Posts Tagged ‘love’

PostHeaderIcon HOW DEEP IS YOUR LOVE?

By Vernalee
Last night in the wee hours of the morning, a restless me started channel surfing.
Interesting where I landed.
I happen to find myself watching a concert by the incomparable Bee Gees.
Countless hits after another had me spellbound.
One selection stopped me in my tracks, made my heart beat faster, and my mind ponder.
It was none other than “How deep is your love.”
Take a listen.

It’s been said that love is difficult to measure.
But let’s examine that phrase.
Without question, we can feel the effects, aftermath, and feelings that love brings.
We can also feel the same when love isn’t present.
The depth of someone’s love is measurable in your soul through their treatment and respect for you…which occurs all because of their love, adoration, and admiration for you.
Is their love deep as the deepest ocean or as tall as the tallest mountain?
You’ll know by how you feel; and how he makes he you feel.
If the lyrics to this song don’t provide you with an answer as it rocks your soul, I don’t know what will.
Here we go.
“I know your eyes in the morning sun
I feel you touch me in the pouring rain
And the moment that you wander far from me
I wanna feel you in my arms again
And you come to me on a summer breeze
Keep me warm in your love and then softly leave
And it’s me you need to show
How deep is your love? (how deep is your love?)
I really need to learn
‘Cause we’re living in a world of fools
Breaking us down
When they all should let us be
We belong to you and me.”

If your mate can’t answer the question, “How deep is your love,” spontaneously and effortlessly, you may have a problem; deeper than the depth of the question.
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PostHeaderIcon GIRLTALK – WHEN A MAN LOVES A WOMAN

By Vernalee
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Originally Recorded in Sheffield, Alabama in 1966 by the late great Percy Sledge, “When a man loves a woman” was the number one song in the land. The lyrics were so rich that the song has skyrocketed the charts with remakes by Bette Midler and Michael Bolton.
In part, here goes the words:
When a man loves a woman
Can’t keep his mind on nothing else
He’ll trade the world
For the good thing he’s found
If she’s bad he can’t see it
She can do no wrong
Turn his back on his best friend
If he put her down
When a man loves a woman
Spend his very last dime
Trying to hold on to what he needs
He’d give up all his comfort
Sleep out in the rain
If she said that’s the way it ought to be.”
So ladies listen up!
If a man can’t love you unselfishly like this, he is just shucking and jiving. If he is not by your side through thick and thin, get real; stop fooling yourself. Here’s how this works. You don’t have to call because he’s there. You don’t have to ask, he knows your needs. You’ll never come up last or have to pick a number. If he doesn’t want to leave your side, spend endless nights and plentiful time with you, you are not number one; he is!
Photo credit: www.iquotelove.com
Relax with President Obama and First Lady Michelle at the White House and listen to Joshua Ledet’s version. You’ll get the spirit in the dark and the message too – loud and clear!

PostHeaderIcon HOW MUCH LOVE ARE YOU BEING SHOWN?

By Vernalee
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Is he getting off cheap? Are you getting the short end of the stick? Are you guilty of being too reticent to ask or push the buttons? Does he take advantage of your reticence? If you could put his love in a container, how much would you have? Is a container big enough? Questions on questions abound. The truth always rises to the top.
Check this out.
Listen to the stories.
Rumor has it that she (the girlfriend, that is) has two cars and a plush house that the boyfriend purchased. Exquisite attire, furs, jewelry, and designer bags line the walls of her closet. Exotic trips to lands afar are vacations of pleasure; all courtesy of the boyfriend. Mind you, I said boyfriend, not husband! The old folks would say that she is a “well kept” woman. How and why? Obviously, he loves her and wants to adorn her with pleasantries. Some might ask, “Is this a pay to play system? Or is it a man doing what a man does when he loves and adores the woman in his life? He treasures her with goodies of all types; with love and kindness.
Recently, speaking on harmonious marriages, I heard a pastor say that most men just need two things – sexual gratification and the remote control. Women, he said on the other hand need ten to twenty things. This recognition is a mature acknowledgement and understanding of a woman’s chemistry/emotionality and what it takes to show her that you care. Beyond being shown, she needs to hear the sweet words of love being whispered into her ears and to feel the gentleness of her man’s touch.
Keeping it simple, there are four things that a man can do to show love:
1. Say “I love you” – regularly.
2. Give tokens of affection.
3. PDA – Show Physical Displays of Affection.
4. Connecting – Being together on a consistent basis; alone, and with family and friends.
Let’s get to the meat of the matter and move away from litanies of excuses. Excuses that are given too often to justify lack; excuses that are tired of being heard. Admittance is the first step needed to move forward.
Thus, it begs to ask if you are an independent woman or a woman who asks for little, should your man adorn you with much? Of course! Be careful!
Men – Don’t be caught in a bad position. One day, the person that you gave little when you could have given much will get tired of being low on the food chain; or one day you may meet your match.
If you need to make a change, it’s never too late. Stand up and be counted! Stop being in denial! Stop trying to convince yourself that you are generous of your time and resources, when you know that you are not! Be true to thine self! You know better than most! You can say whatever you want, but you can’t justify what you don’t do! There is always residual evidence. The proof is in the pudding!
Stop the madness!
If there is true love, you never have to be asked. You just do! You give freely to each other. You become gifts to each other. Untie the bow! Now that’s what I’m talking about!
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PostHeaderIcon HOW TO – STAY IN LOVE

