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Words, words, words!
You have to think them before you say them.
So guards your thoughts.
Words can uplift you.
They can also bring you down!
That small tongue given the wrong words has the capacity to produce big damaging results/consequences.
Once you spit them out, you cannot take them back.
Can you remember hurtful words that were said to you years ago?
Likewise, you can also remember the words that inspired, encouraged, and motivated you!
If you can remember what others said to you, they can undoubtedly remember what you said to them.
Proverbs 21:23 tells us that “Whoever keeps his mouth and his tongue keeps himself out of trouble.”
Therefore, select and speak your words carefully.
The ears that hear them will for sure – retain them.
Conscientiously, think of their impact which can echo in someone’s ears, mind, and heart for a lifetime!
Simply said – Be careful about what you say!
Quote: Pastor Joel Osteen, Lakewood Church.
Indeed, words are powerful.
We have traced our thoughts to words; our words to actions; our actions to habits; our habits become our character.
“A French study showed that listening to relaxing music before surgery was more effective at reducing anxiety than a sedative medication. These are other incredible health benefits of music.
When you want dessert, take a bite or two of the good stuff. Susan B. Roberts, coauthor of a Tufts University study on cravings, finds that people who manage their weight best happily succumb at times.
A study by the Albert Einstein College of Medicine found that dancing reduced the risk of dementia more than any other type of physical activity. Why? Learning new steps improves intellectual fitness, and if you dance with a group or a partner, you’re being social.
Turns out carrots are not the best food for your vision. the nutrients in eggs—lutein, vitamin E, and omega-3s— are especially good for your eyes and may help prevent age-related macular degeneration, cataracts, and other chronic diseases.
Walking barefoot reduces the load on knee joints by 12 percent compared with walking in comfortable shoes, and it may also minimize pain and disability from osteoarthritis. That’s the finding of a study from Rush University Medical Center of 75 people with osteo-arthritis. A later study found that ‘mobility shoes,’ which are flat and flexible to mimic bare feet, reduced the load even more (by 18 percent) when worn for six months or more.”
I ask you…
Are you listening, enjoying, dancing, seeing and walking?
Are you getting to happy?
Let’s “speak” it into our lives;
let’s do it together … just for the fun of it!
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Stop walking back down memory lane.
We are not about to eat Alphabet Soup.
Remember that dish!
Rather, we are about to fast forward.
Get with the program.
You will be amazed at how our language and words have evolved with the times and changed too.
Many words that we commonly use today did not exist before 1977.
Take a look.
3. Eye Candy
9. Party animals
14. Road Rage
20. Man cave
28. Speed dating
34. Baby bump
39. Face Palm
Now, I have a question to ask.
How many times did you go to the dictionary to look up any of the words?
Admittedly, I went several times looking for definitions, but not before I watched an informercial; took a not so good selfie; checked my voice mail; unfriended a few folks on my social media; and got dressed by accenting my outfit with a stylish black hoodie.
Just so you know, I am on my way to meet my number one and only daughter who is a millennial and who can be occasionally classified as a shopaholic. Since she is a bonafide fashionista, she is entitled. In fact, I love the bling, bling that she accents her style with.
The guys say she is eye candy. I agree; she is absolutely stunning!
See what these new words have done!
What a difference 40 years has made.
So, that’s my shout-out for today.
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By definition, “saying what you mean” is about consistency between one’s thoughts and words. It is a plea to be honest, to truthfully represent one’s understanding, state or intent when describing it verbally. Meaning what you say” is usually about consistency between one’s words and subsequent related behavior or actions.”
This is usually a gray area. I wish to make the disconnect clearer. So here are words of wisdom from the communications experts.
“When you have a disagreement with a friend or spouse, do you respond with avoidance, anger or denial? You probably don’t need to be told that an unreasonable emotional response only leaves you further from a resolution. Instead, try communicating with emotional integrity. You have to mean what you say and say what you mean — and then allow your partner to do the same. Here are 5 steps to help you do just that.
1. Give or receive honest input.
It’s important that both people know they are going to be told the truth. Give honest input and be open to receiving the same from someone else. You don’t have to say everything you’re thinking, but everything you do say has to be accurate. If your partner asks you if you’re upset, and you are, you have to be willing to say “Yes.” Don’t deny that you’re upset by saying, “Nothing is wrong; I’m fine.” If you’re not ready to discuss it, a better response might be, “I don’t want to tell you right now,” or “I’m just not ready to talk about it yet.”
2. Listen to your partner and reflect on what he/she is saying and feeling.
It’s important to be an active listener, and that means mastering two important tools: reflection of content and reflection of feelings. Reflection of content means that you listen to the person; then, you verify that what you are hearing is what your partner is actually saying. You have to say, “What I hear from you content-wise is …” to ensure that you have the facts right. Reflection of feelings lets your partner know not just that he/she has been heard, but that you understand where he/she is coming form emotionally. You can ensure that your understanding is accurate by saying, “The feeling I think you’re feeling is anger/resentment/hurt, etc.”
