Posts Tagged ‘Influence’


By Vernalee
Photo Feb 22, 2013, 1_52 PM
You can present someone with an opportunity, but you cannot force him or her to take advantage of it.
Sometimes, it makes you upset; particularly when your advice can save them from calamity.
Remember this one important fact.
While you are worrying about them, having sleepless nights and watching your hair turn gray, the person in trouble is carefree, sleeping like a baby, and has no need for Grecian formula or Lady Clairol.
This scenario is upside down; right? Bottom line: People do what they want to do!
If you give solid advice and they don’t take it, you have done your job.
There are some people who want listen or heed advice.
Besides, if they get in the saddle, they must be prepared to ride!
So … Get with the program!
Go home, kick up your feet and get some rest.
Don’t worry!
Their lackadaisical attitude and inactions will eventually catch up with them. Sadly, when they are in doubt, they lose control.
With an unclear direction, they may land anywhere.
Hi Yo Silver! Away!
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By Vernalee

How do we influence others?
Advice, Counseling, and Coaching are the three magic words that are the key methods.
Let’s take a look at each.
1. Advice –
A. Directive in nature.
B. Quick and to the point.
C. May be welcomed (or not).
D. Aimed at producing results.
E. Not always effective in changing long term behavior.
2. Counseling –
A. Directive and corrective.
B. Involves citing facts and evidence.
C. Generally, not desired.
D. Aimed at re-aligning behavior.
E. May be effective in changing long term behavior.
F. Conversation often one way.
3. Coaching –
A. Socratic, collaborative in nature.
B. Involves asking questions and sharing perspectives.
C. Needs to be desired in order to be effective.
D. Aimed at helping the receiver see alternative actions.
E. Conversations must be two way.
We parents probably have used all three of the methods to influence our children at some time or another.
“To influence others you must go beyond general expectations and reach for limits above the norm. You must also have total confidence in yourself and what you are attempting to achieve as you provide words, wisdom, and prosperity. Understanding your impact as you show others what they can achieve is paramount.”
Method 1 – Influencing Colleagues
A. Boost confidence.
B. Gain knowledge and do research.
C. Know the person you are trying to influence.
D. Ensure honesty by being genuine and absolute.
Method 2 – Influencing Adversaries
A. Know your opponent’s side.
B. Prove your dedication and commitment.
C. Show that you are an expert and have total belief.
Method 3 – Achieving Influence In Sales
A. Grasp the power of persuasion.
B. Use conformity and social impact.
C. Believe that what you are selling, your product is truly the best.
Influence is powerful.
Use it to your advantage and to the benefit of others!
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