By Vernalee
Two faced people … I know you know them.
Slow down; stop counting!
They are hypocrites who live up to the true meaning of the word.
Some folks call them by other unflattering synonyms – gossipers, revengeful, backstabbers (who smile in your face), deceitful, cowards, idea stealers, and names that I cannot gracefully print.
They say and do one thing in your presence and are completely opposite behind your back.
Of course, they are not to be trusted … even when you are looking at them!
They can be so despicable!
Don’t fall for or be deceived by their duplicity.
You may be in situations where you have to routinely or occasionally deal with those two faced specimens.
Here are some pointers when you do have to engage with them:
1. Acknowledge that you are dealing with someone false and dishonest.
2. Be assertive rather than aggressive when confronting them.
3. Be civil toward the person even when they said bad things about you.
4. Avoid the duplicitous person that has been talking negatively about you.
5. Avoid divulging personal or sensitive information.
6. Avoid being physically aggressive at any cost.
7. Resist the temptation to play their gossip game.
8. Avoid sharing your ideas, goals, and aspirations with them.
9. Do not take their negative actions/words to heart.
Clearly, it takes a lot to deal with them and it takes a lot out of you.
It’s not easy to give them the benefit of the doubt.
Ringing in my ear is the sage counsel of the late Dr. Maya Angelou, “The first time people show you who they are, believe them!” We can however, use the street vernacular, “If a dog take a bone, he’ll carry one.”
It doesn’t matter which version we elect to take, the advice is the same – Beware and keep your antennas up with two faced people.
No matter how smart you are, it’s hard to tell which side of the face is which.
They look the same.
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