Posts Tagged ‘Baggage’

PostHeaderIcon RELATIONSHIP BAGGAGE – WHAT IS BEING ROLLED IN?

By Vernalee
imageWhat are you rolling around in your relationship?
Before you answer, “nothing,” think and think again.
You may be surprised.
What’s contained therein is not a blame game. Rather, it is an admittance. We are all sum totals of our experiences.
Stress, guilt, low self esteem, resentment, fear, anger, depression, residue from past relationships, bitterness, lack of trust, secrets, and other weighty issues may be emotionally in tow with you.
Check this out.
You know what’s in your luggage.
The million dollar question is –
“What’s in his?”
You didn’t pack his stuff!
He did!
Hopefully, your and his bags are on wheels. In either case, the weight can get heavy. In fact, it can be too much; over the limits to be exact.
Are you ready to unpack and remove those items that need not be there?
How can you make your load lighter?
Do you need to detox?
Before you respond, look at the signs that suggests that you are rolling around a heavy load.
They are there!
Some may be invisibly hiding inside the lining, but they are bound to penetrate outside the zipper.
Let’s take a look.
10 Signs that you’ve got too much emotional baggage in your relationship:
1. You blame first, defend second.
2. You think you own the other person.
3. You can’t receive constructive criticism.
4. You agree first, stab in the back second.
5. You think your meddling friends are “all that.”
6. You have a sense of entitlement.
7. You are a selfish, petty, grandiose narcissist.
8. There are trust issues.
9. There is baby drama.
10. A previous partner and/or family menbers are too involved in your relationship. What are they doing there? You don’t have room or time for them. Only God, the two of you, and your children can be in your circle.
Remember?
If you have these emotional substances and other dangers looming in your luggage, you need to get rid of them and their influences.
Unpack!
Otherwise, you will continue to roll around these issues and their correlated problems.
Let’s examine this closer.
Guess what?
Since you are now a team, a transfer is bound to occur.
No worries, there is strength in numbers.
That’s right.
Your weight become his; his, yours.
Then, the two of you are on the seesaw together trying to balance what was brought in!
Is that fair?
Fair is not the word; sharing is.
An understanding partner who loves you will be there.
He/she will help with the transition, unpacking, and resolutions.
You can work on it together, but the ultimate responsibility for removing some of the individual weight belongs to the person who rolled it in.
Someone has to take the lead.
Otherwise, your old baggage will inhibit your relationship from truly taking off; from cruising to higher heights of love and happiness.
In other words, you’ll grounded!
What a shame!
You just bought that gorgeous set of designer luggage and you can’t go nowhere!
Deal with it!
Lighten the load.
Get your house in order!
Stop rolling around unnecessary pounds that weigh down you and yours!
Coming together is easy; staying together has its challenges, but it certainly beats being alone and lonely…with no where to go!
Photo credit: www YouTube.com; Source: www.magazine.foxnews.com

PostHeaderIcon RELATIONSHIP BAGGAGE – WHAT ARE YOU ROLLING IN?

