Posts Tagged ‘Respect’

PostHeaderIcon FOOL ME ONCE, SHAME ON YOU. FOOL ME TWICE, SHAME ON ME!

By Vernalee
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Wise up!
If you do not like how you are being treated, do something about it.
Don’t take it!
Why take it!
Be courageous….Walk away, if necessary!
Speak out!
If the treatment is unethical or borders corruption, run don’t walk.
Don’t let anyone play with your emotions.
When people use reverse psychology to make you feel like you are the violator, when it is really them, who do they think that they are fooling? While they were placing the blame on you, did they forget that an evaluation of their deeds would eventually occur; that their true hand would be shown? Did they forget that they are not bullet proof!
Grown folks are no different from kids. Let them get away with stuff once, they will continue their trickery deeds. Unfortunately, you can’t discipline adults, but you can abstain from being a participant in their foolish shenanigans. You do not have to be a victim.
You do not have to be a target on their dart board!
Besides, many under-handed schemers can never take what they dish out!
If their dastardly treatment to you, ricochets back around, it is not you who got the lick!
Punch!
Once you demand respect, you run the show!
Be in control of the treatment you receive!
Give respect.
Demand respect!
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PostHeaderIcon WOULD YOU CALL YOUR FATHER OR MOTHER BY THEIR FIRST NAME?

By Vernalee
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In a memorable Today Show episode, there was a survey that queried if it was disrespectful to call your parents by their first names.
94% of the participants said Yes; 6% said No.
I pondered that question for a moment. In our household, not only would it have been disrespectful to call my Mother or Father by their first names, I might have been backhanded.
I cannot fathom the thought of speaking to my parents, now or then, by uttering a first name salutation. “Hey there Phoebe and Walter …. What’s happening?”
Oh my! Out of reverence and fear, I never even considered the thought.
I was taught that a child should stay in a child’s place. Dignifying your parents in speech and conduct with the upmost respect was part of that decorum. Being in their presence commanded a high sense of etiquette. Their authority was not to be questioned or challenged.
Alright, I will confess. I like most kids was no angel. What I could manage to achieve behind their backs without getting caught was another thing. So much for my adolescent mischief … moving along!
Passing the torch of respect, I would never permit by children to call me by my first name.
To them, calling me – Verna -is not an option.
Though trendy today, hopefully,
they will never considered a first name greeting and make that mistake.
Call me old fashioned if you like. I call it respect!
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PostHeaderIcon R-E-S-P-E-C-T

By Vernalee
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Respect, just like love, is something that we sometimes just don’t show enough of or there is just too little of … which brings me to its definition.
“Respect is a feeling of admiration or deference toward a person, group, ideal, or indeed almost any entity or concept, as well as specific actions and conduct representative of that esteem. Respect can also be a specific feeling of regard for the actual qualities of the one respected.”
Respect is one of those words that has duality. It can be a noun or a verb. Respect can also be both given and/or received. It is earned. It is taught. Physical expressions, actions, and conduct can be exemplied based upon respect. Thus making it synonymous with the word. People salute flags; bow down in certain cultures; or say “Yes Ma’am, Yes Sir” out of respect.
Though not complicated, basic respect is difficult for many folks. Otis Redding and Aretha Franklin set their demands to music; asking their mates to find out what R-E-S-P-E-C-T meant to them and to give them their respect when they come home. Interesting, many folks expect to receive what they refuse to give. Respect is one of those emotions that flows both ways. Let’s not forget self respect. How you feel about yourself extends to how you treat others. Another interesting point to the definition is that if you don’t respect someone or something, you’re disrespectful. The opposite of respect is disrespect. There is no middle ground between the two. Either you do or don’t.
Reflective of home training, respect never grows old. Just a little bit will take you far! For those unbelievers or skeptics, try it! Respect others as you want them to respect you. It’s golden just like the rule!
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PostHeaderIcon WOULD YOU CALL YOUR FATHER OR MOTHER BY THEIR FIRST NAMES?

By Vernalee
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In a memorable Today Show episode, there was a survey that queried if it was disrespectful to call your parents by their first names. 94% of the participants said Yes; 6% said No. I pondered that question for a moment. In our household, not only would it have been disrespectful to call my Mother or Father by their first names, I might have been backhanded. I cannot fathom the thought of speaking to my parents, now or then, by uttering a first name salutation. “Hey there Phoebe and Walter …. What’s happening?” Oh my! Out of reverence and fear, I never even considered the thought. I was taught that a child should stay in a child’s place. Dignifying your parents in speech and conduct with the upmost respect was part of that decorum. Being in their presence commanded a high sense of etiquette. Their authority was not to be questioned or challenged. Alright, I will confess. I like most kids was no angel. What I could manage to achieve behind their backs without getting caught was another thing. So much for my adolescent mischief … moving along! Passing the torch of respect, I would never permit by children to call me by my first name. Though trendy today, hopefully, they never considered a first name greeting. “Honor your Father and Mother” is not out of style. Call me old fashioned if you like. I call it respect!
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PostHeaderIcon Sorry … You are not all that and a bag of chips!

By Vernalee
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For the record, who told you that “you were all that and a bag of chips?” Was it confirmation from your colleagues or from your inflated ego? Wrong answer! Sure, you have some positive attributes, but it does not give you the right to think that you are mightier than thou! C’mon now! You are not! Stop elevating yourself above others. Your nose is so high in the clouds that you cannot even speak to folks. Hello! Dodging folks but seeking them for your personal gain is not kosher. Be careful, your playhouse can be torn down. In fact, it is crumbling now. See the debris! Though no one wish upon you what you have done to them and others, a landslide fall from grace is perilous. Your pockets may now have greener linings, but money doesn’t make you better than anyone else! Everyone should be treated with dignity and respect. Sooner or later, you will learn! When it happens, I surely wish that someone informs me; a simple email will do! In the end, remember that those thin easily broken potato chips are greasy and high in saturated fat and calories. So, your “bag of chips” is just as unhealthy as the treatment that you are dishing out to others! Snapcracklepop!
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PostHeaderIcon Leading a group – no easy task!

By Vernalee
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Conducting an orchestra is an extraordinary talent. The same is true with a leadership role in any capacity. The finesse to lead particularly when you stand before a group of professionals whose talents and often times egos are as big as the Mississippi River is long – is no easy task. When the mega hit, “We are the World,” was recorded, the incomparable maestro Quincy Jones told all of the recording stars to “check their egos at the door.” He established himself as the leader that would take responsibility to control the orchestration and outcome. The respective singers, though individually and extraordinarily talented, respected Quincy’s demonstrated leadership abilities. The sound and final production only come together beautifully when all follow the commands of the conductor / leader. Following the leader’s dictates produces harmonic melodies in music and in life. Obeying requires respecting authority. The beauty of doing so is heard and seen loud and clear – in music; in life!
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