Posts Tagged ‘Friends’

PostHeaderIcon TRUE FRIENDS – A RARE COMMODITY

By Vernalee
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During the course of our lives, we meet many people. Nothing beats the ones who enter our lives and never leave. There’s a reason why they stay.
You probably are itching to know the answer.
It is no mystery or miraculous finding.
Is it that we share the same values, goals, and objectives? Yes.
Is it that we love them and they us? Yes.
Is it that we need them to make our lives complete?
Yes.
There are a number of reasons that varies by individual prerogatives.
I cannot say that I have a comprehensive answer or the right response, but I attribute it to a divine connection.
Your spirits become intertwined.
I have been fortunate to meet a few true friends that only time and distance separate.
Whenever we see each other regardless of the time that has slipped by since our last visit, we pick up as if we glazed each other in the eye just yesterday. It’s a stickiness that cannot be erased; a glue that connects; a love that will hold and keep us together.
It is the thought and the reality of knowing that someone is there in your time of need; during those moments when you need to spill your guts.
My Mother always said, “God places people in your life.”
We walk our trail not alone.
Having a true friend on the journey makes the distance traveled worth the measured steps.
When we are fortunate enough to find “true” friends who share our inner spirit, it is a treasure; a glittering diamond of sorts.
They are rare, but hopefully you have encountered a few. I have!
I refer to them as the ones that are spiritually connected to us by God.
True friends … are the ones with whom you share your stories of successes, failures, ups, downs, and turnarounds.
Lest not forget the relating of those horror stories (nightmares of sorts) and stupid stuff that even you cannot believe that you did until your wisdom kicked in and convinced you of the dangers.
Often, we discuss subjects that are embarrassing, but we need the advice of someone who cares enough to set us straight without judgment.
Our innermost secrets are tucked inside their soul never to come out.
They have stories that can never be told!
Shhh!
They laugh with us; they cry with us.
They have a nudging bent on their knees from the constant prayers for us.
Their prayers travel in two directions as they pray with you and for you.
They too are the ones who encourage and motivate you to do your best, connect you to the right people, and share not an ounce of jealousy.
It becomes a mutual alliance.
They truly want the best for you as you desire for them.
For you to reach the highest height and soar like an eagle is their wish.
Yes, it is unequivocally true that true friends are a rare commodity!
I can testify.
So I feel bless to have these valuable treasures of true friends (one in particular) in my life.
It is a privilege as they don’t come around often.
I don’t take them or what we have for granted.
I thank God for them … and their families for sharing them with me.
I thank them!
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PostHeaderIcon BE THE FRIEND THAT YOU WANT TO HAVE

By Vernalee
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Yes, I am still on the topic of FRIENDSHIP.
The subject is timeless; it never grows old.
So let’s examine our wish list.
First things first.
It is unreasonable to expect from others what you are not willing to give.
That sounds hypocritical…don’t you think?
So whatever attributes you desire in and from a friend, you should be willing to give.
Agreed?
Fair play?
Listen up as we examine some friendship guidelines.
1. Avoid competition.
2. Avoid gossip.
3. Confront wisely.
4. Forgive.
5. Maintain friendships; treat them with care.
6. Celebrate best friends.
7. Let your friendships serve as a mirror.
8. Make changes, if needed. You are allowed.
9. Create a healthy community of friends with the reality that just because you are the nucleus that your friends may not become friends to each other.
10. Give everyone their space.
11. Explore your expectations.
12. Befriend yourself.
Now I ask…
Who can you confidentially talk to and get the best possible advice?
Who wants you to succeed no matter what? Who will be there for you when everyone walks away?
Who will be there when you are up, down or turnaround?
Answer: A true friend.
Remember this.
Everyone needs someone.
No one is an island.
Having a true friend is valuable. True friendship doesn’t come around often.
If you have one true friend, you are lucky.
Two – would be a steal!
When you find a true friend, keep him or her close.
Don’t ask for something that you are not willing to give!
Think of others; do for others.
Don’t be a talker only; show that you care.
Cherish being a true friend as much as having a true friend!
It’s a treasure!
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PostHeaderIcon FRIENDSHIP 101