By Vernalee
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Being in love, loving someone and being loved back are incredible emotions and feelings that we all desire. Hearing the three words, “I love you” can lift you up, send chills down your spine, make you feel brand you, among other feelings; some of which are indescribable. The words and their accompaniments have medicinal effects. To love and be loved require attention and meticulous care. Sometimes, we win; sometimes we lose. The ideal is to find that right balance alongside the right words, behaviors, and actions.
Based upon feedback from my followers, the “Stuff We Talk About” daily blog is introducing a new feature called the “How To’s”. No one knows how to do it all. Neither do we have all the right answers. In this new “How To” series, we will bring to you the opinions and findings from the experts who will share their expertise on related matters. To start this series, our first post deals with the greatest emotion of all – love.
Love is not hard. Staying in love and doing what the essence of love requires have its challenges.
Several experts tell us how to stay in love with each other. Let’s take a look.
Opinion #1 – How to Stay in Love:
1. Listen.
2. Value each other.
3. Forgive.
4. Laugh together.
5. Be kind.
6. Flirt (with each other through words and actions).
7. Protect.
Opinion #2 – How to Stay in Love:
“Relationships don’t coast by on autopilot. They need active effort to keep the love alive. Here are six secrets to stay in love forever:
1. “Us” Time: You may spend lots of time with each other but is it quality time? Whether it’s a weekly date night, a few overnights, or an extended vacation, make sure that you have time where you can focus exclusively on each other.
2. Connect throughout the day: Do you remember when you first met? You may have been so excited to see each other that you used every spare moment to call each other even when you were apart. It’s worth revisiting some of your old practices that you engaged in when your love for each other seemed all encompassing. Make an effort to connect with each other throughout the day. Send a short text message or email to let your significant other/spouse know that you’re thinking about him/her. These regular connections during the day will keep the positive feelings flowing and make your time together that much more meaningful.
3. Give Appreciations: It’s so easy to notice the flaws and take the virtues for granted. We need to throw out this recipe for resentment. Instead make it a habit to express gratitude and overlook their faults. Daily appreciations will help you not lose sight of all the good your mate does for you. You’ll also get in the habit of focusing on the positive and your mate will feel loved. Make a few minutes a day to include appreciations in your routine. Sit down and look into each other’s eyes and share what you appreciate about what your mate did for you today or a quality that he/she possesses.
4. Try new things: Don’t let your relationship get stale. Try new things together. When you were dating you may have done new activities together. How exciting is your relationship? Experiment. Take something new together and you’ll see how it will liven up your relationship. Even if you don’t have the same interests, you can still have fun together.
5. Make your mate laugh: Laughing can create the same chemical bond as intimacy. Couples can get bogged down in the heaviness and stress of life. Negativity can permeate the atmosphere and ruin all attempts to connect, even on a nice vacation. Infusing laughter into your relationship can cut through the stress faster than anything else.
6. Praise your mate’s physical appearance: While this may be more important to women than men, it is a nice gesture to positively comment on appearance. As we age and begin to feel self-conscious about our looks, it’s really helpful to know that you still find each other attractive.”
Opinion # 3 – How to Stay in Love:
Five Choices to help you stay in love:
1. Learn to love yourself.
2. Take it slow.
3. Ask in-depth questions
4. Don’t shy away from conflict.
5. Appreciation rather than judgment.
There you have it. The experts have given us solid advice. They have spoken! We just need to follow the roadmap!
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PostHeaderIcon HE’S GOT THE WHOLE WORLD (BLACK PEOPLE, WHITE PEOPLE, ALL PEOPLE) IN HIS HANDS!

