By Vernalee
When traveling, when we come to a dead end, we turn around. What happens when you come to the “end of the road” in a relationship? You can end it, try to revitalize it by giving it life, or just simply walk away. Or is it that simple? Of course, not!
If you have spun that far out in the far right lane, there is definitely some things that you let fall by the wayside. How often do we forget that relationships need nurturing? How many times do we overlook that this is not a singular process; its plural! There is another person in the relationship too. Remember? After all, a relationship is defined as the way in which two or more concepts, objects, or people are connected, or the state of being connected. The definition refer to two, not one. Mr. Webster in his dictionary succinctly spells it out. Doesn’t he? You read it for yourself!
Yet, Gladys Knight sung about it. She said, “I’ll rather live in his world than live without him in mine.” The Motown Philly group, Boys II Men put their masculine spin on it. They harmonized…
“Although we’ve come to the end of the road
Still I can’t let you go
It’s unnatural, you belong to me, I belong to you.”
Sing it Boys! Fight for your woman!
That’s right! Some people fight to stay and be put back on course. Others, mainly the “cowardly refuse to admit their mistakes type” throw in the towel at the drop of a feather. They rationalize and make excuses about how to make themselves guilt free of any blame. Only they believe that nonsense when their heartthrob walks away!
Mississippi blues singer, Tyrone Davis provided options in his tune, “Turning Point.” Hopefully, that point is reached before it’s too late. Some of us are wise enough to know that we have to make a change and turn in a different direction to keep the one that we love and the one who is best for us on the road with us. We become wiser and put on our thinking caps when we realize that the direction that we choose to face is determined whether we are standing at the end or the beginning of the road. The end could be the beginning.
Even if we don’t listen to love songs, we should know that most things have boundaries and limits.
I admire the people who may give out, but refuse to give up. Somewhere along the road, they realized that the love journey was not just about them. They realized that there was someone traveling with them who needed love and affection too. No kidding! They learned and took heed that they do not always determine the path. The passenger has the ability to turn the wheel and change the direction too. She can drive down the road a piece; wise up; come to her senses and put you out! Then….look! Who is stranded now? I think somebody better start hitch hiking! And if you’re determined like Marvin Gaye who crooned, “I’m gonna find my girl, if I have to hitch hike all around the world,” wear comfortable shoes!
The bread of loneliness is not appetizing on a bumpy road with much turbulence!
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