By Vernalee
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For the record, you don’t need to take a class (Friendship 101), to determine who your real friends are.
Your heart, love, body & soul, and evidence of treatment will tell you!
Friends that you love and who love you; friends who care about you and your well-being; sincere friends; respectful friends……..who could ask for anything more!
When you pick up your phone to talk to a true friend, it appears as if they are in the next room though they may be miles apart.
Distance is immaterial.
Though schedules may prevent you from getting together frequently, they are never far!
Feed, water, and nurture your true friends because the value of true friendship is priceless!
You are connected through your hearts and you become a blessing to each other!
I am truly blessed.
Are you?
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PostHeaderIcon TRUE FRIENDS – A RARE COMMODITY/A PRECIOUS FIND

By Vernalee
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During the course of our lives, we meet many people. Nothing beats the ones who enter our lives and never leave. There’s a reason why they stay.
You probably are itching to know the answer.
It is no mystery or miraculous finding.
Is it that we share the same values, goals, and objectives? Yes.
Is it that we love them and they us? Yes.
Is it that we need them to make our lives complete?
Yes.
There are a number of reasons that varies by individual prerogatives.
I cannot say that I have a comprehensive answer or the right response, but I attribute it to a divine connection.
Your spirits become intertwined.
I have been fortunate to meet a few true friends that only time and distance separate.
Whenever we see each other regardless of the time that has slipped by since our last visit, we pick up as if we glazed each other in the eye just yesterday. It’s a stickiness that cannot be erased; a glue that connects; a love that will hold and keep us together.
It is the thought and the reality of knowing that someone is there in your time of need; during those moments when you need to spill your guts.
My Mother always said, “God places people in your life.”
We walk our trail not alone.
Having a true friend on the journey makes the distance traveled worth the measured steps.
When we are fortunate enough to find “true” friends who share our inner spirit, it is a treasure; a glittering diamond of sorts.
They are rare, but hopefully you have encountered a few. I have!
I refer to them as the ones that are spiritually connected to us by God.
True friends … are the ones with whom you share your stories of successes, failures, ups, downs, and turnarounds.
Lest not forget the relating of those horror stories (nightmares of sorts) and stupid stuff that even you cannot believe that you did until your wisdom kicked in and convinced you of the dangers.
Often, we discuss subjects that are embarrassing, but we need the advice of someone who cares enough to set us straight without judgment.
Our innermost secrets are tucked inside their soul never to come out.
They have stories that can never be told!
Shhh!
They laugh with us; they cry with us.
They have a nudging bent on their knees from the constant prayers for us.
Their prayers travel in two directions as they pray with you and for you.
They too are the ones who encourage and motivate you to do your best, connect you to the right people, and share not an ounce of jealousy.
It becomes a mutual alliance.
They truly want the best for you as you desire for them.
For you to reach the highest height and soar like an eagle is their wish.
Yes, it is unequivocally true that true friends are a rare commodity!
I can testify.
So I feel bless to have these valuable treasures of true friends (one in particular) in my life.
It is a privilege as they don’t come around often.
I don’t take them or what we have for granted.
I thank God for them … and their families for sharing them with me.
I thank them!
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PostHeaderIcon WHO ARE YOUR FRIENDS?

