Posts Tagged ‘Relationship challenges’

PostHeaderIcon GIRL TALK: HELL HAS NO FURY LIKE A WOMAN SCORNED

By Vernalee
imageA scorned woman – I am sure that you know or have encountered or heard of a few. Before you start shaking your head, allow me to provide a simple
definition. A scorned woman is a woman rejected in love who can become very angry and dangerous. Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned. There is nothing as unpleasant as a woman who has been offended or whose love has not been returned.
The scorned woman proverb was adapted from a line in the play, The Mourning Bride, by William Congreve, an English author of the late seventeenth and early eighteenth centuries. Some things never grow old.
The proverb is vibrantly alive hundred of years later if and when fed the right stimuli. Scorn her and you can be in for the fight of your life.
R. Kelly sung about her some years ago, but maybe the point needs a revisit. His poetic words harmonized to music are below. Sing along.
Cuz when a woman’s fed up
No matter how you beg,
It ain’t nothing you can do about it
It’s like running out of love
And then it’s too late to talk about it.”

A scorned woman wants revenge; a strong woman moves on! What a contrast!
Usually out of control, some scorned women get very creative with their feelings via demonstrations to highlight the trauma and drama of the aftermath effects. Property damage is usually an inviting target.
Only reason and sensibilities exempt women from ditching their angelic wings to lifting the devil’s red fork.
We saw Angela Bassett (Bernadine) on “Waiting to Exhale” throw out her hubby’s clothes, load them in his car, before setting it a blaze.
We saw Meredith Baxter in the true story portrayal of Betty Broderick drive her SUV into her ex’s luxury house among other injurious acts before she pulled the trigger.
Before you say, those were actresses, think again! Recount those real life acts from the diaries of the scorned woman that resonate throughout the gossip mills.
As the saying goes, “An investigative woman does better research than the FBI.
A scorned woman will reiterate Flip Wilson’s line in a jack flash minute, “The devil made her do it!” To my male followers, be honorable and upright or watch your back.
Don’t put yourself in Lucifer’s shoes. He got thrown out of heaven. A hint to the wise is sufficient!
Photo credit: www.southbayriders.com

PostHeaderIcon IS THERE A WALL UP IN YOUR RELATIONSHIP?

By Vernalee
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How do you tear down a wall that you cannot see? Is there an emotional wall up in your relationship? Are there things that should be addressed that remain standing?
Maybe, the issues are so delicate that you prefer not to address them. However, they will not magically disappear. Perhaps, if you delicately and strategically attack the issues, you won’t be met with resistance from your partner. Receptivity is your goal.
His guards are up; your mouth is closed; and of course, the problem behind the wall remains. What a triad!
Here comes the auxiliary problem.
Sometimes the issues take roots, multiply, and grow.
It’s not healthy for your relationship well-being, you, or him.
Walls are built for protection. You can’t protect issues that will penetrate beyond the fence that you and him have built. Besides, who and what are you protecting? How do you show how much you really care?
Well, if this invisible wall is keeping you from progressing, you have to tear it down; that is – if you wish to move forward.
You must gingerly remove the bricks one by one.
To do so, here are a few recommendations.
1. Share your feelings.
2. Create a safe place.
3. Work on a plan.
According to the columnist, Ask Jen, “Your loved one’s walls may never come completely down, but at least you can be standing on the right side of the wall so that the two of you can face the problems together as a team.” Breaking through your partner’s walls is a difficult challenge, but one that you must drive a bulldozer through if you want your relationship to work and flourish. All of this rhetoric and advice provide excellent remedies; don’t they? Moving from the theoretical to the practical is another thing.
Pushing the button is hard; getting the nerves to address the issue is harder. Doing nothing is worst!

PostHeaderIcon IS THERE A WALL UP IN YOUR RELATIONSHIP?

By Vernalee
image
How do you tear down a wall that you cannot see? Is there an emotional wall up in your relationship? Are there things that should be addressed that remain standing? Maybe, the item is so delicate that you prefer not to address it. It will not magically disappear. Perhaps, if you attack the issue, you won’t be met with receptivity from your partner. His guards are up; your mouth remains closed; and of course, the problem behind the wall remains. Sometimes the issues take roots, multiply, and grow. It’s not healthy for your relationship well-being, you, or him. Walls are built for protection. You can’t protect issues that will penetrate beyond the fence that you have built. Besides, who and what are you protecting? What do you do? How do you show how much you really care? Well, if this invisible wall is keeping you from progressing, you have to tear it down; that is – if you wish to move forward. You must gingerly remove the bricks one by one.
To do so, here are a few recommendations.
1. Share your feelings.
2. Create a safe place.
3. Work on a plan.
According to the columnist, Ask Jen, “Your loved one’s walls may never come completely down, but at least you can be standing on the right side of the wall so that the two of you can face the problems together as a team.” Breaking through your partner’s walls is a difficult challenge, but one that you must drive a bulldozer through if you want your relationship to work and flourish. All of this rhetoric and advice provide excellent remedies; don’t they? Moving from the theoretical to the practical is another thing. Pushing the button is hard; getting the nerves to address the issue is harder. Doing nothing is worst!

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