Posts Tagged ‘Discretion’

PostHeaderIcon FACEBOOK DID NOT BREAK UP YOUR RELATIONSHIP. YOU DID!

By Vernalee
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Alright, let’s get right to it!
Does social media have an effect upon your relationship?
Sure it does!
Let me qualify that response. It does … particularly when you use it obsessively wrong.
All types of hook-ups occur from those “winks,” “likes,” and friend requests! You betta believe it baby!
Infidelity, cheating, jealous rages, fights, breakups, and divorces have resulted from flagrant uses/abuses on Facebook, Instagram, and other social media accounts.
According to research, less matured relationships (under 3 years) take the biggest hits.
Here are some steps to take to prevent social media from ruining your relationship:
1. Stop being single online and in an actual relationship in real life.
2. Be cautious with “friending” exes.
3. Don’t get caught up in the hype because Facebook friends and other social media groupies give you much needed attention.
4. Stop it … with sneaky “stuff.”
Be open with your mate. If it looks like you’re hiding something, you probably are.
5. Have some limitations regarding your posts.
When your cyber friends are gone, your mate will still be there … hopefully.
So if you get caught red handed, don’t blame Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter for the fallouts.
Why?
You are at fault.
Here’s how!
You took the photo with the girlfriend that your wife saw on Facebook.
It was your provocative comments that you placed on your page for all to view.
You crossed the line.
You put your business in the streets.
Your fingers did the clicking!
You publicized your infidelity digitally.
Place the blame where it belongs!
YOU!
It was you!
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PostHeaderIcon DON’T AIR YOUR DIRTY LAUNDRY IN PUBLIC

By Vernalee
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Discretion should be the guide that determines what we expose. Guarding what we choose to reveal and what we keep confidential is pivotal to determining outcomes. Without question, it is a known fact that our small tongue can cause monumental problems when the wrong thing is said to the wrong person at the wrong time.
Said differently, it can be dangerous to air our dirty laundry in public. Why hang your “dirt” out for everybody to see?
To air your dirty laundry means to openly talk about things (usually a problem or dispute) that should be kept private. Discussing and revealing private issues amongst others that are not involved is unwise. “Your dirty laundry” (dirty secrets) should be kept out of sight when people are visiting; otherwise, it could be embarrassing for you, others, or them. There are many concerns and tons of information that need not become public.
Once it is released from your lips, it cannot be retracted. As the old folks in Mississippi sitting on their screened in porches gossiping and drinking lemonade would say, “You best know who you’re talking to. Don’t let folks know what’s going on in your house coz they will barge in. As for who you tell what to – all we can say is that “thang” over there … can’t hold water. Don’t tell her your business if you don’t want it out in the streets.” Listen to me my old folks! As a child, I thought that you didn’t know what you were talking about. Now, I see how wise you were and why you hung your laundry up in the dark!
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PostHeaderIcon A STILL TONGUE MAKES A WISE HEAD

By Vernalee

...for out of the abundance of the heart the mouth speaketh . --Matthew 12:34 KJV Whoso keepeth his mouth and his tongue keepeth his soul from troubles.   --Proverbs 21:23 KJV

…for out of the abundance of the heart the mouth speaketh .
–Matthew 12:34 KJV
Whoso keepeth his mouth and his tongue keepeth his soul from troubles.
–Proverbs 21:23 KJV


“A still tongue makes a wise head” refers to a person who only speak when it has been determined that it is appropriate to do so.
They are not chatter boxes and are wise enough to not just say whatever comes to mind.
It validates the theory that if one is cautious with their speech, and listens instead, he/she exercises control which in turn reflects their display of solid experience, keen knowledge, and good judgement.
A still tongue serves to protect and guard against unnecessary queries. Besides … Who asked for your opinion?
Who asked you to stick your nose into their business?
If they wanted your viewpoints, they would have asked. Right?
You see here lies the problem. If people mind their own business, the world would be a better place; less confusion for sure.
Allow me to “Vernalize” this thought.
Walk with me.
Once again, I say – Stay in your own lane and out of other folks’ business! Guard your thoughts; guard your tongue.
Be selective about what words come out of your mouth.
Besides, who has the time or energies to host someone else’s mess!
Proverbs 17:28 provides wise advice:
“Even fools are thought wise if they keep silent,
and discerning if they hold their tongues.”
It will behoove us to do just that!
Shhh!
Did I hear, “The cat got your tongue.”
For some, the perpetual chatter boxes and nosey roseys – that’s a good thing!
Silence can be golden!
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PostHeaderIcon DON’T AIR YOUR DIRTY LAUNDRY IN PUBLIC

By Vernalee
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Discretion should be the guide that determines what we expose. Guarding what we choose to reveal and what we keep confidential is pivotal to determining outcomes. Without question, it is a known fact that our small tongue can cause monumental problems when the wrong thing is said to the wrong person at the wrong time. Said differently, it can be dangerous to air our dirty laundry in public. Why hang your “dirt” out for everybody to see? To air your dirty laundry means to openly talk about things (usually a problem or dispute) that should be kept private. Discussing and revealing private issues amongst others that are not involved is unwise. “Your dirty laundry” (dirty secrets) should be kept out of sight when people are visiting; otherwise, it could be embarrassing for you, others, or them. There are many concerns and tons of information that need not become public. Once it is released from your lips, it cannot be retracted. As the old folks in Mississippi sitting on their screened in porches gossiping and drinking lemonade would say, “You best know who you’re talking to. Don’t let folks know what’s going on in your house coz they will barge in. As for who you tell what to – all we can say is that “thang” over there … can’t hold water. Don’t tell her your business if you don’t want it out in the streets.” Listen to me my old folks! As a child, I thought that you didn’t know what you were talking about. Now, I see how wise you were and why you hung your laundry up in the dark!
Photo credit: www.thingspeoplesay.storenvy.com

PostHeaderIcon Stuff I wanna say, but don’t!

by Vernalee
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Why am I biting my tongue? There are a few things that’s on my mind, but the words won’t come out! My mind and heart are at battle right now over what to do! “What’s the downside / upside,” I ponder. I have the answers: Peace of mind perhaps; a release from my system; an infliction of hurt to the ears that hear! All are genuine reasons if I utter the “stuff that I wanna say.” Should I tell folks that I can see what they are trying to hide; that they selfishly only think of themselves; that they are non – supportive; that their lack of backbone hurts their spine more than mine? After all, everything will eventually come to light! Will my comments hurt the person’s feelings though truthful; though as bright as the sky is blue; though everyone else talks about him / her behind their back? Am I hurting them by not telling them the truth? Questions, questions, questions! Let’s see. I trust my wisdom will help me make the right choice of – release or retention. Have you ever struggled with this issue? Are you cautious about not hurting other folks feelings even though they could care less about yours? My conscience always get in the way; it bothers me sometimes and guards my tongue. Aw Shucks! Maybe I am in the minority and am not preaching to the choir. Some folks throw caution to the wind, blurt out what they feel like saying, and let the chips fall where they may! Sometimes, I become too contemplative or judiciously concerned to find the right time and place. Maybe, I am just who I am; me not you!
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