By Vernalee
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Speaking of friends; who are yours?
Crossing racial and gender lines, I feel privileged to call a selected few my true friends.
It is said that you basically need five types of friends. Without calling my friends by name, let me provide you with their descriptions.
The comedian is the friend who makes you laugh and interjects humor into your life.
The risk taker is the adventurer who stimulates you beyond the status quo.
The loyalist will stand by your side through thick and thin no matter what.
The challenger always encourages you to maximize your position.
The life coach is the friend who you can talk to about anything without judgment being passed.
A few of my friends have amazingly combined these five ingredients into one. From Mississippi to Ohio with an extension into multiples states, I am truly blessed as I have these wonderful loving people in my life.
Their professions are too multiple to outline.
Regardless of what they professionally do on their day jobs, my true friends work hard to keep our friendship genuine, caring, and loving.
I believe that they sincerely care about me and of course me, them!
I so appreciate them!
We genuinely want the best for each other and do not begrudge the other. Motivation is in; jealously is out.
Love flows in all direction as does our advice.
I made a basic discovery years ago – The type of friend that you are is just as important as the type of friends that you have!
It is my responsibility to give to them what they give to me.
It is a two way street.
It is what friends do!
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PostHeaderIcon THREE TYPES OF FRIENDS – WHO IS IN YOUR LIFE? WHICH ONE ARE YOU TO OTHERS?

By Vernalee
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There have been a number of theories and quotes on the types of friends who walk through our lives. For me, the version that hit the nail on the head is outlined in Bishop T. D. Jakes’ sermon on “3 Types of Friends.”
Bishop Jakes called them, “Confidants, constituents, and comrades.”
The confidants are people who are for you. Your confidants love you unconditionally. Confidants weep with you, rejoice with you, and are happy for you….Confidants will make sure that you reach your destiny.
Your constituents are for what you are for; while your comrades are against what you are against.
Jakes cautions us to not confuse the groups, because constituents and comrades will leave you! The latter two are joined to an external interest/issue of yours, but not you per se.
If you have two or three confidants in your lifetime, you are blessed!
I thank God for giving me the wisdom to discern that a diamond is coal first!
There have been times that I have been wrong and erroneously classified friends. I have been left blowing in the wind. Have you?
It happens to the best of us! We can be fooled because people can theatrically show synthetic traits that make them appear genuine and real.
It’s important to know who’s who in your life! Recognizing and discerning them are critical steps in this identification process.
Bishop Jakes breaks it down better than me. Take a look!

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PostHeaderIcon I’LL BE BY YOUR SIDE FOREVERMORE. THAT’S WHAT FRIENDS ARE FOR

By Vernalee
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With Stevie Wonder on the harmonica, Elton John on the piano, and the distinctive melodic voices of Dionne Warwick and Gladys Knight, without question – what an unforgettable quartet who lent their musical talents for a great philanthropic cause! Most of us know the “words by heart.” The question is not whether we can sing from memory the 1985 tune, “That’s What Friend Are For.” The real question is whether we can live up to the words! Hmmm … that precept should give you something to think about! And the below lyrics are just the chorus!
“Keep smilin’ keep shinin’
Knowing you can always count on me for sure
That’s what friends are for
For good times and bad times
I’ll be on your side forever more
That’s what friends are for.”
How many friends do you have that fit that bill? Are you that type of friend? Singing the song is great! It’s music to our ears! Living the words is the challenge …. be the times good or bad!
Of course, the superstars can sing the heartfelt lyrics harmonically better than I can say the words.
Take a look … Listen up!

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PostHeaderIcon WHO ARE YOUR FRIENDS?

By Vernalee
173922446 getty images
Speaking of friends, who are yours?
Crossing racial and gender lines, I feel privileged to call a selected few my true friends.
It is said that you basically need five types of friends. Without calling my friends by name, let me provide you with their descriptions.
The comedian is the friend who makes you laugh and interjects humor into your life.
The risk taker is the adventurer who stimulates you beyond the status quo.
The loyalist will stand by your side through thick and thin no matter what.
The challenger always encourages you to maximize your position.
The life coach is the friend who you can talk to about anything without judgment being passed.
A few of my friends have amazingly combined these five ingredients into one. From Mississippi to Ohio with an extension into multiples states, I am truly blessed as I have these wonderful loving people in my life.
Their professions are too multiple to outline.
Regardless of what they professionally do on their day jobs, my true friends work hard to keep our friendship genuine, caring, and loving.
I believe that they sincerely care about me and of course me, them!
I so appreciate them!
We genuinely want the best for each other and do not begrudge the other. Motivation is in; jealously is out.
Love flows in all direction as does our advice.
I made a basic discovery years ago – The type of friend that you are is just as important as the type of friends that you have!
It is my responsibility to give to them what they give to me.
It is a two way street.
It is what friends do!
Photo credit: www.gettyimages.com