3. Accept feedback and respond.
If you are the person who is giving the feedback, you may have to clarify your point of view if your partner isn’t accurately hearing what you are trying to say. If you are the person who is receiving the feedback, accept the clarification from your partner. Don’t be defensive or interrupt – just listen. Once you are clear on what your partner is really saying, then you can respond appropriately.
4. Stay in the moment.
Find a place where you won’t be distracted and can devote yourself entirely to talking and listening. When the subject matter is heated, that can be difficult, but you need to stay present. Also, make sure you stick with the issues at hand; keep it relevant. Don’t bring up old grudges or sore points when they don’t belong in a particular argument. Put boundaries around the subject matter so your conversation doesn’t deteriorate into a free-for-all.
5. Do not quit.
Do not quit the discussion until it is completed. To keep it from dragging on, you can negotiate a time limit beforehand, so that both of you know how long the conversation will last. Arguments should be temporary, so don’t let them get out of hand.”
Now you have it! The question is whether you can do it! It looks and read easier than it sounds. Your relationship will survive, thrive, succeed, or fail based upon your communications effectiveness. Your compliance of matching your words to your actions is critically important. Don’t wait to see what happens. Work to achieve your desired results. Your relationship may depend upon it!
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Are you a man or woman of your word? Why can’t people do what they say? Is your word your bond? Does a handshake deal mean anything anymore?
When you tell folks that you will do something, you create an expectation. In some cases, that expectation forms a dependency. So when you don’t execute on what you committed to do, not only did you lie, you disappointed and failed people who relied upon your commitment.
Lies damage when your actions don’t coincide with your words!
Be careful – that small tongue has the ability to cause big harm! Don’t get caught up in lies and harmful chatter.
Your words are more than an echo. The meaning lies deep within. An unexecuted dependency becomes a lingering by-product that enters the memory banks of a person mind and buries its pain in their heart.
Lies have the ability to stick to a person’s heart like glue.
It’s no wonder that when your words become lies that people become heartbroken!
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As a little boy, my son loved the video shorts that aired on Saturday Mornings called School House Rock. One of his favorite shows and songs was called “Conjunction Function.” It went like this:
“Conjunction Junction, what’s your function?
Hooking up words and phrases and clauses.
Conjunction Junction, what’s their function?
I got “and”, “but”, and “or”,
They’ll get you pretty far.”
He loved that song. I did too!
Yes, conjunctions are amazing connectors. We used them regularly and judiciously.
Switching gears from then to now and from adolescence to adulthood, allow me to show you the relevant impact of conjunctions. Ready, set, go!
First though, I’ve got a question for you.
How is your relationship these days?
“It is alright, BUT …”
That response brings to the forefront the realization that “the difference between a healthy romantic relationship and one that most likely won’t work out is the word “BUT.” That elementary three letter word (BUT) is indeed simple BUT has a powerful complex connotation. It is normally used to indicate an impossibility or express an objection.
One expert provides us with helpful common sense advice. When in a relationship, “LISTEN to yourself when you are talking to your friends about the person that you purportedly love. Listen to the words that come out of your mouth. They reveal everything about whether or not the relationship is making you happy.
When a relationship is good (healthy) there are no “BUTS.” That is not to say that a healthy relationship is perfect. It isn’t. But rather that when someone is truly making you happy, you are only sharing good news about that person and your relationship. In fact, you may catch yourself incessantly, favorably, and unconsciously talking about the pleasantries that he brings.
Listen up. If a friend asks you, “How is your guy?” and you answer in one of these ways, the man is a keeper.
My guy is:
1. The best.
2. A total sweetheart.
3. Great, he surprised me yesterday and showed up at my house with lunch.
4. We are having so much fun!
5. I just love him.
6. Kind, caring, and giving.
7. I’m just really happy.
8. I’ve been waiting for him all my life.”
9. I definitely feel as if I am an integral part of his life/plans and not merely an after thought. He includes me in it all; everything.
10. I enjoy our time together. He maximizes every moment and is not sporadic with his time and resources. He is always around and I want him to be. I love his presence.
Relationships develop “a theme” very early on. In other words, the stage is set almost from the start, and whatever the issues are, they will usually be there for the entire relationship. So if you hear yourself saying, “I love him “BUT” ….” something is wrong; drastically wrong!” The question should become, “Can it be fixed?”
