By Vernalee
670px-Deal-With-a-Condescending-Friend-Step-6Thanks to the tutelage of my Daddy, “I have never been in a physical fight!” Sorry, I misspoke. My sister smacked me around once. Why? I never knew! I guess, it was an unalienable big sister’s prerogative. Anyway , my Daddy said, “Smart girls can talk their way out of trouble. Good Lord, as much as you talk, that will be easy! But if someone aggressively attack you, knock them out; knock them to kingdom come!” My Daddy sage advice kept me in the driver’s seat respective to the avoidance of physical entanglements. By my own admission, I have been left in the dark often when it came to emotional battles. When a friend violates you, it can be a surprising and devastating punch. It hurts! You don’t expect betrayal from them! Getting up from a friend’s rope a dope attack can be so difficult that you may need help to be peeled from the ground. Your emotional battles can be incapacitating if you allow the mental scar tissues to bruise your ego. If emotional fights happened so long ago that you cannot remember how they started, that’s scary! It’s a lingering spar that knows no origin! At some juncture in our lives, we have to “peel back the onion.” When you get to the core, either you will see the problem or realize that you have nothing left! Of course, you will shed some tears from the onion juices or from your misfortunes. As we lived through our ups and downs, we should realize that we make mistakes. Forgiving and forgetting – are vital steps toward reconciling our differences and ending Hatfield / McCoy battles that are fought within! If we don’t, the unpleasant stench from our emotional battles will never subside! Friends or those who have become former friends – should never want that….
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