Posts Tagged ‘loneliness’

PostHeaderIcon ARE YOU ALONE IN YOUR RELATIONSHIP?

By Vernalee
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Are you in a relationship by yourself?
Does that question seem unrealistic?
How can you be in a relationship, a state of being reserved for two people, by yourself? It doesn’t add up or make sense.
Does it?
Before you have an Einstein Relativity Moment, do know that it is possible.
Some may have experienced the effects.
It’s akin to swimming upstream.
It’s like talking to yourself hearing the echo of only one voice; yours.
The emotionless Gravity is penetrating.
Your mate is ever so present physically, but emotionally and mentally he is not there.
Speaking of lonely and facing the world alone in the presence of someone that you love and who purportedly love you, now you have it!
Is your or his heart closed?
Are you or him withdrawn or uncommunicative?
Are you or him unavailable whereby you are disconnected from each other?
Are you or him unrealistically judgmental of each other (thoughts, feelings, looks, actions) to the extent that you are overwhelmed and cannot handle conflict?
Are you lonely with him in the room?
Hush your mouth!
It is not a good feeling; trust me.
Where did the love go?
Can it be restored to its once beheld luster?
Sure, it can!
The only requirement is that it takes two!
If both of you cannot commit to the emotional and loving wellbeing of each other, you are walking in the sand alone; this time without the view of adjacent footprints.
If that happens …
You are indeed tragically alone physically and emotionally in the relationship by yourself!
Loneliness isn’t fun.
Now the question becomes …
Why are you there?
Will you stay?
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PostHeaderIcon ARE YOU ALONE IN YOUR RELATIONSHIP?

By Vernalee
IMG_0260
Are you in a relationship by yourself?
Does that question seem unrealistic?
How can you be in a relationship, a state of being reserved for two people, by yourself? It doesn’t add up or make sense.
Does it?
Before you have an Einstein Relativity Moment, do know that it is possible.
Some may have experienced the effects.
It’s akin to swimming upstream.
It’s like talking to yourself hearing the echo of only one voice; yours.
The emotionless Gravity is penetrating.
Your mate is ever so present physically, but emotionally and mentally he is not there.
Speaking of lonely and facing the world alone in the presence of someone that you love and who purportedly love you, now you have it!
Is your or his heart closed?
Are you or him withdrawn or uncommunicative?
Are you or him unavailable whereby you are disconnected from each other?
Are you or him unrealistically judgmental of each other (thoughts, feelings, looks, actions) to the extent that you are overwhelmed and cannot handle conflict?
Are you lonely with him in the room?
Hush your mouth!
It is not a good feeling; trust me.
Where did the love go?
Can it be restored to its once beheld luster?
Sure, it can!
The only requirement is that it takes two!
If both of you cannot commit to the emotional and loving wellbeing of each other, you are walking in the sand alone; this time without the view of adjacent footprints.
If that happens …
You are indeed tragically alone physically and emotionally in the relationship by yourself!
Now the question becomes …
Why are you there?
Photo credit: www.quoteswave.com

PostHeaderIcon ALONE IN A CROWD

By Vernalee
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Feeling lonely in a crowd is nothing new. Many have felt the isolation. Worse than being alone is expecting the presence of someone who should be by your side, but they are no where to be found! Busted! Being a crowd pleaser is in many respects no longer vogue.
The man who follows the crowd will not get any farther than the crowd.
So what’s the catch?
Is it better to be lonely alone than to be lonely in a crowd?
It takes nothing to stand in a crowd. It takes a lot to stand alone.
What does it feel like to have a purportedly or self confessed cling along person who is a regular absentee? How does it feel to be lonely when your companion disappears, but makes occasional Harry Houdini appearances? What they do is just enough to escape an indictment, but not enough to cushion the love and support that should accompany their presence. Think about it, “if their actions were politically correct and emotionally supportive, no one including you could ask, “Where is he/she?” When you arrive, they are already there with open arms welcoming you! Now that’s what I’m talking about! So I ask … Do you feel all alone? Do you feel as if you’re by yourself? Are your expectations wishful thinking or reality based?
Stop! Don’t answer! And please don’t have a pity party. Stop exaggerating others’ worth when it’s not visible. Get with the program of knowing who’s who and who is not (in your life). The chameleons show up regularly and without notice. Is an appointment necessary for disappointments?
Eventually, you’ll wise up. You will realize that promises are often broken. You will discover the folks who talk out of both sides of their mouth very elegantly. You will know exactly where you stand, where they stand, and how close and secure the proximity is?
You will come to the greatest understanding in your life; a visibility that unlocks the mystery door. You will have revealed right before your very eyes this great fact!
You’ll never alone as long as you have the Lord! I just heard a pastor give a compelling sermon about making the necessary switches. Perhaps, it’s time for your switch-a-roo.
Stop making a man your savior. Once you permanently switch to the Lord, you’ll never feel lonely again; not temporarily, not for a second. Never! You’ll wake up with The Lord; go to bed with him (Zzz); walk with him; talk with him; be with him incessantly! Your loneliness has suddenly been washed down the drain. You are fresh and anew! Enjoy!
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PostHeaderIcon A bittersweet story!

By Vernalee
lonely www.changeforaquarter.com
Caution: If this is your story, you have time to change the ending before it’s too late.
The Tale of a Successful Journey:
You worked long and hard, year after year to make it to the top! You are there… finally! Congrats! The scenery is stunningly beautiful. A big house, luxury cars, comfy furniture, maid service, a personal chef / trainer, and no financial worries are at your fingertips. There is one thing that is missing. You have encountered a realization; one that you neglected for all those years. You were so busy working and not caring about folks as you selfishly climbed, that you alienated, walked over, and hurt many souls on your ascension. You didn’t want a companion to climb the mountain with you; you considered it extra weight. Certainly, it could hold you back! You had to go it alone. You insisted! It must be your way or the highway! Perseverance pays off! Alas, you made it! There is however one problem. You are extremely lonely on top of the world by yourself! Maybe, you can pick up the pieces and find someone to be by your side; to enjoy the splendors with you. Don’t look on the side of the road. You kicked too many people to the curb on your way up!
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PostHeaderIcon Loneliness

By Vernalee
www.slimphatty.com lonely woman
Many of us have faced bouts of loneliness. Depending on age and circumstances, loneliness may occur with the onset of numerous conditions including relationship breakups, loss of loved ones, empty nest syndrome, relocation to new cities, etc. Keeping balance is important as some people let their loneliness overtake them. Depression and isolation are common.

Recently, I was in the midst of young ladies in their twenties. Their comments included, “I would rather be lonely than with the wrong man. Solitude is better. Since I am private, I don’t like unwanted people in my space. Alone and lonely are options. Isn’t that better than being hurt, angry, and frustrated?”
The young can teach the old! I took notes!

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