Posts Tagged ‘Helping hands’

PostHeaderIcon WHO IS ON YOUR STARTING LINEUP?

By Vernalee
imageWho is on your support team? Who will carry the ball? Who will pick you up if you fall?
Before you answer, let me preface by saying that no man is an island! You may not need anyone right now, but sooner or later you will; I assure you! Don’t wait until crunch time to find out who is there; if anyone!
Winning teams put their best players in their starting lineups. So should you!
When players have great chemistry, there is nothing but nets!
Swish!
Hopefully, you are cultivating a following and unselfishly living your life in such a way that someone will be willing to play ball on your court!
Don’t be a hypocrite – Walk the talk! Give before you take!
It is a huge blessing to have devoted life players that you can call who have the love, time, ability and sincerity to give you solid advice; provide wisdom in decision making; charge your battery when you are down; push you to be your best; encourage, motivate, and challenge you; pick you up and carry you if you fall; be your friend; and be there for you in times of need.
Having someone that you can talk to, pour your heart out to, be your confidante, and listen non-judgmentally is priceless. My heart bleeds for people who have no one!
My Mother always say, “If you live long enough, you will need somebody to bring you a glass of water.” How true!
For the privileged ones who think that they need no one because they are sitting on boat loads of money and assets, please know that there are so many things that money can’t buy! Genuine love, caring, concern, compassion … are among them.
Knowing that you have someone on your team who will provide a dose of love is comforting! It can be just what the doctor ordered! Remove yourself from the company of those arrogant/selfish teammates whose noses are so high in the air that they could care less about anyone but themselves.
Be what you seek; be a sterling example of love and humility … and surround yourself with those who are driven to score wholesome victories in life!
Love, caring, assistance, empathy, sincerity, kindness … are the “balls” that we and those in our lineup should carry.
They will yield the winning combinations. When you have extended your hand to help, hopefully someone will remember and reach back.
No other score matters!
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PostHeaderIcon STOP WATCHING. START HELPING.

imageBy Vernalee
Are you the first to criticize? Are you more busier critiquing and analyzing others than trying to improve yourself? Probably! Maybe, you have fallen into that sphere where there is nothing wrong with you. It’s always the other person who is at fault; always the other person who took the wrong steps. You want admit it because the words are hard to the listening ear. But you know that it’s true. Right? Before you realize it, you can get caught up watching others and keeping up with their affairs, while yours are falling by the wayside. What a time consuming process! I’ll say.
For certain, it is correct that you can see others better than yourself. No one will dispute that fact. When you watch others so critically that you can find their needle in their haystack, your microscopic vision has probably gone too far. The time that you are spending critiquing, criticizing, and judging is out of control. Somewhere along the way, we forgot that only God can judge. Concomitantly, we overlooked the fact that only Jesus Christ was perfect.
Matthew 7:1-5 tells us:
Judge not, that you be not judged. For with the judgment you pronounce you will be judged, and with the measure you use it will be measured to you. Why do you see the speck that is in your brother’s eye, but do not notice the log that is in your own eye? Or how can you say to your brother, ‘Let me take the speck out of your eye,’ when there is the log in your own eye? You hypocrite, first take the log out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to take the speck out of your brother’s eye.”
Some biblical translations refer to the log as a straw. It’s more contemporary. Though more relatable, the concept is the same. If you clear your mind, certainly you will be able to see yourself better; your vision becomes clearer. A clearer view of you may put right before your very eyes and hopefully help you to understand that you are no better than most. Your circumstances may have shielded you from some experiences, but at the core, the similarities exist.
Since you can see so well, have you ever considered helping the person that you feel is beneath you with words of wisdom or guidance that will lift them up and remove their deficiencies? Since your view of them is frontal, a helping hand is easier. Removing the “speck” from your brother’s eye is so easy; it’s a piece of cake.
Caution: Don’t help your brother partially or meet him half way; come full circle. If you can help and don’t, who’s worse? The answer is right before your eyes! It’s even bigger than a “speck.”
God’s Word, the Bible, has it all. We just need to read it and follow the instructions as written without extrapolating and justifying the words to fit our course of actions. After all, when we do that, we are satisfying us, not God.
Happy Sunday. Blessings!
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PostHeaderIcon THROWING GOOD MONEY AFTER BAD