Often times, we hide behind excuses rather than deal with the heart of the issue. We don’t like to impose injuries and certainly don’t want to hurt his feelings. It’s funny when it’s not reciprocal. His feelings and interactions with you may not reflect the same sentiments. We can routinely hide behind the truth. Here again, we would tell him BUT …
We have to kiss the word “BUT” goodbye if we want our relationship to flourish and survive. Removing it from our vocabulary is a start; from our relationship is a plus. “BUT” is that one word that stands tall between you and success.
There you have it, “BUT” I can’t make you do it!
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Are you magically persuasive?
Yes or no.
Before you answer, though I am as gregarious and as talkative as they come, don’t take my word for it. See what the experts have to say. According to Lolly Daskal, President/CEO of Lead from Within, “If you know the right words, you can just about get anything you want.”
Power words are the secret weapon of persuasion. “Here are seven of them–study them, use them, practice them, and watch what happens.
In a Yale study, you ranked as the No. 1 most influential power word in English. You shows compassion and empathy, which are at the heart of persuasive speech. The only way to boost the power of you is by using the person’s name. “You know it’s true, [name]” makes your pitch suddenly very meaningful.
The word imagine expands the idea of what’s possible. Imagine you’ve won the lottery. Imagine you have the funding you’re seeking. Imagine living in your ideal house. It’s a word that opens opportunity–a word that says to skip all the worries. It bypasses critical thinking and goes straight to what feels good.
Nothing is more powerful than action. When people act to make things happen, they move themselves closer to what they want–regardless of the outcome.
The power of because lies on two fronts. For logical thinkers, there is great appeal in connecting cause and effect. But because works on emotions, too. If someone’s in line at Starbucks and asks to cut in front, the likely answer is no. But if that stranger adds “… because my child is waiting for me outside,” people are far more likely to say yes. Stating a reason helps people connect logically and emotionally.
Immediacy is what everyone wants: Get what you want now. Make a change now. You can start now. Tomorrow is too late, yesterday is over, and now is exactly the right moment to start.
It’s not about the logic of a situation or even the reality, but what we can will into being. Believing is the first step in making something happen, the element that allows us to overcome limitations. If you believe in yourself, everything is possible.
When you describe something as guaranteed, people are immediately put at ease. It offers assurance that a risky decision is safe, that investing is safe–or, at worst, that there is recourse for dissatisfaction. It’s a word that offers security, and it gets you what you want, when you need it. I guarantee it.”
So please accept my indulgence as I “VERNAlize” my final thoughts around these 7 powerful words. If YOU mobilize yourself at the right time and the right place, with the right folks, YOU can only IMAGINE what YOU can accomplish. The sky is the limit because YOU BELIEVE in yourself. YOU did not need anyone to convince YOU what YOU need to do NOW. YOU did not wait; YOU acted immediately. YOU took the right steps. I GUARANTEE YOU that YOU will rise to the top because your actions followed your words! Remember always this “VERNAism“, “If it is to be, it’s left up to me!”
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“A still tongue makes a wise head” refers to a person who only speak when it has been judged that it is appropriate to do so. They are not chatter boxes and are wise enough to not just say whatever comes to mind. It validates the theory that if one is cautious with their speech, and listens instead, he/she exercises control which in turn reflects their display of solid experience, keen knowledge, and good judgement.
A still tongue serves to protect and guard against unnecessary queries. Besides … Who asked for your opinion? Who asked you to stick your nose into their business? If they wanted your viewpoints, they would have asked.
You see here lies the problem. If people mind their own business, the world would be a better place. So here is another “Vernalized” recommendation.
Stay in your own lane and out of other folks’ business! Guard your tongue. Be selective about what words come out of your mouth. Besides, who has the time or energies to host someone else’s mess!
Proverbs 17:28 provides wise advice:
“Even fools are thought wise if they keep silent,
and discerning if they hold their tongues.”
It will behoove us to do just that!
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I can do a few things quite well, but solving a puzzle is not one of them! Having said that, you probably wouldn’t believe that my favorite game show is Wheel of Fortune. I rush home everyday to watch it. Despite the fact that I have for years wanted the stunning Vanna White’s job, (free clothes, immaculate makeup, and compensation of millions for turning the letters), I love the glitz and glamour of the show! The prize puzzles are my favorite. I know that I don’t have a snow ball’s chance of getting on the show and because of my inability to successfully compete, I wouldn’t publicly embarrass myself. I always entice and groom my children to do what I can’t. How clever of me! My son Scooter is an exceptional Wheel player, but even he might have had trouble with winner, Matt DeSanto, whose record breaking one day performance won him $91,892. He solved a 13 letter toss up puzzle with only one letter appearing. The answer to the puzzle was – The Lone Ranger. Pat Sajak, Vanna White, the contestants, and the entire viewing audience watched in amazement! Not a bad payday for 30 minutes of work! After such a brilliant performance, all I can say in Tonto’s words, “Kemo Sabe … “High Yo silver!”
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