By Vernalee
Beauty-of-No www.lightshouse.org
Nothing shows maturity than the ability to say No particularly to the amazed audacity of those who feel that you should never utter that two letter word, at least not to them. No – is a very powerful word. I am using it more and more these day. Maybe, it means that I have arrived! Maybe, it means that I have the confidence to no longer be a “Yes woman.” Or perhaps it means that I now have the courage to say to some and profess to others … my ability to let no one make my decisions, control my destiny, tell me what to do, or put words in my mouth. I no longer have to “go along to get along.” Admittedly, the words – yes and no – are options. They provide cognitive and legitimate choices. Yes, I no longer have to say yes when in my heart, I really mean no. Unlike the person of old, I now say what I really mean and feel, sometimes diplomatically but nevertheless, the No word escapes my lips more often than not! Jeepers creepers! It’s a great feeling to go against the currents of someone else’s waves when you can rightfully and legitimately make up your mind and wade through the waters yourself. Be wise, smart, strategic, and honest. Say what you mean; mean what you say. Let your yes’s mean yes; your no’s, no. Saying no – should mean that you studied the consequences and weighed the ramifications of your response. If the answer no is the right cognitive choice, you should be able to rest your laurels on your decision; you should be able to defend your choice. No, no, no … should mean that you can rationalize your stand. The word should not be taken for granted. There are consequences when it is used incorrectly and correctly for that fact. Beware. That small two letter word is extraordinarily powerful. Correctly used, it can in fact be downright empowering, refreshing, and stimulating. It’s a beautiful thing! Try it! I guarantee that you will agree and like the fluidity of your words and the throne from which you sit. If you don’t like my advice, guess what. You can tell me No and to mind my own my business! It’s your prerogative! You get the point right!
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