By Vernalee
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“Throwing good money after bad.” You know the phrase all too well. We throw good money after bad when we –
Waste good money after wasting it once; spend more money on something that has already failed; spend more and more money on something that will not be successful.
Often times, this spending defies logic; other times, we may feel like we are patching up something until we can do better. In the final analysis, the net results are the same. No good comes out of bad! Starting fresh as painful as it may be or as difficult as it is to start over may be the best solution. Sometimes it’s an oxymoron. Think about it? Amazingly people with money flowing out of their pockets always ask the person in need, “If money was not an object, what would you do?” Who sounds worst; the rich one asking or the poor one answering? Money is an object; it’s a major issue for those without. It’s why the “have-nots” are patching up the old car, because there is not available money in the coffers to buy a new one. Stop being so critical! Not all who have little are lazy. Some have become victims of circumstances; others need direction or a helping hand. Sorry, I didn’t hear you! Did someone offer suggestions on how a second chance could be provided? Did anyone help the person in need? If so, did you provide a one time fix or are you teaching them how to fish? Of course not, you did neither. It’s not your problem; it’s theirs! Are we hypocritical when we sit on the front row in church every Sunday, but “throw” our money everywhere but to help the unfortunate? There is an old saying that “Nothing is worse than watching money go down the drain” and/or “throwing good money after bad.” I disagree. Watching people suffer when we can help is worse. Altruism never goes out of style. The cycle will continue until all become engaged in the helping process. But what do I know! I am just a country girl from the small poverty stricken town of Glen Allan, Mississippi who was taught that giving is better than receiving!

PostHeaderIcon Who is on your starting lineup?

By Vernalee
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Who is on your support team? Who will pick you up if you fall? First, let me preface by saying that no man is an island! You may not need anyone right now, but sooner or later you will; I assure you! Don’t wait until crunch time to find out who is there; if anyone! Winning teams put their best players in their starting lineups. So should you! Don’t be a hypocrite – Walk the talk! Give before you take! Hopefully, you are cultivating a following and unselfishly living your life in such a way that someone will be willing to play ball on your court! It is a huge blessing to have devoted life players that you can call who have the love, time, ability and sincerity to give you solid advice; provide wisdom in decision making; charge your battery when you are down; push you to be your best; encourage, motivate, and challenge you; pick you up and carry you if you fall; be your friend; and be there for you in times of need. Having someone that you can talk to, pour your heart out to, be your confidante, and listen non-judgmentally is priceless. Pity the people who have no one! My Mother always say, “If you live long enough, you will need somebody to bring you a glass of water.” How true! For the privileged ones who think that they need no one because they are sitting on boat loads of money and assets, please know that there are so many things that money can’t buy! Genuine love, caring, concern, compassion … are among them. Knowing that you have someone on your team who will provide a dose of love is comforting! It can be just what the doctor ordered! Remove yourself from the company of those arrogant / selfish teammates whose noses are so high in the air that they could care less about anyone but themselves. Be what you seek; be a sterling example of love and humility … and surround yourself with those who are driven to score wholesome victories in life! Love, caring, assistance, empathy, sincerity, kindness … are the “balls” that we and our lineup should carry. They will yield the winning combinations. When you have extended your hand to help, hopefully someone will remember and reach back. No other score matters!
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PostHeaderIcon Grandma’s Hands

By Vernalee
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Our hands – the crinkle skin, the lines, the wrinkles, the visible protruding veins – show our age. They display the “wear and tear” of living. As we age, our hands carry with it years of wisdom, love, heartbreak, pain, joy, and every physical and emotional feeling. They celebrate life. My 90 year old Mother’s hands “that clapped in church on Sunday morning; that played the tambourine so well; that picked me up each time I fell”; that pointed at me as she uttered “I know you really love that man; put yourself in Jesus’ hands” function as a grandmother, a great grandmother, and a great – great grandmother. Four generations, she has lifted. She is our family’s Southern matriarch, and we rally around her in groves. Her sometimes arthritic hands prepare dishes that no one can duplicate. Cooking is her thing! Everyone wants her recipes. There is so much that the lines in her helping hands tell us and so much that they don’t reveal! As she makes her annual pilgrimage from Mississippi to Ohio and back, we applaud her as much as we miss her, but understand that to her “there is no place like her home.” Though her hands can’t pick 200 pounds of cotton anymore; though they noticeably tremble as she grips objects, those ten fingers and two hands have given my family and me so much love and strength. We dare not cross her because her strong hands can still discipline you with a back hand lick! Whether we call her Momma, Grandma, or Big Momma (depending on the generation), her hands carry and lift us daily though our weight may be heavy. Each generation brings their varied problems to her for an opinion. Although her hands have seen hard times, what amazing strength and a wonderful touch her soft hands have! She encourages us and say, “Your weight ain’t that heavy. I can hold it. Now sit down, hold my hand, and tell Big Momma all about it!” And we do! And she listens! And we leave better than we came! Yes, we are blessed to have her!
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