin’, in time, you would have a bank! I do not want to see yo draws! Pull up yo pants please!”
For those who have seen those despicable sagging pants with either the person’s behind or their unsightly underwear showing, and wish they would have enough decency or sense to pull them up, shout Amen!
Excerpts from “Don’t Be a Fool for Hip Hop: Pull Up Yo Pants” By Dr. Charles H. Beady, Jr. who served as President for Piney Woods Schools for 20 years. Piney Woods, located in Mississippi, is one of four historically Black boarding high schools in the United States.
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By Vernalee
What you see is not always what you get!
The grass is not always greener on the other side even when it appears so.
Let’s take a look at this theory as it relates to relationships.
Shall we?
A man or woman respectively may think that the other desirable person is better than their current companion. The new chick has a Coca Cola figure with Marilyn Monroe beauty; the new beau has Billy Dee Williams’ handsomeness and swagger!
When will you learn that what The Temptations sang in 1966: “Beauty is only skin deep”is true! However, when beauty is inside, it lasts forever!
Don’t be mistaken. Don’t chase a dream when everything that you need is presently in your life.
Going to the other side may not yield what you think!
Conceptually, this quote refers to many other aspects of life beyond relationships.
Think before you move and realize that some visions are just mirages!
“Do not let the green grass fool you” because it will eventually wither away into hay. In fact, the bright green color will turn brown.
Remember this!
Experimentation is not always wise when you have a proven commodity!
Be smart!
Keep in mind that fertilizer doesn’t guarantee the production of a good crop; it only enhances the soil!
You may already have the best there is!
“Everything that’s good to you may not be good for you.”
Make wise decisions; keep what’s good, eradicate what’s bad.
Equip yourself to discern the difference.
Study the person and the situations.
Remove your blinders.
Judge the tree by its fruits. Look at outcomes. If all else fails; if your judgment is wrong, time will tell! You will eventually be shown the truth. The cream always rises to the top.
Therefore … Enjoy, respect, and appreciate the proven relationships in your life!
Otherwise, you may be jumping out of the pot into the frying pan!
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PostHeaderIcon BALD IS IN!

By Vernalee
Hold that razor!
I must admit that I was petrified a few months ago, when my son showed up at his birthday party with a bald head!
Certainly because we Mothers feel that we have no boundaries and the inalienable right to cross lines and ask/say to our children what we desire, my first word was “Why?”
I recognized that in recent years, he had sported a low cropped hair cut, but to cut off all of his curly locks was too much! He has really gone too far. Well, that’s was my thought, not his!
Since I have been preaching, “Stay in your lane and mind your own business,” for sure, I had gone too far! Certainly, my son knows how he wants to look! Was it my vanity and not his look because his baldness would perhaps reveal my age? Haha!
So when he respectfully and politely said, “Mommy, I like this look; besides I am going bald, so I cut it off.”
“Understood. No problem.”
Then I thought for a minute.
Back in the day, Telly Savalas (remember him; Detective Kojak from the television series) was the bomb with his bald head. Yul Brynner sported his nicely. Lou Gossett, Jr. had a coolness that melted ice. For sure, he brought ‘sexy back.’ Nobody could beat my man, my teenage heartthrob; the Black Moses; the incomparable Isaac Hayes whose album cover, “Hot Buttered Soul” showcasing gold chains on his bare chest hung on my bedroom wall from 1969 for at least a decade in our Mississippi family home. Let me not forget, my favorite NBA player, Michael Jordan. Oh yes, undoubtedly, Michael has the swagger.
So yesterday when the sculpted former wrestler turned actor, Dwayne Johnson, The Rock, was named the sexiest man alive by People Magazine, I realized that – Bald is in!
Unfazed by his new title, The Rock in his laid back voice said, “I still drive my pick up truck and change my baby’s diapers.” In other words, his look, (baldness and all), doesn’t determine his activities, outweigh his responsibilities, or define who he is.
It’s not the hair (or the lack thereof) that makes the man; the man!
It’s the man himself!
Why did I not see this before?
I know better.
I’m surprised at my premature naivety!
To my son, I say, “Do your thing!”
Visual marketing can sway us immediately.
Its powerful messaging influences our views and so much more.
I must confess.
It happened to me yesterday when I saw … The Rock!
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