PostHeaderIcon TRUE FRIENDS – A RARE COMMODITY

By Vernalee
image
During the course of our lives, we meet many people. Nothing beats the ones who enter our lives and never leave. There’s a reason why they stay.
You probably are itching to know the answer.
It is no mystery or miraculous finding.
Is it that we share the same values, goals, and objectives? Yes.
Is it that we love them and they us? Yes.
Is it that we need them to make our lives complete? Yes.
There are a number of reasons that varies by individual prerogatives.
I cannot say that I have a comprehensive answer or the right response, but I attribute it to a divine connection.
Your spirits become intertwined.
I have been fortunate to meet a few true friends that only time and distance separate. Whenever we see each other regardless of the time that has slipped by since our last visit, we pick up as if we glazed each other in the eye just yesterday. It’s a stickiness that cannot be erased; a glue that connects; a love that will hold and keep us together.
It is the thought and the reality of knowing that someone is there in your time of need; during those moments when you need to spill your guts.
My Mother always said, “God places people in your life.”
We walk our trail not alone.
Having a true friend on the journey makes the distance traveled worth the measured steps.
When we are fortunate enough to find “true” friends who share our inner spirit, it is a treasure; a glittering diamond of sorts. They are rare, but hopefully you have encountered a few. I have!
I refer to them as the ones that are spiritually connected to us by God.
True friends … are the ones with whom you share your stories of successes, failures, ups, downs, and turnarounds.
Lest not forget the relating of those horror stories (nightmares of sorts) and stupid stuff that even you cannot believe that you did until your wisdom kicked in and convinced you of the dangers.
Often, we discuss subjects that are embarrassing, but we need the advice of someone who cares enough to set us straight without judgment.
Our innermost secrets are tucked inside their soul never to come out.
They have stories that can never be told!
Shhh!
They laugh with us; they cry with us.
They have a nudging bent on their knees from the constant prayers for us.
They too are the ones who encourage and motivate you to do your best, connect you to the right people, and share not an ounce of jealousy.
It becomes a mutual alliance.
They truly want the best for you as you desire for them.
For you to reach the highest height and soar like an eagle is their wish.
Yes, it is unequivocally true that true friends are a rare commodity!
I can testify.
So I feel bless to have these valuable treasures of true friends in my life.
It is a privilege as they don’t come around often.
I don’t take them or what we have for granted.
I thank God for them … and their families for sharing them with me.
I thank them!
Photo credit: www.picturequotes.com

PostHeaderIcon THREE TYPES OF FRIENDS

By Vernalee
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There have been a number of theories and quotes on the types of friends who walk through our lives. For me, the version that hit the nail on the head is outlined in Bishop T. D. Jakes’ sermon on “3 Types of Friends.”
Bishop Jakes called them, “Confidants, constituents, and comrades.”
The confidants are people who are for you. Your confidants love you unconditionally. Confidants weep with you, rejoice with you, and are happy for you….Confidants will make sure that you reach your destiny.
Your constituents are for what you are for; while your comrades are against what you are against.
Jakes cautions us to not confuse the groups, because constituents and comrades will leave you! The latter two are joined to an external interest/issue of yours, but not you per se.
If you have two or three confidants in your lifetime, you are blessed!
I thank God for giving me the wisdom to discern that a diamond is coal first!
There have been times that I have been wrong and erroneously classified friends. I have been left blowing in the wind. Have you?
It happens to the best of us! We can be fooled because people can theatrically show synthetic traits that make them appear genuine and real.
It’s important to know who’s who in your life! Recognizing and discerning them are critical steps in this identification process.
Bishop Jakes breaks it down better than me. Take a look!

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