By Vernalee
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With so much discussion on race, let’s see what the Bible has to say. From God’s eyes, “There is only one race – the human race. Caucasians, African Americans, Latinos, Asians, Indians, Arabs, and Jews are not different races. Rather, they are different ethnicities of the human race. All human beings are equally created in the image and likeness of God (Genesis 1:26-27). God loved the world so much that He sent Jesus to lay down His life for us (John 3:16). The world includes all ethnic groups” with no distinctions.
Let’s dig deeper. Now, let’s see what the Biblical scholars and experts have to say. Many scriptural references validate God’s views on equality. If “God does not show partiality or favoritism (Deuteronomy 10:17; Acts 10:34; Romans 2:11; Ephesians 6:9), why should we? James 2:4 describes those who discriminate as “judges with evil thoughts.” Instead, we are to love our neighbors as ourselves (James 2:8).
Jesus Christ put an end to destroying the dividing wall of hostility (Ephesians 2:14). All forms of racism, prejudice, and discrimination are affronts to the work of Christ on the cross.
Jesus commands us to love one another as He loves us (John 13:34). If God is impartial and loves us with impartiality, then we need to love others with that same high standard. Jesus teaches in Matthew 25 that whatever we do to the least of His brothers, we do to Him.
Racism is not new. In varying forms and to various degrees, it has been a plague on humanity for thousands of years. Ephesians 4:32 declares, “Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you.” Galatians 3:28 states, “There is neither Jew nor Greek, slave nor free, male nor female, for you are all one in Christ Jesus.”
Yes, it is true. As you can see, racism is an evilness that man created. “What the world needs now is love, sweet love.” Love, fair treatment, impartiality, and consideration would help clean up some of the debris that racism, both subtle and overt, has left behind. Right now, because of racial injustices and excessive forces by the police forces, there is a national movement called “Black Lives Matter.” To God – All Lives Matter!
We are one – Black, White, Jew, Latino, Asian…in God’s eyes. If only man could see it that way!
Happy Sunday! Blessings!
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PostHeaderIcon GIRLTALK: WHEN A MAN LOVES A WOMAN

By Vernalee
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Originally Recorded in Sheffield, Alabama in 1966 by the late great Percy Sledge, “When a man loves a woman” was the number one song in the land. The lyrics were so rich that the song has skyrocketed the charts with remakes by Bette Midler and Michael Bolton.
In part, here goes the words:
When a man loves a woman
Can’t keep his mind on nothing else
He’ll trade the world
For the good thing he’s found
If she’s bad he can’t see it
She can do no wrong
Turn his back on his best friend
If he put her down
When a man loves a woman
Spend his very last dime
Trying to hold on to what he needs
He’d give up all his comfort
Sleep out in the rain
If she said that’s the way it ought to be.”
So ladies listen up!
If a man can’t love you unselfishly like this, he is just shucking and jiving. If he is not by your side through thick and thin, get real; stop fooling yourself. Here’s how this works. You don’t have to call because he’s there. You don’t have to ask, he knows your needs. You’ll never come up last or have to pick a number. If he doesn’t want to leave your side, spend endless nights and plentiful time with you, you are not number one; he is!
Photo credit: www.iquotelove.com
Relax with President Obama and First Lady Michelle at the White House and listen to Joshua Ledet’s version. You’ll get the spirit in the dark and the message too – loud and clear!

PostHeaderIcon Happy Sweetest Day!

By Vernalee
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In case you forgot Sweetheart … Love is in the air … today!
Let me give you a historical reason – why!
October 8, 1921 was the first Sweetest Day … and it was celebrated in Cleveland, Ohio. Yippee! I had never heard of Sweetest Day growing up in Mississippi. Here’s why. It was nonexistent in the South … and it still is! However, 94 years since its inception by confectioners, Sweetest Day is a holiday celebrated in 11 states (and portions of 2 others) on the third Saturday of October. Celebrated in primarily the mid – west states, it is a day , just like Valentine’s Day to bestow romantic deeds and expressions. Now that you know the history, how will you be celebrating Sweetest Day with your sweetie? As always, I ask too many questions; I went too far … again! Excuse my intrusion. Still, if you want to tell, I am all ears, but today you can spare me the explicit details! But please don’t spare your romantic expressions to your sweetie if you want to remain sweet in his or her life!
Happy Sweetest Day!

PostHeaderIcon One in a million

By Vernalee
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“Love had played it’s games on me so long
I started to believe I’d never find anyone,
Doubt had tried to convince me to give in,
Said you can’t win…

But one day the sun it came a’shinin’ through,
The rain had stopped, and the skies were blue,
And oh, what a revelation, to see,
Someone was saying “I love you” to me,

I was a lonely man with empty arms to fill,
Then I found a piece of happiness to call my own.
And life is worth living, again,
For to love you, to me, is to live.

A one in a million, chance of a lifetime.
And life, showed compassion,
And sent to me, a stroke of love, called you.
A one in a million you.”

If a man can utter those heartfelt lyrics and mean them, he is worth his weight in gold. Why would you settle for anything less? Every woman needs a Larry Graham type with a deep voice plucking a bass guitar personally serenading her with follow up actions true to form! She as I deserve the accolades and that type of love, honor, and devotion.

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