By Vernalee
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This article appeared in Ebony.com on August 7, 2013. It was my first piece to be published in a national media outlet. Here goes!
“Divorce, Dating and My Daughter”
My daughter and I, despite a 30 year age difference, are so extraordinarily close that several friends have repeatedly said that they thought that we had one heartbeat; Siamese twins of sorts. We shared everything!
Consequently, it was only natural for us to share dating experiences. She was in high school when I started seriously exploring companionship choices. Date nights were fun! As we were dating simultaneously, we nonchalantly planned our activities. In fact, for the first time, I was seeing the latest movie releases often times before her. How cool, right?
Needless to say, as a divorcee, I had become “rusty” with my dating acumen. Admittedly, I need assistance and her helping hands were there. Wardrobe was an issue. “Mommy, I want you to look cute,” and that she did! It was an amazing feat as I am an ultra-conservative and she is a fashionista; but it worked.
After dates, she inquisitively asked a superfluity of questions. I delightfully shared my date nights with her. Up to this point, no serious conflicting views existed; all was well in our world.
But when she graduated from college, things changed. The metamorphism that transformed my little girl into a woman occurred. We had now become two women talking as girlfriends. Inevitably, conflict was bound to occur; and it did.

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