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Most likely, everyone has witnessed the devastation of cheating and the morning after sickness that lingers. Two is not better than one in relationships! Have you ever cheated or had someone cheat on you? Shhh! Don’t answer; it may be incriminating! How do you calculate the cost of cheating and affairs? The topic is a hard one to examine or discuss, but it is alive and kicking! Alright, pull out your calculator; it’s time to add! Cheating usually comes with an itemized list and a expensive price tag. It encompasses more than just money. There is also a steep emotional price. Hmm. I wonder will you ever trust again? Think about this! Cheating affects more than you and your mate; a lineup of family and friends are involved in the scandal.
After adding in the intangibles such as – humiliation, embarrassment, betrayals, guilt, pain, forgiveness or lack thereof, traces of fractured memories that never fade….and other residue of the moments when the wedding ring came off – the cost is insurmountable. It is infinite. If in the process, an embryo is created or a home is wrecked ending in divorce, the mounting cost leaves the scientific realms of calculations and is transplanted directly into the hearts of the afflicted. The sting of pain is amazing; it can be sometimes implanted forever and a day. There is simply no erasing of things that cannot be eliminated. So before the final calculation is presented (because with extramarital affairs there is always a price to pay whether you are caught or not), let’s examine the accompanying mountainous debt. Lest not forget those unmarried companions who have been in long termed committed relationships. Should there be any covenants of expectations? Surely, anyone’s heart would bleed if the person that they have been seeing and faithful to – is cheating behind their back. It’s only human; don’t you think? Remember this: Stop thinking of cheating in terms of sex – only! Cheating comes in other forms of inappropriate actions. The list (secretive dates, flirty social media exchanges) is too extensive, but I know that you get the picture; the landscape for sure isn’t foreign! Tune in tomorrow for a wrap! See ya!
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“Don’t tell me you’re sorry ’cause you’re not
Baby when I know you’re only sorry you got caught
But you put on quite a show
Really had me going
But now it’s time to go
Curtain’s finally closing
That was quite a show
But it’s over now (but it’s over now)
Go on and take a bow.”
Many women have witnessed and some regretfully experienced the acts of cheaters. These cheaters duck, hide, and take side streets among other gimmicky ploys to shield their acts. They cheat in the dark and in the light. They go through many traps to avoid getting caught or being seen. As much time may be spent on camouflages as on the act itself. If caught, be prepared to hear their lies, excuses and apologies. Mostly anything will be done to remain in good graces at least until the next cheating act.
It begs to ask. Are they remorseful? Or as Rihanna said, “they are only sorry that they got caught.” For some women, the cheaters must leave. It is curtain time. So, Mr. Cheater – get lost, never return, and let the door hit you where the good Lord gave you to sit!
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If you saw your girlfriend’s husband or boyfriend in an unquestionable cheating predicament, what would you do?
Would you tell her; keep your mouth closed; spread the news of the sighting by telling others; confront her hubby / boyfriend to verify the circumstances before spilling the beans; put the cheater on notice with a warning; post on Facebook; take verifying photographs with your cell phone; call your girlfriend immediately so that she can see the damaging scene for herself? Nothing beats being caught with your hands in the cookie jar! It’s even better than a surveillance camera! Simply put, will you meddle and tell or refrain and be silent? Will your informational release be now, later, or never? If you elect to be silent, are you participating in the process as a contributory negligent bystander?
It is a slippery slope because the revelation of the information can be just as hurting and damaging as the maintenance thereof. You can become a home wrecker or a unifier providing a wakeup call which may stimulate the couple to get it together before it falls apart!
Question: If your mate was cheating, what would you expect your friend to do if she witnessed same? I know what I would do. Do you?
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