By Vernalee
imageWhat are you rolling around in your relationship?
Before you answer, “nothing,” think and think again.
You may be surprised.
What’s contained therein is not a blame game. Rather, it is an admittance. We are all sum totals of our experiences.
Stress, guilt, low self esteem, resentment, fear, anger, depression, residue from past relationships, bitterness, lack of trust, secrets, and other weighty issues may be emotionally in tow with you.
Check this out.
You know what’s in your luggage.
The million dollar question is –
“What’s in his?”
You didn’t pack his stuff!
He did!
Hopefully, your and his bags are on wheels. In either case, the weight can get heavy. In fact, it can be too much; over the limits to be exact.
Are you ready to unpack and remove those items that need not be there?
How can you make your load lighter?
Do you need to detox?
Before you respond, look at the signs that suggests that you are rolling around a heavy load.
They are there!
Some may be invisibly hiding inside the lining, but they are bound to penetrate outside the zipper.
Let’s take a look.
10 Signs that you’ve got too much emotional baggage in your relationship:
1. You blame first, defend second.
2. You think you own the other person.
3. You can’t receive constructive criticism.
4. You agree first, stab in the back second.
5. You think your meddling friends are “all that.”
6. You have a sense of entitlement.
7. You are a selfish, petty, grandiose narcissist.
8. There are trust issues.
9. There is baby drama.
10. A previous partner and/or family menbers are too involved in your relationship. What are they doing there? You don’t have room or time for them. Only God, the two of you, and your children can be in your circle.
Remember?
If you have these emotional substances and other dangers looming in your luggage, you need to get rid of them and their influences.
Unpack!
Otherwise, you will continue to roll around these issues and their correlated problems.
Let’s examine this closer.
Guess what?
Since you are now a team, a transfer is bound to occur.
No worries, there is strength in numbers.
That’s right.
Your weight become his; his, yours.
Then, the two of you are on the seesaw together trying to balance what was brought in!
Is that fair?
Fair is not the word; sharing is.
An understanding partner who loves you will be there.
He/she will help with the transition, unpacking, and resolutions.
You can work on it together, but the ultimate responsibility for removing some of the individual weight belongs to the person who rolled it in.
Someone has to take the lead.
Otherwise, your old baggage will inhibit your relationship from truly taking off; from cruising to higher heights of love and happiness.
In other words, you’ll grounded!
What a shame!
You just bought that gorgeous set of designer luggage and you can’t go nowhere!
Deal with it!
Lighten the load.
Get your house in order!
Stop rolling around unnecessary pounds that weigh down you and yours!
Coming together is easy; staying together has its challenges, but it certainly beats being alone and lonely…with no where to go!
Photo credit: www YouTube.com; Source: www.magazine.foxnews.com

PostHeaderIcon EMOTIONAL BAGGAGE

By Vernalee
imageWhat are you taking into your new relationship? Before you answer, “nothing,” think and think again. You may be surprised what you are rolling in with you. Stress, guilt, low self esteem, resentment, fear, anger, depression, residue from past relationships, bitterness, lack of trust, secrets, and other weighty issues may be emotionally in tow with you. Hopefully, your baggage is on wheels. In either case, the weight can get heavy. In fact, it can be too much! Are you ready for a new relationship? Do you need to detox? Before you answer look at the signs.
10 Signs that you’ve got too much emotional baggage for a relationship:

1. You blame first, defend second.
2. You think you own the other person.
3. You can’t receive the constructive criticism.
4. You agree first, stab in the back second.
5. You think your friend are “all that.”
6. You have a lazy – snobbish disgusting child syndrome.
7. You are a selfish, petty, grandiose narcissist.
8. You are a whiner.
9. You are a martyr.
10. You are a rebel who is asking to be controlled.
If a majority of these emotional substances are in your luggage, perhaps you need to rid yourself of them and their influences. Otherwise, you will roll them right into your new relationship and transfer the weight to your new partner. Then he or she is on the seesaw with you trying to balance what you brought in! Is that fair? Probably not! An understanding partner who loves you will be there. He/she will help with the transition. Two people need not be totally angered and depressed! Right? Removing the weight is your job!
Photo credit: www YouTube.com; Source: www.magazine.foxnews.com

PostHeaderIcon “Check your bags at the door!”

By Vernalee
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When I travel, I prefer to carry only one item on the plane; the lighter, the better! The hassle of being “weighted” down with luggage, though they may roll on wheels is too much! Thus, I always check my bags! Since luggage is a physical object, it’s an automatic process; a no brainer in fact!
But what about emotional baggage? Its internal. We wheel our past around with us wherever we go; particularly in relationships. Consequently, mentally stored in our cerebrum, we formed conclusive opinions on conduct based upon what someone else previously did or didn’t do! Glazing into our relationship crystal ball, we predict the outcomes! History is hard to wash away. It shouldn’t be ignored. In many cases, it serves to protect us. Undeniably, it is predictive; except for distinguishable variables. Most notably in a new relationship, we are interacting with a new person! How different is that? Should we keep our guards up to insulate and protect ourselves from hurt and heartbreak? Do we unfairly send someone “a packing?” Are we better safe than sorry? Are we holding someone else accountable for another person’s deeds? There is a Latin phrase – “tabula rasa.” It means – a blank slate. As hard as it is to erase memories, we should only judge people on their actions. Wiping the slate clean is a necessity. Emotionally, though we may have experienced deep scars, we can’t roll old problems into a new relationship. It”s called fair play. We must check our baggage at the door!
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